Sex On The First Date

First dates are designed to produce a number of relationship outcomes. (e.g. sexual partner, friendship, short-term romantic relationship, or life partnership.) – Wikipedia

I don’t know about you but I know that sex is a pretty enjoyable experience.  Without it the world would probably be one very boring place!  A lot of people are not comfortable talking about sex, which is very much okay because we are different but unfortunately for you I love to go on and on about it as and when.  Today I want to share my thoughts on having sex on the first date.  It comes with a lot of controversy of course but look, dating as described above is a process that yields different outcomes so having sex or not largely depends on the individuals involved.


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First things first, you have to decide if you want to establish why you want to date.  With that out of the way your first date won’t be too awkward.  Below are some of the reasons why you should totally have sex on the first date.

  • Life is short!  Do you have any idea how you can go for weeks, months or even years without getting laid and here you are trying to deprive your lady bits of such pleasures?
  • If the chemistry is there there’s really no need to hold out on him, be a go getter!  Let’s just dive straight into dessert, who has time for the main meal, right?
  • You are confident that this is what you really want and you won’t start regretting it afterwards.
  • The earlier you have sex the better to save yourself time.  You might choose to wait for months only to be disappointed that time you have already caught feelings and now you end up staying with that person for all the wrong reasons!
  • Whatever you do just make sure you get yourself a shattering orgasm and not leave yourself unsatisfied.  Do you have any idea how lovely those sex hormones feel, not forgetting the after sex glow, you will be smiling for days to come.

However, I do understand that a lot of people, women especially have some reservations when it comes to having sex on the first date.  These are some of the reasons why having sex on the first date might not be a very bright idea.

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  • You probably don’t know enough about someone to let them into such an intimate part of your life.  Are you ready to deal with the demons that come with them?
  • Your partner might judge you for being too forward.
  • Say goodbye to your judgement.  Once you get some good dicking you can kiss thinking straight goodbye.  Most people get attached to someone once they have sex with them and if things happen to go wrong it will be difficult to let go.  Now you are stuck with a complete as*hole but the sex game is out of this world.  Good dick is NOT your friend!

I’ve read a couple of articles that encourage women to wait to have sex with their potential partner for 90 days. Apparently this will determine if someone will stay with you for the long haul.  Truth be told, some people had someone wait for a whole year and they still left!  After all is said and done someone will leave if they want to, whether you have sex with them on the first date or after 90 days.

There’s absolutely no formula to this whole sex on the first date thing.  It can work out for the good or the bad depending on the couple involved.  However, if you do decide to have sex whatever you do ALWAYS practice safe sex.  My thoughts still remain the same on the subject.  I’m too old to die from lust because a, b and c said you should do this.  I will do what I think is right for me because You Only Live Once!


What are your thoughts on sex on the first date or even better, care to share your experience on the subject?

©MaKupsy 2019





59 thoughts on “Sex On The First Date

  1. Sex on the first date – I fail to see the objection. Men are dogs – dictated by cliche, but at the same time it’s worth bearing in mind that the we’re all human and all need something going. Cliche would say that women don’t usually agree to it, bold face lies, they’re just not upfront about it in the same way men are.

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  2. Nothing wrong with sex on a first date except what people read into it. The whole thing about women being culturally groomed to be anti-sex and hold out, and men being ‘dogs’ as the lovely Kalifornication said, often means that women are judged for doing what comes naturally. I listened to a radio interview by a sista Australian author on her dating experiences post break up, and she said something interesting – that in western culture, being a cougar is the only time a woman is given permission to be sexually promiscuous or even just plain assertive! At any other age it is frowned upon by mainstream culture and we all imbibe that even if we think we don’t. So I’m all for sex on the first date, as long as you are doing it for your own self and not to please a man or any other non-genuine reason of having and loving the horn 😉

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  3. You was very open minded with this blog. You really broke this down step by step.
    I feel like do what’s best for you.
    If you decide to have sex on the first date, make sure to wear a condom.
    Unprotected sex on the first night is way too risky.
    Only time I think sex on the first night is bad is when you just met the guy at a bar or party and he invite to a hotel or in his car. To me that’s tacky.
    But if a guy takes a woman out on a date and proves himself as a gentleman then it’s not too bad. I still would recommend to wait like at least 4 or 5 dates but sex on the first date is not too bad neither

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    • I completely agree! There are so many dynamics when it comes to sex on the first date. If for example it’s someone you have been talking to for months on end then perhaps they aren’t a complete stranger and when you do decide to have sex precautions should certainly be in order. As for meeting someone at a bar and having sex with them right there and then, now that’s something I wouldn’t recommend. AT ALL, but then again different strokes for different folks right?
      Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts.

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  4. Well constructed piece as usual. I like how it touches on both sides i.e the pros and cons. I have never experienced sex on the first date. Usually my first dates are all to do with just talking and getting to know each other. I am not against it however. I live with the YOLO mantra and the Life is too short mantra so either you do it now or never. So yeah go for it if you feel you need it. Because you may never get it.

    Great work!

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    • 🙂
      We all look at life differently and that’s completely fine, it’s what makes us unique. I like the fact that you get to know your potential candidate and it sounds like you would like something solid from the next person.
      However, lately people date for different reasons and for some sex is the reason. Shocking right? Happy to note that you still live by the YOLO mantra because you never know what good might come out of stepping out of your comfort zone.
      Thank you for reading and for your contribution Tavonga.

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    • Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Yes, not everyone is for the idea that’s why I tried to balance out the piece. I think at the end of the days as long as people talk about this before hand there shouldn’t be a problem. 🙂

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  7. i don’t see any harm in sex on the first date if that’s what feels right at the time. The dating “rules” do more harm than good somtimes.. I know soo many people that have developed relastionships after having just a one night stand!

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    • Thank you Sonya. I believe someone somewhere will always benefit from my random rants. In our culture it’s close to taboo to talk about sex and yet everyone has sex, what a contradiction right?


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