10 Easy To Follow Tips For Public Speaking

Public speaking is the one form of activity that easily gets my heart rate up without doing a single form of exercise. It takes me out of my comfort zone. I choose to constantly challenge myself and public speaking is still new, scary and exciting; I love it! I’m used to writing about my experiences; talking about them in a room full of people is a completely different subject.

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MaKupsy at an AfroBloggers Event

I go through the same cycle each time; you’d think after speaking at a couple of events I’d be used to it by now. Thoughts that usually go through my mind are;

  • Will I deliver an unforgettable experience?
  • Will the audience respond?
  • Will I remember everything I set out to talk about?
  • Will they leave the room with new information they will use and share right away?

Guess what? When I eventually step onto the platform to deliver my speech all those questions melt away and I get into the zone and enjoy every moment that I get to share my story.

If you’re new to public speaking here are a few tips you can try out today. Please note that they’re in no particular order.

  1. Captivate your audience from the get go. You have about 10 seconds to grab their attention. Start with a bang! I always start with a short exercise routine to get people moving.
  2. Know your message. Don’t go onto ramble about different things that do not correlate with your topic. Don’t confuse your audience.
  3. Make sure your information is easy to digest. You don’t want your audience to have to start looking through Google search trying to figure out what the words you’re using mean. Keep your language simple.
  4. Dress the part. Yes, people do judge a book by it’s cover and if you show up looking like you just got out of bed chances of your audience taking you seriously will dwindle fast.
  5. Share stories. Yes, statistics are great it’s important to include them in your presentation but if you want to move people share stories even better if they’re about your experiences. I’ve taken notes from my Blogging journey, whenever I write a post that includes a story the feedback is staggering.

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    At WordCamp Harare:MaKupsy also known as Fitness Bae

  6. Take simplified notes with you. The key is to keep the notes as short as a Zimbabwean shopping list; most of us no longer have the luxury to shop up a storm so we keep the list short and to the point.  Jot down at least 5 points to help you remember what you’re going to talk about next. I learnt the hard way when I presented at WordPress WordCamp, you can read about it here.
  7. Show up early. Don’t be the speaker who inconvenienced the entire program by not keeping time.
  8. During your presentation make sure you smile, use gestures, eye contact and also get to move around the room. This keeps your audience alert. Long drawn out talks in one place get boring; put some energy into your work.
  9. Attend speaking events in your area and watch others perform. This way you can take notes on what you can incorporate into your own style and also learn what you shouldn’t be doing during.
  10. End your speech with a powerful takeaway. Think along the lines of something that will change a life or inspire someone to get up and do something positive.

Keep practicing these tips and before you know it you’ll be a professional and giving talks on how to be killer public speaker.

I’m still learning and I’m open to more tips and tricks on how I can improve my public speaking. Do you have any additional tips to share?

©MaKupsy 2019

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5 Ways To Stay Consistent With Content Creation

How do you stay consistent with content creation?  I asked one of my favourite Creatives to take you through the steps.  Our guest blogger is Vanessa Chilimanzi, she wears many hats.  She’s a Fashion, Beauty and Lifestyle Blogger, Influencer, Content Creator, a Social Media Manager, Girl Boss building her accessories line and she has a day job.  If she can play all these roles and still create content then you have no excuse to work on your own brand.  When Vanessa started blogging she had just relocated from Harare to Johannesburg.  She is NOT a superwoman. She’s just a determined woman.

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Vanessa Chilimanzi

Below are 5 things you can do to stay on top of your creativity game.

1. Authenticity 

The things that are unique to you are the same things that draw people to you. They’re the same things that make you stand out and this is the goal as a content creator.  Connect with your spirit, know yourself beyond the things that the world knows about you. You need to spend time alone, get to know yourself without other people around. Take yourself out on dates, take solo trips and have some quiet times where you allow yourself to connect to the deeper you. Many times I have posted pictures of myself on a date or at an AirBnB for just a day or two and some people take that as being lonely not knowing that’s how I center myself. By the time I get back into the world, nothing can waver me. Every piece of content you work on will reflect exactly who you are.

