The Cookout ZW Anniversary

Cookout ZW 2nd year anniversary is on Sunday, 17 November 2019. I had the pleasure of interviewing one of the co-founders of the monthly festivity that has taken Harare and parts of Zimbabwe by storm.

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What inspired the event?

Cookout ZW was inspired by great food, great company, and a great vibe. This is something that was lacking in the entertainment industry when the event was established. Other countries host cookouts on a big scale so initially, this was going to be something intimate that Zimbabweans could also experience.  

Great moments?

The growth has been astounding. Every month there’s a great turn out. There hasn’t been a month we’ve been disappointed with the numbers. People love the Cookout ZW; they feel like they’re a part of it. We now have loyal fans who are almost always at every event; not forgetting the top fans on Facebook. They’re ready to share our posts, tag friends, and push the brand on social media.

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Corporates have also partnered up with the Cookout ZW movement. We’ve worked alongside Pacific, PSI Zimbabwe, National Foods, Vaya and Popticon. Considering the economic climate it’s humbling to note that more corporates are stepping forward. We’re excited about the future and will soon be headed to Bulawayo to share the fun.

The Ugly

Event planning would be incomplete if you didn’t face some stress. We’ve had problems with people taking advantage of security details or loopholes in the system. Sometimes you have people taking money on the side or getting friends and family to get in for free. What’s sad about this scenario is we work so hard and spend so much money putting the Cookout ZW event together, it doesn’t come cheap. 

Thankfully we partnered up with Rapid Tickets recently and our system is now full proof. Having people try to profit from our efforts was a big learning curve.

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What’s the future looking like?

We’re planning to keep the event fresh and fun. We’ve only hosted in Harare and Gweru but we’re working on introducing the Cookout ZW experience to other towns as we grow. We’re excited about this and you should be too! 

Thank you for your time Prayersoul, wishing you and your team nothing but success. 

I’m going to be the first one at the gate on Sunday. I’m happy that the venue is a few minutes away from home and I’ve got no reason not to show up.  

Have you been to The Cookout ZW?

©MaKupsy 2019

Sweet Potato Spiced Rice Salad

Spiced rice salad will change your entire meal prep experience.  Give it a try, you won’t be disappointed.

Ingredients:

SPICED RICE

1/2 cup rice

1 teaspoon olive oil

1/2 teaspoon of each ground cinnamon, cloves, cumin seeds, black pepper, nutmeg, turmeric

FOR THE SALAD

3 large lettuce leaves, chopped

1/2 cup spiced rice

2 large sweet potatoes peeled and sliced into 1 inch cubes

1 tablespoon virgin olive oil

3/4 cup chopped pecans and almonds

2 tablespoons chopped spring onion

2 tablespoons chopped celery

GINGER DRESSING

1/3 cup olive oil

1 tablespoons apple cider vinegar

1 tablespoons Dijon mustard

1 tablespoon honey

2 teaspoons ginger

1/2 teaspoon salt

1/2 teaspoon ground black pepper

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METHOD:

To make the spiced rice: Cook the rice the way you normally make it. Add all the oil and spices to a skillet, cook for about 30 seconds, add the cooked rice and fry for only 2 minutes.

To roast the sweet potatoes: Preheat the oven to 200 degrees Celsius. Grease the baking tray with oil. In a small bowl, mix together oil, turmeric, and salt. Place the cubed sweet potato into the bowl and mix well. Place the sweet potatoes in the baking tray and roast for 25 to 30 minutes, tossing halfway, until they are caramelized on the edges and tender when pierced through with a fork. Leave the oven on and let the sweet potatoes cool for a few minutes.

To make the dressing: simply combine all of the ingredients in a small bowl and whisk until thoroughly combined. Set aside.

TO MAKE THE WHOLE SALAD

Layout the lettuce in a large round bowl.

Combine the spiced rice,roasted sweet potatoes, nuts, onions and celery in a large serving bowl then add to the lettuce bowl.

