Here’s Why You Should Travel To Mwenje Dam

Mwenje Dam is a travel destination I didn’t know existed until 3 months ago. If you love nature, this is the place for you! Its situated about 80km out of Harare and Google Maps is your friend for directions. Simply input Mwenje Dam in the search bar and you’re well on your way to an exciting day trip adventure!

I strongly recommend you also confirm your directions with the locals as you go as technology isn’t always reliable. The people there are so friendly and welcoming, and they make you feel like part of their community from the moment you arrive.

This travel adventure was a moment of serendipity for my partner and I. The first thing that caught my attention was the picturesque dam view.  I remember jumping out of the car just so I could take in the view and feel the cold wind coming from the dam caress my cheeks. What a comforting feeling it was; like the dam was giving me a big welcome hug.  

“If you never go, you’ll never know.”UnKnown

Over the past year I’ve discovered that sometimes I enjoy staying at home because I’ve made it a very comfortable and cosy space. However, on most days I want to leave the hustle and bustle of Harare and spend a day outdoors; preferably outside Harare. My favourite things to do when I get the chance to run wild and free are; reading a good book, taking in beautiful views which include trees, sunset, waterfalls and mostly driving down the pothole-less roads out of town.

Below are 10 reasons why I love Mwenje Dam:

  1. It’s a budget-friendly day trip. We only spent USD10 on the day because we ran out of alcohol.
  2. There’s NO entry fee.
  3. You can bring your cooler box with your favourite drinks.
  4. There’s a well-stocked bar incase you need a refill of your cold beverages.
  5. You can bring your meat for braai; there’s a USD5 charge for braaing the meat for you.
  6. Snacks and food are welcome at no charge.
  7. It’s a secluded place so you won’t have to worry about not getting a parking spot.
  8. Everyone is welcome, there’s no age restriction.
  9. You get to watch the locals showcase a colourful display of dives into Mwenje Dam. If you’re brave enough you can join them but I prefer watching from the sidelines.
  10. You’ll take beautiful pictures and videos that will be perfect for your social media feed!

On our second visit, we went with my daughter and were disappointed to find no water spilling over to the other side of the dam. We had described it perfectly for her only for her to see it in its dry form. When you plan your trip keep in mind that the space flourishes around the rainy season which is November to March and March to May.  

Some day soon I’ll be a Travel Influencer because one thing I love more than anything in this world, is traveling. It’s one of the best ways to get out of your comfort zone and experience new things. It’s also a great way to meet new people and see how they live their lives. You should try it too, I promise you won’t regret it.

If you’re reading this from outside Zimbabwe make sure you bookmark this post so that you too can experience a day of relaxation on a budget. And if you’re reading this from right here in Zimbabwe, I highly recommend you visit Mwenje Dam this weekend! It’s a great place to go on a date with your significant other or to bring your friends along.

Go forth and have fun!

I also share some of my travel experiences on TikTok, let’s follow each other and see the world together!

Have you been to Mwenje Dam? If not, when do you plan to visit?

MaKupsy 2022

How You Can Do A Social Media Detox In Less Than 24hours!

Are you struggling with deciding if you should take a social media detox or delete your social media completely? Have you thought about this for days, weeks, or months? You’d be surprised to know that you’re not alone. According to a survey done in 2020, 45% of Facebook users considered leaving the social network. There are more stats for the other various platforms but just think of that percentage for now; shocking right?!

I’ve been telling people that our generation shall suffer from back and neck problems because we’re almost ALWAYS looking at our phones. I’m assuming you’re reading this blog post while lying in bed, preparing a meal, walking to work, to school, attempting to listen to your partner share how their day was, or using the loo. It’s okay, this is a judgment-free zone.

It seems every moment we could use to appreciate our surroundings or just enjoy the present is spent drowning in our screens. I like to call it the black hole because once you hop in it’s difficult to crawl out. I’ll share some undesirable experiences with you that you might be able to relate to and I’ll help you figure out where you should go from here.

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I fell in love with social media the moment I discovered Twitter. The other platforms were tolerable. I had a Facebook account where I’d post the most random of things; I’m so glad I deleted it and moved on with my life. Such dark times!  However, Twitter is what hit my creative spot and I enjoyed sharing my thoughts at the click of a button. It came with countless opportunities as well. You can check out some of them from here. With such a beautiful relationship with social media you’re probably wondering why I’d have a difficult time choosing to stay plugged in or not. 