2. Knowledge

We are blessed to live in a digital world. Anything you want can be found easily on the Internet. Knowledge is available for free, if not free there is always a very reasonable alternative. When you embark on this creative journey you have to know the niche you are going to service. You can be rest assured that whatever niche you pick, there are a million other people servicing that niche already. Ask yourself what difference you are bringing to the table. Once you have figured that out, eat, breathe and live that talk.Take up courses in writing, photography, videography depending on which platform you are most active on. If you are a Fashion Blogger it’s inevitable that people will ask you questions about how to pair certain types of clothes or fabrics so invest in Fashion courses or fashion books.

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3. Confidence 

Confidence comes from being knowledgeable. Have conviction when you create and share your work. Believe in what you are creating and giving to the world.

4. Inspiration

Watch the work of those within your niche or a complementary niche. Do not copy, just use their work as inspiration. Everything we do in the world has been done already. Your job is to do it with a touch of you. Make use of Pinterest boards, YouTube Playlists and the Instagram Save option to store ideas of pictures or video content that gets your creative juices flowing.

5. Create and schedule

No one feels like creating content every single day. That’s a fact. When you do feel like creating, create as much as you can and schedule your work so that on the days that you don’t feel creative you have work to push out. Also remember that the more you do something the less time it will take you to do the same thing in the long run.

This is how it works for me. It might not necessarily;y work the same for you but it’s worth a try, isn’t it?

You can connect with me on various platforms;

Blog: vchilimanzi.com

Instagram:@vchilimanzi

YouTube: vanessa chilimanzi

Twitter: @vchilimanzi

Thank you very much to Vanessa for sharing her knowledge and her time.  I know she’s a very busy woman.  Here’s to more content creation 🙂

©MaKupsy 2019

 

Top 3 Tips for a Successful Chevening Application

I was a recipient of a Chevening Scholarship in 2017/18 and completed my Masters in Media Practice for Development and Social Change at the University of Sussex.  This year I participated in the Mandela Washington Fellowship, where I met many brilliant young Africans who asked for tips and guidance for applying for a Chevening Scholarship.  My approach emphasizes understanding your story and making a compelling case that you are a leader and that the Chevening Award contributes to your career plans and vision.

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1.      Clearly articulate your vision, plans and accomplishments

The Chevening scholarship awards scheme is for people with leadership potential.  Leaders are people who have a vision that they are working towards!  Chevening applications are very competitive; potential alone without evidence of concerted steps and a concise plan towards attainment of the vision is inadequate. There’s a need to highlight the key accomplishments and milestones you have made towards achieving your goals, evidence that you are not only a dreamer but a person of action. Consider the following points:

  • Your vision should be of gain to your community or country for it to count. Chevening is seeking individuals who will return home and give back to their community and country.  A vision of personal fame and fortune will not cut it!
  • It may be useful to divide your career plan into a short-term plan (1-3 years), a medium-term plan (4 – 6 years) and a long-term plan (7 – 10 years).  Your plans could relate to specific projects you want to embark on, personal development plans or future career changes.  Examples of these could include enrolling in an education course, coaching or mentoring younger people in your field, running for political office or starting your own organisation. The list is endless.
  • Clearly articulate your accomplishments or impact as a leader in your field. This could include successful campaigns for a better community, development of products that improve society, groundbreaking research on an issue affecting the community, founding a successful start-up or non-profit organisation, improving the lives of disenfranchised people etc. Back up your successes with clear evidence, and where possible quantify your impact, e.g. number of people impacted. Use clear examples in your essays!

2.      Show how a Masters degree in the United Kingdom will contribute towards achieving your goals   

A successful application will require you to show how a Masters degree in the United Kingdom will contribute towards achieving your goals.  To do this effectively you need to research the standing of the United Kingdom and your chosen universities in the area you are interested in.

For example in my application I argued that a Masters Degree in Media Practice for Development and Social Change from the University of Sussex would equip me to better achieve my dreams of contributing to Zimbabwe’s democracy and development.  Sussex University is the best University in the world for development studies and since the United Kingdom is a leader in global media through institutions such as BBC and Sky News. I also argued that the presence of International Development Institutions headquartered in the United Kingdom would offer me opportunities for networking and learning.

