The Ugly Truth About Living Alone

I started staying on my own when I was 23 years old and I thought I was going to have the most amazing time of my life.  All that freedom!  Okay, I’ll be honest.  I did have a blast.  Do you have any idea how it feels to know that you can do whatever the heck you want without having to ask for permission from anyone?  The first days I enjoyed staying at home catching up with a good series.  That time Gossip Girl was a hit and I would binge watch it on a Saturday.  Then enter new friends and staying home became an illusion.  We used to go out partying midweek all the way till Sunday and we still had energy to make it to work fit and legit.  Fun times.  Sadly, I can’t try that out now.  One night out is enough to have me struggling for the next three days.  I’m clearly not as young as I used to be.

Staying alone is bliss.  You can practically do anything you want with your space and time without having to consult anyone but it does have it’s disadvantages.

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  1. Cooking for yourself gets boring.  If you’re anything like me at some point you want to eat what someone else prepared and with the way the Zimbabwean situation is set up eating out is not an option.  I don’t have that kind of money.
  2. Oh, did you know eating alone gets boring too?  There’s something about sharing a meal with someone that just makes it taste different.  Different in a good way.
  3. Chances of staying in the dark because you can’t reach the light bulb get higher by the second.  I’m not very tall and it’s unfortunate that my light bulbs are placed high up and if I don’t ask a friend to pass through to replace it for me then it’s the candle light life for me.
  4. You forget you can actually talk.  Ever tried spending a weekend on your own?  If you don’t receive or make a phone call chances of speaking to anyone are close to none.
  5. It’s generally scary staying on your own because in the event that an intruder shows up what are the chances of getting out alive.  It’s even more unsettling if you’re a woman who stays alone because not only will you get robbed you might get raped too.  ZimStat data shows that 1 067 murder cases and 7 394 rape cases were reported in 2017.  I shudder to imagine what the 2018 stats are.
  6. You get so used to being on your own so much that when you do have company you want them to go away after a while.  Human beings are strange if you ask me.
  7. You miss human contact (not sex) but just having someone around to talk to, cuddle with, share a meal with or even watch a movie with.  A movie isn’t as much fun if you don’t have someone to hold on to when the scary bits pop up.
  8. You have to do everything by yourself, from doing the dishes, to cleaning the house, to replacing stuff that gets broken and most of all paying all the bills; all that stuff is on you.
  9. That rat that you keep hearing scratching against the door at odd hours will only be gone after you do something about it.  If you don’t that just means it is going to keep eating whatever it can get in the house and grow bigger and then you will have a rat for a roommate. Eeek!
  10. The heavy lifting of objects has to be done by you and if you are anything like me you will just chill and hope for a miracle to happen and magically move that box to the next room.
  11. When you get sick no one is there to pamper you and make sure you are okay, if you have had something to eat or taken a bat.  You could actually die in your sleep all by yourself and no one would ever notice because you stay on your own and lately people are too invested in messaging calling has become a thing of the past.  I can picture the headline already “Woman found dead in her apartment after missing for 3 weeks.” THE HORROR!

I asked my friends on Twitter when they moved out to stay on their own.  You can check out their replies from here:

What are some of the things you think make staying alone a not so great experience?  I’d love to hear from you.

©MaKupsy 2019

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5 Brutal Truths About Life

I have been through a lot of interesting experiences to date and all of them have taught me a thing or two.  If God grants me more years on this earth my grandchildren will hear the most bizarre tales.  If they are lucky they might actually get to read them instead because I am planning on writing a book at some point but procrastinating is my greatest enemy at the moment.  Right, about those life lessons…

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Lesson 1

You have to love yourself first before anyone else.  Be good to you and treat yourself right.  That way you make your life easier by avoiding toxic relationships.  When you know what you deserve you make sure you get nothing short of that.

Lesson 2

Don’t beg people to stay in your life.  Don’t beg them to love you.  Don’t beg them to call you.  Don’t beg them to treat you right.  The ones that truly love and care for you will not need you to beg for their affections, they will do any of these things naturally because you actually mean something to them.

Lesson 3

Use your head and not your heart when you make life changing decisions.  I have made one three many decisions based on feelings and those never ended well.  Since then I have constantly reminded myself that the best decisions are those made with a sound mind.

Lesson 4

Social media can be used for the greater good.  I know I follow people on Twitter who have landed jobs and life changing opportunities through that platform.  I have also been lucky to be invited to events and have landed paid gigs thanks to blogging and tweeting and networking remains constant.

