I have a serious bone to chew with whoever comes up with some of these things. Don’t get me wrong I am all for taking care of your other half but lately I have been wondering. Who takes care of the woman once a couple gets married? Our culture expects the woman to bend and break for her husband. From cooking, cleaning, making sure the house is in order, being intimate with him as many times as she can take it, taking care of the children, showing up for funerals, family functions, taking in in-laws…the list is endless. In all this you are bound to ask yourself what the man will be doing in this equation. The answer is easy really. He will be sitting in front of the TV watching who knows what and relaxing all day long. Basically the man does nothing. Before you get all worked up it’s obvious its not ALL MEN who are like that, but in our culture most men are.
I am going to keep this post as short as possible so that it doesn’t turn into a man bashing rant. What I would like to know is who is taking care of the woman in all this? After a long days work she is expected to get home, prepare supper, make sure the children have done their homework and a whole list of other things married people do. Would it kill the husband to actually cook once in a while if he got home before the wife? If he isn’t much of a cook maybe pile up the dishes nicely, boil the meat, chops onions and tomatoes (do something) so that when the wife gets home she can start from somewhere and not feel like a slave who has to wait hand and foot for her husband. Maybe my way of thinking is crazy but it would make the world a better place if people worked as a team. Heck, women get tired too they are not energizer bunnies who just keep going and going.
I know a man who is reading this and saying to himself “But I pay all the bills around the house and she doesn’t have to worry about the financial side of things” Well yes, thank you for doing a great job mister, but it’s not always about the money. It’s about the small things that make a woman feel a whole lot more appreciated for everything she does.
Our culture has a long way to go… If by any chance a man is seen by his friends or relatives helping around the house (there are very few of these by the way) he is considered weak and chances are his wife fed him a love portion so that he can do as she pleases with him. Wrong thinking right there. There is absolutely nothing wrong with sharing tasks. It actually makes for a better home and chances of getting more sex because “I am tired” won’t be featuring in the wife’s’ list of excuses.
Teamwork people teamwork!
But then again, I’m not married, what would I know about the ins and outs of a marriage? It wouldn’t hurt to consider it though, I am sure your wife would be happy to see you do something to make her duties around the house a little easier.