Her Throbbing Confession

Going celibate was voluntary but sex had been on her mind for the longest time.  You would think after a this much time her pussy would know better, no sex was coming and that was that.  Gosh it had really been 3 months, 3 months of ignoring her natural desires and complaining about it to her friend every single waking moment.  It’s not that she couldn’t get laid, there’s always someone a text message away who could easily quench her thirst; what she wanted was not just dick but some quality dick that would leave her deeply satisfied.  It was a Wednesday evening and Janice had just arrived at her friends apartment for a drink up.  If she wasn’t getting laid at least she was going to enjoy a night with her friend Sharon and stop thinking about when her pussy was going to get screwed so hard she wouldn’t remember her name…

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“Sorry babes I have a date with Nate so I won’t be able to come through on time, I had totally forgotten about it but make yourself at home.  Will catch up soon as I’m home.  I’ll make up for it.*winks*”

Well isn’t that a bummer!  I really wanted to complain some more about how I need to get laid, so much for that, at least one of us is getting some.

Janice quickly unlocked the door to her friends apartment and headed straight to her lounge.  She plopped herself into her favourite bean bag, that was the coolest spot in the entire place and she loved it there.  Straight to business she unpacked a bottle of wine from her shopping bag, uncorked it and poured in half a glass and enjoyed the first sip like she had never ever had wine her entire life!  She switched on the TV and selected the audio channel and started to undress.  The one thing she absolutely loved about Sharon’s place was just how big the place was, so much space to go about naked.  She wasn’t feeling hungry but had bought a few snacks so those would have to do for later.  She headed straight to the bathroom and enjoyed a refreshing hot shower, by the time she was done her wine had chilled to just the temperature she liked.

She was either just beyond horny or having wine on a not so full stomach had her already feeling tipsy but either way she loved the way her bathrobe was feeling rubbing against her nipples.  She poured herself another glass of wine and the next song on the playlist didn’t help matters,

“Let me lick you up and down till you say stop”

Silk really was all about sex in that song!  Janice started thinking about sex all over again.  That last encounter with Sharon really left her pussy throbbing.  I mean, who goes around giving her friend such erotic body rubs.  Janice had complained about feeling fatigue and the next thing Sharon was helping her undress and rubbing down the pain.  She had seen her naked countless times before but on this day her soft, perfectly shaped body was making her feel things that were clearly new to her so she had to ask her to stop.  Sharon took offence though because she genuinely wanted to help with a massage of sort but Janice knew this was probably a very bad idea.  Now that she was thinking about it all over again Janice couldn’t help but touch herself, her nipples were rock hard by now and she clearly needed another glass of wine.

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We’re home!  Sharon barged in and interrupted Janice’s thoughts.  Janice quickly got up and tied up her bathrobe and gave her friend a warm welcoming hug.  Sharon had obviously had one three many and was giggling and speaking too loudly.  Janice headed to close the door but Sharon told her they had company, Nate was sleeping over.

How wonderful, Janice thought, now I won’t get a chance to catch up and these two are probably going to have sex and this is going to leave me beyond the word frustrated!

Nate walked in, nothing to write home about.  Just a normal guy with a beautiful smile though but that was just about it.  Warm greetings, random questions about everyday life and both Nate and Sharon were ready for bed.  It was nearly 10 pm, tomorrow was a working day anyway so rest was clearly needed.

Janice woke up to sex sounds from the next room.  She had to cover her ears to stop herself from asking the gods to swallow her.  Could her life get any worse?  I mean this was someone who was already sexually frustrated and now had to deal with a pair going at it like rabbits in the next room.  She could hear Sharon screaming all sorts of obscenity and she was clearly enjoying every second of it. A part of Janice wanted to go and knock and complain but the other part was feeling naughty so she hopped out of bed and tip toed to Sharon’s bedroom door and started to listen in.  She imagined all the things that Nate was probably doing to her friend.  He was probably giving her some pretty good tongue right about now, probably lifted her back and made sure she could feel every inch of his tongue slurping her pussy juices.

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The sex noises were getting more and more real, Janice was caught between wanting to walk right in or going to her room and playing with herself.  She couldn’t believe just how horny she had gone in a space of seconds.  Her clit was as hard as a marble and all she could now picture was herself sitting on Nate’s face and having him eat her pussy up while Sharon was sucking on his dick and taking her time to touch it, tease, taste it, kiss it and then finally sliding it right into her very hot and wet pussy.  That first stroke…that first stroke is the most important stroke of all and it makes you feel like you’re walking on clouds, the pleasure that comes with the first stroke will make you realise just how good dick can leave you so fucking confused.

