To Bleach Or Not To Bleach?

Experts say 1 in every 3 women in Africa bleach their skin. If there was a way to carry out skin bleaching that didn’t come with major side effects I’ve read about and seen with my own eyes I’d be first in line to try it out.   I have what I think are dark and unsightly knuckles and they kill my confidence sometimes.  You don’t get to choose the knuckles you want but it would be nice to have pretty ones that don’t look like they can be mistaken for feet.

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My knuckles

Waking up sometime in October to news that my favourite Dancehall singer, Spice; had bleached her skin must have been the most devastating thing that happened to me this year.  Sounds very contradictory considering I said I would give skin bleaching a try; well, hands bleaching in my case.  I was shocked that Spice would want to tamper with bleaching her skin because she’s gorgeous, her skin is unmarred and most of all she’s a talented singer and songwriter.  Why on earth would she think she needed to bleach her skin with all these positive things going on for her?  Oh, I know why…because society has drilled it in our heads that light skin equates to all things beautiful.

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Spice (Jamaican Dancehall Artist)

Turns out Spice had a new video coming up and she found a way to capture our attention!  When it comes to social media I’ve learnt that if you  want to trend you have to hop onto what everyone is currently talking about.  Spice took colourism to a whole new level when her makeup artist made her look like she had gone yellow bone on us.  This topic isn’t just something we talk about now it’s something that we’ve BEEN talking about for years.  She found a great concept to showcase the issue at hand and I love how she refers to her skin as, “Melanin dripping honey” in her music video. That right there is black power.

I’m a mother to a little girl. I remind her that she is beautiful.  I don’t want her to feel inadequate.  She has pretty little fingers and I’ve taught her how to take care of them.  I only found out how to do so a few months ago.  She gets to grow up with better looking hands than mine and hopefully pass on the routine to her children some day.

Growing up I wasn’t told dark skin was beautiful. Were you?

©MaKupsy 2018

 

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The Hangover Stop Over

I’ve since stopped getting hangovers.  Maybe the number one reason is because I know what drink does or doesn’t agree with me.  Then there’s this thing where alcohol is now expensive in Zimbabwe and if you happen to find your favourite drink it’s highly likely that you have to pay for it in United States Dollars; from whence will I get that money I ask?  Oh, I also have this water drinking addiction so for the most part I’m well hydrated.

However, months ago I wasn’t very wise and chose to experiment with a drink I hadn’t had before and that didn’t work out well.  The next morning I woke up with the mother of all hangovers and cooking for myself was NOT an option.  My friend and I decided we would take a drive into town and get our hangover fix.  None of our favourite spots were open…

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Sadza; The Best Hangover Cure Ever!

It was only an hour later than I remembered there was a dingy place I once went to but didn’t get to eat the food because they put soup on top of my vegetables.  I hate that! (yes, I’m petty) I made sure that on this day I specifically told them not to do that and they plated my food just the way I like it.  I don’t know about you but something about food that men make makes it extra savoury.  My chicken was grilled to perfection, sadza was just the right texture and the cabbage was soft and tasted buttery, I promise they put a secret ingredient in there! I’m a white meat lover so I cleared my plate and also had my friends share of fried cabbage because I love vegetables that much.

What I loved about this meal was that there were no additives.  Most of the places you go to have food that doesn’t taste good, at all.  You wonder who told people that you have to add soup powder and spices in everything you cook.  Sometimes the best meal is packed with the original taste.

This meal was the highlight for the year 2018.  Soon after eating this I felt human again and I was ready to take a hot bath, a nap and get back to drinking something else, that dear reader is what Saturday’s are made of 🙂

What’s your go to meal when you want to cure a hangover?  If you don’t drink what’s that one food you crave the most and you have to have at all costs?

You might also want to check out a post I wrote on why sadza is a big deal over here.

©MaKupsy 2018

 

I Want To Be Forever Young!

