Early morning phone call…
Him: Hello, how are you this lovely morning?
Her: I’m great honey how are you you today?
Him: I’m good babes. I was thinking, how about I pick you up around 10am and we do breakfast and catch up? It has been a really long week and we haven’t spent time together. We can decide what to do with the rest of the day after breakfast; make sure you wear that dress I like.
Her: That would be a lovely way to start the weekend. Let me get some more shut eye so that I have enough energy for the rest of the day. I’m excited already; I hope we are trying out that new place we saw the last time?
Him: Yes we are and make sure you don’t take forever to get ready I know you babes.
Her: I promise I will be early even though we both know that’ impossible. Will see you soon honey. Kisses
Him: Bye babes see you soon.
Do these things still happen? If yes, please show me the direction so that I can go as well! I remember conversations like these when I was in my early 20’s. I LOVED it, it was more real, more sentimental. I blame the very first boyfriend I had. That guy was probably from another planet because he really went all out. There is no experience he did not take me through. There was never a dull moment the time we dated, surprises were his middle name. You know how women just love those. When I look back I realise that he took his time to know what my interests were and coupled them with his so that we were both happy in the end. Picnics, dinners, breakfasts, flowers, birthday trips, my first flying experience, road trips, learning how to drive…the list is endless and really making me nostalgic right about now. If I am honest with myself after dating him the experiences with the people I dated just went downhill from there and everything became so obvious, he killed the magic guys, he killed it!
When my friends and I have our random chats about men we are always entertained! We have concluded that there are two types of guys; the ones that will take you kunogocha (going for a braai) and buy you a lot of alcohol and hope you get drunk. To think all that money could have been used for a more intimate sit-in date.
Then the other ones who will take you out for a proper date, make arrangements that actually involve things you also enjoy doing then pick you up and sometimes even buy you a dress for the date! Yes, those guys are out there and they do exist; you just don’t find them in the yellow pages. I am not saying “kunogocha” can’t be termed as a date but surely when you are still trying to get to know someone the options are plenty and that one should be the last one on your list. Are you trying to impress someone or trying to never see them again?
I remember reading somewhere that when a man is into you; you will know it through his actions. Can we safely conclude that those who don’t make an effort are really not into a woman?
If you are trying to get attention from a woman by all means let your creative juices flow! The early days can make or break your dating chances. You want to be remembered as that guy who did the one thing that no other guy had done for her. Let the other random not so exciting dates come after you have won her over. At least you would have shown her that you are capable of keeping things exciting. Being spontaneous really goes a long way. I know you are reading this and thinking a relationship involves two people why is the man being the one to do all the work here? Well, the answer is simple; the man is the hunter, us women are just out here waiting to be hunted.
Thank you to Shingi and Tonde for the beautiful pictures. They are my favourite Twitter couple and when I have free time I stalk them and just smile. Love is a beautiful thing to watch and they do it so well. I wish them nothing but love and happiness.
Let’s talk. What are your thoughts on dating? What have been your best and worst experiences so far? Is your man calling you to make a date or it’s whatever happens that day happens. Guys, how are you spicing up your dating game?
I hope your weekend was great!