Try not to use your social media presence to troll, complain and shame others.  Let me also say my 2 cents on nudity while I’m at it.  Don’t take nude photos that show your face and send them to your significant other, you don’t know who else he will share them with or where they will end up.  If you can help it DO NOT SEND NUDE PHOTOS AT ALL.

Lesson 5

Do not make decisions based on other people.  Be it your education, love life, career choice the list is endless.  At the end of the day YOU are the one who lives with the decisions that concern your life.  You have no one to answer to but yourself when you look back and wish you had done things differently. If you want to be a pilot, do that!  If you want to have a life partner and live happily ever after with no kids, do that!  If you want to write for a living, by all means do that!  Why?  Because life is too short to not do what truly makes you happy!

That said; what are some of the lessons you have learnt so far?  I would love to read all about them.

©MaKupsy 2019

A List Of Things I Can’t Stand

Everyone has a list of things that they simply can’t stand.  After you read through my list I’m certain you’ll bump into a few things you can also relate to.  Here goes;

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  • That long pinky nail that some men keep.  The other day I saw a guy who actually had nail polish on that finger.  Imagine the shock on my face!
  • People who leave hair on the soap bar, that is beyond revolting.  What in the world are you thinking leaving your hair on there, that might be your pubic hair you expect the next person to pluck out of that bar of soap.  Have some regard for others please.
  • I can’t deal with people who shout over the phone.  Like what ever happened to speaking into your phone?  I’m not interested in listening in to your conversation.  Telephone etiquette anyone?
  • People who chew bubble gum, especially professional people.  There is this colleague of mine all suited up, attending to customers and chewing bubble gum, for the why?
  • Poor Customer Service that one really has me all worked up.  If I’m paying for a service I expect to get great service otherwise me and my hard earned money are leaving.
  • Gossip.  Okay fine, I’m guilty of gossiping as well but you don’t want to hang out with people who gossip all the time.  There are so many things to talk about that are actually productive and life changing.  How about we try that for a change?
  • Parents who put weaves on their toddlers. WHY???
  • Parents who do not cut their children’s nails.  I have seen countless toddlers with dirty nails.  Can the parents not see that their children need to get their nails cut?  Imagine all that dirt stuck in the child’s nails.  When they eventually eat all those germs will dig into their food and straight into their mouths.  It is very unhygienic and untidy.
  • Parents who assist their children in bunking after school activities like swimming.  You are only disadvantaging your child, allow him or her to be an all rounder if need be, they will need it in the future.  Physical education is just as important as academic education.
  • Parents who watch their children throw tantrums in public places and do nothing about it.
  • Sweat.  I won’t dig deep into this one.  Let’s just leave it here.
  • People who go on about how they were in the first team of some sport when we were back in school.  Honestly, that was close to a decade ago.  Let’s celebrate current achievements and keep it moving.
  • Holier than though individuals.  We all know these; they act like they have never done a questionable thing all their life.  Judgmental much?
  • People who are too much.  I don’t know how to best describe them.  Say…once they start helping you with something they want to tell you how to do everything.  Or when they tell you about a movie they spoil it for you by telling you every single bit of that movie.
  • People who burp in your presence and not excuse themselves.  That’s plain rude.
  • Inconsiderate people.  Too many times I have seen people standing in line and not giving a pregnant woman or an elderly person the chance to go ahead of the queue.  That could be you one day you know and besides it’s only considerate to let them go ahead and get on with their day.
  • Public transport.  I really should buy my own car soon.  The whole hassle of bunching up in a minibus is just too much.  And the music they play can be such a drag especially if you don’t listen to that particular genre.  Don’t get me started with  toddlers who keep stepping on your clothes with the mother acting like she can’t see it.  Yes, my car is long overdue.
  • Nosy Parkers. (I prefer calling them Nosy Fuckers)  Always wanting to know your business, what you are up to, who you are doing, why you are doing it.  Get a grip and live your life.
  • People who are full of themselves.  I already am full of myself so we can’t all be like that, who will notice the other? On a serious note being vain is not good look on anyone.
  • Unexpected Visitors; it’s a NO for me.
  • Lazy people. Get up and do something!
  • People who drag their feet…Pick up your feet and walk properly already.  Where’s your excitement for life?
  • People who always try to ruin a perfect moment.  Kill joys, this one’s for you.
  • Weddings.  They drag on and on and on.  For that reason I’ve only attended two weddings to date.  Let’s just get to the fun part please I don’t like things that go on forever.
  • Internet bullying.  I shall dig deeper into this at some point before the year ends.
  • And finally I can’t stand my own handwriting.  It has gone from bad to worse to terrible over the past few years.  I don’t even call it a handwriting anymore.  Words fail me.

