Friendships usually start because of common ground, and for Tanya and I, pregnancy brought us together. I noticed we had a mutual friend on Facebook and decided to add her to my friend’s list. It’s good to note that some good comes out of these social networks right? We were both in our third trimester and both going through all the changes that come with pregnancy. I gave birth first and told her all the traumatising things I went through during labour (and added a bit of lies here and there for dramatic effect); and nearly a month later she gave birth to a beautiful baby boy, who is now my son-in-law to be because he is just too cute.
We kept in touch over the phone mostly and only got to meet in person a year later. We have been very good friends ever since. She is like a sister to me. We have our fair share of fights, where we can go months on end sulking for no reason. I have concluded that it must be a “last born syndrome” that we both suffer from so we both come with pride issues. Times we are not talking and being childish, I miss her terribly. When we do get back in touch, it’s like we never stopped talking at all.
I have never had a friend who simply does not stop chatting. We are on Whatsapp from 5am till 10pm each and every day and we never run out of things to say. We share almost everything, from tips on how to raise our children better, goals and aspirations, new recipes to try out, sex stories, gossip in small doses(do you really believe this part?) and almost everything else that women who are super close share. Even on days I am not in chat mode I will ignore everyone else and chat with her instead because we are just a crazy pair. She is a one in a million character and if you are not used to her you would think this little missy has issues. Oh, by the way, she is really small but has a big mouth it is simply unbelievable!!
She is one of the few people who are close and dear to me because with her I can be myself and not worry about being judged or ridiculed. We are open and honest with each other and because of her some days I have pushed myself when all I wanted to do was chill out and do nothing. I wrote this post to let her know that I am glad that she is in my life and that no matter what’s going on between us, be it on the “mute” days or on the days we are really getting along she is and always will be the one friend I am glad I have and will always cherish. Through her I have learnt to pursue my dreams, be more giving and caring, to realise that everyone including myself deserve nothing but the best. Thank you for being a great friend Tanya, you are loved from the moon and back.