At that very thought, Sharon’s door was opened and Nate stood stark naked in front of accompanied by his very hard and very mouth-watering looking dick in front of her very eyes!

©MaKupsy 2017

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Love Is Winning In 2018!

I have declared 2018 to be my year of love.  Most of my love stories have ended on a disastrous note usually with me suffering a serious case of heart break but not this year.  This year my love life is going to flourish, I’m going to love out loud and I’m going to share a lovely post on how love has won this time around before the year ends.  I feel something positive coming my way!

For some reason love and music seem to go hand in hand for me and there’s this Afrofusion artist who has stolen my heart musically!  His name is Ashton Mbeu Nyahora and he is part of the group; Mbeu and The Mhodzi Tribe.  If you don’t know him you are obviously living under a rock. Think love, celebrating women, daily struggles in our country and celebrating life.  He sings it all.

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I got in touch with him and asked him what or who influences him musically;

Everything around me influences my music and I owe my mentoring to Dr. Oliver Mtukudzi. To date we still go and seek advice from him, he is a fountain of wisdom.” – Ashton Mbeu

A few facts about Mbeu and The Mhodzi Tribe:

  • Ashton’s family wanted him to join the army but his chose his musical passion instead.
  • The genre of their music is called Mhodzi Music but their fans prefer to call it Afrofusion; the group is not afraid to experiment with different genres.
  • Mbeu and The Mhodzi tribe  are all professional and full time musicians working towards penetrating the international platform.
  • The age groups of the band members vary from 22 to 28 years old.

This is one of my favourite tracks, I even have it on my running playlist!

You can get in touch with the band on Facebook (@MbeuTheMhodziTribeBand) they are very responsive on that platform.

My personal favourites by the band are:

  1. Mbeuyashe
  2. Dhabuka
  3. Ndapfugama
  4. Chawakandidira
  5. Hazvineyi

As I was saying; love is beautiful, relationships are oh so lovely.  However when you get into a relationship I hope and pray that you and your partner take time to talk about what your relationship is about and which direction it’s taking.  Be clear about what it is you want and need.  The year is 2018 refuse to waste your time on things that don’t grow you, relationships included.🤗

How’s your new year coming along?  Have you started working on your resolutions as yet?  Have you listened to Mbeu and The Mhodzi Tribe before?  If yes, what are some of your favourite songs?  If not, what are you waiting for???

©MaKupsy 2017

I’m Emotionally Exhausted

It’s the beginning of a new year and you would think I would be excited and looking forward to a fresh start or better yet a continuation of the beautiful things I was working on last year.  I had such a refreshing getaway to end my 2017 but when I came back home to face my realities I realised that I’m not feeling too good after all.  I’m not physically ill but emotionally exhausted.  The worst part is that it’s affecting my creativity in a very bad way.

I think I’m on the verge of a burnout and I need to do myself some good and take a step back and figure out what exactly I’m entertaining or not that’s bringing me so much melancholy.  I’ve been using music as a coping mechanism and the one song I listen to every single morning is Wrecking Ball by Miley Cyrus.  It probably touches on some issues I’m going through but listening to it is a bad idea because I end up feeling worse instead of better; but still I listen to it!

I’m exhausted from trying to be stronger than I feel…

MaKupsy 2017

Stay In Your Lane

When you finally find yourself you will stop trying to pace yourself against the world.  You will sit down and figure out it is you are really about.  It’s only now, in my 30’s that I’m learning what really makes me me.  I still find it strange that it probably means this whole time I was just existing and not living.  Or better yet, I was living up to society’s standards and having those standards take a toll on me mentally and physically.  It takes a great deal of self introspection to get to this happy place but trust me when it happens your life will never be the same again.

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We have already established that I love all things bright and beautiful but they come at a price called sacrifice!  In the past I’ve limited my needs and desires because I felt that some things were financially out of my reach or the prices were too prohibitive.  It took a lot of reading and talking to other people who have some of the things I want to realise that in order to achieve your goals you need to evaluate your personal circumstances and then prioritise your needs.   If you try and do too many things at once you will lose focus and end up not having achieved anything at all.