©MaKupsy 2019

Social Media Etiquette Tips

Social Media has taken the world by storm and has not left Zimbabweans behind.  Most people are on most social media platforms and loving it.  However, from my personal observation there seems to be a lack of social media etiquette with most people and I will address some of the experiences I face every other day.

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Links, Links and More Links!

I get it, you are trying to push your work through your social media platforms but have you ever stopped to think that maybe just maybe it’s a bit overboard?  Just yesterday I had to unfollow a few people on Twitter because I felt spammed.  I had observed it over time but yesterday was my breaking point.  How are nearly 20 of your Tweets all about links directing me to your work?  Are you an automated machine?  Is there no human being behind your account?  Whatever happened to maybe talking about the weather or engaging with your followers on whichever subject they might trending?  I know it’s your account and you can do as you please but if you want people to actually get interested in what you have to share then perhaps you need to consider actually talking to them instead of force feeding them with your work.  A simple retweet, a reply or a genuine compliment will go a long way.

Still on the subject of spamming; if there is one thing that really grates on my nerves it has to be broadcast messages on WhatsApp!  I believe if you have my number in your contacts it means we at least know each other on a “hi hi” basis.  With that in mind I also think that if you want to bombard me with your products, links and posters then by all means at least have some form of conversation with me.  I’m not saying send me a good morning message everyday; just a simple occasional hello message or even a comment on a status update to show that I’m not in your phone for decorational purposes will suffice.  I actually now have a few people that I automatically know are simply forwarding their links the moment their name pops up on my notifications.  Stop it!  Actually, I have asked some contacts to stop adding me to their broadcast list, I just think it’s rude and unnecessary especially if you don’t even have the decency to make conversation with me.

Interaction 

I have 9,705 followers on Twitter.  Before you get shocked by the number, I have been on Twitter since 2012 so my following has grown organically.  One thing I can tell you for free is that in order to grow your followers you need to interact with them.  It can be a retweet, sharing their work, event or simply liking their tweet.  I don’t follow back a lot of people BUT I will respond to almost every mention on my timeline because I believe everyone has something they can teach you no matter how big or small it might be.  Interacting with your followers makes you approachable and being approachable leaves you open to a world of opportunities.  Trust me, I know this, I live this.

Facebook Business Pages

Dear Facebook Business Pages who do not give adequate information, what are you doing?  When you send incomplete messages what’s supposed to happen?  You want me, your potential customer, the one you want money from, to pick up the phone to call or WhatsApp you or send you a private message???  What in the world is going on with you?  Let me give you a few examples:

  • I’m selling A, B, C please WhatsApp for price.
  • 2 bedroom flat to rent price negotiable (how do you not know how much you want to rent out your property for?) 
  • Friday Special, lamb chops and a salad (no price included on the image posted)

Then customers start responding asking how much, where do we find you, which methods of payment are available and guess what, no one replies and yet this is 2019 where everything moves at the speed of lightning.  How are you going to give your customers quality service if you can’t even respond to their questions?  The common excuse I hear is “We are not always on Facebook”.  Funny!  Why then do you have an account if you don’t want to manage it?

Thankfully there are some pages that actually do a fantastic job when it comes to being responsive and helpful and you check them out.  My top 2 favourites are Chop Chop Brazillian Steak House and TBagsZim please take notes, they are on the right path.

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Update Your Information

This means your contact number, social media accounts and your websites.  It’s not a good look when a customer follows a link only to find that it’s broken or no longer exists.  It simply screams disorganised and you definitely don’t want customers to think that way about your business.

Please also take time to check for grammatical errors when you post your content.  You don’t want to come of as careless.  Our gadgets are loaded with applications that spell check, kindly use them.  I think I’m the pettiest customer you will ever come across and if your advert has grammatical errors I lose interest real quick.

That said, please bear in mind that people don’t have time and if you keep them waiting for too long they will move on to the next reliable source.  Options aplenty.

Do you have any social media etiquette tips to add on?  Sharing is caring.