3.      Understand your story, personalize it and tell it with confidence

The Chevening application asks you to make your case in only four essays of 500 words each.  You therefore need to decide how you will frame your application, develop a particular narrative and articulate it with confidence. You can’t include your entire life story but need to pick specific things that strengthen the argument that you are a leader.

Also, do not be afraid to talk about yourself. Since this is your application, you are the star… Show your growth as a human being, your vulnerabilities, your weaknesses and how you have conquered them in the quest to achieve your dreams. This is how you establish a connection with the application reviewers, and later with the interviewers.

Once you complete these three steps you will know if you are ready for Chevening, and if Chevening is what you need at this point in your life. You will also be able to effectively respond to Chevening application questions on your leadership potential, networking skills and career plans. In short, everything else (which is spelt out in the application guidelines anyway) will fall into place!

Good luck!

A big thank you to Zibusiso John Dube for sharing this priceless information.  If you have any questions concerning the Chevening Scholarship you can connect with him on:

LinkedIn: ZibusisoJohnDube or Twitter: @Zie22

©MaKupsy 2019

Your Man

The first few weeks of dating someone feel like you’re floating on a cloud stuffed with nothing but pleasure.  What are some of those things that make you have your own special kind of glow?

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Some of the cheesy stuff includes;

  • the late night phone calls
  • messaging each other on different platforms each day talking about completely different topics
  • the dates that leave you missing your partner more than the last time you saw them
  • the public display of affection that sometimes comes with countless forehead kisses
  • the urge to want to share everything whether good or bad with your partner
  • random gifts
  • the cute morning messages that you wake up to
  • reaffirming your love through words

Last night I was catching up on the channels I’m subscribed to on YouTube and bumped into the song below. It’s by a Zimbabwean artist named Garry Mapanzure.  This song actually inspired today’s blog post.  After watching it almost 10 times I decided I’d ask you dear reader.

If you’re a man after asking a woman to be a part of your life the way Garry did in this track, at what point do you stop doing the things I mentioned on the list above?  If you’re a woman, when you notice the changes in your relationship do you communicate your observations?  I understand that relationships won’t always be smooth sailing but this track really got me thinking…

Make sure you watch the music video, it’s a beautiful video with thought provoking lyrics, clean visuals and a fine Zimbabwean man.

Let’s talk…

©MaKupsy 2019

5 Tricks That Changed My Attitude Towards My African Hair

I haven’t always had a beautiful love affair with my African hair.  At some point I thought it was the most difficult part of my body.  Nothing I did worked and I was left frustrated.  I bought and tried out products I saw other black women using on social media platforms and still no joy.  I decided to give my hair a big chop to start all over.  It’s only then that I was fortunate to bump into hair events and these changed my attitude towards my hair forever.

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  1. Massaging your scalp helps with hair growth, blood circulation and opening your pores.  It’s important that you take enough time massaging your scalp, 5 minutes or more will do the trick depending on how much time you have.
  2. Wash day doesn’t have to be a nightmare.  The reason you sometimes ended up having a killer headache after a new hairdo was because I was doing everything at once.  Instead, undo your hair today, shampoo it tomorrow and then get the style of your choice the next day.  This routine will leave your scalp feeling happy.
  3. You don’t have to shampoo your hair each time you wash it.  Sometimes a co-wash (conditioner wash only) is all you need to leave your hair with an extra layer of moisture.
  4. A woman should have a signature look.  Choose at least two hairstyles that work for you and don’t give you a headache when its time to get your hair done.  My signature look is the image above, it’s usually done in under 30 minutes giving me time to get on with other important things.  When I undo this style my hair is tangle free and straightened.
  5. Find out what your hair type is and you can kiss confusion goodbye.  The reason my hair regime never seemed to work out was because I didn’t know what to or not to do to it.  My hair type is 4c and two things work for it.  Moisture and coconut oil.  I no longer waste time and money on things that have nothing to do with my hair and have more money for wine 🙂

My relationship with my hair right now is amazing.  I’ve accepted that I won’t have long that flows all the way to my bum.  Instead I’ll enjoy thick bouncy hair that will look like candy floss after a wash and blow and completely shrink by the time the day ends and that’s perfectly okay.