I’ve lived in an apartment in town all my adult life and the convenience of walking to work and having my own space has been the best feeling ever!  However, I have a new goal and it comes at a very high price and it meant me having to relocate from town in order to save money.  Change is not easy, it’s very uncomfortable but I keep reminding myself that in a few months time I would have accomplished what I set out to achieve.  The beauty of it all is that this is something that I want, not something my friends or family want but a personal goal and so attaining it won’t feel like a mammoth task…What are you willing to sacrifice for the things you want or need? 

“If you continuously compete with others you become bitter, but if you continuously compete with yourself you become better.”

There’s nothing wrong with comparing yourself with your peers.  Sometimes I go through and like a dozen photographs of my successful family and friends on Instagram doing amazing things in different areas of their lives.  I would be lying if I said sometimes I don’t feel a little bit envious because let’s face it some people are doing way better than me.  However, a little bit of envy never hurt anyone, used positively it can help you set your personal bar higher and aim to achieve greater things.  Be mindful though, you don’t want to end up feeling jealous, bitter or malicious; remind yourself that we can’t possibly all have the same things.

Whatever you do, don’t stop being grateful for what you currently have.  Accept your situation and work on improving it.  There is so much more joy in celebrating what’s already there than wallowing in misery for what you don’t have(yet).

These are some of my favourite quotes that help me to remain sane and focused:

  • Your attitude determines your direction.
  • Difficult roads often lead to beautiful destinations.
  • I’m too busy working on my own grass to see if yours is greener.
  • Everything comes to you in the right moment, be patient, be grateful.
  • Beach more, worry less 🙂

What are some of the sacrifices you have had to make in order to reach your personal goals?  What lesson did you learn from the experience?

©MaKupsy 2017

 

 

10 Reasons I Crush On Yemi Alade

I have a major woman crush on  Yemi Alade!  I’ve tried to hide it for a couple of weeks now but I can’t help myself anymore, Yemi is going all out to make you notice her whether you listen to Nigerian music or not.  Below are some of my favourite things about her:

  1. Her creativity juices abundantly flow.  She doesn’t restrict herself to singing one genre of music, now that’s creativity!
  2. She is confident, you just have to see her in action to know this.
  3. She is hard working, her videos are not mediocre, you can see a lot of work has been put in.
  4. She is a happy person, if you’re anything like me and stalk her every once in a while you would know this from her photos.
  5. She has a contagious smile.

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  6. Yemil Alade has the body of a goddess!  Talk about having lady lumps in the right places.  Her thick thighs are definitely saving someones life 🙂
  7. She has her dance moves on lock.  Just watch any of her videos, she isn’t just sitting about looking pretty, she’s putting her back in it!
  8. Her fashion sense is amazing.  Never a dull moment in her wardrobe, think bold and loud colours, she’s wearing them.
  9. Big hair lives here.  She goes all out with different hairstyles mainly natural hair looks and occasionally something not so natural, either way she is always rocking it.
  10. The reason why I crush on her the most is that she sings in her own language.  I have no idea what she will be singing the greater part of the time but the rhythm always gets me excited.

This is my favourite Yemi Alade video. She went out and went straight into Salsa!  Now that ladies and gentleman is what I call breaking musical barriers.  I can never get enough of this woman, she’s definitely won my heart…musically that is 🙂

What’s your favourite song by Yemi Alade?

©MaKupsy 2017

My 6 Year Old Is Being Bullied

Never in my wildest dreams did I think preschool children bullied each other.  I mean these are supposed to be sweet and innocent little human beings, where could they possibly get a mean streak from?  Turns out I was wrong, very wrong and my daughter told me the most heart breaking thing a few weeks ago.

Me: What are your favourite things in the whole wide world?

Miss Kupsy: Pizza, going to school, princess dresses and exercising with mummy.

Me: Aww sweetheart, isn’t that lovely.

Miss Kupsy: But Alex from school pinches and smacks me sometimes…

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I gave my daughter a warm tight hug and asked her to tell me more about the incidents.  She told me that the boys were twins but only one of them gave her grief.  He apparently drinks her juice, pinches and smacks her and sometimes takes her lunch.  I was gutted!  I have never smacked her at all and here is this little person making school a nightmare for my daughter!!  I instinctively told her that she should fight back (which by the way isn’t even in her nature) but also realised that it would probably make the situation worse for her and that there surely should be another way of handling the situation.  She didn’t want to dwell on the subject any further and asked we change the subject, which we did but I had to do something about it.  I spoke to her teacher who confirmed that the little boy was indeed a problem and they had taken to smacking him whenever any child reported his behaviour and that my daughter is not the only one being picked on, there were plenty more who were victims.  Thankfully schools closed and she won’t have to face him again because she’s off to grade school.