©MaKupsy 2019

Is Junk Food The Way To Go?

We can’t live without food, it’s one of our basic needs.  However, what are we actually putting into our bodies is the biggest question of them all.  If you are anything like me, you think before making a decision on eating any and everything, not because of calorie counting on my part but because I genuinely think of the nutritious benefits.  Being the fitness enthusiast that I am sometimes I must admit I can be a little bit judgmental.  Let me tell you about an incident that happened over the weekend…

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I make a trip to Marondera every other week.  I make sure I am on the first mini bus out of town so I usually get at to the bus station just before 8am.(I NEED a car public transport is killing my vibe!)  On this particular day a woman who had a little boy who looked like he was about 3 years old sat next to me.  I assumed the woman was probably the little boy’s grandmother.  I love having breakfast but I had no time to prepare it that morning so I opted to buy some fruit to cure my hunger pains.  My neighbours were ready to eat as well and they had with them a huge cream doughnut, a can of a fizzy drink of sort and a bunch of bananas.

The woman fed the little boy at least 3/4 of that doughnut then he downed the fizzy drink.  She called out to one of the boys who were selling food stuff and bought a packet of crisps.  The whole time I was completely in shock.  I mean, this wasn’t even 8am and this little growing boy is being fed all this junk food, mind you we hadn’t even left for Marondera yet.  We eventually took off and during the entire 45 minute ride the little boy was being fed one bad food after another until they dropped off along the way.

This is a trend I have observed over the years.  Whenever people are traveling with their children most make sure they have some junk food of sort to give them during the trip.  Even when you go to church you notice some mothers taking out little treats during the church service and you ask yourself why they didn’t prepare a meal for their children before coming to church?  We all get hungry, no doubt about that, but why not opt to give your child something that contains vitamins, minerals, carbohydrates, protein and fat?  What sort of eating habits are we teaching our children?

I have a 5 year old daughter who loves her food but she knows before we travel she has to sit down and eat because I do not buy treats along the way.  She eats junk food, her super power is pizza!  At the same time she loves a fruit salad and will have that any time of day because she enjoys it that much.  I don’t deny her life’s little pleasure but she will not be eating pizza first thing in the morning!  I’m not trying to encourage unhealthy eating habits because that’s one sure way of having a child with weight issues.  After she has had a decent meal or two I will let her enjoy the occasional ice-cream, biscuits, juice of her choice but it’s not an everyday thing.  I believe when it comes to food there should be a balance of sort.  I would like to believe I have set a good example for my little girl, unfortunately I will not have a say in the food choices she makes when she is all grown up.  However, as long as she is in my care I will do my best to make sure she eats right.

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Every bite you take is either fighting disease or feeding it.

What are your thoughts on the subject?  Are you the parent who let’s their child eat whatever they like or you are strict when it comes to food options?

©MaKupsy 2019

Shorthand Will Be The Death Of Zimbabweans

Let me send you some of the conversation killers disguised as “short hand messages” that come through in phones all over Zimbabwe, mine included.

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“HUD” How You Doing

“WYA” Where You At

“Gr8” Great

“Toq to m pliz” Talk to me please

“HBD” Happy Birthday

“l8tr” Later

“Kkkkk” ((this is supposed to be some form of laugh))  Please show me one person you have seen who laughs like that in real life.

“Cm tmw n brng ur own vhcl we wnt prvd trnspt” This is a very lazy someone who obviously can’t construct a sentence.

“fon” Phone

“waal” I have NO IDEA what this means, the word isn’t even in the dictionary, but if you know it’s meaning please give me a shout.

“wtv” Watching Television

“K” Okay.  Anyone who K’s me does not get any replies from me for a very long time, what form of disrespect is that?  Like are you so busy you can’t even type the word OKAY?

These are some of the messages you will receive when you decide to communicate with some people in your contacts list who use WhatsApp.  I find it very f*%king annoying that some grown a*s person on the other end of the message can sit down and actually type that up and send it to the next person.  Like what the fu*k?  How old are we?  Do you realise I have a metal I.D, yes, that’s just how grown up I am!   Whatever happened to actually composing a whole sentence or word that the next person can actually understand.  Now when someone sends you that you have to first try and figure out what they are trying to say.

I have figured out how to deal with people who do this.  IGNORE.  I hardly ever use shorthand  like ever.  Ask anyone I communicate with.  What’s really is going on with the next person who has a whole QWERTY keyboard on their phone which will give them all the letters in the alphabet and you choose to use a select few?