  • Complaining In Numbers

When was the last time you encountered terrible customer service or you were upset about your working conditions better yet when did just want to complain and whine about something? We all have our fair share of incidents we can share at the drop of a hat. 

Unfortunately, being on some of the social media platforms, specifically, Twitter will unknowingly bring out the worst in you. One minute you’re minding your business the next thing you’re adding your 2 cents on a thread of complaints. Just imagine an audience ready to fuel your bitterness; you will type complain to your hearts content! There’s nothing wrong with airing out your views; but have you noticed how it leaves you feeling drained and tired? Yes, you’ve shared how upset you were and everyone else agrees but what good have you done for yourself?  

Fun Fact!

Research from Stanford University has found that complaining reduces the size of our hippocampus, which, is responsible for memory and problem-solving! The study found that engaging in complaining or simply hearing someone complain for more than 30 minutes could physically damage our brains.

The goal of the time we spend here on earth is to spread more love and less negative energy. Be good to your brain!

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  • Jealousy

“The jealous are troublesome to others, but a torment to themselves.”

Minding your business is a difficult thing when almost everyone you follow on social media is constantly posting their wins, travel, engagements, birthday parties, or roora day. 

We all have that one person online that we constantly check up on to see what they’re up to. I used to have one. I would deliberately look them up and when I saw their latest content I’d think of so many snide remarks in my head. I remember asking myself why I was investing my time in such a counterproductive activity and realised that I was jealous of this person. Why I didn’t even know them! Do you want to know the reason? They had what I couldn’t have or at least assumed back then I could never experience. They traveled around the world, the gods know I wanted and still want this so badly! 

What a dream it would be to wake up in Paris, have you seen those views on Instagram! Sadly, it consumed me and I ended up resenting someone I only knew from seeing online. I knew I had a lot to figure out about myself because it was becoming an unhealthy addiction.

The good news is there’s hope after all! Below are tips you can try out and help with your social media detox in just 24hours!

Tried & Tested Digital Detox Advice

  1. Use Your Social Media Tools. I’m in the business of constantly curating my social media feeds, especially Twitter. I’ve intentionally followed certain people because I enjoy their content and I find value or get a reason to have an extra sunny day from their Timeline. The Unfollow, Mute, and Block button is also very useful function. I highly recommend you give it a shot. Fortunately, I have no reason to block anyone lately because half the time I’m so busy with work I barely know what’s happening or simply can’t keep up!. I’m a Twitter elder, been there since 2011!!!
  2. Take Time Off Back in the day, I used to announce my break from social media because I assumed people would wonder where I disappeared to. Guess what, they honestly don’t care. Everyone is busy living their life and checking up on someone they don’t interact with in real life is the last thing on their to-do list. I encourage you to do this for yourself as often as you can. You need to live your life outside your phone. The notifications and outfit of the day pictures can wait for a few hours or days.
  3. Access Certain Platforms From Specific Devices.  Delete the social media platforms you know you’re probably addicted to from your phone. Instead, access them from specific devices, for example, your iPad or MacBook. This makes it an entire chore to complete and now you won’t have to share the first thought or complaint you have or that perfect picture of that delicious meal you’re about to have.  
  4. Journal and Colour.  I bought a journal at the beginning of the year. It sat in my bag for most of the first half of the year. It’s very pretty, compact and cost me a lot of money! About 2 months ago I decided to start journaling my thoughts and it’s the best thing I’ve done for myself. My thoughts are clearer and I feel lighter after letting out everything on my mind. Sometimes that’s all I need coupling with my adult colouring book. However, I must admit that I don’t use it as often as I should but on days that I do the positive vibes are unmatched!

After all is said and done; to be or not to be on social media all the time is a choice that you can make. You don’t have to endure feeling depressed, left out, or constantly checking if you got more likes on your Instagram Feed. There’s so much more to life than that.

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“In a world full of distractions, create some space for nothingness.”

Let me know in the comments below. Do you struggle with social media addiction? What are some tips you can add for someone who wants to unplug from this social media drug that has almost everyone glued to their phones?

MaKupsy 2022

The Writing Break Is Over!

