I Want To Raise My Daughter Differently

Compliments of the new season!  We made it alive and in good health, that is the one gift that I am forever grateful for.  This year I have so many things lined up in different aspects of my life but today I will be sharing my thoughts on how I want to raise Miss Kupsy.  She is 5 years old now and I feel getting her to believe in herself from a very young age will do wonders for her as she gets older.

Effective parents give children roots to grow and wings to fly.

Hobbies

My daughter loves her music.  She will sing along to Nickelodeon, Disney Junior and the whole bunch of songs and jingles they play on there.  Let’s not even start with music videos.  She likes that J.Lo Track “Ain’t Your Momma” but her version of the chorus leaves me in stitches all the time because she sings it as “I’m not going to cook your laundry I ain’t your momma!”  She clearly doesn’t know what she is singing along to but gosh does she dance and sing away like the care free child that she is.  You see, because she loves music I have made sure that I have bought her musical instruments.  I got her a flute and tambourine.  Her grandparents got her a drum, my sister got her a guitar for Christmas just a few weeks back.  When I spoke to her this morning she was telling me she wants a Marimba set.   I want her to explore her musical path and enjoy her hobby.  You never know what will fire her soul as she grows so I might as well fuel it right now.

3ea75cc8-380a-4e99-bcdb-7801bab1bad4.jpg
Miss Kupsy

Career

The time I grew up you didn’t have much choice when it came to what you wanted to be when you grow up.  The options were limited.  You were either supposed to be a Doctor, Pilot or Accountant in order to have “made it in life” so you can imagine how the rest of us possibly disappointed our parents seeing that we didn’t fulfill their expectations.  I am a creative person and none of those titles were going to blend in with me.  Unfortunately I only got to find this out when I was older and had already studied something I didn’t like but something that would pay the bills at least.  When it comes to my daughter I want her to choose her own path.  Of course I will give her input on the available options at the time but ultimately the decision will be hers to make because she will be the one who will have to study and eventually work in that field.  Her happiness will always come first.

Self Confidence

Most parents have that “You can’t do this” mentality which I find pretty disturbing.  I mean, this is your child, why are you stopping them from greatness?  You parent(s) should be your biggest cheer leaders.  Even if you fail they should be right there to remind you that you can always try again.  I want to teach and always remind Miss Kupsy that she needs to know the extent of her own abilities and that she can overcome problems in the world, she just needs to put in the time and the effort to make it happen.

Relationships and Marriage

By relationships I don’t mean just the romantic relationships. I am talking about how she will relate to her friends, family, school mates, teachers and at some point in her life her partner.  My daughter is naturally a fun loving little person who finds joy in giving.  I remember buying her ice cream the other day and she shared it with three of her friends and yet when they had theirs they didn’t offer her a single bite.  A part of me wanted to tell her to not share but then again that’s out of character for her so I just called her aside and asked her to sit next to me while she at least had the half that was left.  I didn’t know how to tackle this one.  If I told her to not give her friends then I was teaching her not to share but at the same time if I didn’t she wasn’t going to eat any of that ice cream. What would you have done?

That said; I want her to always know that learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all.  I want her to be able to show love, to pray for discernment when it comes to the partner and friends she will choose.  To show respect to everyone and their feelings regardless of their age.  To say thank you, I’m sorry and I love you.  With these things I strongly feel she will grow to be of strong character.

I also don’t want to be that doting mother, she must learn to be independent as well.  With independence I want her to know that she does not have to get married.  She can if she wants to but I will not put pressure on her to do so.  I will teach her that life will go on whether one is married or not and if that will be one of the things she wants she has to remember that. I will love her all the same whether she will be single, married, divorced, whatever her marital status what will always matter to me is that she is happy.

db07c091ea1fd3491b16c6517c14badc.jpg

 

That said, I have a lot more things I would want to talk about but this is my first blog post for the year and I would want you to come back for more so I will leave it here for now.  If you would like to read more adventures my daughter gets up to you can read them from here.

I would like to hear from you.  If you are a parent, how are you doing things differently raising your child?  If you are planning on having kids how do you intend to have an impact on them?  If you don’t have any kids how do you help those around you raise their kids?  I know I left a handful of other points so please include some of yours in the comments section.

Let’s talk.

©MaKupsy

Advertisements

7 thoughts on “I Want To Raise My Daughter Differently

  1. Thank you for the insight. One thing I’ve learnt raising my daughter is always put yourself in her shoes. Sometimes as parents we tend to over discipline…playing with water is fun,playing with mud is fun. Let your child be sometimes as long as it’s not life-threatening. Don’t be afraid of a little mess or in your case some noise from all the musical instruments. I’m glad your little girl likes sharing, it’s good to teach kids that material things don’t matter much but the act of sharing. Unfortunately you may be doing a kick-ass job on raising your kid but who knows what other kids are subjected to and whether you like it or not, they’ll interact with your kids and sometimes take advantage of their good nature. It’s a fight to teach your child to be kind and also be fair and strong. Lol I could go on and on

    Liked by 1 person

    • Thank you for reading. Girl, the “don’t play in that water” days are over for me. At first it used to stress me out but I decided I should supervise her and let her enjoy getting herself messy.
      It’s a catch 22 situation really but I think I will take your advice and teach her to continue being good natured but not be pushed over at the same time. Noone told me this motherhood job was this stressful. LOL
      I hope we all continue to learn from our kids and vice versa, after all, we truly never stop learning. 🙂

      Like

  2. Oh this is beautiful , I am a mother to very string , confident , willed, energetic , loving child , I struggle to keep up with her sometimes , she is spicy too which I chose to believe WS intelligence cause those smart remarks don’t just happen , I am raiding her to be anything and everything, she loves dancing I can see her already happy and content as a dancer, I don’t care what she becomes as long as she is happy , she teaches me just as much as I teach her , I am blessed.

    Liked by 1 person

    • I love that! Let her be, you never know where her passion will take her. One thing our parents never realised was that not everyone is academically gifted. Some children can dance, sing, play instruments, build, the list is endless. We should not restrict them in the journey to finding themselves. Your child is going to be brilliant!

      Like

      • We must not teach them to color in the lines but paint their own picture , our parents didn’t have time to nurture our talents some talents are strange , unheard of we need to let the kids be free in their choices and also imagination . this article was an eye opener , thank you

        Liked by 1 person

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s