“To have a happy kid, I figure I need to be a happy mother, and to be a happy mother, I need to be a happy person.” Lauren Sandler
I have really thought this through, and I am happy to only have one child, Miss Kupsy. Most people will say it is selfish of me to make such a decision but that’s what I want. (To them I say feel free to make more babies for yourself, whatever makes you happy works for me) Everyone around me is always telling me that she needs a sibling but to be honest, I feel that she will do just fine on her own, she is an independent little diva. Growing up I remember I used to say to myself, “If I ever have children I will have two, one or none.” And here I am with one and that will not be changing anytime soon. A lot of realities have sunk in after having Miss Kupsy and it is probably for the best that I found out sooner rather than later. Maybe sometime in the years to come I will change my mind but as it stands I stand firm on the decision on not going through child bearing again in an attempt to give Miss Kupsy a sibling. Here are my reasons why I have no plans of going through this again:
- Worrying to death, when you become a mother worrying becomes second nature, well, at least for me. I worry if I am being a good mother, if I am not spoiling her too much, if she is okay at preschool, if she is going to get better when she gets sick, if I will be able to take her to the good grade school I heard about, worry about what will happen to her if anything ever happened to me.
- Labour is NO JOKE.
- I can’t afford to have another child, the amount of MONEY that comes with a child is nothing I even want to start all over again, the diapers, the formula, tjo!
- I will not be able to give two children everything they need so let’s just stick to one and give her the best of everything.
- I don’t want to go through severe morning sickness for 3 solid months.
- It will ruin the body I have been working so damn hard for!
- The sleepless nights…no one prepares you for that…
- Breast feeding; my breasts were always engorged. I will spare you the inside details about when they started cracking and eventually bleeding.
- Finally, I do not have the energy to start all over again, it works on all aspects of your being, mind, body and soul and frankly speaking I just have enough energy to cater for one child.
That said, I will add on more reasons why I prefer having an only child to my list when more come up. As it is I am beyond happy and at peace with only having to take care of Miss Kupsy, I doubt if I would ever cope if I had to cater for two children. It already feels like she is out there running around with my heart, imagine having two of them. Will I be able to love them the exact same way? Will my heart be able to handle being divided between two children? I will probably never know hey because it’s one child only for this mother.
I would like to hear your views on being an only child if you are one, or if you are a mother who also plans on having one child.