I used to have a lot of friends but with time we outgrew each other because of different milestones we all went through which is perfectly okay. Now I think I have probably have four really close friends who I know I can call on whatever time of day and just catch up, vent or talk about how we can grow in all life aspects. I hardly mention names when I write up my posts because when someone reads my blog they always know when I am writing about them and the same applies today. Let me tell you about a conversation I once had with a once was good friend of mine. Let’s call him D.
The one time we had gone out for coffee and we were catching up on life and all things random. He asked me what I had planned for the weekend and frankly I had a whole list of things I wanted to do but I didn’t have the means. I still remember what I told him. I wanted to go for a long drive till I got to a place with a lake; park there and take in the sunset and calming surroundings. After that I would probably take a dip because I love me some water and I always have a reason to swim. That said, K said to me; “You realise you don’t need to wait on anyone to do this, you can do it on your own.” I was like dude, are you mad? How is that even possible you do know that I don’t have a car right? He simply told me that he knew but that was all the more reason to start working towards buying my own car! Okay, that was a shocker but the shocker made me actually start looking at things differently.
“You realise you don’t need to wait on anyone to do this, you can do it on your own.”
I have a great example of how I made the first change. I once joined a fitness group on Facebook that has been there for quite a while now. I was excited to be part of a team that enjoyed fitness as much as I did but the downside was these guys only published posts for their regular members and so my runs and workouts were always pending. I was gutted and told myself, self, you either have to suck it up and accept that this is how its done in this group or start your own group! Of course I started my own group, are you mad, why subject myself to such misery? It was the best decision that I ever made and it made me realise change can be just a click away!
We always have an excuse not to do something. When you really look at it you are usually the one stopping yourself from achieving the majority of your goals. Oh it’s too difficult, I don’t have what it takes, maybe if I had this, it’s because I went to this school, only people from certain backgrounds get to have that. The excuses are plenty! Listen; you only get to do this life thing once and you better make the most of it! I used to be this person; always with a list of excuses but after the talk with D I grew up instantly. If you don’t have a car then by all means take public transport to wherever you want to go, if you don’t have money to go to the gym then workout from home, if you are passionate about music but you are not part of a band then start your own band. Stop waiting for a saviour and save yourself already. Actually, you read this everyday on social media but you just won’t do anything about it but here I am trying to convince you. Why am i even wasting my time? As and when you are ready you will make that change.
I still don’t have a car by the way but I have set a target for myself and started working towards getting one. My dream car is the Land Rover Discovery; she’s going to be my baby in this lifetime, one day is one day! For now my first car will be a little fuel saver that takes me all over the country on a budget. That way I will get to travel more and get to take a tonne of pictures, create memories and live my best life now. I am still living my life like it’s golden by the way, pedestrian life and all but once I get my car it will be on level 47646727 so you guys should just watch this space!
Now let’s get talking, what is stopping you from living your best life now? Do you want to die and not have lived as many happy moments as possible? You know you can die today, right here and right now? Would people say you were a bubbly soul who did everything in their power to spread happiness or you just lived each day unhappy and ready to stab yourself with a spoon out of sheer boredom?