Do you have a hair care routine, if yes, what works for you and how long have you been keeping your hair for?

Here are 3 more posts on hair that you’ll also enjoy reading;

Who Are You To Police My Hair?

Dreadlocks Love Affair

My Hair Grows Towards Heaven

©MaKupsy 2019

I Want To Know What Love Is

“Love is no what you say.  Love is what you do.”

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One thing I’ve learnt over the years is the solid fact that we love differently.  You might think you’re going above and beyond to show your partner how much they mean to you; meanwhile they’re receiving “no signal” at all.  Today’s post will have more questions than answers because I too am still trying to figure out what love is supposed to be.

Why do you think some women have trust issues when it comes to men?

I’ve heard of stories were a married man leaves his matrimonial home in the guise of a day out with his boys only for him to go to pay Lobola for his girlfriend? This is someone who made a vow to love his wife till the end of time.  Which part of this vow said that he can secretly love another woman?  Is it true then that you can love more than one person or it’s a matter of greed?  I’ve always wondered if men who go on to have more than one wife are able to fully satisfy them?  It’s already a tall order pleasing one woman now imagine the amount of stress you’ll invite into your life with more than one of them?

Break up to make up

Have you ever been with a partner who continuously cheats on you but you find yourself sticking it through with them for reasons that seem not so bad when you tell them to yourself;

  • the sex is amazing
  • they’re your comfort zone, they’ve been in your life forever
  • you lost their virginity to them
  • what will people say after dating for so long
  • you love them
  • they’ll change you just have to make sure you change a thing or two to keep them happy

Does a leopard change it’s skin?  Why do you choose to put yourself through things that you know will achieve the square root of nothing?  This person already knows that you’re going to take them back no matter what they do to hurt you.  Love yourself and do the right thing; let them go.

Different relationship goals

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I remember breaking up with someone I was madly in love with a couple of years ago because he wouldn’t come with me to go get tested to find out our HIV status.  Almost everything was ticking all the boxes until he started coming up with stories not to go to the clinic.  We’re living in a time were people are more concerned about how many people their partner has been with instead of knowing their sexual history.  Protecting yourself from sexually transmitted diseases, unwanted pregnancy and HIV should be top priority.  Don’t buy this bullshit of “but I trust you babe” let’s just have sex without a condom line.  Never trust people, just because you’re sleeping with them doesn’t mean you’re the only one they’re sleeping with.  Remember that!?

You’re probably reading this and thinking we’re all going to die some day so let’s live our best lives.  To be honest; I just want to know why you want to get there sooner than your time when you can do something about protecting your peace and your health.

I just want to know what love is.  Do you think you can help me define it?

ⒸMaKupsy 2019

I Left Zimbabwe For A Better Life

I can’t keep living in Zimbabwe. This country brings fresh horrors that I can’t seem to keep up with anymore.  I’m mentally exhausted.  I never used to think about it as much as I do now but it’s time I made solid plans to relocate.  One can only take so much and I’ve reached my breaking point.

I asked friends on social media to share their positive experiences that came from leaving Zimbabwe.  I think you have to gather as much information as you can before taking the big leap of faith.

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I never planned on leaving Zimbabwe.  I had been self employed for a year after my contract was not renewed.  Out of mere chance I bumped into a job post advertised in South Africa,  I took a chance, sent my resume and to my surprise, I got the job!  The move was cushioned by the company including a relocation allowance in addition to facilitating a Visa.  If that company hadn’t provided all this, I didn’t see myself moving out of Zimbabwe, I would probably still be there and going through the everyday struggles.  This move has expanded my view of the African continent as I’ve lived and worked in 3 countries now.  One thing is certain I still miss food from home, especially the meat. – Business Development Manager, Africa. Age: 38