However, I still feel that this isn’t going to end here.  I know this too well, I experienced bullying first hand and it’s not a pleasant space to find yourself in.  The form of bullying I had to deal with was isolation.  School children can be evil little creatures!

You would think bullying would stop by a certain age right?  Unfortunately for me I had more bullying in store for me in my adult life!  This time it was in the form of cyber bullying. Turns out my blog wasn’t “cool enough” to be regarded as a blog.  My writing style didn’t conform to what bloggers from my country were used to and it wasn’t a themed blog as well.  I would sit and read the most hurtful comments and wonder what exactly was wrong with being different?  I wanted and still want my blog to be a reflection of me, I have multiple layers to me, why should I restrict myself to being one set thing? 

I spoke to my close friend about my daughter being bullied and she recommended that I teach her to be bald and fight back.  I think enrolling her in a self defence class of sort will actually be to her advantage.  As women, we aren’t actually taught how to defend ourselves, if anything we are given a whole list of chores we should be able to do by a certain age and absolutely nothing on our own safety!

A male friend suggested speaking to the authorities at school the next time it happens, or better still to confront the parents of whoever gives my daughter grief, that way it would help tackle the situation head on.

According to Google; “Long-term bullying can lead to depression and feelings that you are worthless. Some of these effects can last for a long time, even into adulthood. A person who is bullied may become an adult who finds it hard to trust others, has problems making or keeping friends and lacks in confidence or self-worth.”

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I want the best for my daughter and I don’t ever want her to let one of the things that make her happy be the same thing that brings her sadness.  School is clearly her happy place and I would be more than thankful if you have any ideas or suggestions on how I can help her take care of herself at school in my absence.  I’m welcome to ideas, as long as they don’t involve her becoming a mean little person, she’s a little angel and I would like her to stay that way for as long as possible.

Have you experienced bullying?  How did you tackle the situation?  What makes people bully others?  Please help me understand this madness, I’m losing my mind!

©MaKupsy 2017

 

 

 

 

 

There Is Life After December

Hello December, I can’t believe you’re back again.  It feels like just a few months ago I was outside in the rain screaming “Happy New Year!”.  Rain is symbolic of new beginnings and trust me getting soaked in the rains on New Year’s Eve was definitely a good thing for me because it certainly washed away a lot of negativity from my life.  A lot of new things happened this year; I will bombard you with details when the year ends so worry not!  This year my energy was focused on becoming a better person each day and it worked a lot of magic in my life.  What sort of person would I be if I didn’t share some of the sparkle that came with the year 2017 if I keep it to myself?  Read on and find out why December is an extra special month.

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I know we are all in party mode and living out best lives but today I’m going to be a party pooper and here to remind you that there is life after December.  It’s all fun and games when we are having an entire bottle of wine with our supper everyday until the rent is due and we are the definition of broke.  Here are a few tips on how you can have a great time and still keep your head afloat come January.  It won’t be easy but it will be worth your while, you don’t want to find yourself suffering from “January Disease.”

  • The moment you get paid make sure you pay all your expenses that is rent, lighting, transport, whatever the expenses might be pay them up before you start blowing your pay cheque.
  • If you are a parent pay up your child(ren)’s fees for the following term, don’t even think twice about this.
  • Set aside a few dollars in case of any form of emergency.
  • You can read more tips on how to be financially fit from here.

I don’t even know why I’m reminding you about this in December because I trust this is something you already do throughout the year.  Then again like I mentioned earlier on, December is party season so you know chances of you losing the plot are highly likely.

I’m currently the image you will see standing right next to broke if you look it up in the dictionary but it’s all for a good cause because I know when my December pay cheque comes through I’m going to blow it and enjoy every moment of it because I have covered all the important things and I’m sleeping peacefully at night.

Whatever you do make saving a big part of your life. You don’t have to save huge amounts but a little goes a long way.  If you can be responsible with small amounts imagine how you will flourish with big amounts?

What are your December tips on spending?  Do you go all out and enjoy and then worry about money after it’s gone or you have a plan in action?  Please share, I would love to hear from you.

Make it a December to remember! 

©MaKupsy 2017

10 Things Better Than Sex

“Here lies X, they died from lack of sex.”   I would like to believe there is no tombstone in the history of human kind with those words on it and that shows you that there are truly other things that are better than sex.  Let me tell you some of things I know can bring you such feel good hormones sex will be the last thing on your mind.  Prepare to be amazed!

