This was the first Valentines Day I was single. I’ve spent most of them with someone special but 2018 was different. A good kind of different if you ask me because it gave me time to have some reflect on relationships I’ve been in in the past. I wasn’t expecting to receive any gifts or flowers because I know my relationship status so not receiving anything didn’t come as a surprise. I had planned to treat myself to coffee and cake but thanks to committing my money to other important things that didn’t materialise. However, that wasn’t a train smash, the year has so much to offer and I have other entertaining things I plan on doing as the year progresses.
I need to do better when it comes to relationships. I used to be really good at this. My very first boyfriend taught me how to put someone first. That boy had me running around town trying to figure out what to gift him. Not because it was his birthday or it was Valentines Day but because he was so good to me and I had to find ways to reciprocate. Loving him was easy. Then life happened and well, let’s just say I made not so clever decisions and ended up dating guys who didn’t take time to learn my love language and that was frustrating.
I’m taking time out for myself to love myself fiercely and learn exactly what I’m about and what makes me happy. I know I deserve all the love I keep giving to everyone else. I can’t keep hoping and wishing for the perfect match when I’m not practicing being a good person myself, how on earth will that work out? I made a decision on Valentines Day that the next time I’m in a relationship I’m winning that Girlfriend of The Year Award! I’m going to take time to learn what makes my partner happy and do exactly that and more.
Relationships are a two way street. Everyone wants to feel loved, adored and celebrated by their significant other. Ladies, let’s pay more attention to our men, sometimes we expect to always be the “takers” and give nothing back. Receiving gifts is lovely but take time to spoil your significant other as well; it doesn’t have to be anything out of this world, it really is the thought that counts at the end of the day.
Seeing that I’m in such a wonderful mood today I would like to do a give away some Golden Pilsener beers to two lucky readers. How to enter:
Ladies: What is one of the most memorable thing you have ever done for a guy you were dating?
Men: What gift have you received from a woman you were dating that knocked your socks off?
The ones with the best answer will win themselves a 6 pack each of Golden Pilsener. Don’t forget to take a screen shot of your comment and share it on social meida; don’t forget to use the hash tag #ShareTheGold
Share the moment. Share the experience. Share the gold.
This year I asked the men what they think would be the best gifts to received. After reading through the replies I came to a safe conclusion that this is the reason why they hardly ever get gifts. Wakanda madness is this?