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A big thank you to Vimbiso for sharing this recipe with me.  I’m always camped on her Instagram Page.  It’s full of delicious colours and textures it makes you want to dive into your phone and try out every meal.  Her Instagram handle is: @eatsbyvimbiso

Fun Facts About Vimbiso

She loves listening to Podcasts and she’s always tuned in.

She’s ALWAYS talking about food.

Solitude and a Chicken Caesar Salad are her top 5.

Have you prepared this meal before?

©Makupsy

I Have A Confession…

I never wanted to get married.

You know how girls get all excited from a very young age and plan their entire wedding from the wedding colour theme to the bridesmaids dresses and mostly the dress she will wear on her wedding day?  I wasn’t one of those girls.  All I ever wanted to be when I was all grown up was travel the world and be in some choreography related form of work. I tried looking for one of my old dream collage’s but I couldn’t locate it because it is probably somewhere at my parent’s house plus I am not a fan of clutter so I definitely wouldn’t find it at my place. The point of it was to show you just how back then it was not something I consumed myself with; this marriage thing.

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So what changed you ask?  Because if you have read my blogs you know there is a post I mentioned that there was a time when all I ever wanted was to get married.  Well, circumstances changed.  I got pregnant.

Initially I actually remember telling the father of my child that I was not ready for marriage and he shared the same sentiments and we were actually fine with the arrangement.  Arrangements like that unfortunately don’t sit very well with our society especially if you are actually living together.  Months into our pregnancy family intervened and told us we were disrespecting our families and we had to get married.  I easily bought into the idea because I obviously didn’t want to bring any further “shame” to my family but the father of my child stood his ground and declared he would never marry in this lifetime.  (Guess who got married in just under six months after separating).

It was a really complicated phase of my life.  I remember days I was at work; visibly pregnant and my colleagues asking how my “husband” was.  I had to play along because the thought of telling them that we were just staying together would probably shock the lights out of them and have them lecture me on how he was “using me” if he didn’t pay lobola for me.  I remember feeling scared  at the thought of us ever breaking up because I didn’t know how I would tell people that I was a single mother.  Now that was my biggest fear!  In my head being a single mother was the most unforgivable offence in society’s eyes because their judging eyes would tell you that you had “failed to keep a man.”  That was just fucked up!

However, this all taught me a few things.

  1. If you genuinely do not want to do something DO NOT DO IT!  I ended up wanting to get married only because that’s what family had suggested even though I didn’t even want it.
  2. Marriage should be for parties who BOTH want the same thing because the moment you are on different paths it will be a disaster.
  3. Marriage has been idolized so much in our society.  It’s so bad that once a woman reaches a certain age without getting married people start talking and giving her side eyes as if they even know what she wants out of life.  This idolization has lead to many women, some that I know only getting married so that people can get off their backs.
  4. Not everyone is going to get married, have a white wedding and walk down the isle in a white puffy dress and society needs to understand that.
  5. Even if you don’t get married nothing is wrong with you, it simply means it was either not meant for you or your time hasn’t come just as yet and perhaps you do not want to get married at all and that should not be anyone’s business.
  6. Know the reasons WHY you want to get married.  Don’t just dive in head first without even trying to understand the first thing about what marriage is all about.  Too many television watching going on and hoping once you get in it everything will be just like the movies.
  7. Love yourself enough to know that even if you don’t do things right the first time you can always get up and start afresh, every single day is a chance to rewrite your story.  I am a single mother and I am proud to be a mother to a beautiful little girl who adores me.  Raising a child on my own does not make me any less of a woman, in fact; it has made me stronger, wiser and more responsible than I could have ever imagined.
  8. Screw society and it’s standards.  Live your best life!

And to answer the question that is probably going through your mind right about now, would I want to get married?  As it stands; yes, I would want to get married but for all the reasons I know are right for me and this will be a story for another blog post; BUT please note that if it doesn’t happen my world won’t come crashing down because I am happy with the person I am on my own and getting married for me would be a bonus NOT a life saver.

For now I am going to go about being happy, observing what this life is all about and taking part in it with full force no matter what my marital status.  Happy hormones live here!!!!

