To Give Or Not To Give Your Girlfriend A Monthly Allowance?

Bae Allowance Money a guy gives his girlfriend at the end of each month for her random needs.

Girlfriend  Giving Directions To Her Boyfriend

“Come to the front gate of my apartment where you dropped me off.  Look for flat 9A, you’ll find a lift on your right.  Hit 9 with your ELBOW.  Get out of the lift, you’ll find my flat on the left.  Hit the doorbell with your ELBOW and I’ll get the door for you.”

Boyfriend says: That seems easy but why am I hitting buttons with my elbows?

Girlfriend: “OMG! Are you coming empty handed?”

Boyfriend: (speechless)

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I thought this was hilarious because some men are famous for visiting their girlfriends with just dick and hairy balls, like can we throw those in a pan and fry them for supper  Women are not saying buy them something everyday but why not think outside the box for a change and surprise a lady with something she likes??

One of my contacts sent me that joke on WhatsApp last night and it gave me an idea to blog about this morning.  Let’s talk about Bae Allowance shall we?

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Photo Credit Theo & Essy

Let me first give you my thoughts on the subject matter.  This might end up being a lengthy blog but I promise you will enjoy it.  Let me tell you a bit about my very first boyfriend.  That guy treated me like a little princess.  He never missed a birthday, anniversary, special event, good or bad moment.  We were through it all through thick and thin.  The whole 5 years that we dated I never asked for a single dime of his money.  He just did things because he wanted to and not because I had to beg and plead for him to do so.  Maybe because back then I was younger and had less problems but I believe even if we had stayed together he was still going to be that guy who takes care of his woman without her throwing tantrums about it.  After dating other people after him I can safely say that people are different and just because he went above and beyond for me doesn’t mean the next guy will do the same.

For that reason I have since learnt to accept that one should always live within their means and not expect the next person to cater to their every single need.  Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying your man shouldn’t spoil you but you don’t have to convince him to do so, he has to do so on his own accord.  Guys already know that a woman needs to be pampered every now and again and so if he isn’t doing it for you it’s either he doesn’t want to, he’s just not that into you or he’s simply doing it for another woman who clearly isn’t you.  I for one would not want a fixed monthly allowance, that for me feels a tad bit tacky because if the tables were turned trust me I would not be paying anyone an allowance for being a part of my life.  I have a daughter on my  payroll as it is, I don’t think I can make anymore additions to that!

I asked a few friends; both male and female about their thoughts on Bae Allowance and these were their thoughts:

The ladies said:

  • I think if it’s a serious relationship it’s not meant to be an obligation; both are meant to help each other out.  In a case were both work rather do  things for each other than give each other money otherwise it will seem like it’s all about money.
  • l feel most guys should give their girlfriends Bae Allowance.  That way  you avoid having to constantly say “Baby my hair is a mess l need money, baby my nails what not.”  Just give her the monthly allowance so that you don’t stress each other out every other week.  IT’S NOT A MUST THOUGH.

The guys said:

  • There should not be a fixed mandatory Bae Allowance in a relationship.  It is of paramount importance that an individual be self sufficient that way I can chip in here and there.  It’s important to take care of your partner (what you don’t do for her, she will find someone else who can) but it should not be made out into a big deal when I can’t do it all the time.
  • If you’re my girlfriend don’t ask me for anything that costs $5 or less because what were you doing for money before we started dating? Now you suddenly want my money.  I should feel like spending on you willingly.  I’m not a bank and understand that when I say I don’t have money most of the time I genuinely don’t have because money is hard to come by.  I will spend on her but bae allowance I don’t do… It’s like I’m paying you to be my girlfriend!

There you have it.  Both sexes have voiced out their opinions.

