You better get a J.O.B if you wanna be with me! Dating has just gone to that next level if you ask me. Gone are the days you used to enjoy leisurely walks, go for a picnic or enjoy ice-cream cones with your significant other. These days it’s about how much money a man pursuing you can splurge on a date. Goodbye creativity because as far as I have observed the most that will happen is a night out of drinking expensive alcohol and actually not getting to talk to and get to know the next person. It leaves me asking myself, why are people dating?
There’s a world of reasons why people decide to date:
- Dating for companionship
- Dating for sex
- Dating for free food
- Dating to have someone take care of your financial needs
- Dating to find a life partner
- Dating out of loneliness
There are obviously more reasons why people date but those are the first few that crossed my mind.
One of my male Blogger friends said;
“A lot of Zimbabwean men are too eager to spend money on women. Not even in the club when you’re trying to take her home for a one-nighter but when looking for an actual relationship men do the most!”
Some men date for fun and if that’s your cup of tea by all means let that money fall on the flavour of the night; after all you have nothing to lose even if it involves you selling your belongings or ending up neck deep in debt trying to impress a woman then go ahead. From what I hear and read everything men do is to get laid. They work hard to get more money to buy fancy cars, phones, homes so that they can get laid! It is after all to make an impression and get between her legs right? You get laid, she gets a fancy night or two out everyone is happy, yes, no, maybe?
Most women love things, me included but it seems most of them are taking this loving things a bit too far. Just the other day there was talk on Twitter about how Zimbabwean women want things that they can barely afford and expect whoever they are dating to provide it for them. Example, demanding a date at Victoria 22 that time you can’t even afford to buy a single glass of wine if you tried to go there on your own. Dear Zimbabwean men, there is nothing wrong with your woman wanting nice things but if you can’t afford it it’s perfectly okay to tell her that it won’t be happening anytime soon. At the same time, ladies, if you can’t afford to go there yourself then maybe just maybe try and go somewhere else and come back when it’s something you can both afford? Then again most people date someone who can upgrade them in all aspects and if you are dating someone who can’t upgrade you then maybe you need to reevaluate things? Or maybe that’s just too drastic it is after all just a date!
Money makes the world go round but it’s the same money that will ruin a perfectly great relationship if you don’t address the issue in the right light from the get go. I love beautiful things, I really do; but I want to enjoy well thought out dates that show creativity and have a personal touch to them that will leave me with a beautiful memory for years to come.
What are your thoughts; is dating about money? Do you think your potential or current significant other should break their budget to impress you or there are other ways of winning your heart that don’t come in the form of spending?
Should we be going out of control on dates? Is it necessary? Desired? A turn off? Ladies do you like it? Men do you like it? Both when it’s done to you and if or when you have to do it? So many questions and I would love to hear your answers.
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