Blogging about sex gets me all giddy. It’s winter this part of the world and personally when my mind isn’t busy with thinking of different ways to make money, blog better, spice up my runs; I’m definitely thinking about sex. If you’re getting some most times you don’t have time to think it you just do it. I asked a few of my readers to share with me some of their reasons why they aren’t getting laid regularly and this is what they had to say. Please note that my comments are in italics.
- Lack of attraction. Especially after spending a lot of time with someone and you now know how much of an ass they can be.
- Hygiene at bed time. I don’t know about you but I’m one of those people who are very fussy about this. I already take a bath before bedtime on my own and if we’re going to be sharing a bed best believe a bath shall take place. All that sweat from the entire day can’t be rubbing against me; mind you washing and ironing linen is NOT a fun activity.
- Love language. Every marriage or relationship has a love language or rhythm. There’s a spark that’s ignited when you do something that gets you turned on by your partner. Example; some women (me) get turned on by being given money or random acts of kindness. My pussy gets wet for days!
- Children. Once you have kids say goodbye to sex with loud vocals. You have to master the art of quiet sex and sometimes that’s the last thing you want to do. Having kids also comes with them randomly barging into your bedroom so you always have to make sure your room is locked up, sigh...
- Mood. Sadly for most women you are either in or not in the mood for sex and this works against men.
- Stress. For the most part the more problems you have the less likely you want to have sex.
- Weather. I agree with this one 100%. Sex when it’s hot isn’t the best of experiences, sex in winter though? AMAZING! But chances of taking off my clothes off are close to none, dude will have to insert his penis through a hole in my tights or something.
- Distance. My partner lives far away so getting sex regularly isn’t an actual thing.
- There’s no one readily available. I don’t know about you but this makes sex sound like a meal, which it probably is hey?
- Fatigue. I think it’s worse when the one person is pulling in all the weight. Imagine a situation in Zimbabwe were only one person is the bread winner and they still have to get home and cook, clean, take care of kids; the last thing on their mind is sex.
- Boredom. Newsflash! Sex does get boring especially if you don’t spice things up. It’s not encouraged to change partners because of it but perhaps imagining someone else might help? Then again life is short to be having boring sex…
- Different schedules. Everyone is busy with life, sometimes one person is working day time the other one on nights and you hardly get to see each other so that works against you.
- There’s no one to have sex with. Believe it or not but it’s not that you can’t get laid but the options that present themselves are just not what you would want to be getting freaky with. Can’t be accepting every dick thrown at you.
- My period. Period sex is a thing! That’s the time when most women are horniest, just know that it will be messy, try it at your own risk.
- Sometimes you are just tired at the end of a long day and you want to rest. Once I sleep I’m out cold. No chance of midnight strokes here…
- Lack of base (Zimbabwean slang for a place to have sex)). Living situations make things very complicated. Sometimes you are staying with your parents and your partner stays with perhaps her sister and husband. You might never get laid at all but if you have friends with their own places you might get lucky.
- I’m avoiding the question what are we. This sounds to me like a person who wants no strings attached relations, which is perfectly fine, it boils down to preference.
- Being with one partner for a long time. You now know all their moves, too much of the same thing and with zero creativity sex included is certainly not good for you.
- Strained relationships. Sex generally feels really good when you and your partner are getting along.
- Technology. We spend way too much time on our gadgets we rarely ever have time to even talk to each other. If someone isn’t on their phone, they’re watching something on TV or doing anything but taking time to speak to their partner. That right there kills all the fun.
I think one of the top reasons most people aren’t getting laid is because of body odour and bad breath. My suggestion? If you’re sharing a bed with someone methinks the first thing you should do when you wake up is go and brush your teeth and wash your face. Studies have shown that people have broken up over bad breath, for real for real.
From my findings a lot of people mentioned stress as a barrier to sex. What are you doing to help manage your stress?