As an addition I just had to say this.  Fine, I know I am not for a woman actually getting to be on her boyfriends payroll but some of these guys are cheap skates.  If you actually don’t even ask him to buy you anything he will actually continue to do so and not see anything wrong with that.  Let me ask the guys a question.  How are you going to date your girlfriend for a whole year and not once surprise her with a set of sexy lingerie?  So you are an expert at taking off her clothes but not buying her anything to add sexiness to her lingerie collection??  Also, why do some guys just want to take women out for drinks when the same amount can be used for a proper lunch, dinner or better still coffee date?  Okay fine, that is completely off topic now.

This is the part I say goodbye.

My friends from the Podcast world got excited about this topic and touched on the subject.  You can listen in from here.

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A few years later I can safely inform you that giving your girlfriend has great benefits that include wonderful things like getting married to her.  Congratulations to my friends Theo & Essy who were kind enough to share their picture with me for this post.  They’re now happily married and living an amazing life together.

©MaKupsy 2019

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16 Survival Tips For New Mothers

The following new mum survival tips are from some of my friends and I.  I hope they will come in handy.  Please feel free to add any other tips in the comments section.

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  1. Keep your hands clean.  You should always make sure you wash your hands when breastfeeding and handling the baby’s bottles.
  2. Not every baby will like breastfeeding.  It’s not a failure on your part; remember a baby is a unique little person with likes and dislikes
  3. There will be A LOT of sleepless nights.  Sleep when the baby sleeps.  Don’t even try to clean the house or do laundry or get yourself busy with something else.  The moment the baby sleeps it’s your cue to also get some rest.
  4. DO NOT pick up the baby the moment the baby cries.  Give her time to soothe herself otherwise she will get used to having you scoop her up at the very first sign of tears and that will be a sure way to stop you from doing anything else.
  5. Breastfeed your baby as often as you can.  Breastfeeding is like medicine for the baby.  It will stop the baby from catching colds and flues and diseases that are prone to attack new born babies.
  6. You will have to master the art of taking super quick baths in case the baby wakes up.
  7. Change the baby’s diapers frequently.  You don’t want the baby to have an uncomfortable rash.
  8. Make Google your friend.  In the world of technology where information is just at the tip of your finger try and search for any baby concerns you have before rushing to the doctor.  You might be surprised, most answers you get actually work.
  9. Make time for your spouse if you are raising the child together.  It can’t be about the baby all the time.  (Not that it’s a bad thing) but your partner also wants to feel loved.  You can have someone watch the baby for a day while you catch up on each other.
  10. You alone know your baby. If you feel something is not right then it probably is. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise
  11. DO NOT try and do too much too soon.  Yes, I know you will miss your pre pregnancy body and want to get right back to exercising but give yourself time to heal.  After all you were pregnant for a whole nine months and it will take time for your body to start getting back to normal.  Relax and enjoy your baby for now.
  12. A baby will be happy one day and a downright monster on another day. That doesn’t make you a lousy mum. You will bathe the baby, feed the baby, sing for the baby and nothing will work.  It’s just baby having a bad day.
  13. Make sure you eat healthy and balanced meals and keep your mind from worry.  Babies seem to sense it when you are unhappy and end up crying for days because mummy is not happy.
  14. When people come to see the newborn baby, please give them tasks to help you with around the house. Let them know beforehand that a little help will be required. The last thing you want is to be standing around catering to a clan of twenty family members while trying to heal a torn vagina (sorry for the graphics) and handle a newborn. They can feel free to cook and clean up after themselves.
  15. Speak positive words of affirmation to your baby and say all the wonderful things you would want them to grow up to be.  Also pray for them, nothing is as powerful as a mother’s prayer.
  16. Speak out if you need help and you are failing to cope on your own.  After all,

It takes a whole village to raise a child.

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This blog post is dedicated to my friend who is expecting a baby any day now.  I am totally excited for him and his wife.  It is going to be both a fun and eye opening adventure for the two of you.