I know shorthand is supposed to speed up the communication and get the message across faster but gosh, it has gone completely out of hand.  Why not just send a voice note if you are too lazy to type?

Then come the typos; last time I checked our phones came with dictionaries do they not?  If you didn’t know, now you do.  People have taken sentence construction and grammatical errors to a whole new era you wonder if they are even paying attention to what they are texting to you.  I find it very annoying and it just kills the conversation.  I’m one of those people who actually reread the message I have typed out before actually hitting the send button and of course it’s silly of me to expect the same from others but really people will you lose a minute of your time by just double checking what you just sent?

The whole reason for this blog is to find out WHY you have become so lazy to type and proofread your messages.  You do realise that this is one of the reasons why people don’t reply your messages right?  Dear Zimbabweans, please help me understand what’s really going wrong, have we become such a lazy generation?

©MaKupsy 2019

Here’s How Money Can Break Your Relationships

Money is a beautiful thing to possess.  I will speak for myself and tell you just how happy I am when I am not broke and can afford most of the things my heart desires.  Money will solve most problems, money will give you the opportunity to travel, you can stay in the plush parts of the city thanks to money, actually money can just about make your life a whole lot better.

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Today I want to talk about the lending of money.  Most people say “May you borrow me some money.”  CAN WE CORRECT THIS PLEASE BEFORE WE GO ANY FURTHER.  It’s “May I borrow some money.”  I’m still to find the person who taught people the former so that I can smack them on their head!

Here are a few reasons why I think lending money is a good thing:

  • You can help someone who is in an emergency who didn’t have anyone else to turn to.
  • There is a chance people you lend money to will also help you when you are desperate for financial assistance.  However, this is not always guaranteed but it’s worth a try.
  • Help me think of a third reason I am struggling here!!

My list of reasons why I avoid lending money:

  • STRESS!  Do you know the amount of sleepless nights and tension headaches you can get from lending someone money and they start telling you stories about how they can’t repay the money???  I don’t need that kind of complication in my life.  If they tell you stories that’s actually half the stress.  Some will change phone numbers, relocate and disappear from the face of the earth when it’s time to pay back.  In the end you end up looking like you are a nag and yet you are only trying to get your money back.
  • Broken relations.  You can actually stop talking to someone for the rest of your natural life because of money.  If you want to lose friends then try lending each other money and just wait and see.  Of course not all friends are like that but if you ask a lot of people they will tell you they have had bad experiences in that department.
  • Lending someone money can be a huge inconvenience if they can’t pay you back on time and you desperately need to use it.

What bugs me the most about people who borrow money is their lack of communication.  Why they fail to pick up the phone to call and explain why they can’t pay back on time is still puzzling.  Who cares, your reason for a delay in paying back might not even be genuine but at least say something instead of acting like you don’t know you owe someone one money!! 

To cut a long story short I avoid borrowing or lending money.  I have had bad experiences in the past and they have taught me to avoid things that steal my joy.  Now when someone asks me to lend them any money I normally just say I don’t have.  However, depending on how close we are I will probably lend you the money but I have a way of doing it.  Say you want to borrow $50; I will give you $25 instead and then I will just count it as money that I gave a friend.  That way if you don’t pay it back I won’t be suffering from unnecessary chest pains because I know it probably wasn’t going to be paid back anyway and we are still friends and I am not thinking of going to the police to report you for who knows what you will say once you get there.

That’s my money theory, do you have any that you have tried and tested and how is that going for you so far?

Psalm 37:21 The wicked borrows but does not pay back, but the righteous is generous and gives;

©MaKupsy 2019

 

 

14 Ways To Be A Happier Person

Happiness doesn’t come easy, it’s an everyday task.  From the moment you wake up to the moment you lay your head down to rest you have to choose to be happy.   I’ve tried for so many years to get happiness from other people not knowing that if those people left they would take their happiness with them.  Then there was trying to get fulfillment from material things.  I think trying to find happiness in material things is the worst kind of disappointment.  Imagine spending so much money on a gadget hoping it will miraculously change your life and make you feel happy only for it to be just that, a new gadget in your life and less money in the bank for you…

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Years later, happiness comes to me naturally.  I do have my bad days just like everyone else.  Each day I make it a habit to do things to keep positive vibes in my life.  Here’s my tried and tested list.

