Every woman wants a man who can cook; okay I lie, I love a man who can cook so I will speak for myself on this one. Imagine getting home to a meal prepared with nothing but tender loving care by your one and only. Chef Takura(hello beard gang) took some time out to share spinets of his story with me and you can read all about it below.
I have always loved cooking, working in hospitality made the choice easier.
My favorite meal changes so often. I am into soups at the moment. I also always love making pizza and pasta from scratch because they are so versatile for toppings and sauces!!
I currently work at Forest Hills Resort as the Managing Director. I love building and making our product better. Sadly I have very little time to cook. (There goes my dream to have a Chef Bae!) Forest Hills is a beautiful location many places to hike and enjoy nature.
Being the wine lover that I am I couldn’t resist asking him on his thoughts on food and wine…
Pairing food and wine was my last job in Australia where I was the Head Sommelier (a wine waiter) at a Modern European Bistro. Pay attention to the weight of the dish as well as flavour. A hearty beef dish will go better with a full bodied red wine and a light spicy Asian dish would go better with a lighter white wine. Experiment a lot and see what your palette enjoys!!!
I do try and exercise as much as I can. The nice thing about living on a mountain is that EVERY walk has an incline!! I also like to swim and skip.
I have just gained a little more fitness and I get to see the area and take loads of nature photos. The greatest challenge I have had so far when it comes to exercising is making time and there is no one to work out with out here. Chef Takura needs to read about the benefits of running alone.However, I do enjoy running, I will start running when I get someone to chase me!
You can get in touch with Chef Takura on Twitter and Instagram to stay up to date with his mouth watering meals and beautiful views that he constantly shares on social media.
Love is one of the most beautiful things you can experience in this lifetime if it’s reciprocal. However, if you are one of the unlucky few who got served a huge dose of unrequited love you will know exactly how much pain can come from it.
Thankfully over the years I have had the chance to reflect and take note of some of the mistakes I made in the past where love was concerned. In the past I have paired myself up with people who actually did not love or care about me. I saw the signs and chose to ignore them. A slight sign of concern was automatically mistaken for love. For me love had to make my heart go pitter patter, lose my senses, lose sleep and have me going through extremes of happiness and sadness. That was clearly a lot to take in in the name of love.
I used to be a bitter woman, I was mad at the world. Mad that I loved someone who did not see all the things I did in the name of love. More than anything I was mad at myself for not seeing something was not good for me and simply walking away when I still had the chance to do so.
I am happy to say that what I view love to be has completely changed. For me love will not leave me close to feeling a panic attack, love will complete me, love will give me a warm, calm and confident feeling towards my partner. I don’t think I still get butterflies, maybe it’s an age thing; but I certainly feel that this is right when I am with the perfect match.
I no longer feel anything towards the man who once shattered my heart to irreparable little pieces; I am indifferent towards him. You will be surprised to note that this very song used to bring me to tears each time I listened to it but now I listen to it and recall that it used to be his favourite song. Through it all in as much as things didn’t work out between us we had our happy moments. They didn’t last but for the season they were supposed to they brought a smile to my face.
It’s important to take a step back whenever you get the chance to and find out where you go wrong. It’s easy to sit down and blame the world for things going wrong in your life when most times you are the very source of your own pain. You can’t choose who you love though you can try very hard to make sure you love someone who at least feels the same way about you.
I have made it my personal mission to continue to grow myself in love. How? By doing things that bring me joy, filling my days with happy moments, understanding that not everyone will understand the intensity that comes with me and above all else to keep learning and unlearning habits that might hinder my progress. Not everyone will understand what I am about but the right one will know that I am amazing just the way I am.
We live yes, but how many of us actually take time to learn?