©MaKupsy 2019

5 Qualities Of A Successful Radio Presenter

I listen to the radio almost every morning between 6am and 8am while I prepare for work. I love the fact that the presenters are engaging, relaxed and speak in language(s) that they’re comfortable in. That’s the part they sold me. I feel that given we have 9 official languages in Zimbabwe why restrict yourself to speaking in English only?

The other reason which is probably the main reason is the female presenter who goes by the name Butterphly Phunk. The first time I saw her in real life she had blonde hair, blue lipstick and multiple piercings on one of her ears.  Now that’s someone who lives loud! I liked her from thereon and have been a loyal follower of the breakfast show she co-hosts.

I had a chance to get some tips from her and if you’re looking into joining radio stay tuned.

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1. Talent Is Everything

It’s great to have a passion for radio and learn your way around the industry but you must have the talent within you. Without talent, you will not excite your audience and people will find you boring. Pair up passion and talent and you’re on your way to making waves.

2. Articulate

You need to be able to speak clearly and confidently to capture the attention of your audience. English, Shona or slang, whichever language you opt for it’s important that your audience can hear you.  Be coherent in what you say. It doesn’t matter which program you’ll be hosting. It could be a topic on booty calls or an easy chicken recipe, whatever the case might be make sure you’re clear and what you’re saying is making sense.

3. Know What’s  Up

Current affairs can be political or entertainment. Make it a part of your life to know who’s doing what so that when you go on radio you are the informing voice. Your knowledge on current affairs has to be very rich. Think of yourself as the one educating people on what’s going on trending issues.  From where they’re standing you are their go-to person and people tune in to listen to you.

4. Music Game On 100%

It’s your job to set the trend and deliver music that your audience will appreciate. You are the one who lets your audience know the different genres of music that are trending and entertaining. Make sure you share quality music with them.

5. Have A Blast

This will probably depend on what sort of presenter you want to become. Enjoy the time you’re on air. Have an incredible time when you’re on radio. People tune in to tune out what’s happening in their lives. You have to be an escape for your audience. Your love and enthusiasm for radio will speak through your program. The minute you enjoy it everyone else will do so because they can hear that you’re having fun.

A big thank you to Butterphly Phunk for taking time out of her very busy schedule to share these tips.  I hope you’ll tune into her program and experience their vibrant show, it’s the best in town!

©MaKupsy 2019

Our Baby Died Shortly After Birth

On an unsuspecting day I received a message that read “our baby died.”  My close friends were expecting and every other week I would message to ask if the baby had arrived.  I was ready to ululate and send money for the new baby but this…this left me not knowing what to say or do because what do you say to a couple that has lost the one thing that was going to complete their union?  This is their story.

child deaths in Zimbabwe.jpgHave you gone through the thrill and expectations of imagining what it will be like to go through sleepless nights and new experiences once your baby arrives?  Do you have any idea what it feels like when you read the dates from the gynecologist telling you that  in 2 weeks you’ll be a mom and dad then in the blink of an eye it slips through your fingers?

 

When you’re pregnant you get to go through a series of prayers, trusting in God and hoping that everything will go smoothly then things don’t go according to plan.  The damage it has to your mind is irreparable.  Almost everyone will come to you telling you it’s God’s will.  How can it be when this entire time you had been looking up to and trusting God to bless you with a bouncy baby?  I began to question if ever God existed.

My wife came up to me and said “I have been praying and fasting for this baby but God as the people are saying has taken him. Why should I keep praying?” I didn’t know what to say to ease her raw pain.  We went to sleep as a formality because though the lights were off we were both awake.  I switched on the light at around 2am and she was crying.   I embraced her; we were both having a mental psychological breakdown. 2am is the time we were anticipating the baby will be giving us sleepless nights but it has turned out to be the time we are trying to comfort each other.

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2 days after the incident our Pastor paid us a visit, offered some prayers, tried some counselling, read some scriptures about Job and urging us to trust in God.  We felt let down; how do we get to trust in God again?

People kept coming to console us with what they thought was a solution; instead and it only added salt to a fresh wound.

What did we need?