I’m originally from the lush green suburbs of Bulawayo.  I come from a well off background where I was blessed to have parents that could take my siblings and I all over the world and afford good schools. Fast track to present day and life is the complete opposite.  Zimbabwe’s situation has gone from the frying pan to the fire.  I left University and  struggled to get a job even though I was qualified.  The moment I got a job opportunity to leave the country I held onto it tightly.  I relocated to the Middle East in January 2019 and here I’m relieved and at peace because I have access to basic things.  I have water that comes out of the tap each and every time I switch it on, electricity, health care, money I can withdraw from a bank or ATM and a sustainable salary.  I still miss Zimbabwe a lot, I love my country but I definitely will not be settling back home anytime soon.  – Personal Trainer, Qatar : 28

After graduating with an Honours Degree in History and International Relations  in 2014, I was beaming with hope of finding a job soon and living the “good life”.  By mid 2015 it dawned on me that it was all wishful thinking so I enrolled for Master’s and bagged my International Relations qualification in 2016.  Still no jobs in sight.  A very close friend sponsored a trip to leave the country for a while just to catch a break in Cape Town for 2 weeks.  I decided to start 2018 on a determined note and in January I went back to Cape Town and stayed with a friend.

I somehow feel robbed by the system in Zimbabwe.  Many dreams have been lost.

To my surprise jobs were also difficult to find particularly for Faculty of Arts Graduates.
I received financial aid from another friend in Australia.  I managed to secure a decent place to stay and finally  to my relief a job offer came through. I now get more job offers and get to pick and choose what my next job might be.  I’ve also managed to secure a place for myself and furnishing it with beautiful pieces which I could have never dreamt of owning had I stayed in Zimbabwe.  The move has been helpful as far as my writing career is concerned. – Copy Editor, South Africa: 29

Last weekend when I posted this Tweet I had no idea it would resonate with so many people.  I’m a firm believer or speaking things into existence because most times they do materialise, so this is me letting you know that some day soon we will both look back at this post and smile knowing I worked hard for the dream to come to fruition.

Leaving your country of birth can’t be an easy move to make but sometimes you have to look at the bigger picture and decide what it will have to be for you.  I know that not everyone who gets to leave has a happy ever after story to tell.  Some people have gone and had to come back while others are out there struggling to make ends meet.  I’ll write a blog post on that as well sometime soon.

Are you a Zimbabwean thinking of leaving the country?  What’s stopping you from packing your bags and going to seek greener pastures?

©MaKupsy 2019

I Wish I Had Waited To Have Sex Until Marriage

If I’d never left my parents house I’d have had sex the day I got married.  I come from a culture where we were constantly reminded that if you had sex your mother’s back would break.  You can read about the sex talk I got when I entered puberty over here.  I dated my very first boyfriend for a good 3 years before we eventually started having sex.  The main reason nothing ever happened was because I was genuinely scared.  We also used to see each other in public spaces so we never got intimate moments on our own.

I eventually got a job in the capital city, Harare and he didn’t waste any time trying to convince me to get in-between the sheets.  Every other day we would make out but never go all the way.  I eventually decided screw it (just do it) I’m tired of him always asking and we eventually had sex.  I must say, it was the most shocking few minutes of my life.  I lay there and thought, so this was it?  Nothing magical or newsworthy?  So much for holding onto this for all these years!  I felt terribly guilty and my innocence was stripped away, life as we know it was never the same again…

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It’s unfortunate that you can’t turn back the hands of time but I truly regret having sex before marriage.  So many things would have gone right but they went left thanks to giving in to my pleasures. I’m not saying sex is bad, I’m simply saying the consequences that come with it are not for the weak.