Close to 8 years ago, I started writing on this very blog. Where did time go?  MaKupsy…when I read through some of the changes, milestones, and, achievements I’ve witnessed over the years I can’t help but feel I’m reading about someone else’s life. It’s been a roller coaster ride! 

A ride so good it stopped me from doing what I love the most because life continues to demand parts of you even when you would rather be focused on something else.

The past 2 years without blogging have been all the more interesting and I want to share all of it with you! My writing style will remain the same even after such a long break. I’ll still be authentic, raw, and share things that might make you feel uncomfortable because I have the gift of oversharing.

Here’s a rundown of some of the topics you can look forward to reading in the next few months. Please note that they aren’t in any particular order but expect some juicy reads that will engage your senses.

  1. You can land a job on LinkedIn
  2. Dying to leave social media but I can’t
  3. My attempt at the Project60 challenge
  4. Answering some of the questions on the Shona Lobola post which is on page 1 of Google people!!!
  5. The incredible opportunities that come through Blogging
  6. My Mandela Washington Fellowship experience
  7. What it’s like being a Personal Fitness Trainer
  8. The death of my Facebook Business Page
  9. Lessons learned from being in a committed relationship
  10. How friendship can be the best thing you could ever have
  11. Still grieving my sister 4 years later
  12. Travel adventures around Zimbabwe
  13. Mental health demons never go away
  14. Restaurants you have to try without fail
  15. Breaking my collarbone 
  16. How school run can lead to aging faster
  17. My ass doesn’t run long distances anymore
  18. A review on how my Mi 6 Band is the coolest sports watch ever!

You’re in for a treat!

Gosh, I missed writing! Such a beautiful form of release.

SAVE THE DATE, hit the Follow button. On the 26th of April, my blog will be back and this time it’s going to be bigger and better.

Before you go and share this post with all your amazing friends I’m curious to know what you’re looking forward to reading from the list I shared?

Let’s chat and see which one gets to go up first 🙂

MaKupsy 2022

You Might Not Be Able To Blog For The Rest Of Your Life

I had a dream, a dream to blog about almost all the precious experiences I would go through in my lifetime. The dream was so vivid I saw it going from the year 2014 all through to the day I am no longer a part of this world. I lied to myself, it’s not possible for me and I accept it with open arms. I’ve been blogging for nearly 6 years now and I’m closing this chapter of my life soon. Let me share a few secrets with you…

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1. Time Won’t Be Enough

I’ve been waking up at 3am to create content. It started because of the load shedding situation in Zimbabwe. I wouldn’t have electricity for the greater part of the day. I decided if I slept early I would wake up in the wee hours of the morning instead to do some cleaning, cooking and you guessed it, blogging. That’s the only time I had access to WiFi so the plan was to make the most of it. I would create my content in advance, schedule it and get a chance to read through other posts bloggers I follow would have penned down. However, it turns out time is something I no longer have enough of. I’m big on telling people that “you make time for what matters to you” and it’s true. Although blogging matters to me, I now have other platforms I cater to that need my full attention. The time for blogging simply isn’t there anymore.

2. You Will Run Out Of Ideas 

You can write alright, but exactly how many ideas do you go through till you get to the point where you realise that there isn’t anything to write about anymore? I’ve done it all. I’ve written about travel, relationships, blogging tips, motherhood, sex, events in town, restaurant reviews, you name it and I have a blog hiding somewhere in my posts for it. I’ve even written articles I’ve been paid for. One of the coolest things about blogging which is clearly diverting us from the topic at hand! Yes, ideas will soon run out and you might end up with a blog with no content for months to come and start questioning why you even started blogging.

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3. Which Brings Us To The Why 

The main reason I started blogging was to have an outlet for my broken heart. I was bitter and full of so much range that I couldn’t contain and the best way to let it out was through writing. It worked for a few years until all the negative feelings no longer lived inside me. I’m in a better space now and I believe my time for oversharing parts of my personal life is over.

When the why fades away, it doesn’t make sense to keep going. I’m not an angry black woman anymore, why keep focusing on the past that can’t be altered when I have a bright future to indulge in? My why doesn’t live here anymore.

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4. A Friend Told Me

That it’s okay to let go. She has walked with me through this journey and when I told her that I was losing my zeal for blogging she reminded me that change happens. I can focus my energy on something else that inspires me to create. The end of something can birth new opportunities.