I always make sure I get myself something beautiful for my birthday.  This year the plan was to go for a well deserved full body massage and get myself a beautiful jacket in preparation for winter.  Running for 4 straight years without ever getting some TLC for your body is no joke.  Unfortunately I missed that massage because when they called to confirm my appointment I was completely stoned and I wasn’t going to make it.  I’d also booked that massage a whole month ahead so I’d completely forgotten about it as well.  Sigh…  This year my birthday fell on a Thursday.  In my head I was just like it’s going to be just a normal day. I wasn’t expecting anything from anyone.

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I absolutely love flowers.  My friend (we’ve been very close friends for 6 years and counting) sent through this beautiful bouquet to my office.  He hadn’t even mentioned anything about my birthday so I assumed he forgot.  Couple that with never exchanging birthday gifts in all the years this certainly came as a pleasant surprise.

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Glorious Food 🙂

My friend and prayer partner took me out for lunch.  She picked me up from work and we had the most delicious meal together.  We ordered fruit juice that we highly regretted because it tasted horrible but my the food was mouth watering, just thinking about it is making me hungry.

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Happiness in a bottle

Jacobs Coffee is the best coffee in the entire world.  If you think otherwise, how can we still be friends?  My friend who has been in my life for nearly 7 years now surprised me with an Ecocash Notification.  It’s official, money is my love language!  I decided to grab a few of my favourite things including Oh So Heavenly foot butters and hand lotions.  Unfortunately I don’t have the pictures in my phone anymore but I used part of the money to purchase the things in the image above as well.

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More Flowers 🙂

I’m such a sucker for flowers it’s unreal!  These were from a secret admirer.  I still don’t know who chose to make me this happy.

The fragrance I got has to be the highlight of the day.  I had been actually looking at my collection thinking where in the world was I going to get the next bottle from because the prices in Zimbabwe are crazy!  The place where I buy my signature pieces from is currently charging nearly four times what you see when you shop online.  I’ve treasured this fragrance and only used it on special occasions.  I still don’t know how to pronounce it properly but I love it all the same.

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You should have seen my Twitter(@FitnessBaeInt) mentions on the day.  I spent the entire day replying to birthday messages.  I was overwhelmed with heartfelt messages.  However, I’ll soon be disabling my birthday from there.  The pressure is too much, I can’t do another year it.

What was your birthday like this year?  What’s that one thing you loved about it?  If you haven’t celebrated it yet, what are you planning for your big day?

©MaKupsy 2018

 

 

 

The Making Of Mambokadzi

I came to the realisation that KikkyBadAss is the only female Zimbabwean Hip Hop Personality that I know who hypes herself A LOT.  She has a daring creativity.  She’s the one female rapper I know who is comfortable in her skin, speaks her mind and plays no games when it comes to pursuing her passion.  Last year she scooped two awards for Best Female and People’s Choice at the Zimbabwe Hip Hop Awards.  Enter 2018 and she’s on the nominees list yet again and I did my fair share of voting; true to her words she has been working hard on getting her shine on.

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KikkyBadAss

“Peace of mind in times of war help me get some clarity”  KikkyBadAss

A few weeks ago she dropped her EP titled Mambokadzi (A Queen).   A Queen is strong, an inspiration and a goal getter and KikkyBadAss mirrors these qualities.  After she shared her story with me it all made sense.  KikkyBadAss has been through a lot in the past year; her music has been her form of expressive therapy.  She wrote her album during a very dark time.  She went through a miscarriage, she had to let go of a relationship of almost 2 years, she contemplated suicide and she also lost her grandmother who she was very close to.  All this plunged her into depression; she had to channel her pain into something beautiful and it birthed the album Mambokadzi.  This album is dear to her and once you listen to it you will understand just why…

I love all the songs on the EP, I’ve listened to it a million times over. My favorite tracks are Mambokadzi and Rewind. I could add Suicide to my favourites but each time I listen to it I end up feeling blue and experience flash backs filled with past hurts.  It’s not a bad interlude at all but it really gets you deep in thought, a place we often don’t want to revist.