You are definitely one of the lucky few people on this planet if you have not gone through a heartbreak. In my opinion the pain that comes with it is right there next to labour pains. It is something you don’t want to experience more than once because the pain usually scars you for weeks, months and sometimes years to come. I asked some of my favourite people on Twitter to share how they managed to get over a heartbreak and as always they didn’t disappoint! I like to keep opinions anonymous so names are not mentioned. Their healing processes and some of mine are in the list below. Kick back, grab your notepad and fix yourself a strong cup of coffee you will want to keep this!
Cry. Cry yourself to sleep, cry yourself through the day, cry each time you listen to that sappy song that reminds you of him, heck cry yourself a whole river! It’s the best thing you can do for yourself, crying will help wash away the pain. Whatever you do, DO NOT internalise your emotions.
Get high or die trying. Seriously. Nothing makes you feel better like a good old smoke. You are guaranteed of short term memory loss which is a good thing because you can focus on the feel good sensation and forget about your broken heart for a while. Proven effects include joy, euphoria, contentedness and a care-free attitude!
Cut contact, otherwise you will find yourself snooping on their social media this is very unhealthy. I suggest you actually take a social media fast for the next 30 days in a bid to protect yourself. The last thing you want to do is see your ex partner all loved up on Instagram. That will actually do you more harm than good, heartbreak and social media are NOT friends!
Get up under someone new. Try this at your own risk. An orgasm a day keeps the stress away. Yes, I made that saying up but it’s a sure way to take your mind off your ex but just make sure whoever you decide to have sex with will actually shower you with multiple orgasms otherwise the whole act will be pointless and leave you frustrated.
Listen to some music. Not the sappy sad stuff by the way. Something upbeat to lift up your spirits.
Move to another place. Try getting a job in a town hours away from your current location or better yet leave the entire country. That way you can heal faster without any memory triggers.
Keep yourself occupied. Spent time with friends, do your favourite things. Try positive distractions such as going out and doing something fun especially something new. Amusement Park, dancing; getting out and not focusing or dwelling on the heartbreak.
Put yourself out there. You don’t have to rush into another relationship but just go on dates and feel wanted. It helps to not be lonely and also just for the confidence boost.
Alcohol! , it numbs the pain. Those who don’t drink can safely turn to ice-cream or comfort foods; hello calories!! I have tried and tested this one and all I can say is that alcohol will fix the problem for that day but when you wake up sober all the pain will come rushing back.
Accept that it’s over. This is probably the most crucial point because without this you won’t be able to. Accept it and do not be bitter, okay TRY very hard not to be bitter.
Positive self talk and reflection. Remind yourself it’s their loss and not yours. BUT also look at your contributions to the demise of your relationship. Avoid self blame at all costs but focus on reflecting. This usually happens further down the road to mending your heartbreak.
Let go completely. You are not trying to do the whole “Oh we’re broken up but we’re cool and modern so we can be friends” – it just prolongs the pain! CUT TIES…Cut it, Cut it, Cut it, you need to cut it!!
Be kind to yourself. You will have days where you will be upset with the world. It happens, embrace it.
Time. It mends the heart. I know others believe getting straight into another relationship helps you get over another one. This is not everyone’s portion. Avoid going from one mess straight into another. That way when you say “I am over someone” you really over them. There are no comebacks. Time is often under estimated; especially nowadays because everyone wants an instant fix. There is NO QUICK FIX for heartbreak. This is why we end up having relationships with broken people who haven’t healed from past mistakes. Be fair to the next person. Take your time, you do not heal overnight.
Understand that heartbreak is a part of life. Not just in romantic relationships but in life in general. Lovers, friends and family will disappoint you so always be prepared to find a way to deal with it. Learn from your experience and remember that you are not the first or the last one to experience this. This too shall come to pass…
How have you dealt with heartbreak in the past? How long did it take you to finally reach the point where you could bump into your ex and they will have zero effect on you?
Let’s talk about it, I would love to read your thoughts.