5. Mental Wellness

In the past I’ve easily shared intimate parts of my life freely.  However, as I’ve grown older I realise that maybe it’s not such a great idea to do so.  The past few months have been difficult for me on the mental wellness front.  I’ve had bouts of anxiety and depression.  These are things I would have put in a blog post but I feel that maybe it needs to be in a different setup altogether until such a time I know how to manage my dark days.  Social media might not be the space right now.

This is my last blog post on my Lifestyle Blog. The journey was enthralling…  Letting go of something that used to be the centre of my attention feels like I’ve lost a part of me but it’s for the best. I have a new project I’ll be working on that I’m excited about. It’s something I’ve always wanted to do but knowing that I won’t be focusing all my efforts on running two blogs reassures me that I will finally have time to give it my full attention.

Curious question; have you at any point during your journey you’ve decided you’re done with blogging?

I’ll still be available on my Fitness Blog which you can subscribe to over here.  I’m also on social media platforms with the same handles throughout: @fitnessbaezim

Thank you for the amazing support, for reading through my posts, sharing with your friends and family, commenting and leaving “likes”. Without you my blog would have never grown into a brand. I’ll be forever grateful.

“If you’re brave enough to say goodbye, life will reward you with a new hello.”

©MaKupsy 2020

Clients Who Pay The Least Are Often The Biggest Headache

Dear Creative,

By now you know that the client who wants to negotiate their way out of paying you the amount you charged is going to give you a headache; let them go!

Social Media Management MaKupsy

Someone shared her sentiments on the topic and said;

Clients who pay the least in most cases have the most demanding of work. It’s like they undermine your work but at the same time want you to give it your best shot. It’s demotivating and draining. -Anonymous

Since I started my social media management hustle I’ve made it a point to steer clear from individuals who will give me potential headaches.  

Yesterday morning I scrolled past the post above on my Twitter timeline but quickly went back to give it my full attention after I saw the title.

Have a watch and let me know your thoughts.

MaKupsy – Social Media Manager

Free Blogging Tips And Tricks

I wish I knew someone had given me these blogging tips and tricks when I started out.  I have been blogging for the past 6 years and over time I have gathered a few blogging tips which I randomly share with people who are starting out.  This morning I decided to compile the entire list and share it with you because I know there is a beginner out there wondering where to begin; how to make their work visible in a world full of bloggers and how to keep readers coming back for more.  Take out your pen and paper and get ready to take note of these blogging tips and tricks which by the way fall in no particular order.