  • Having sex will sometimes leave you in a spiritual warfare.  You can feel ashamed, empty and sometimes depressed.  You will struggle emotionally.
  • Fear lives with you all the damn time.  Going for your routine check up for HIV will no longer be a fun activity.  When it comes to sex I always say that you don’t keep your partners private parts in your bag so you’ll never know who they’re using them on.  The moment you start having sex you’ve set yourself up for an emotional roller coaster because infidelity and diseases are real.  You’ll be waiting for your results and telling the universe you’re never ever going to have sex again!  What a joke.
  • Chances of you comparing your current lover to a past lover are high.  You’ll be wondering why he doesn’t like sucking your toes during sex meanwhile he’s wondering why you like taking it in the ass.  It’s a messy scenario.
  • Ever heard anyone say “she was dickmatised“?  It’s another way of saying she can’t opt out because the sex is really good.  Sometimes people are stuck in bad relationships because of sex and letting go of something that’s not good for your soul is a tall order because you think noone else will ever make you feel that way again.
  • You might be faced with an unplanned pregnancy and end up with someone you probably didn’t like enough to raise a child with.  Abortion in Zimbabwe is a criminal offence so buckle up and keep that in mind if you’re having unprotected sex.
  • You will end up knowing everything about what your partner likes physically but absolutely nothing about them as an individual.  Their favourite colour, what they like to do in their spare time, their favourite food or even their plans for the future.  A sexually charged relationship can easily blind you from things that actually matter.
  • You’ll question whether your partner likes you for you or they like you for the sex.  Sometimes it’s not easy to spot the difference.

There are days I’m caught between thinking I should make a pact with myself to go celibate until I get married.  Then other times I think life is too short what if I die tomorrow mentality.  Sex is so complex!  I salute everyone who managed to wait to have sex until marriage. I’ve always wondered all about the benefits of doing so are and I’ll ask a few friends who did so to share their experiences with me.

I think waiting isn’t impossible but it will be much more difficult if you’ve had sex before.  Would you try this for yourself, or you’d rather let this one pass?  Also, do you remember the first time you had sex?

©MaKupsy 2019

 

The Best Advice You’ll Read About Blogging

I’ve always had a beautiful love affair with reading and writing.  Growing up I had a little bookshelf in my bedroom just above my bed.  It had story books that my mother would sometimes read to me before bed and when I got older I read them to myself.  I used to stay up late at night and read Enid Blyton books; my favourite being her Malory Towers series.

As I got older I looked forward to English Literature classes, writing essays was my forte.  Who would have thought that  years later my love for literature would produce a beautiful space?  A space that has birthed so many stories that have changed not only my life but the lives of friends, family and readers who stop by every now and again to read through my blog.

I’ve been blogging for 5 years and I now have two blogs. A Lifestyle and a Fitness Blog.  These two blogs have given me a lot of clarity when it comes to blogging and you can implement all these tips into your own blog and let me know how it works out for you.

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  1. Blog.  It won’t be perfect in the beginning but trust me the more you blog the more you will get better at it.
  2. Have a strong WHY.  Why do you want to start this blogging journey?  Without a strong enough why you will blog for a few days, weeks or maybe a year and then stop.
  3. You’re never going to know what the outcome of blogging will be.  You might get financial success, invaluable experiences, amazing opportunities, a useful network or all the things I mentioned.  Keep giving input and you’ll be pleasantly surprised.  You can read about what blogging has done for me over here.
  4. Have at least 20 blog ideas written down.  This way you won’t run out of ideas of what to write about next.  Do your research, ask other people their opinions, this always helps to come up with a rich blog post.
  5. Unlearn.  We spend a lot of time taking in so much knowledge we forget to let go of some bad habits.  I used to be guilty of adding 15 billion tags on my blog post.  Now the maximum I’ll put is 3.  People will find your content, panic not.
  6. Go out and ask for what you want.  Is it to interview one of your favourite celebrities, do you want to partner with a local brand or do you need access to event so that you can publish it on your blogging platform?  Whatever the case is, ask; the worst that could happen is they will say no.  Get up and try again.
  7. Attend events.  I look forward to attending events that have speakers who share their life experiences.  You can’t possibly know everything and attending events will  not only educate but also give you a fresh perspective on different aspects of your life.
  8. Your hard work might get recognised and you might win awards.  We now have Blogger Awards in Zimbabwe.
  9. You will learn new skills.  Blogging is the one space that will have you adding new skills to your CV every other month.  Think content writing, photo editing, graphic designing, marketing, social networking and many more.
  10. You will make new virtual friends and get along so well you would think you’ve known each other for years.  Connecting with people in the same space is a great way to share ideas and help each other tackle some of the blogging challenges you might face.  You will unfortunately lose some friends as well.  @RaeLyric was one of the first Zimbabwean Bloggers I followed on WordPress. We would drop a random message here and there to say hello. She wrote so well.  It’s been a year since she passed on and sometimes I visit her blog just to read her work.  I sadly never got to meet her.

