Brace yourself, the following post is not for the faint hearted. Women cheat, it’s just that they don’t go on talking about it the same way guys do. Some of the information may surprise you, some will enlighten you, you may roll your eyes and judge but that’s the situation on the ground. Life happens and at some point some women have cheated or think about cheating. I suppose not everyone was cut out to be “Miss Goody Goody Two Shoes.” A few women share their stories below:
Escape from reality
Yes I have cheated because I met someone who excited me more than my partner did. Someone who made me feel alive at the time. Usually it’s fun yes but it mostly ends badly. Fact is that the guy you cheated with was never a serious thing. He was a whirlwind romance, an escape really. Sometimes the one you cheat with probably has someone in his life and he is also cheating. However there are the rare ones who are single and will actually try making things work out in that cheating scenario. Best cases are the relationships that may come out of cheating.
I have cheated. I cheated because I was selfish and my needs were not being met and it was frustrating, got an escape, all the attention from the guy I was cheating with. It was not everything, obviously the fun was that it was stolen wares they sell twice as dear. He called every morning, kept tabs on me, made me feel special but I never wanted to leave my guy, even though my cheating partner was okaish, It was just that a little fling to keep me sane. I eventually couldnt keep up, I loved my guy but my needs were not being met, and I knew we had to talk. The best things in life are not free, they are forbidden. the guilt, the adrenaline of cheating OMG. I loved/love my boyfriend with all my heart and he may kill me if he knew he may be very disappointed, but ndakanakirwa hangu(I had a good time) please!!! The other guy’s flaws made me realise my own boyfriends good side, I learnt that my guy loves me maturely and respectfully, he is human and honest, he is not going out of his way to impress me all the time but he loves me, I gave him the most breathtaking kiss ever the next time I was with him he asked what that was for, I lied…To be honest, all that kiss was saying was, I am sorry I had strayed I love you. For the record, I left the guy I was cheating with because I couldn’t give him my all. It was superficial, I had to be real with myself. On the flip side, I learnt to communicate better with my guy, and understand him as well. Once we were in sync, paradise was peaceful again. And you know what? I would never have known if I hadn’t cheated, maybe, who knows?
Personally, I like an intellectually challenging man, but once I feel like you’re unable to stimulate my mind, or failing to keep up, I side track. I’m attracted to men’s minds before physical appearance and all. That was one reason I cheated once. The other reason I think some women cheat is that you get bored of the same person. It’s not so much the routine that you get bored of but when you know someone in and out you can predict things like reactions. Those things then annoy you and you end up wanting a “change of environment” so to speak. Lastly, some women will forever compare their boyfriends to other men no matter what good he does. It’s the comparing thing that exposes your man’s flaws so much, you tend to start getting attracted to the men you thing have “better” features; more money, are more caring, more attentive, bigger dick…the list is endless.
I have thought about it. But I didn’t get to doing it because I felt bad. But it was during those times when he doesn’t give you as much attention as he used to then there’s some guy who’s there giving you all the attention that you’re craving. I think men just get a little too comfortable and stop doing what they used to do. Its the little things that they stop doing that you tend to notice; things like getting you something on his way home or telling you stuff that he used to tell you all the time that they end up taking for granted.
And I am sure you are all wondering if I have cheated before? Well, the answer is yes. Not that it is something to be proud of but I had my reasons. My number one problem was that I did not forgive my then boyfriend for cheating on me. Instead I took him back and pretended all was well while in the meantime I was planning my revenge. It was both emotional and physical cheating and in my mind I blamed my partner for turning me into this person who wanted to pay an eye for an eye. I really wanted him to feel the same pain he put me through, the sleepless nights, the broken heart. Did I regret ever cheating on him? No, not even a single bit, because we were even, he cheated, I cheated so I didn’t have to grin and bear it anymore. Will I cheat again? NO that is seriously emotionally damaging and I do not plan on going through the lies and the secrets, too draining.
Moral of the story? Women cheat for all sorts of reasons but thankfully it is not every woman who does. And guess what, MOST times when women do cheat, they don’t get caught…