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  1. Choose a user-friendly blogging platform. When I started out my first few posts were on Blogger.com it didn’t make me happy so I changed to WordPress after a friend recommended it. (best decision ever!)
  2. Proof read your work over and over again.  You don’t want to be that blogger who publishes work that has typos or grammatical errors.  Even after publishing your post it’s important to read through it to make sure everything is in check.
  3. Keep it short and sweet.  You don’t want to overwhelm your readers with too many words.  Yes, sometimes it’s okay to write up a lengthy read but remember we are living in a time where your readers attention will easily be distracted by something else.
  4. Explore new adventures.  Whenever I hit a writers block I try something new.  It can be taking a walk using a different route, eat out at a new restaurant, visit a friend in a different part of town or write about a deep dark secret that I haven’t shared with anyone. (this depends on how brave you are)
  5. Read, reblog, share(on your blog or on other social media platforms) and comment on other blogs.  That way you get conversations going and other readers will visit your blog to read what you’re about.social media management makupsy
  6. Don’t bombard people with your links on social media once your blog post is out.  I used to be guilty of this.  Tagging a million people on my blog post link.  From experience most people actually won’t read it so it’s best to tag a friend or two that you know are interested in your area of expertise.
  7. Connect with your reader.  Each time you decide to write a post ask yourself if it will teach something, make someone laugh, inspire them, have them remember a similar incident, make them sad?  In short whatever you decide to write make sure it brings some form of emotion.
  8. Plan.  Write down how often you want to write, what time, which topics and get on with it.  Have some form of a routine which your readers will get accustomed to.  It can be writing twice or five times a week whatever you decide do it religiously.
  9. Write about what you are passionate about.  When I started I asked other bloggers what I could write about and most of them suggested I have a blog that was set in stone.  I am a versatile individual and I knew that sort of blog would soon have me running out of things to write.  I decided to have a lifestyle blog instead.  That way I am able to write about any and everything.  I look forward to writing on my blog and sometimes I have to stop myself because I end up oversharing…But you get where this is going right?  Make your blog something that you enjoy and write the sh*t out of it otherwise your interest in it will soon waver.
  10. Follow other bloggers on the blogging platform you choose as well as on other social media platforms.  My personal favourite place to find new bloggers from across the globe is @AfroBloggers
  11. Use images on your blog posts.  Never ending text gets boring.
  12. Respond to your readers comments as soon as you can.  I try and not let a comment go for 3 days without being answered.  You want your readers to know that you appreciate them and this is a sure way of doing it.  If you ignore their contributions whether good or bad chances of them reading, sharing your work or even coming back to your blog are close to none.
  13. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.  Unfortunately you can’t be good at everything and it is perfectly okay to ask other bloggers how to do certain things.  I didn’t know how to add Testimonials to my blog but thanks to a fellow blogger I can now do it with my eyes closed.
  14. Use catchy titles for your blog posts.  You want your reader to get curious and click on your link to read your post.  These are my two personal favourite blog posts that got my readers going crazy! 30 Things Women Want Men To Know and 8 Wallet Friendly Date Ideas.makupsy blogging tips
  15. Read!  I can  not stress this enough. I think every good writer out there reads a lot. You will be exposed to a wide range of words, you will get to read other styles of writing and it will give you some ideas for your blog as well.
  16. Choose an attractive theme. You want your blog to stand out and also have your readers come back for more.  I have probably changed my theme 4 times to date and I am currently loving the current one, it looks fresh!
  17. DO NOT PLAGARISE.  People work hard on their blog posts whatever you do always give credit to the owner’s work if you choose to use it and that includes pictures.
  18. Reschedule your posts. Sometimes you write up a blog post that doesn’t get enough traffic and it’s perfectly okay to reschedule it for another time.  You don’t always have to write up new content.
  19. Self promote.  You are your own biggest cheerleader.  Whenever you get the chance to mention a blog post that relates to a certain subject on social media platforms be sure to have links ready to share.  Tell your friends, family, social media fans about your blog post until they know the link by heart.
  20. Be 100% YOU.  I can not stress this enough.  If you try and imitate someone else you won’t last in the blogging world.  Keep your blog authentic and you will never run out of inspiration.

*BONUS TIP* Use tags on your blog posts.  Don’t just leave that area blank.  When bloggers search for certain words you want your blog to also be a part of of the links that show up under the search.

These are my blogging tips.  I was hoping to keep them short but it seems I just couldn’t stop myself from sharing more blogging tips.  This is just how much I get carried away!!  I strongly feel that if you specialise in something then by all means share information so that you can help the next person grow.

I know there are other blogging tips that I left out and I would love to read any additional ones that you might have in the comments section.

©MaKupsy 2020

3 Biggest Lessons Having A Child Out Of Wedlock Will Teach You

My daughter is turning 9 this year, it’s astonishing how time has flown by so fast. It feels like a few sleeps ago we were in a minibus on our way to the clinic for her immunisation shot while she danced on my lap and marveled at the outside world through the minibus window. She has always been such a happy child; so full of life and her sunny personality has blossomed throughout the years. With everything that has happened throughout the years, she’s the main reason I push myself to do and be better.

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In our African culture, having a child out of wedlock is considered taboo no matter how old you are when this happens. You’d think people have moved with the times but when it comes to tradition some things still hold water. I’ve had friends and family share some of their lessons with me but it occurred to me that I never shared my lessons of having a child out of wedlock. There are plenty of them but because I like to keep things short and sweet I’ll only share three with you.

1. Protect Yourself

If you have no plans of going through an unplanned pregnancy then, by all means, get yourself on a contraceptive method! Unprotected sex comes with consequences. You can’t be having sex every other day with no protection in sight and assuming you won’t get pregnant. The emergency contraceptive can only do so much, ask me, I used to take it and still ended up pregnant. I’d encourage you to go to the clinic with your partner to both figure out which method you can try. Get to know the side effects as well. Most come with weight gain but I’d rather deal with finding ways to lose weight instead of trying to raise USD2000+/- for maternity fees. Be proactive ladies, at the end of the day, you’re the one who will have to carry a child for 9 whole months.