Despite the dark cloud in her life KikkyBadAss has still experienced wonderful opportunities this year.  She traveled to Cyprus and left me behind even after I asked her to be her hand luggage.  It’s not everyday an artist gets to leave the country to perform on an entire island, it shows that she’s doing something right and we should take notes.

KikkyBadAss never disappoints when it comes to quality visuals and her latest video Boys Dze Tonaz was a great way to highlight 2018.

One thing I’ve come to learn after writing this piece it’s that you need to find your passion and give it everything you’ve got.  You only have this lifetime to leave your mark.

Mambokadzi is my album of 2018.  Which music album made your year?

©MaKupsy 2018

Different

Different by Shekhinah is my song of 2018.  I can play this track a million times over and I’d never tire of it.  I had the pleasure of watching her perform at UnPlugged Zimbabwe in August this year.  She’s one talented woman! However, my heart always breaks each time I remember that her parents abandoned her when she was born.  I can never shake that from my mind…

What’s your favourite song by Shekhinah ?

©MaKupsy 2018

Just Like Seasons, People Change

Are you married?  Have you been married before?  Do you have friends who have gone to get married and you were left behind single and living your best life? 

If you can answer to any of these questions then today’s creative crush might just stir you up. See the thing about marriage is admit it or not it does change people.  We would like to lie to ourselves and say we will always be the same person once we get hitched but truth is just like seasons, people change.  I’m speaking from the single friends perspective…  Over the years I’ve lost a couple of friends to this marriage we speak of.  However, it’s not a bad thing at all, at first it really used to affect me but I realised that my friends have a new chapter in their lives.  Their priorities have taken a completely different turn and our get high or die trying days are over because love it or hate it, his or her partner is top priority now.  These were the very thoughts that crossed my mind the first time I read Nobuhle’s blog post; Trashed.

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The name Nobuhle means mother of beauty or with beauty.  As you can already tell from her picture she is a true representative of her name.  She’s a woman of many talents; not only does she blog but she’s a songstress too.  Her mother has always encouraged her to embrace her talent and follow her musical passion.  Unfortunately she doesn’t play any instruments but she has a strange love for piano, maybe someday she will learn. The one time she thought she was ready to learn she was told to cut her nails, no more gorgeous manicures? I think not!

I noticed that at some point Nobuhle (she calls herself uBu) wasn’t blogging as much.  She says her blog statistics weren’t growing and it just pulled me her backwards.  She was then nominated for the Creative Writing category at Zimbabwe Blog Awards and that right there was just the push she needed.  Unfortunately everything on her blog was stale at the time but she decided if someone thought that old content was enough to get nominated it meant she was doing something right.  She has been consistent ever since.

P.S. uBu is trilungual and I find that so very attractive!  Imagine being able to speak three languages fluently.  All the more reason she’s my creative crush today. You can listen in to her latest track here.

You can connect with Ubu on;

Website: www.iamb0627.wordpress.com

Twitter: @nangu_uBu

Instagram: @nangu_ubu

Blog Indaba The Meeting Place Community is hosting a creative crush this and every Wednesday.  You will never run out of a good read from here on.

It's National Wine Day!

I’m curious to know, how many languages can you speak?

©MaKupsy 2018

 

 

15 Favourite Quotes From Richest Man In Babylon

I read The Richest Man In Babylon by George Samuel Clason nearly 3 months ago and my life has never been the same.  My friend recommended the book to me and going ahead to read it was the best decision I’ve made to date.  It’s a good short read that you can go through in a day if you have time if not you can pace yourself and still enjoy the rich knowledge that that you acquire as you flip through each page.  I’m a sucker for Elizabethan English and this book did wonders for my soul.

I took notes at the time I read this book because I felt that some day I would want to look back every now and again at the lessons I’d learnt and apply them in different aspects of my life.  Today’s challenge is to write about a non fiction book that I read in 2018 and you’re in luck because I’m going to share 15 of my favourite quotes from the Richest Man In Babylon.