©MaKupsy 2019

The Ugly Truth About Living Alone

I started staying on my own when I was 23 years old and I thought I was going to have the most amazing time of my life.  All that freedom!  Okay, I’ll be honest.  I did have a blast.  Do you have any idea how it feels to know that you can do whatever the heck you want without having to ask for permission from anyone?  The first days I enjoyed staying at home catching up with a good series.  That time Gossip Girl was a hit and I would binge watch it on a Saturday.  Then enter new friends and staying home became an illusion.  We used to go out partying midweek all the way till Sunday and we still had energy to make it to work fit and legit.  Fun times.  Sadly, I can’t try that out now.  One night out is enough to have me struggling for the next three days.  I’m clearly not as young as I used to be.

Staying alone is bliss.  You can practically do anything you want with your space and time without having to consult anyone but it does have it’s disadvantages.

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  1. Cooking for yourself gets boring.  If you’re anything like me at some point you want to eat what someone else prepared and with the way the Zimbabwean situation is set up eating out is not an option.  I don’t have that kind of money.
  2. Oh, did you know eating alone gets boring too?  There’s something about sharing a meal with someone that just makes it taste different.  Different in a good way.
  3. Chances of staying in the dark because you can’t reach the light bulb get higher by the second.  I’m not very tall and it’s unfortunate that my light bulbs are placed high up and if I don’t ask a friend to pass through to replace it for me then it’s the candle light life for me.
  4. You forget you can actually talk.  Ever tried spending a weekend on your own?  If you don’t receive or make a phone call chances of speaking to anyone are close to none.
  5. It’s generally scary staying on your own because in the event that an intruder shows up what are the chances of getting out alive.  It’s even more unsettling if you’re a woman who stays alone because not only will you get robbed you might get raped too.  ZimStat data shows that 1 067 murder cases and 7 394 rape cases were reported in 2017.  I shudder to imagine what the 2018 stats are.
  6. You get so used to being on your own so much that when you do have company you want them to go away after a while.  Human beings are strange if you ask me.
  7. You miss human contact (not sex) but just having someone around to talk to, cuddle with, share a meal with or even watch a movie with.  A movie isn’t as much fun if you don’t have someone to hold on to when the scary bits pop up.
  8. You have to do everything by yourself, from doing the dishes, to cleaning the house, to replacing stuff that gets broken and most of all paying all the bills; all that stuff is on you.
  9. That rat that you keep hearing scratching against the door at odd hours will only be gone after you do something about it.  If you don’t that just means it is going to keep eating whatever it can get in the house and grow bigger and then you will have a rat for a roommate. Eeek!
  10. The heavy lifting of objects has to be done by you and if you are anything like me you will just chill and hope for a miracle to happen and magically move that box to the next room.
  11. When you get sick no one is there to pamper you and make sure you are okay, if you have had something to eat or taken a bat.  You could actually die in your sleep all by yourself and no one would ever notice because you stay on your own and lately people are too invested in messaging calling has become a thing of the past.  I can picture the headline already “Woman found dead in her apartment after missing for 3 weeks.” THE HORROR!

I asked my friends on Twitter when they moved out to stay on their own.  You can check out their replies from here:

What are some of the things you think make staying alone a not so great experience?  I’d love to hear from you.

©MaKupsy 2019

I Lost My Sister To Depression

I lost my older sister to depression on the 15th of December 2018.  I’ve felt so many different emotions since then but sadness and pain are the most distinguished feelings for me.  I haven’t been able to write up any blog posts from scratch because my creativity plummeted.  Today, after nearly 4 months of her passing I’m finally able to blog again.

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My sister was a real fashionista!  She indulged in the finer things in life; clothes, food, experiences; those were always top notch for her.  She didn’t have room for compromise, for her it was all about quality.  I can safely let you in on the secret that most people didn’t know; I wanted to be just like her, I completely admired her!  I experienced all my dazzling firsts with her.  My first movie, coffee date, restaurant experience even my first alcoholic beverage was courtesy of!  Her reason for letting me drink alcohol when I turned 18 was so that when I attended parties I wouldn’t pass out after having just one drink (as if my dad ever let me attend any parties at all)  Minus giving me a kick start to being an alcoholic at some point in my life she also gave me wonderful tips on personal care which I still use to this day and intend to pass on to my daughter.