  • Someone to take time to just to listen to us unpack our thoughts.
  • Allow us to cry not to have be told to “man up” or “you have to be strong for her” so who will be strong for me?

I tried to fight my thoughts through alcohol.  Viceroy was not strong enough to numb the pain.  I drank the whole bottle straight and it tasted like water.  I went to sleep but again around 2am I was fresh out of sleep, no one to talk to, I allowed myself to cry, I was talking to myself, asking questions and answering myself.

I took some days off and my dad did the same to try and console me.  He took me to my 90 year old grandmother.  She gave me the opportunity to vent without giving me solutions. I guess that’s why they say the older you get the wiser you get.  I felt better but I knew my wife was not.

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She needed similar therapy, just someone to talk to.   ‘Toxic’ people will always be there and they say whatever they say without thinking about the consequences.  The one person suggested we sue the clinic for the loss of our child because it was their fault.  I doubt that it ever crossed their mind that this wouldn’t bring our baby back.

I feel people in our African society need education on issues to do with depression and mental health.  Most people don’t view these as health conditions so you find yourself with no solution and no one to talk to not and you’re left with no option but to run away run away from solutions that invoke negative energy.

I still get disturbed when I’m walking and see pictures of diapers or babies.  My mind rushes back to the incident.   The image I have right now is of my little boy wrapped around with a blue towel being handed over to me just to see how he looked. How am I going to get that image out of my head?  What about my wife who carried our baby for 9 months and went through labour?  Right now she’s lactating; what is she supposed to do with the milk?  What are the thoughts I might never know that go through her mind?

I feel empty; hopeless and the next person who tells me about faith and praying is going to receive a punch in their face!  The last visitor we had told us that we should quickly try for another baby because I might end up getting another woman pregnant.  It left a very sour taste in my mouth. She insinuated that it’s my wife’s fault that our baby died.

One thing is certain.  When your friends or family experience a loss sometimes it’s best to say nothing at all and simply offer your presence.  Losing a child is a bitter pill to swallow.

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Sex On The First Date

First dates are designed to produce a number of relationship outcomes. (e.g. sexual partner, friendship, short-term romantic relationship, or life partnership.) – Wikipedia

I don’t know about you but I know that sex is a pretty enjoyable experience.  Without it the world would probably be one very boring place!  A lot of people are not comfortable talking about sex, which is very much okay because we are different but unfortunately for you I love to go on and on about it as and when.  Today I want to share my thoughts on having sex on the first date.  It comes with a lot of controversy of course but look, dating as described above is a process that yields different outcomes so having sex or not largely depends on the individuals involved.

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First things first, you have to decide if you want to establish why you want to date.  With that out of the way your first date won’t be too awkward.  Below are some of the reasons why you should totally have sex on the first date.

  • Life is short!  Do you have any idea how you can go for weeks, months or even years without getting laid and here you are trying to deprive your lady bits of such pleasures?
  • If the chemistry is there there’s really no need to hold out on him, be a go getter!  Let’s just dive straight into dessert, who has time for the main meal, right?
  • You are confident that this is what you really want and you won’t start regretting it afterwards.
  • The earlier you have sex the better to save yourself time.  You might choose to wait for months only to be disappointed that time you have already caught feelings and now you end up staying with that person for all the wrong reasons!
  • Whatever you do just make sure you get yourself a shattering orgasm and not leave yourself unsatisfied.  Do you have any idea how lovely those sex hormones feel, not forgetting the after sex glow, you will be smiling for days to come.

However, I do understand that a lot of people, women especially have some reservations when it comes to having sex on the first date.  These are some of the reasons why having sex on the first date might not be a very bright idea.

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  • You probably don’t know enough about someone to let them into such an intimate part of your life.  Are you ready to deal with the demons that come with them?
  • Your partner might judge you for being too forward.
  • Say goodbye to your judgement.  Once you get some good dicking you can kiss thinking straight goodbye.  Most people get attached to someone once they have sex with them and if things happen to go wrong it will be difficult to let go.  Now you are stuck with a complete as*hole but the sex game is out of this world.  Good dick is NOT your friend!