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  1. Credit bank alert!  Especially the one that comes when you are dead broke and all you have between you and poverty is your empty wallet.
  2. Free WiFi.  Picture walking into a restaurant and after ordering your meal your phone picks up WiFi signal and it’s free!  Best believe you are going to be ordering more coffee to compliment your food; you will definitely be sitting around to enjoy updating your phone and searching for all sorts!  Data is expensive this side of the world so free WiFi will make anyone happy.  Do you know any restaurants in Harare that offer free WiFi?
  3. Masturbation.  If there is one thing everyone should do if they intend to have great sex, it’s to masturbate.  How else will you get to know the ins and outs of your body if you don’t spend time learning it.  Great part is that an orgasm is ALWAYS guaranteed.
  4. Great conversation.  Ever spent hours on end talking to someone over the phone and you just wished your phone had never ending battery life.  I know sapiosexuals can relate to this.  Nothing beats someone who makes your mind tick!
  5. Alcohol.  Nothing to make you happy like a strong drink(vokda) of your choice.  It makes everything better.  Which drink takes you to a happy?
  6. Winning the lottery!  I would like to believe you have dreams and aspirations which you wish would materialise if you had money.  Guess what, if you won the lottery all that and more could come true.  My question is, are you playing the lottery?  If not, how do you expect to win the lottery??
  7. Running water.  After a long day at work the first thing I want to do when I get home is enjoy a relaxing bath.  You only realise the importance of running water after you go for a week without it.  I would rather enjoy a bath than have sex if I’m really honest with myself.
  8. #BlogIndaba and I’m not even saying this to try and sell you an idea.  There is never a dull moment when the Bloggers on this platform come together.  The engagement on different topics leaves you wanting to read and research more on issues that affect us all.  It’s a great place to unwind.
  9. A good morning text.  I don’t know about you but waking up to a message from the one person who you are foolishly and happily in love with is one of the best feelings in the entire world!
  10. Hearing that Mugabe has resigned!  After having the same president for a whole 37 years no feeling can compare to this.

What’s on your list of things that are better than sex?  Show me yours, I’ve shown you mine 🙂

© MaKupsy 2017

Friends Are Like Breasts

“Friends are like breasts, you’ve got big ones, small ones, real ones, and fake ones.”

I’m that one person who has very few friends.  I can safely say I have just 5 close friends and it’s a great feeling; I have way less drama in my life thanks to that.  These friends are in trouble though, we share the most random life experiences and I promise you if anyone went  Over the years I have lost and found new friends at different phases of my life but one thing stands true, all of my friendships have come with both positive and negative lessons which I will write about at a later time.  Today let me share my thoughts on how you can keep the sparkle in your friendship.

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Shami & MaKupsy 🙂

Communication

Friendships just like relationships take a lot of work.  Thankfully technology has made life easier for everyone and most people have access to WhatsApp, Skype, phone calls, social media platforms, think Facebook; there really is no excuse not to stay in touch.  If you plan on staying friends for a while you have to make sure you take regular communication seriously.

Spending Time Together

Yes ladies, you know how we always complain about that guy who only texts but never makes an effort to meet up and see you on a face to face date?  No prize for guessing that the same thing applies to friendship!  Make an effort to meet up in person as often as you can to do activities you both like.  I know one of my close friends has a “no phones policy” when we go out on dates, she believes it’s important to give each other 110% attention when we finally get to spend time together because cellphones are generally disruptive and I now completely agree!

Space

There is a huge difference between catching up and suffocating your friend.  Don’t be that friend who doesn’t understand the art of leaving someone alone with their thoughts.  It’s perfectly fine to go a day or two without talking to a close friend, life is happening to all of us and sometimes spending an entire day chatting away about nothing is not the most productive thing to do.  It’s welcome on most days but certainly not on all days.  If you are this person, please give your friend some space.

Surprises

I would have said gifts but everyone’s language of love is different.  I remember the one time I was crazy in love about shoes and my best friend Tanya, who happens to be all the way in South Africa got me a pair of designer heels for my birthday.  I was in tears of joy the entire day thinking of how she planned for weeks to get the shoes to me on my birthday without ever showing a hint of what she was up to.  She knows my language of love is all things pretty if that’s even a language but she gets me.  You know what your friend values the most, whatever it is, make an effort to go out of your way and get it done for them.  Here’s a free idea, get someone to clean their house and do their laundry and iron it so that they come back home they get back to a sparkling clean house!