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  1. They appreciated the value of money.  They practiced sound financial principles in acquiring money, keeping money and making their money earn more money. They provided for themselves what we all desire…incomes for the future
  2. Babylon is an outstanding example of man’s ability to achieve great objectives, using whatever means are at his disposal.
  3. Money makes possible the enjoyment of the best the earth affords.
  4. Therefore, my heart is sad. I wish to be a man of means. I wish to own lands and cattle, to have fine robes and coins in my purse. I am willing to work for these things with all the strength in my back, with all the skill in my hands, with all the cunning in my mind, but I wish my labors to be fairly rewarded. What is the matter with us?
  5. “Nonsense,” reproved Kobbi, “a man’s wealth is not in the purse he carries. A fat purse quickly empties if there be no golden stream to refill it. Arkad has an income that constantly keeps his purse full, no matter how liberally he spends.”
  6. In those things toward which we exerted our best endeavours we succeeded.
  7. “Wealth is a power. With wealth many things are possible.”
  8. If I was to achieve what I desired, time and study would be required.
  9. ‘Do you not pay the garment- maker? Do you not pay the sandal-maker? Do you not pay for the things you eat? Can you live in Babylon without spending? What have you to show for your earnings of the past mouth? What for the past year? Fool! You pay to everyone but yourself. Dullard, you labor for others. As well be a slave and work for what your master gives you to eat and wear. If you did keep for yourself one-tenth of all you earn, how much would you have in ten years?’
  10. “Every fool must learn,” he growled, ‘but why trust the knowledge of a brick maker about jewels? Would you go to the bread maker to inquire about the stars? No, by my tunic, you would go to the astrologer, if you had power to think. Your savings are gone, youth, you have jerked your wealth-tree up by the roots. But plant another. Try again.
  11. “You have taught yourself how to acquire money, how to keep it, and how to use it.
  12. Wealth grows wherever men exert energy.
  13. A part of all I earn is mine to keep.’ Say it in the morning when you first arise. Say it at noon. Say it at night. Say it each hour of every day. Say it to yourself until the words stand out like letters of fire across the sky.
  14. So it is reported, your majesty, and no man disputes it. “How becamest thou so wealthy?” “By taking advantage of opportunities available to all citizens of our good city.” “Thou hadst nothing to start with?” “Only a great desire for wealth. Besides this, nothing.”
  15. The first storehouse of my treasure was a well-purse. I loathed its useless emptiness. I desired it be round and full, clinking with the sound of gold. Therefore, I sought every remedy for a lean purse. I found seven.

The first thing I did after reading this book was adopting the habit of PAYING MYSELF FIRST.  The moment my salary goes through I pay myself a tenth of it.  After all the years I’ve worked if anyone had told me this I’d be so many steps ahead in life.  BUT it’s never too late right?

Which non fiction did you enjoy reading this year?  Care to share?

©MaKupsy 2018

The Purple Hibiscus

The purple hibiscus in Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie’s novel symbolises hope and freedom.  Each time I’ve read any of Chimamanda’s books my emotions have been turned inside out leaving a raw feeling inside me.  This book showcases different themes that include nature, domestic violence, religion and relationships.

In different incidents Papa put his family through heart wrenching acts of violence.  The one that left me feeling like I was right within the scene was a chapter where Papa burns his daughter’s feet (Kambali) with scalding hot water while she sits in an empty bathtub.  Both her mother and her brother are within the house but they can’t do anything to help her.  He is the head of the house and therefore his choice of punishment can not be opposed.  Many African homes can relate to this, whatever the father of the house says goes…It’s unfortunate that these acts often lead to children having a very slim chance of growing up without experiencing love or intimacy.

I don’t want to spoil the book for you, do yourself a favour and get a copy so that you can read the story too.

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Other books I’ve read by Chimamanda include, Half of A Yellow Sun, The Thing Around Your Neck and Americanah.

What’s your favourite book that you got to indulge in this year?