“No flowers for me.”

That was my sister’s WhatsApp status for the longest time but I never asked her why she chose to put that up.  At her funeral her best friend told me that it was because the last time she was hospitalised her friends bought her a lot of flowers and she complained that they should have sent her money instead.  That’s my sister alright!  Now each time I see a bouquet of flowers I think of her…

You know what hurts me the most?  My sister and I didn’t talk often but when we did we would catch up and talk about all the best deals in town, where she was currently getting her nails done, which place had the tastiest food, send each other pictures about our latest clothing acquisitions…We talked about everything but she never told me she was critically ill.  She would tell me about an occasional headache or body pain but never the whole situation.  When I visited her in hospital the first time I had hope that she would be better but a few weeks later after my very last visit even though I’ve never faced death before, I knew that her days were numbered and she would soon be no more.

I cried until I had no more tears left.  I cried because I knew the life she would have wanted for herself but yet she chose otherwise.  I cried because I wish she would have chosen herself because in the end one’s happiness is what matters the most.  I cried because I wished things had been different between us.  I cried because at some point I assumed she was going through depression and I didn’t know how to help her because she never opened up.  I cried because she casually asked me one day what I would do if she died and I calmly replied saying I would attend her funeral.  I cried because somehow I think she knew she was going to die soon but probably couldn’t say so.

My sister probably died from a broken heart.  The doctors might say otherwise but a part of me knows all she ever truly wanted was to love and be loved.

I hope the sun shines wherever you are; you went through so much pain during your last days on earth.  I wish you healing and peace dear sister and may your soul rest in eternal peace.

©MaKupsy 2019

5 Brutal Truths About Life

I have been through a lot of interesting experiences to date and all of them have taught me a thing or two.  If God grants me more years on this earth my grandchildren will hear the most bizarre tales.  If they are lucky they might actually get to read them instead because I am planning on writing a book at some point but procrastinating is my greatest enemy at the moment.  Right, about those life lessons…

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Lesson 1

You have to love yourself first before anyone else.  Be good to you and treat yourself right.  That way you make your life easier by avoiding toxic relationships.  When you know what you deserve you make sure you get nothing short of that.

Lesson 2

Don’t beg people to stay in your life.  Don’t beg them to love you.  Don’t beg them to call you.  Don’t beg them to treat you right.  The ones that truly love and care for you will not need you to beg for their affections, they will do any of these things naturally because you actually mean something to them.

Lesson 3

Use your head and not your heart when you make life changing decisions.  I have made one three many decisions based on feelings and those never ended well.  Since then I have constantly reminded myself that the best decisions are those made with a sound mind.

Lesson 4

Social media can be used for the greater good.  I know I follow people on Twitter who have landed jobs and life changing opportunities through that platform.  I have also been lucky to be invited to events and have landed paid gigs thanks to blogging and tweeting and networking remains constant.

Try not to use your social media presence to troll, complain and shame others.  Let me also say my 2 cents on nudity while I’m at it.  Don’t take nude photos that show your face and send them to your significant other, you don’t know who else he will share them with or where they will end up.  If you can help it DO NOT SEND NUDE PHOTOS AT ALL.

Lesson 5

Do not make decisions based on other people.  Be it your education, love life, career choice the list is endless.  At the end of the day YOU are the one who lives with the decisions that concern your life.  You have no one to answer to but yourself when you look back and wish you had done things differently. If you want to be a pilot, do that!  If you want to have a life partner and live happily ever after with no kids, do that!  If you want to write for a living, by all means do that!  Why?  Because life is too short to not do what truly makes you happy!

That said; what are some of the lessons you have learnt so far?  I would love to read all about them.

