It Ain’t Where I’ve Been But Where I’m About To Go

I’m a mother.  The father of my child and I separated a few years ago.  I was bitter, heartbroken and mad at the world for the longest time.  I felt like the world owed me something for all the pain I was going through.  It took me a whole 5 years to finally get out of that zone.

One morning I woke up and asked myself, what would happen if something were to happen to the father of my child and I had to look after her on my own?  Would I remain bitter or would I have to gather myself up and show up for my one and only daughter?  I chose the latter.  I stopped sending him never ending text messages wishing him ill, I stopped crying myself to sleep every other night, I stopped complaining about how I hated my job, I stopped speaking negative things into my life and chose to start working on myself one day at a time.  I realised it was time to get my shit in order and the moment I made that decision and started taking action; my life has been full.

This video stirred so many emotions within me.  It brought back flash backs of some of the things I’ve gone through in the past but still came out stronger and wiser.  It will take some of your time to watch this but every single minute will be worth it, I promise.

These are some of the lessons I learnt from the video:

  • Success leaves clues, we’re just not picking them up.
  • Go through every toxic behaviour in your life and start unlearning bad habits.
  • My job is to like myself everyday.
  • You can’t take everyone with you on your transformation journey.
  • It takes more than one thing to change your life, it takes EVERYTHING.

I would like to know what lessons you learnt from watching this video?  Please share this post with as many people as you can, it will change a life.

©MaKupsy 2020

9 thoughts on “It Ain’t Where I’ve Been But Where I’m About To Go

  1. I came across this video on you at a time of bitterness and sorrow in my life. It is truly inspirational and eye opening. I love watching motivational videos and ted talks ever so often. Than you for sharing a piece of your past experiences with us.

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    • Sending you warm hugs. I hope you managed to work through your pain and you’re in a better space.

      Please send me some of the links to your favourite motivational videos, I would love to check them out.


  2. I have anyways thought that period of “anger” at the end of a relationship is necessary. Especially if you are the aggrieved party. It’s OK to feel whatever you are feeling at that time. One just should let that fire burn for too long without using it to fire themselves up to a higher level of being. Am glad the thought of your child’s future got you out of that place. I do wish we had more discussion in this world about the okayness of feeling wronged when you have been. I worry that most people never process that feeling out of fear of being called bitter and those who wrong is often never know how much has they have done

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    • I think this is why some people end up hopping from one relationship to the next. It’s probably a way of trying to avoid feeling the pain from past relationships. Unfortunately it always comes back to haunt you, we all need time to experience the moments we’re going through to the fullest, whether it’s happy or sad moments because that’s what makes us human.
      Thank you for reading through and sharing your thoughts.


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