  1. I take on Monday’s by the horn.  It used to be the worst day of the week for me but ever since I changed my perspective where life is concerned I simply can’t wait for a new week.  I always have a to-do-list that I have to cross, new digital marketing skills I need to learn and try out and lots of content to read through and perhaps blog about.  My life is exciting, I’m doing things that nurture my creative side.
  2. I speak to my daughter over the phone every single day.  Hearing from each day is a sure way to add sunshine to any cloudy day.  She’s packed with new stories and adventures there’s never a dull conversation between us.
  3. I exercise 4 to 5 times a week and when I’m being an eager beaver I exercise twice a day.  The feel good hormones I get from that are priceless.
  4. I dance.  Boy do I love dancing or do I love dancing.  My favourite genre is Dancehall.  I listen to almost everything else but Dancehall takes me to a very happy place.  If my bedroom mirror could talk it would tell you all the moves I can put down when I’m in a musical mood.
  5. I listen to audio books.  There are so many to mention but my favourite one has to be The Powerof Intention by Dr Wayne Dyer, The Power of Intention.  You should get your hands on it, your mindset will shift for the better.
  6. I go out with my friends occasionally and party on.  My favourite outings are when I’m out with one of my few close girl friends.  All work and no play is not good for anyone.  Sometime in November last year I had the pleasure of being on the panel of this very vibrant festival.  Women, Wine & Words was a dream, I loved every moment of it.
  7. I blog.  I thoroughly enjoy it and I bump into interesting reads every day.  It’s a different and educative hobby.  I still can’t believe I’ve been blogging for all these years.  It’s the one thing that has become a part of me.  I’m always looking for new ways to perfect the art.
  8. I make sure I keep a smile on my face.  I read somewhere that, “Your day will go the way your corners of your mouth turn.”
  9. When a client gives me a hard time at work, I tell myself they probably have their own personal issues that they are going through and don’t take it to heart.  We’re living in a difficult economic situation and it’s easy for someone to take out their emotions on you.
  10. I surround myself with happy people.  There’s nothing as bad as having friends who are always complaining about something and never taking time to look at the positive things in life, no matter how small.
  11. I try and do something nice for those close to me, a phone call, a surprise visit, a small gift, anything to make someone else’s day.
  12. I continue building a positive parenting relationship with the father of my child.  Years ago I had nothing but anger towards him but over the past two years we’ve been getting along quite well.  He takes better care of our daughter and I don’t get upset with him at the slightest opportunity.  Life is good.
  13. I try to stay hydrated and mind my own business as much as I can.  This has helped me avoid drama and gossip and maintain peace in my life.  It has also helped me focus on myself more, you should try it too.
  14. Most importantly I pray, I put all my burdens and worries to God because if i didn’t do so I know I’d have probably lost my mind from worry by now.

Find out what makes you happy and do exactly that.  Start one day a time and before you know it each day will be better than the last.  Life is too short; make a list of things you need to do each day and make sure you make happiness an everyday goal!

©MaKupsy 2019

Just Like Seasons, People Change

Are you married?  Have you been married before?  Do you have friends who have gone to get married and you were left behind single and living your best life? 

If you can answer to any of these questions then today’s creative crush might just stir you up. See the thing about marriage is admit it or not it does change people.  We would like to lie to ourselves and say we will always be the same person once we get hitched but truth is just like seasons, people change.  I’m speaking from the single friends perspective…  Over the years I’ve lost a couple of friends to this marriage we speak of.  However, it’s not a bad thing at all, at first it really used to affect me but I realised that my friends have a new chapter in their lives.  Their priorities have taken a completely different turn and our get high or die trying days are over because love it or hate it, his or her partner is top priority now.  These were the very thoughts that crossed my mind the first time I read Nobuhle’s blog post; Trashed.

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The name Nobuhle means mother of beauty or with beauty.  As you can already tell from her picture she is a true representative of her name.  She’s a woman of many talents; not only does she blog but she’s a songstress too.  Her mother has always encouraged her to embrace her talent and follow her musical passion.  Unfortunately she doesn’t play any instruments but she has a strange love for piano, maybe someday she will learn. The one time she thought she was ready to learn she was told to cut her nails, no more gorgeous manicures? I think not!