©MaKupsy 2019

A List Of Things I Can’t Stand

Everyone has a list of things that they simply can’t stand.  After you read through my list I’m certain you’ll bump into a few things you can also relate to.  Here goes;

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  • That long pinky nail that some men keep.  The other day I saw a guy who actually had nail polish on that finger.  Imagine the shock on my face!
  • People who leave hair on the soap bar, that is beyond revolting.  What in the world are you thinking leaving your hair on there, that might be your pubic hair you expect the next person to pluck out of that bar of soap.  Have some regard for others please.
  • I can’t deal with people who shout over the phone.  Like what ever happened to speaking into your phone?  I’m not interested in listening in to your conversation.  Telephone etiquette anyone?
  • People who chew bubble gum, especially professional people.  There is this colleague of mine all suited up, attending to customers and chewing bubble gum, for the why?
  • Poor Customer Service that one really has me all worked up.  If I’m paying for a service I expect to get great service otherwise me and my hard earned money are leaving.
  • Gossip.  Okay fine, I’m guilty of gossiping as well but you don’t want to hang out with people who gossip all the time.  There are so many things to talk about that are actually productive and life changing.  How about we try that for a change?
  • Parents who put weaves on their toddlers. WHY???
  • Parents who do not cut their children’s nails.  I have seen countless toddlers with dirty nails.  Can the parents not see that their children need to get their nails cut?  Imagine all that dirt stuck in the child’s nails.  When they eventually eat all those germs will dig into their food and straight into their mouths.  It is very unhygienic and untidy.
  • Parents who assist their children in bunking after school activities like swimming.  You are only disadvantaging your child, allow him or her to be an all rounder if need be, they will need it in the future.  Physical education is just as important as academic education.
  • Parents who watch their children throw tantrums in public places and do nothing about it.
  • Sweat.  I won’t dig deep into this one.  Let’s just leave it here.
  • People who go on about how they were in the first team of some sport when we were back in school.  Honestly, that was close to a decade ago.  Let’s celebrate current achievements and keep it moving.
  • Holier than though individuals.  We all know these; they act like they have never done a questionable thing all their life.  Judgmental much?
  • People who are too much.  I don’t know how to best describe them.  Say…once they start helping you with something they want to tell you how to do everything.  Or when they tell you about a movie they spoil it for you by telling you every single bit of that movie.
  • People who burp in your presence and not excuse themselves.  That’s plain rude.
  • Inconsiderate people.  Too many times I have seen people standing in line and not giving a pregnant woman or an elderly person the chance to go ahead of the queue.  That could be you one day you know and besides it’s only considerate to let them go ahead and get on with their day.
  • Public transport.  I really should buy my own car soon.  The whole hassle of bunching up in a minibus is just too much.  And the music they play can be such a drag especially if you don’t listen to that particular genre.  Don’t get me started with  toddlers who keep stepping on your clothes with the mother acting like she can’t see it.  Yes, my car is long overdue.
  • Nosy Parkers. (I prefer calling them Nosy Fuckers)  Always wanting to know your business, what you are up to, who you are doing, why you are doing it.  Get a grip and live your life.
  • People who are full of themselves.  I already am full of myself so we can’t all be like that, who will notice the other? On a serious note being vain is not good look on anyone.
  • Unexpected Visitors; it’s a NO for me.
  • Lazy people. Get up and do something!
  • People who drag their feet…Pick up your feet and walk properly already.  Where’s your excitement for life?
  • People who always try to ruin a perfect moment.  Kill joys, this one’s for you.
  • Weddings.  They drag on and on and on.  For that reason I’ve only attended two weddings to date.  Let’s just get to the fun part please I don’t like things that go on forever.
  • Internet bullying.  I shall dig deeper into this at some point before the year ends.
  • And finally I can’t stand my own handwriting.  It has gone from bad to worse to terrible over the past few years.  I don’t even call it a handwriting anymore.  Words fail me.