2. People Will Be Disappointed 

They might not say it to you in black and white but you will feel it. Everyone wants the best for their child. In our culture, it seems the biggest achievement for a woman is to get married, have a grand white wedding, bear strong healthy babies preferably boys for your husband and live happily ever after. Now imagine not delivering any of the things I just mentioned… I had a time I felt lacking because I didn’t have a big wedding band to show the world. It took a long time for me to accept that not everyone is supposed to get married and that’s okay. We all have our different paths and all for a good reason.

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3. Your Partner Will Move On

Just when you think you’re having your life back on track you’ll hear the news that your partner has moved on. You thought putting your life back together one piece at a time with a baby on board was easy? This news will devastate you whether you still feel something for your partner or not. I couldn’t eat or sleep for days after receiving this news. I felt that no one else could ever love me.

The stigma towards single mothers in Zimbabwe is real and after accepting that there was no hope for the father of my child and I; I couldn’t even imagine how anyone would want to pair themselves up with someone who had a child.

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Fast forward to present day and I could write a book about how the universe granted my wishes. I have a partner who adores my daughter and I. He does everything in his power to make sure we’re happy and comfortable. I couldn’t ask for more.

In my 8 years of motherhood, I’ve come to accept that nothing stays the same. You might be going through a very tough time right now but a few years from now you’re going to look back and laugh at what you’re currently crying about.

If you’re not yet a mother take a chapter of this lesson from my life, at least you’ll be a step ahead and not have to repeat my mistakes.

Are you a mother? What are some of the lessons you have learnt so far?

©MaKupsy 2020

Don’t Post The Quote Sis, They Don’t Care

One of my marketing flyers once read “I Live On Social Media” which wasn’t a lie. I was always glued on my phone swiping through different platforms to keep up with everything except for the time I was asleep. Even then, I would dream of some of the people I follow especially those on Twitter. I’m still curious about how that works, you dream of someone you’ve never met in real life, someone you only interact with online. Strange indeed!

2019 changed my perspective on so many things around social media.

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1. People Don’t Care

You got a new job, you just had a beautiful bouncy baby, you relocated and you’re finally living in the city of your dreams. The first thing you think of is sharing with your online friends. Yes, they will send you dozens of likes and messages of congratulations but do they genuinely care? That single post has probably given one of your online friends a reason to despise you, not that you’ve done anything wrong but you reminded them of how things aren’t going well in their lives.

Does that mean you shouldn’t post your achievements? I say post them BUT choose your platforms wisely. I’m assuming it depends on which country you’re from but from the part of the world I live in your well-intended post might end up being a meme or have people pass snide comments. Want to know what they care about? Your downfall. Now that’s the stuff they’ll enjoy any day. Human beings are strange creatures.

2. You Put Yourself In The Spotlight

Tweeting used to be my favourite past time. I always changed my handle to something spicy. Whatever the name was would go with the sort of tweets I’d share. I would initiate hot conversations around sex.  Did I get a lot of attention for all the wrong reasons? Certainly! People would take screenshots of my tweets and share them in groups or make them their WhatsApp status updates. Imagine the shock I’d get when someone would tell me my tweet was a hot topic in a WhatsApp group. I made a conscious decision to end the madness.

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That’s round about the same time my brand was taking shape and I knew I wouldn’t want to be remembered for any of that. I did a whole online makeover, changed my handle and now use the same name on all platforms. It’s been 2 years of making sure I share content that adds value to my audience. Fast forward to a month ago, I was in one of the biggest interviews in my life and one of the panelists told me she follows me on Twitter. Had it been 2 years back I was going to hide under the table with shame.

They say the internet never forgets; whatever you put out there is something you won’t be embarrassed to repeat in an interview setup or better yet to your parents.

3. You Need A Hobby

Believe it or not you can do other things with your time that don’t involve social media. Read a book, listen to a podcast, write, read or cook something different. From experience, the more free time you have on your hands the more you’re tempted to share every single part of your life with the online community. We all have people who even tell us about the colour of their poo that morning. Don’t be that person who overshares. Get yourself an enriching hobby that will make social media an occasional activity not the centre of your life.

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Phew! This has been the longest blog post I’ve penned down in a while. I had so much to say but I’ll keep this short because I always complain about bloggers who write never-ending posts.

What are your thoughts on sharing about your life on social media?

