I was having a lengthy chat with one of my blogger friends who has turned into a real life friend the other day on WhatsApp. She was telling me about how she was feeling overwhelmed at the moment and it made me realise we share the same sentiments when it comes to personal space.
I am one of those individuals who when faced with a bunch of personal struggles I simply shut down from those around me. You will find me all active on Twitter, Instagram the works, but you will rarely find me chatting away on WhatsApp. It is something some people might consider a weakness but for me it is something that I have accepted to be a part of me. Sometimes all a person needs is some time out to try and figure out what the next move should be to make life more manageable. Unfortunately most people take this the wrong way and automatically assume that your silence means that they have done something to you.
The thing I find the most annoying though is when you do decide to tell someone that you are going through something and you are not yourself they can’t seem to discern that downloading their personal problems to you at that particular time is not a very grand idea. Most times when I am in that phase I do not have the capacity to deal with anything else. Does this make me a bad person? I wonder…
My advice to you if you have friends who are anything like me.
Give someone the space they need. Allow them to gather their thoughts and please rest assured that their silence has absolutely nothing to do with you. Please do not take it personally. When someone is good and ready they will reach out but until then continue to live your life, try as best as you can not to be too consumed by why someone is too quiet lately, people are busy with this life thing, you should be doing the same thing.
P.S. People deal with stress and trauma differently, please keep that in mind.