©MaKupsy 2019

Social Media Etiquette Tips

Social Media has taken the world by storm and has not left Zimbabweans behind.  Most people are on most social media platforms and loving it.  However, from my personal observation there seems to be a lack of social media etiquette with most people and I will address some of the experiences I face every other day.

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Links, Links and More Links!

I get it, you are trying to push your work through your social media platforms but have you ever stopped to think that maybe just maybe it’s a bit overboard?  Just yesterday I had to unfollow a few people on Twitter because I felt spammed.  I had observed it over time but yesterday was my breaking point.  How are nearly 20 of your Tweets all about links directing me to your work?  Are you an automated machine?  Is there no human being behind your account?  Whatever happened to maybe talking about the weather or engaging with your followers on whichever subject they might trending?  I know it’s your account and you can do as you please but if you want people to actually get interested in what you have to share then perhaps you need to consider actually talking to them instead of force feeding them with your work.  A simple retweet, a reply or a genuine compliment will go a long way.

Still on the subject of spamming; if there is one thing that really grates on my nerves it has to be broadcast messages on WhatsApp!  I believe if you have my number in your contacts it means we at least know each other on a “hi hi” basis.  With that in mind I also think that if you want to bombard me with your products, links and posters then by all means at least have some form of conversation with me.  I’m not saying send me a good morning message everyday; just a simple occasional hello message or even a comment on a status update to show that I’m not in your phone for decorational purposes will suffice.  I actually now have a few people that I automatically know are simply forwarding their links the moment their name pops up on my notifications.  Stop it!  Actually, I have asked some contacts to stop adding me to their broadcast list, I just think it’s rude and unnecessary especially if you don’t even have the decency to make conversation with me.

Interaction 

I have 9,705 followers on Twitter.  Before you get shocked by the number, I have been on Twitter since 2012 so my following has grown organically.  One thing I can tell you for free is that in order to grow your followers you need to interact with them.  It can be a retweet, sharing their work, event or simply liking their tweet.  I don’t follow back a lot of people BUT I will respond to almost every mention on my timeline because I believe everyone has something they can teach you no matter how big or small it might be.  Interacting with your followers makes you approachable and being approachable leaves you open to a world of opportunities.  Trust me, I know this, I live this.

Facebook Business Pages

Dear Facebook Business Pages who do not give adequate information, what are you doing?  When you send incomplete messages what’s supposed to happen?  You want me, your potential customer, the one you want money from, to pick up the phone to call or WhatsApp you or send you a private message???  What in the world is going on with you?  Let me give you a few examples:

  • I’m selling A, B, C please WhatsApp for price.
  • 2 bedroom flat to rent price negotiable (how do you not know how much you want to rent out your property for?) 
  • Friday Special, lamb chops and a salad (no price included on the image posted)

Then customers start responding asking how much, where do we find you, which methods of payment are available and guess what, no one replies and yet this is 2019 where everything moves at the speed of lightning.  How are you going to give your customers quality service if you can’t even respond to their questions?  The common excuse I hear is “We are not always on Facebook”.  Funny!  Why then do you have an account if you don’t want to manage it?

Thankfully there are some pages that actually do a fantastic job when it comes to being responsive and helpful and you check them out.  My top 2 favourites are Chop Chop Brazillian Steak House and TBagsZim please take notes, they are on the right path.

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Update Your Information

This means your contact number, social media accounts and your websites.  It’s not a good look when a customer follows a link only to find that it’s broken or no longer exists.  It simply screams disorganised and you definitely don’t want customers to think that way about your business.

Please also take time to check for grammatical errors when you post your content.  You don’t want to come of as careless.  Our gadgets are loaded with applications that spell check, kindly use them.  I think I’m the pettiest customer you will ever come across and if your advert has grammatical errors I lose interest real quick.

That said, please bear in mind that people don’t have time and if you keep them waiting for too long they will move on to the next reliable source.  Options aplenty.