Music is the art of thinking with sounds. – Jules Combarieu
I had made one too many promises to attend one of Prayersoul’s events but last Friday I told myself that come what may I was going to go and watch his live performance. The venue was well laid out with a comfortable sitting area, drinks that were reasonably priced and a bonfire to keep us warm because winter nights are not being very friendly at the moment. (well thought out if you ask me)Prayersoul was interactive with the intimate crowd throughout his performance. That makes a world of difference because not only did he get to play his music he also took time to share his story with his biggest fans. I found that to be one of the outstanding things about the whole show. I got myself a copy of his new album While I Was Away and I could not wait to get home and have a listen. Attending this do was my highlight of the week, I didn’t regret it at all. It was a beautiful experience and you should have been there!
While I Was Away is Prayersoul’s Second Album. The NeoSoul musician released his 10 Track album early this year. The album genre is mainly NeoSoul but it has a blend of a lot of African Nuances in percussion, guitars, rhythm, and vernacular lyrics in most songs but clearly all soulful. I listened to his album all weekend long and I must say, I was not disappointed.
I already have not one but four favourite tracks from his album and you should have a listen.
Track 3: Uxolo
This was a pleasant surprise. I didn’t realise that Prayersoul was a Bulawayo boy! Nothing wins me as much as listening in to music that has vernacular lyrics. English is alright no doubt but vernacular always brings the message home. In this track he sings about forgiveness.
Track 4 : Million Reasons
My mind went back in time. It reminded me of the days when love was honest, pure, no games and you were not afraid to be vulnerable. Remember that time you could sit down with your partner and count the many ways why they meant the world to you? We are now living in times where you have to extremely guard your heart because you have no idea what the next person’s intentions are. This is something a lot of people can relate to, when you get your hands on his album make sure this is one of the first tracks you listen to.
Track 5: Go
Screaming!!! The moment I listened to this my mind went straight to Zumba. It has a Samba feel to it. I have added it to my running playlist. I already have a mental image of what the music video would look like. Women in short dresses, men in tight pants and shirts unbuttoned down to reveal their chests, everyone sweating from all the dancing, smokey room by the beach and some men seated and enjoying the music while smoking some cigars!! It will be a great setup to go with this track that was clearly made for dancing.
After listening to this album one three many times and obviously annoying the heck out of my neighbours I finally got a chance to read through his shout outs. What pulled at my heart strings was his last shout out that he gave to his wife, Nadine. You know how they say you always save the best for last…It is beautiful to watch couples celebrate and support each other especially on a creative journey that a lot of people do not understand.
Thanks to attending his live show I got to find out a few things I didn’t know about Prayersoul.
He writes his own songs.
His favourite social media space is Facebook.
He was born in Bulawayo.
He moved to Masvingo for High School and University education.
He plays a little bit of bass guitar and a bit of piano.
He has a BSc in Social Sciences. When he was looking for a job he would occasionally perform and he started getting calls for his performances. He never got a call for any of the CVs for his Degree. He started getting paid for his performances and that became his job.
He facilitates for guitar lessons for age groups starting 4.5 years to as old as possible, watch his social media for details.
Look out for promo events featuring Prayersoul at Chez Zandi , Organiks and a couple of Prayersoul launch concerts and these are mainly to connect with his fans before he travels out of the country.
You can keep in touch on any of his social media pages:
This is my first album review and I can safely rate 8 out of 10 for While I Was Away. You have to do yourself a favour and attend one of his events, his live performances are captivating. You know I always recommend quality things and this album will be worth your money, trust me. If you are looking for an album that will soothe your soul and take you to a happy place then you’re in luck! Prayersoul is a talented man and I wish him all the beautiful things on his creative journey. Keep making soulful music Mr Soul!
Prayersoul says the best advice he ever got when he was starting out on his journey was that you need to find out what makes you unique because everyone else is already doing the same thing that you are doing. Find your Africanness!