I’ve read a couple of articles that encourage women to wait to have sex with their potential partner for 90 days. Apparently this will determine if someone will stay with you for the long haul.  Truth be told, some people had someone wait for a whole year and they still left!  After all is said and done someone will leave if they want to, whether you have sex with them on the first date or after 90 days.

There’s absolutely no formula to this whole sex on the first date thing.  It can work out for the good or the bad depending on the couple involved.  However, if you do decide to have sex whatever you do ALWAYS practice safe sex.  My thoughts still remain the same on the subject.  I’m too old to die from lust because a, b and c said you should do this.  I will do what I think is right for me because You Only Live Once!

 

What are your thoughts on sex on the first date or even better, care to share your experience on the subject?

©MaKupsy 2019

 

 

 

 

Stanbic Bank Zimbabwe Incubator Hub

I paid Stanbic Zimbabwe Incubator Hub a visit a few days after seeing their tweet about their latest development. I waste no time when it comes to things that will help me grow. Being the visual person that I am; I instantly fell in love with their creative and modern space. Finally, someone realised one of the many things that most Entrepreneurs in Zimbabwe need.

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What I ❤

  • Both Stanbic and non-Stanbic bank account holders get access to the hub.
  • There are charging ports around the room, given the electricity situation in Zimbabwe, this is a relief. You can work and charge your gadgets at the same time.
  • You can hold your meetings in a cosy space and if you would like to hold workshops you contact them through email to make a booking. The email to use is: zwincubator@stanbic.com

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  • Stanbic will soon be hosting workshops and training in different fields mainly entrepreneurship and marketing. You can go through to their offices to put your name down so you don’t miss out when they happen.
  • Stanbic Bank members get unlimited access and WiFi to the Incubator Hub. Non-Stanbic members get only 2 hours including WiFi access. (This is the part you consider opening an account today)

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  • There is a refreshment area being run by TreatZW. You can grab a coffee, cappuccino, a cake slice, muffin or sandwiches or all of the above depending on how much you enjoy your food; for reasonable prices.
  • The Incubator Hub is clean, cool, has great lighting and quiet. This is the sort of ambiance you need to get your creative juices flowing.

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Where is it located?

Corner 6th and Herbert Chitepo Avenue, Avenues, Harare

Opening Times?

Monday to Friday: 8am to 6pm

Saturday: 8am to 12 midday

Have you been to the Stanbic Incubator Hub?

©MaKupsy 2019

Travel To Paradise Pools Resort, Bindura

Paradise Pools Resort is situated in Bindura. Fancy yourself a day trip filled with refreshing activities? Paradise Pools Resort is the perfect spot! It took us about 2 hours to get there because we had one too many stops along the way. It’s ideally supposed to be a 1hr 30 minutes drive. I’d suggest you take a high rise vehicle because the terrain, once you get off the main road, is in a poor state.

1. Silence

The first thing that will greet you once you arrive is the silence in the atmosphere. There’s no sound of hooting cars, people shouting over the phone or someone playing their music too loud. You get to take in nature in it’s purest form and have a chance to listen to your thoughts. Before the people you’ve come with start talking about how quiet the place is.

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2. Ready-Made Braai Stand

This was my highlight for the day. They have readily available braai stands stacked with firewood. All you need to do is light up the fire and get ready to start braaing your meat. Other out of town braai areas places take notes.  You’re allowed to bring your own meat, drinks and snacks.  We had more than enough meat we didn’t even finish it. Compliments to the braai master who made sure our tummies were fed with mouth-watering sausages, tender pork chops, flame-grilled chicken pieces, and fleshy t-bone steak chops.

3. Fishing Area

There’s a designated area for fishing. Fishing lovers, you’re in luck! We bought some fresh fish from the locals who were fishing since we hadn’t come prepared. I must say that was the best braid fish I’ve ever tasted in my entire life. There were no additives to it and it was fresh crispy and succulent. Add it to your to-try-out list when you visit.