Do you have any social media etiquette tips to add on?  Sharing is caring.

©MaKupsy 2019

Is Junk Food The Way To Go?

We can’t live without food, it’s one of our basic needs.  However, what are we actually putting into our bodies is the biggest question of them all.  If you are anything like me, you think before making a decision on eating any and everything, not because of calorie counting on my part but because I genuinely think of the nutritious benefits.  Being the fitness enthusiast that I am sometimes I must admit I can be a little bit judgmental.  Let me tell you about an incident that happened over the weekend…

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I make a trip to Marondera every other week.  I make sure I am on the first mini bus out of town so I usually get at to the bus station just before 8am.(I NEED a car public transport is killing my vibe!)  On this particular day a woman who had a little boy who looked like he was about 3 years old sat next to me.  I assumed the woman was probably the little boy’s grandmother.  I love having breakfast but I had no time to prepare it that morning so I opted to buy some fruit to cure my hunger pains.  My neighbours were ready to eat as well and they had with them a huge cream doughnut, a can of a fizzy drink of sort and a bunch of bananas.

The woman fed the little boy at least 3/4 of that doughnut then he downed the fizzy drink.  She called out to one of the boys who were selling food stuff and bought a packet of crisps.  The whole time I was completely in shock.  I mean, this wasn’t even 8am and this little growing boy is being fed all this junk food, mind you we hadn’t even left for Marondera yet.  We eventually took off and during the entire 45 minute ride the little boy was being fed one bad food after another until they dropped off along the way.

This is a trend I have observed over the years.  Whenever people are traveling with their children most make sure they have some junk food of sort to give them during the trip.  Even when you go to church you notice some mothers taking out little treats during the church service and you ask yourself why they didn’t prepare a meal for their children before coming to church?  We all get hungry, no doubt about that, but why not opt to give your child something that contains vitamins, minerals, carbohydrates, protein and fat?  What sort of eating habits are we teaching our children?

I have a 5 year old daughter who loves her food but she knows before we travel she has to sit down and eat because I do not buy treats along the way.  She eats junk food, her super power is pizza!  At the same time she loves a fruit salad and will have that any time of day because she enjoys it that much.  I don’t deny her life’s little pleasure but she will not be eating pizza first thing in the morning!  I’m not trying to encourage unhealthy eating habits because that’s one sure way of having a child with weight issues.  After she has had a decent meal or two I will let her enjoy the occasional ice-cream, biscuits, juice of her choice but it’s not an everyday thing.  I believe when it comes to food there should be a balance of sort.  I would like to believe I have set a good example for my little girl, unfortunately I will not have a say in the food choices she makes when she is all grown up.  However, as long as she is in my care I will do my best to make sure she eats right.

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Every bite you take is either fighting disease or feeding it.

What are your thoughts on the subject?  Are you the parent who let’s their child eat whatever they like or you are strict when it comes to food options?

©MaKupsy 2019

A Divorcee’s Thoughts On Marriage

I don’t wish divorce on even my worst enemy.  The process of separating not only the couple involved but sometimes the children and family as well.  It leaves a lot of broken trails behind which sometimes can be fixed but other times life is never the same again…

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I met up with my friend the other day.  I hadn’t seen him in the longest time.  We always catch up over social media and random phone calls but we decided it was time to meet up over a lunch date.

We talked about almost everything from the horrible weather we are currently experiencing.  The heat is unbearable I kid you not!  Just the other day I took three cold baths in one day and that didn’t make things better AT ALL!  We also talked about accommodation and how most property owners have reduced rentals because there is no money in the market and things are tough for most people.

My friend is a divorcee and he has two children so obviously our conversations always venture to children because we both experience the ups and downs of parenting.  He asked me if I will want to have more kids in the future and if you read my blog you already know the answer to this.  I don’t know why but each time people have random conversations the topic of relationships always comes up.  He told me that  he has been getting all sorts of advice as to the type of woman he should marry.