Today I feel so good I have nothing but feel good hormones rushing through my veins! Each year since 2015 I weigh myself on the 1st of June just to see if my weight has made any drastic change over the year. I can safely say that in 3 straight years I have managed to maintain the same weight range. Amazing how I am the exact same weight I was a year ago…
This year I have a plan for winter and I came up with a Winter Challenge that will be sure to keep the weight off. Everyone is invited to take part it will be a lot of fun and you don’t want to miss out on this. Today I took a before picture to use against my after picture once the 60 Day Challenge is complete. I can’t believe my abs are disappearing before my eyes, I blame the white wine! You can read the post I wrote last year same time below and get to see how far I have come on my health and fitness journey. Those taking part in the challenge, good luck, it is NOT going to be easy.
1 June 2017: Weight 74.3kgs
1 June 2016: Weight 74.3kgs
1 June 2015 : Weight 74.9kgs
Hello and good morning. It’s a beautiful Wednesday and today I got off the scale with a huge smile on my face. Can you believe that I have managed to maintain the same weight range in the space of a year. I was actually surprised myself because given that I haven’t been running as often as I used to I would have thought I would have gained weight. After posting this question on Twitter
#Fitness experts have to help me with this one. I’m losing weight each week but I don’t run as much as I used to. What am I doing right?
Myk replied and said ” @MaKupsy running on a regular basis can temporarily increase your metabolism , which burns calories for energy.You’re still reaping the benefits”.
That said, it’s winter this part of the world and getting up in the morning to go for my run is becoming a lot harder. I have been setting my alarm for 5:15am for the past two weeks and I have lounged in bed for an extra 15 minutes and then sometimes I have even decided to not go running at all because my bed will be warm and comfortable.
However, this week I have come up with a new strategy. Instead of torturing myself by waking up early and actually not clocking in any runs I now just wake up when my internal cooperates. Say today for example; I woke up at 6:15am. I didn’t have time to even think about whether I felt like running or not. I jumped out of bed, wore my running gear and left the house in a flash because time was not on my side but my run still had to be completed. See, I can safely say that in winter I can work best under pressure because this alarm thing is certainly not working out.
I am also watching what I eat. Thanks to this miserable weather I am feeling hungry most times and I told myself that if I don’t eat right and mind my portions I might end up gaining all the weight I have worked so hard on losing. I am having fruits, vegetables, meat (minus beef I am not a fan of it AT ALL) extra small starch portions and drinking room temperature water because I simply can’t stomach cold water right now!
If you’re a runner what winter tips and tricks do you have that you have tried and tested?
I believe we all have that one thing that we know is an enemy of progress. It can be laziness, lack of faith, that one ex who calls and suddenly has you thinking of taking them back, the love for money and even sex! Being an adult comes without a manual but through experience you get to know yourself better and realise when certain temptations hit all that progress you had made is about to come crumbling down…
My love for natural sweet white wine will be the death of me! I just love it so much it may as well be my best friend. Last year my poison was Vodka but it came with stomach cramps the next day. I had an affair with red wine that didn’t last for long because I would have a splitting headache the next day. I finally decided to try out white wine and I absolutely loved it! I remember Chef Takura(single and very sexy but he has a beard so he isn’t a potential candidate) recommending it to me and it listening to him was the best decision I ever made. The one thing I love about white wine is I usually have it from the comfort of my warm bed and just after two glasses I am off to la la land. I prefer having it on the occasional weekend that way I don’t feel so guilty for indulging in something I know is an enemy of progress in the fitness department. I have a bottle all weekend though, that’s much better than having 3 bottles during the course of a weekend, yes, no? (trying to defend the error of my ways here)
I have had days were my whole day has been mapped by the things I have read, seen or watched on social media. There was a week when the #MenAreTrash hash tag was trending on almost all social media platforms. It was the most heartbreaking week of my life. The stories I read about what women go through left me feeling blue. I remember sharing my own story on my timeline and after that all the negative thoughts and feelings from the past came back to haunt me.