What has blogging done for you?  If you’re just starting out what are you hoping blogging will do for you?  You can read more free blogging tips from here.

MaKupsy 2019©

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

5 Things Successful People Do

Do you ever think if you could win the lottery most of your life problems would disappear? I know I’m one of those people and I always laugh when I remind myself that I don’t even play the lottery so how the heck would such a thing happen in the first place? You see when it comes to being successful; you have to be doing something about it and not just sitting, waiting and wishing upon a start. Sometimes luck and being at the right place at the right time can help with success but most times it has to do with putting in the work to get there. How can you make this happen for yourself? A lot! For now, I’ll share 5 things that you can start implementing into your life today.

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1. READ 

I challenged myself to read at least 12 books that will have me improve different aspects of my life this year. I started on a very good note and read 4 books to date but now I’m exactly 2 reads behind and I feel absolutely awful about it. I will catch up, it’s a new month and this is where most new beginnings materialise. Did you know that successful people read on average 60 books a year? If they can do it what’s your excuse for not doing the same? You don’t have to limit yourself to reading, listening to audio books or podcasts is another way of feeding your mind with useful information. One of my favourite reads to date is a book titled The Richest Man In Babylon  add it to your reading list, you won’t regret it.

2. LEARN NEW THINGS

You might be limiting yourself from being the greatest version of yourself because you think that you don’t have what it takes or you can’t afford it. I’m a firm believer in working with what you have. Want to travel? Start locally, it can even be in an area within your city or town. Want to upgrade your education? Study online and get certified in your field of expertise. Instead of wasting your expensive data on catching up with Instagram Stories that almost always leave you feeling inadequate invest that time towards learning something new that will benefit you. A good place to start is www.learndigital.withgoogle.com While you’re in pursuit of learning new things make sure you’re also unlearning habits that stop you from moving forward.

3. NO MUSIC, NO SPEAKING, JUST SILENCE

Silence makes a lot of people uncomfortable, angry, nervous or scared.  Hinduism tells us that all thoughts arise in silence, arise in silence and resolve into silence.   Why are most of us scared of silence?  Are we scared of ourselves? Between Twitter, Facebook, Snapchat, Instagram and WhatsApp silence has effectively disappeared.  I believe that we all need to make time to be silent and do some self introspection.  After all, successful people are usually emotionally self aware.

4. SET AUDACIOUS GOALS

Do you have a plan for what you’re going to be up to this week? If not, how do you get through the next few days without a plan? Successful people set daily, weekly, monthly and sometimes as far as 10-year goals. Set goals that set your soul on fire, goals that make you jump out of bed in the morning, goals so big you can’t wait to see them materialise.

5. PURSUE YOUR INTERESTS

Stand-Up Comedy, braai, drink ups, clubbing you name it; wherever the fun things were happening I was there! It always left me feeling worn out by the time the weekend came to an end. This was about 5 few years ago.  Fast forward to present day and I know that if I want to have any chance at being successful I have to stop trying to kill too many birds with one stone and settle for things I actually enjoyed doing.  I love:

  • blogging,
  • exercising ,
  • traveling,
  • listening to podcasts,
  • and drinking wine.

If what’s being advertised as the flavour of the weekend doesn’t involve any of the things on the above list you won’t find me there. It’s called preserving your energy and you should try it too.

At the start of this post, I asked you how winning the lottery could change your life? The answer remains the same. You have to play the lotto if you want to win! In this case, you have to deliberately make changes in your life today if you want to succeed in the future.

What are some of the steps you’re taking on your journey to success?

©MaKupsy 2019