  1. Marry a woman who has never had children.
  2. A woman who has never been married before.
  3. A woman who has one or two children.
  4. A woman who no longer wants to have kids.

He said most people generally said that he should marry someone with a child(ren) because they have been the trials and tribulations of a failed relationship so they will be more likely to stay committed to the marriage.

Do you know what we both agreed after he told me the suggestions.  What matters in the end is that whoever you choose to be with makes you happy.  At the end of the day that is all that matters.  I’ve realised that we miss out on the greatest love stories because we are busy looking for specific characteristics in a person when the right person for you could be right in front of your eyes.   One too many times you limit yourself, for example; “The person has to go to a particular church, work a certain job, drive a certain car, stay in a certain part of town, have number of children, a virgin…the list is endless.”  But amidst all this we forget to ask ourselves if this person brings out the best in us.  Think about it…

That said, the lunch date went well and it was good to see him after such a long time.  I kept pestering him to tell me about his girlfriend with no luck, I guess he will always be evasive about that area of his life and that is fine, it’s something I have come to accept as a part of him.

P.S. He also follows my blog religiously and thinks I have gone and outdid myself and that I should continue blogging.  What a way to make my day 🙂

So…what are your thoughts on the subject?  Once someone gets divorced what sort of partner do you think they should pair up with?

©MaKupsy 2019

Shorthand Will Be The Death Of Zimbabweans

Let me send you some of the conversation killers disguised as “short hand messages” that come through in phones all over Zimbabwe, mine included.

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“HUD” How You Doing

“WYA” Where You At

“Gr8” Great

“Toq to m pliz” Talk to me please

“HBD” Happy Birthday

“l8tr” Later

“Kkkkk” ((this is supposed to be some form of laugh))  Please show me one person you have seen who laughs like that in real life.

“Cm tmw n brng ur own vhcl we wnt prvd trnspt” This is a very lazy someone who obviously can’t construct a sentence.

“fon” Phone

“waal” I have NO IDEA what this means, the word isn’t even in the dictionary, but if you know it’s meaning please give me a shout.

“wtv” Watching Television

“K” Okay.  Anyone who K’s me does not get any replies from me for a very long time, what form of disrespect is that?  Like are you so busy you can’t even type the word OKAY?

These are some of the messages you will receive when you decide to communicate with some people in your contacts list who use WhatsApp.  I find it very f*%king annoying that some grown a*s person on the other end of the message can sit down and actually type that up and send it to the next person.  Like what the fu*k?  How old are we?  Do you realise I have a metal I.D, yes, that’s just how grown up I am!   Whatever happened to actually composing a whole sentence or word that the next person can actually understand.  Now when someone sends you that you have to first try and figure out what they are trying to say.

I have figured out how to deal with people who do this.  IGNORE.  I hardly ever use shorthand  like ever.  Ask anyone I communicate with.  What’s really is going on with the next person who has a whole QWERTY keyboard on their phone which will give them all the letters in the alphabet and you choose to use a select few?

I know shorthand is supposed to speed up the communication and get the message across faster but gosh, it has gone completely out of hand.  Why not just send a voice note if you are too lazy to type?

Then come the typos; last time I checked our phones came with dictionaries do they not?  If you didn’t know, now you do.  People have taken sentence construction and grammatical errors to a whole new era you wonder if they are even paying attention to what they are texting to you.  I find it very annoying and it just kills the conversation.  I’m one of those people who actually reread the message I have typed out before actually hitting the send button and of course it’s silly of me to expect the same from others but really people will you lose a minute of your time by just double checking what you just sent?

The whole reason for this blog is to find out WHY you have become so lazy to type and proofread your messages.  You do realise that this is one of the reasons why people don’t reply your messages right?  Dear Zimbabweans, please help me understand what’s really going wrong, have we become such a lazy generation?

©MaKupsy 2019