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4. Views

There are different beautiful pools in the area. You’re allowed to take a dip in the cool waters and enjoy a leisurely swim. However, the best view is the Arcadia Dam View. You’ll have to walk quite a distance to get to the top of the mountain but it’ll be worth your while. We didn’t even realise the walk up was a workout on its own. When I woke up the next day I couldn’t feel my thighs.

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Arcadia Dam, Bindura

It was an overall fantastic trip which I won’t mind doing again once my legs are feeling better. A message from one of the ladies who attended this day trip to Paradise Pools Resort read;

Saturday was too good, it was refreshing. It felt short though and your company was amazing you guys. Cheers to more adventures, more meat, drinks and meeting good people 🥂🥂till next time.

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What Else Does Paradise Pools Resort Cater To?

  • Camping
  • Family outings
  • Corporate functions
  • Team building activities
  • Weddings
  • Picnics

One of my goals for 2019 and beyond remains the same; To collect more enriching experiences instead of more material things.

Have you been to Paradise Pools Resort before? What was your experience like? A special thank you to @hikerszw for hosting this unforgettable trip.

You can also read another blog post they hosted titled:

Travel Tips For Visiting Nyanga National Park, Zimbabwe

MaKupsy

15 Ways To Mend A Broken Heart

Heartbreak; if you haven’t gone through it then you my dear are one of the lucky few.  In my opinion the pain that comes with it is right there next to labour pains.  It’s something you don’t want to experience more than once because the pain usually scars you for weeks, months and sometimes years to come.  I asked some of my favourite people on Twitter to share how they managed to get over a heartbreak and as always they didn’t disappoint!  I like to keep opinions anonymous so names are not mentioned.  Their healing processes and some of mine are in the list below.  Kick back, grab your notepad and fix yourself a strong cup of coffee you will want to keep this!

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  1. Cry. Cry yourself to sleep, cry yourself through the day, cry each time you listen to that sappy song that reminds you of him, heck cry yourself a whole river!  It’s the best thing you can do for yourself, crying will help wash away the pain.  Whatever you do, DO NOT internalise your emotions.
  2. Get high or die trying. Seriously.  Nothing makes you feel better like a good old smoke.  You are guaranteed of short term memory loss which is a good thing because you can focus on the feel good sensation and forget about your broken heart for a while.  Proven effects include joy, euphoria, contentedness and a care-free attitude!
  3. Cut contact, otherwise you will find yourself snooping on their social media;this is very unhealthy.   I suggest you actually take a social media fast for the next 30 days in a bid to protect yourself.  The last thing you want to do is see your ex partner all loved up on Instagram.  That will actually do you more harm than good, heartbreak and social media are NOT friends!
  4. Get up under someone new.  Try this at your own risk.  An orgasm a day keeps the stress away.  Yes, I made that saying up but it’s a sure way to take your mind off your ex but just make sure whoever you decide to have sex with will actually shower you with multiple orgasms otherwise the whole act will be pointless and leave you frustrated.
  5. Listen to some music. Not the sappy sad stuff by the way. Something upbeat to lift up your spirits.
  6. Move to another place.  Try getting a job in a town hours away from your current location or better yet leave the entire country.  That way you can heal faster without any memory triggers.
  7. Keep yourself occupied. Spend time with friends, do your favourite things.  Try positive distractions such as going out and doing something fun especially something new. Amusement Park, dancing; getting out and not focusing or dwelling on the heartbreak.