©MaKupsy 2020

How To Find Out Your Most Fulfilling Blogging Niche

When I started blogging I had a lot of online critics. I concluded that that’s what happens when you put your thoughts out there for the world to see. One person tweeted saying “what sort of blogging is that”?  It stung, in my world, I was expressing myself the best way I knew how and to have someone else think it wasn’t good enough nearly led me to give up on a new hobby I was enjoying. To my surprise, one woman reached out to me and she encouraged me to keep writing. She told me that my blog was my space, a place to have my voice heard and my stories shared. She inspired my blog tagline. I embraced her advice and continued to write, without a niche in mind but still, I shared my experiences one post at a time.

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6 years later and I’m still churning out content weekly. Where did time go and where do some of these topic ideas even come from? Maybe I can write about that in my next blog post? Today I want to help you figure out what your blog niche is and how you can welcome it with open arms.

1. What Are You Well Informed About?

This one was easy for me. My blog was inspired by heartbreak and that’s all I wrote about for the longest time. When I look at my  WordPress blog insights readers stop by to read mostly about relationships and personal (read that as sex) posts.  With that information at hand, I run with it and deliver juicy stories you can’t resist reading. Like this post; Sex On The First Date it’s the most popular post with over 100 likes! Write about what your readers love the most. They will keep coming back for more!

2. What Tickles Your Fancy?

It could be anything. Some people enjoy wearing makeup, others love to travel while a handful like to eat out. Whatever you’re passionate about works in your favour. For someone like me who likes the finer things in life; writing about my eat-out experiences is one of my favourite things to do. Not only do I get to share mouth-watering pictures but I give you ideas of what you can try out the next time you have a date. I save you a phonecall because I share all the useful information you need at the end of the post.

MaKupsy Restaurant Review

A meal from one of my favourite restaurants in town 🙂

3. Don’t Follow The Crowd

It’s easy to want to do exactly what your friends are doing or what your favourite blogger does. Where’s the uniqueness in that? You want to stand out and have people know that this is your work the moment they start reading it. Your signature might be your catchy blog titles, the playful words you use or the high-quality images that go with your work. Whatever happens, stay true to you.  Noone can be you and that’s your superpower!

So how do long does it take to figure out what your blogging niche is? It depends on the individual in question. It took me a couple of months to understand that I was a personal blogger because I mostly share my innermost thoughts and feelings. Couple that with other topics but the top theme in my work is personal experiences.

It might take you a longer or shorter time. Whichever way it works out give yourself time before putting yourself in a box. Allow your work to guide you. It’s the only way you will find the most fulfilling blogging niche.

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*Top Secret Tip*

If you really want to stand out in the blogging world, choose a niche that most people aren’t a part of. I’m the only Fitness Blogger in Zimbabwe and that dear reader is how I stand out from the crowd. Oh, you thought I only had this blog. I’m a woman of many talents…

Have you figured out what your blogging niche is or you’re still riding the wave trying to figure things out?

©MaKupsy 2020

It Ain’t Where I’ve Been But Where I’m About To Go

I’m a mother.  The father of my child and I separated a few years ago.  I was bitter, heartbroken and mad at the world for the longest time.  I felt like the world owed me something for all the pain I was going through.  It took me a whole 5 years to finally get out of that zone.

One morning I woke up and asked myself, what would happen if something were to happen to the father of my child and I had to look after her on my own?  Would I remain bitter or would I have to gather myself up and show up for my one and only daughter?  I chose the latter.  I stopped sending him never ending text messages wishing him ill, I stopped crying myself to sleep every other night, I stopped complaining about how I hated my job, I stopped speaking negative things into my life and chose to start working on myself one day at a time.  I realised it was time to get my shit in order and the moment I made that decision and started taking action; my life has been full.

This video stirred so many emotions within me.  It brought back flash backs of some of the things I’ve gone through in the past but still came out stronger and wiser.  It will take some of your time to watch this but every single minute will be worth it, I promise.

These are some of the lessons I learnt from the video:

  • Success leaves clues, we’re just not picking them up.
  • Go through every toxic behaviour in your life and start unlearning bad habits.
  • My job is to like myself everyday.
  • You can’t take everyone with you on your transformation journey.
  • It takes more than one thing to change your life, it takes EVERYTHING.

I would like to know what lessons you learnt from watching this video?  Please share this post with as many people as you can, it will change a life.

©MaKupsy 2020