The very same platforms that bear sad news also come with beautiful things such as travel, love, relationships all wrapped in one. Now this stuff will make you wish you can order a partner just like the one you saw on Instagram! Don’t do it to yourself, take it from me. People will always show you the bright side of their lives and hardly ever the problems they are going through. Next thing you will contemplate breaking up with your partner because they have not taken you for a surprise getaway weekend to Italy, you will die from stress o! To make matters worse you can actually go an entire morning surfing through the internet giving yourself self inflicted stress. This is why you should stick to reading blogs like mine instead, nothing but good times only here. However, I have found a way to deal with this and that is by simply taking time off social media. Spend your time on other fulfilling activities that will not leave you green with envy or constantly comparing your life with the next person. Remember that comparison will steal your joy. Do not let this be your enemy of progress!
Negative energy is real. Ever noticed how some people just love to complain about any and everything and once you are done talking to them you wonder why you are feeling miserable. I am one person who values their peace of mind. There are so many things going wrong in our country that could easily send you straight to your death while you are asleep the last thing you need is spending time with a “Negative Nancy”. I understand that we all have problems and sometimes all you want to do is vent and get someone else to listen to you. That’s perfectly fine but it is NOT okay to vent for an entire day. Do you have any idea how that drains the next person? Please do not do it to your loved ones. If you decide to vent by all means do so but with all the venting make sure you come up with a solution to the problem together and act on it. No one wants to spend time with negative people, they steal your joy. Next time someone tries to ruin your day remember that it is your right to protect your peace and you can politely tell them to take their negative energy elsewhere.
I would love to hear from you. What are some of your enemies of progress and how do deal with them?
Hello and good morning; I hope your day has started off on a bright and beautiful note. If you follow my blog you are well aware that I also have a Fitness Blog that you should check out when you have time. Fitness is a huge part of my life and without it I probably would not have the amount of zeal I have for blogging. The two make a perfect match. This will be a fun read for you because it will take you less than 10 minutes to go through it, enjoy.
There is one main thing you can do when you have a break from work and that is rest. I know a lot of people managed to do that yesterday but for some of us who can never get enough of exercise it was a chance to meet up with like minded people and get some activities going. The start time was 9:00 am and that gave everyone enough time to get ready and possibly add an extra hour of sleep. I had done an 8K run before the event so there was no way I was going to go for a run so instead I watched over our bags while everyone went for a short 2K run.
The agenda for the day was to complete the entire alphabet as a group for the Spell Your Name Challenge. We really should have had someone take a video of this because the various forms people ended up doing were hilarious. It looks easy to do on paper but a different story when you actually have to do it. That’s the beauty of doing things in a group, you get to learn and unlearn things. I for one learnt that you can combine your burpees with mountain climbers and feel like death after wards (in a good way).
We ended up substituting burpees with skipping and speed runs because we were no longer doing them in the proper form. It was a lot of fun either way because we got to challenge our bodies in ways we never knew were possible.
I would like to personally thank everyone who came through yesterday:
Onai : May I one day be able to do star jumps like that without wanting to pass out.
Thembi : Even though the challenge was not easy you kept your good form for all the workouts.
Jeff : Who knew you could combine burpees with mountain climbers, shout out to you for teaching us this trick!
Archie : You had a cold but that did not stop you from coming through for the event and even playing basketball after the main agenda of the day.
Samantha : The energy you have is out of this world, you should seriously consider being a sprinter.
Kundi : You managed to run even though it is not your favourite form of exercise.
Dumi : You arrived a little later than everyone else but you managed to join us and still play basketball afterwards.
Memory : That push up variation was not something we expected after an hour of exercise but we loved it all the same. You still went on to play for your team at your netball match.
Chenge : Girl those squat pulses you taught us are definitely going on my to-do-list. I hope this means my tush will grow at a faster rate because they are definitely something.
It was a great day filled with great vibes. The beautiful thing about this experience is that the ones who love fitness will stay coming through without need for a push. I can only write about fitness and tell you all about it but if you actually don’t get up and do the work you will never get results. At the end of the day this is all on you.