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  8. Put yourself out there. You don’t have to rush into another relationship but just go on dates and feel wanted. It helps to not be lonely and also just for the confidence boost.
  9. Alcohol! , it numbs the pain.  Those who don’t drink can safely turn to ice-cream or comfort foods; hello calories!!  I have tried and tested this one and all I can say is that alcohol will fix the problem for that day but when you wake up sober all the pain will come rushing back.
  10. Accept that it’s over.  This is probably the most crucial point because without this you won’t be able to.  Accept it and do not be bitter, okay TRY very hard not to be bitter.
  11. Positive self talk and reflection.  Remind yourself it’s their loss and not yours. BUT also look at your contributions to the demise of your relationship.  Avoid self blame at all costs but focus on reflecting. This usually happens further down the road to mending your heartbreak.
  12. Let go completely.  You are not trying to do the whole “Oh we’re broken up but we’re cool and modern so we can be friends” – it just prolongs the pain! CUT TIES…Cut it, Cut it, Cut it, you need to cut it!!
  13. Be kind to yourself.  You will have days where you will be upset with the world.  It happens, embrace it.
  14. Time.  It mends the heart.  I know others believe getting straight into another relationship helps you get over another one. This is not everyone’s portion.  Avoid going from one mess straight into another.  That way when you say “I am over someone” you really over them. There are no comebacks.  Time is often under estimated; especially nowadays because everyone wants an instant fix. There is NO QUICK FIX for heartbreak. This is why we end up having relationships with broken people who haven’t healed from past mistakes. Be fair to the next person. Take your time, you do not heal overnight.
  15. Understand that heartbreak is a part of life.  Not just in romantic relationships but in life in general.  Lovers, friends and family will disappoint you so always be prepared to find a way to deal with it.  Learn from your experience and remember that you are not the first or the last one to experience this.  This too shall come to pass…

How have you dealt with heartbreak in the past?  How long did it take you to finally reach the point where you could bump into your ex and they will have zero effect on you?

Let’s talk about it, I would love to read your thoughts.

©MaKupsy 2019

10 Easy To Follow Tips For Public Speaking

Public speaking is the one form of activity that easily gets my heart rate up without doing a single form of exercise. It takes me out of my comfort zone. I choose to constantly challenge myself and public speaking is still new, scary and exciting; I love it! I’m used to writing about my experiences; talking about them in a room full of people is a completely different subject.

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MaKupsy at an AfroBloggers Event

I go through the same cycle each time; you’d think after speaking at a couple of events I’d be used to it by now. Thoughts that usually go through my mind are;

  • Will I deliver an unforgettable experience?
  • Will the audience respond?
  • Will I remember everything I set out to talk about?
  • Will they leave the room with new information they will use and share right away?

Guess what? When I eventually step onto the platform to deliver my speech all those questions melt away and I get into the zone and enjoy every moment that I get to share my story.

If you’re new to public speaking here are a few tips you can try out today. Please note that they’re in no particular order.

  1. Captivate your audience from the get go. You have about 10 seconds to grab their attention. Start with a bang! I always start with a short exercise routine to get people moving.
  2. Know your message. Don’t go onto ramble about different things that do not correlate with your topic. Don’t confuse your audience.
  3. Make sure your information is easy to digest. You don’t want your audience to have to start looking through Google search trying to figure out what the words you’re using mean. Keep your language simple.
  4. Dress the part. Yes, people do judge a book by it’s cover and if you show up looking like you just got out of bed chances of your audience taking you seriously will dwindle fast.
  5. Share stories. Yes, statistics are great it’s important to include them in your presentation but if you want to move people share stories even better if they’re about your experiences. I’ve taken notes from my Blogging journey, whenever I write a post that includes a story the feedback is staggering.

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    At WordCamp Harare:MaKupsy also known as Fitness Bae

  6. Take simplified notes with you. The key is to keep the notes as short as a Zimbabwean shopping list; most of us no longer have the luxury to shop up a storm so we keep the list short and to the point.  Jot down at least 5 points to help you remember what you’re going to talk about next. I learnt the hard way when I presented at WordPress WordCamp, you can read about it here.
  7. Show up early. Don’t be the speaker who inconvenienced the entire program by not keeping time.
  8. During your presentation make sure you smile, use gestures, eye contact and also get to move around the room. This keeps your audience alert. Long drawn out talks in one place get boring; put some energy into your work.
  9. Attend speaking events in your area and watch others perform. This way you can take notes on what you can incorporate into your own style and also learn what you shouldn’t be doing during.
  10. End your speech with a powerful takeaway. Think along the lines of something that will change a life or inspire someone to get up and do something positive.

Keep practicing these tips and before you know it you’ll be a professional and giving talks on how to be killer public speaker.

I’m still learning and I’m open to more tips and tricks on how I can improve my public speaking. Do you have any additional tips to share?

©MaKupsy 2019