I noticed that at some point Nobuhle (she calls herself uBu) wasn’t blogging as much.  She says her blog statistics weren’t growing and it just pulled me her backwards.  She was then nominated for the Creative Writing category at Zimbabwe Blog Awards and that right there was just the push she needed.  Unfortunately everything on her blog was stale at the time but she decided if someone thought that old content was enough to get nominated it meant she was doing something right.  She has been consistent ever since.

P.S. uBu is trilungual and I find that so very attractive!  Imagine being able to speak three languages fluently.  All the more reason she’s my creative crush today. You can listen in to her latest track here.

You can connect with Ubu on;

Website: www.iamb0627.wordpress.com

Twitter: @nangu_uBu

Instagram: @nangu_ubu

Blog Indaba The Meeting Place Community is hosting a creative crush this and every Wednesday.  You will never run out of a good read from here on.

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©MaKupsy 2018

 

 

15 Favourite Quotes From Richest Man In Babylon

I read The Richest Man In Babylon by George Samuel Clason nearly 3 months ago and my life has never been the same.  My friend recommended the book to me and going ahead to read it was the best decision I’ve made to date.  It’s a good short read that you can go through in a day if you have time if not you can pace yourself and still enjoy the rich knowledge that that you acquire as you flip through each page.  I’m a sucker for Elizabethan English and this book did wonders for my soul.

I took notes at the time I read this book because I felt that some day I would want to look back every now and again at the lessons I’d learnt and apply them in different aspects of my life.  Today’s challenge is to write about a non fiction book that I read in 2018 and you’re in luck because I’m going to share 15 of my favourite quotes from the Richest Man In Babylon.

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  1. They appreciated the value of money.  They practiced sound financial principles in acquiring money, keeping money and making their money earn more money. They provided for themselves what we all desire…incomes for the future
  2. Babylon is an outstanding example of man’s ability to achieve great objectives, using whatever means are at his disposal.
  3. Money makes possible the enjoyment of the best the earth affords.
  4. Therefore, my heart is sad. I wish to be a man of means. I wish to own lands and cattle, to have fine robes and coins in my purse. I am willing to work for these things with all the strength in my back, with all the skill in my hands, with all the cunning in my mind, but I wish my labors to be fairly rewarded. What is the matter with us?
  5. “Nonsense,” reproved Kobbi, “a man’s wealth is not in the purse he carries. A fat purse quickly empties if there be no golden stream to refill it. Arkad has an income that constantly keeps his purse full, no matter how liberally he spends.”
  6. In those things toward which we exerted our best endeavours we succeeded.
  7. “Wealth is a power. With wealth many things are possible.”
  8. If I was to achieve what I desired, time and study would be required.
  9. ‘Do you not pay the garment- maker? Do you not pay the sandal-maker? Do you not pay for the things you eat? Can you live in Babylon without spending? What have you to show for your earnings of the past mouth? What for the past year? Fool! You pay to everyone but yourself. Dullard, you labor for others. As well be a slave and work for what your master gives you to eat and wear. If you did keep for yourself one-tenth of all you earn, how much would you have in ten years?’
  10. “Every fool must learn,” he growled, ‘but why trust the knowledge of a brick maker about jewels? Would you go to the bread maker to inquire about the stars? No, by my tunic, you would go to the astrologer, if you had power to think. Your savings are gone, youth, you have jerked your wealth-tree up by the roots. But plant another. Try again.
  11. “You have taught yourself how to acquire money, how to keep it, and how to use it.
  12. Wealth grows wherever men exert energy.
  13. A part of all I earn is mine to keep.’ Say it in the morning when you first arise. Say it at noon. Say it at night. Say it each hour of every day. Say it to yourself until the words stand out like letters of fire across the sky.
  14. So it is reported, your majesty, and no man disputes it. “How becamest thou so wealthy?” “By taking advantage of opportunities available to all citizens of our good city.” “Thou hadst nothing to start with?” “Only a great desire for wealth. Besides this, nothing.”
  15. The first storehouse of my treasure was a well-purse. I loathed its useless emptiness. I desired it be round and full, clinking with the sound of gold. Therefore, I sought every remedy for a lean purse. I found seven.

The first thing I did after reading this book was adopting the habit of PAYING MYSELF FIRST.  The moment my salary goes through I pay myself a tenth of it.  After all the years I’ve worked if anyone had told me this I’d be so many steps ahead in life.  BUT it’s never too late right?

Which non fiction did you enjoy reading this year?  Care to share?

©MaKupsy 2018