©MaKupsy 2018

Mutorashanga Green Pool

Mutorashanga Green Pool is your go to destination now that the weather is playing nice again.  I’ve seen one too many posts on social media with people having an amazing time there I’ve put it down as one of my places to visit list for next year or earlier if a miracle happens.  I checked out one of my favourite Instagrammers (@justzaniexoxo) and she happened to have visited Mutorashanga and has some very useful tips to share.  Couple that with a Vlog and today’s blog promises to be both fun and informative.

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Tips On How To Make Your Trip Epic!

1. There isn’t much to see, so it comes down to the company you’re with, swimming and taking lovely pictures for the gram.  😅

2. You want to go with your swim suit or bikini on because there are no changing rooms or anything, there are no structures at all!

3. Go with your food picnic style.  Pack sandwiches, snacks, water, juice, alcohol, braai stand, the whole shebang that will give the trip a vibe.

4. The most ideal car to use would be an off road vehicle or 4×4, though my little Bibi took us safely to and fro I had to be super careful whilst driving.

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5. There are two routes, you can either use Mazowe Road or Chinhoyi Road, from research we gathered Chinhoyi is slightly shorter, has a better road, and much clearer signs so you less likely to get lost.

6. Once you drive past Mutorashanga Police Station you have tokeep asking for directions from anyone you see on the road until you get there.  There are no signs that read “This way to the Green Pool” 😂. A bright idea might be to take someone with you who has been there before.

7. It seems the locals now like to hang there and stare, and call out all sorts of ill meaning things.  Sooo make sure you pack your zero fvcks to give attitude with you and watch out for your valuables!

8. Don’t go all the way there and not Cliff Dive!!! Trust me…you will regret it!!!

To find out more about how amazing Mutorashanga Green Pool is you can check out Zanie’s Vlog.  Don’t forget to hit the subscribe button to keep up with her adventures.

If not be sure to follow the hash tag #mutorashanga on Instagram so you can see how beautiful parts of Zimbabwe are.

Have you been to Mutorashanga Green Pool before, what was your experience like?

©MaKupsy 2018

I Don’t Watch Much TV

I don’t watch much TV and Google will have you know there’s actually a TV Show titled I Don’t Watch TV which I didn’t even know about, fun times! My satellite decoder lost signal nearly a month ago and I haven’t been bothered to get it re-signaled.  It has actually been a blessing in disguise because all the time I used to spend watching TV has been replaced with doing more fulfilling and progressive things.  If you asked me what my favourite TV shows were 5 years ago I’d have readily given you a list, back then I was a TV junkie.   Fast forward to now I love to read, write and learn new things that’s my thing and unfortunately I can’t get into that today because that’s not what the challenge is about.

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I had to be friends with Google because I don’t know what people have been watching. The challenge makes it even harder because the show has to have been released in 2018.  According to the internet this is what some people are currently hooked onto.

  1. Maniac

American Drama Series.  The summary talks about Schizophrenia, broken relationships, pharmaceutical trials; sounds like a show that will likely address mental health issues.

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2. The Chilling Adventures of Sabrina

Another version of Vampire Diaries in my opinion.  There’s much talk about witches in the summary.  The most amusing thing I find when it comes to this is that in the western world people can easily talk about how an aunt is a witch and how they’re also likely a witch, IN BROAD DAYLIGHT.  This could never happen in Africa!

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3. Sharp Objects

An American series based on a novel written by Gillian Flynn.  The part that caught my attention read, “As she searches for clues, Camille reunites with her estranged family — overbearing mother Adora, stepfather Alan Crellin, and half sister Amma — which rekindles traumatic childhood memories, including the death of her younger sister. Piecing together a psychological puzzle from her past…

Maybe just maybe I might give this show a thought, I enjoy things that have an eerie feeling about them and leave me shell shocked!

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My bedtime is 9:30pm and in order to keep up with these shows you need to really be dedicated to binge watching them.  It’s unfortunate that I might never get to watch any of them due to lack of time but if you have watched them or have any that you’ve enjoyed watching this year please share them with me.

©MaKupsy 2018