*P.S. Surprise money is also nice*

Honesty

If your friend is always in agreement and never questions your choices or decisions is that even a friend?  At some point you will mess up and you will need someone to hand it out to you in black and white, no sugar coating, no playing nice; just the hard truth.  They will also give you advice on how best to deal with a situation because criticism without a way forward is pointless.  When your friend is losing the plot be the one to remind them, good friends look out for each other.

Grow Together

Grow in all aspects.  Physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.  What’s the point of being friends if you remain exactly the same?  Most of my friends are book worms, they are always studying for some programme of sort and it’s only natural that it rubs onto me.  The last time I was on a coffee date with Chenge she encouraged me to take up an online course which I delayed on taking any action on until a few weeks ago.  You see, our lunch dates are productive after all!

These are my top tips on how to keep the spice in your friendship.  I know there are a lot more of where those came from but I would like to hear from you.  What do you do to maintain the friendship connections in your life?  I’ve observed that men don’t seem to do a lot of work to maintain their friendships.  How do you men do it?  Please share your secrets!

That said, when it comes to the sort of breast friend I am, I’m right up there with the “real breasts, have you seen the size of my breasts?! *insert forever laughing emoji here*

©MaKupsy 2017

 

 

 

 

 

No Romance Without Finance!

You better get a J.O.B if you wanna be with me!  Dating has just gone to that next level if you ask me.  Gone are the days you used to enjoy leisurely walks, go for a picnic or enjoy ice-cream cones with your significant other.  These days it’s about how much money a man pursuing you can splurge on a date.  Goodbye creativity because as far as I have observed the most that will happen is a night out of drinking expensive alcohol and actually not getting to talk to and get to know the next person.  It leaves me asking myself, why are people dating?

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There’s a world of reasons why people decide to date:

  1. Dating for companionship
  2. Dating for sex
  3. Dating for free food
  4. Dating to have someone take care of your financial needs
  5. Dating to find a life partner
  6. Dating out of loneliness

There are obviously more reasons why people date but those are the first few that crossed my mind.

One of my male Blogger friends said;

“A lot of Zimbabwean men are too eager to spend money on women.  Not even in the club when you’re trying to take her home for a one-nighter but when looking for an actual relationship men do the most!”

Some men date for fun and if that’s your cup of tea by all means let that money fall on the flavour of the night; after all you have nothing to lose even if it involves you selling your belongings or ending up neck deep in debt trying to impress a woman then go ahead. From what I hear and read everything men do is to get laid.  They work hard to get more money to buy fancy cars, phones, homes so that they can get laid!  It is after all to make an impression and get between her legs right?  You get laid, she gets a fancy night or two out everyone is happy, yes, no, maybe?

Most women love things, me included but it seems most of them are taking this loving things a bit too far.  Just the other day there was talk on Twitter about how Zimbabwean women want things that they can barely afford and expect whoever they are dating to provide it for them.  Example, demanding a date at Victoria 22 that time you can’t even afford to buy a single glass of wine if you tried to go there on your own.  Dear Zimbabwean men, there is nothing wrong with your woman wanting nice things but if you can’t afford it it’s perfectly okay to tell her that it won’t be happening anytime soon.  At the same time, ladies, if you can’t afford to go there yourself then maybe just maybe try and go somewhere else and come back when it’s something you can both afford?  Then again most people date someone who can upgrade them in all aspects and if you are dating someone who can’t upgrade you then maybe you need to reevaluate things?  Or maybe that’s just too drastic it is after all just a date!

Money makes the world go round but it’s the same money that will ruin a perfectly great relationship if you don’t address the issue in the right light from the get go.  I love beautiful things, I really do; but I want to enjoy well thought out dates that show creativity and have a personal touch to them that will leave me with a beautiful memory for years to come.

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What are your thoughts; is dating about money?  Do you think your potential or current significant other should break their budget to impress you or there are other ways of winning your heart that don’t come in the form of spending?

Should we be going out of control on dates? Is it necessary? Desired? A turn off? Ladies do you like it? Men do you like it? Both when it’s done to you and if or when you have to do it?  So many questions and I would love to hear your answers.

We have an exciting blogging group on WhatsApp (Blog Indaba); its a meeting place for Bloggers who want to improve their blogging and if you would like to be a part of it no matter where in the world you are, please contact me so that you can join in the fun.

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