You are definitely one of the lucky few people on this planet if you have not gone through a heartbreak. In my opinion the pain that comes with it is right there next to labour pains. It is something you don’t want to experience more than once because the pain usually scars you for weeks, months and sometimes years to come. I asked some of my favourite people on Twitter to share how they managed to get over a heartbreak and as always they didn’t disappoint! I like to keep opinions anonymous so names are not mentioned. Their healing processes and some of mine are in the list below. Kick back, grab your notepad and fix yourself a strong cup of coffee you will want to keep this!
Cry. Cry yourself to sleep, cry yourself through the day, cry each time you listen to that sappy song that reminds you of him, heck cry yourself a whole river! It’s the best thing you can do for yourself, crying will help wash away the pain. Whatever you do, DO NOT internalise your emotions.
Get high or die trying. Seriously. Nothing makes you feel better like a good old smoke. You are guaranteed of short term memory loss which is a good thing because you can focus on the feel good sensation and forget about your broken heart for a while. Proven effects include joy, euphoria, contentedness and a care-free attitude!
Cut contact, otherwise you will find yourself snooping on their social media this is very unhealthy. I suggest you actually take a social media fast for the next 30 days in a bid to protect yourself. The last thing you want to do is see your ex partner all loved up on Instagram. That will actually do you more harm than good, heartbreak and social media are NOT friends!
Get up under someone new. Try this at your own risk. An orgasm a day keeps the stress away. Yes, I made that saying up but it’s a sure way to take your mind off your ex but just make sure whoever you decide to have sex with will actually shower you with multiple orgasms otherwise the whole act will be pointless and leave you frustrated.
Listen to some music. Not the sappy sad stuff by the way. Something upbeat to lift up your spirits.
Move to another place. Try getting a job in a town hours away from your current location or better yet leave the entire country. That way you can heal faster without any memory triggers.
Keep yourself occupied. Spent time with friends, do your favourite things. Try positive distractions such as going out and doing something fun especially something new. Amusement Park, dancing; getting out and not focusing or dwelling on the heartbreak.
Put yourself out there. You don’t have to rush into another relationship but just go on dates and feel wanted. It helps to not be lonely and also just for the confidence boost.
Alcohol! , it numbs the pain. Those who don’t drink can safely turn to ice-cream or comfort foods; hello calories!! I have tried and tested this one and all I can say is that alcohol will fix the problem for that day but when you wake up sober all the pain will come rushing back.
Accept that it’s over. This is probably the most crucial point because without this you won’t be able to. Accept it and do not be bitter, okay TRY very hard not to be bitter.
Positive self talk and reflection. Remind yourself it’s their loss and not yours. BUT also look at your contributions to the demise of your relationship. Avoid self blame at all costs but focus on reflecting. This usually happens further down the road to mending your heartbreak.
Let go completely. You are not trying to do the whole “Oh we’re broken up but we’re cool and modern so we can be friends” – it just prolongs the pain! CUT TIES…Cut it, Cut it, Cut it, you need to cut it!!
Be kind to yourself. You will have days where you will be upset with the world. It happens, embrace it.
Time. It mends the heart. I know others believe getting straight into another relationship helps you get over another one. This is not everyone’s portion. Avoid going from one mess straight into another. That way when you say “I am over someone” you really over them. There are no comebacks. Time is often under estimated; especially nowadays because everyone wants an instant fix. There is NO QUICK FIX for heartbreak. This is why we end up having relationships with broken people who haven’t healed from past mistakes. Be fair to the next person. Take your time, you do not heal overnight.
Understand that heartbreak is a part of life. Not just in romantic relationships but in life in general. Lovers, friends and family will disappoint you so always be prepared to find a way to deal with it. Learn from your experience and remember that you are not the first or the last one to experience this. This too shall come to pass…
How have you dealt with heartbreak in the past? How long did it take you to finally reach the point where you could bump into your ex and they will have zero effect on you?
Let’s talk about it, I would love to read your thoughts.
I believe we all have that one thing that we know is an enemy of progress. It can be laziness, lack of faith, that one ex who calls and suddenly has you thinking of taking them back, the love for money and even sex! Being an adult comes without a manual but through experience you get to know yourself better and realise when certain temptations hit all that progress you had made is about to come crumbling down…
My love for natural sweet white wine will be the death of me! I just love it so much it may as well be my best friend. Last year my poison was Vodka but it came with stomach cramps the next day. I had an affair with red wine that didn’t last for long because I would have a splitting headache the next day. I finally decided to try out white wine and I absolutely loved it! I remember Chef Takura(single and very sexy but he has a beard so he isn’t a potential candidate) recommending it to me and it listening to him was the best decision I ever made. The one thing I love about white wine is I usually have it from the comfort of my warm bed and just after two glasses I am off to la la land. I prefer having it on the occasional weekend that way I don’t feel so guilty for indulging in something I know is an enemy of progress in the fitness department. I have a bottle all weekend though, that’s much better than having 3 bottles during the course of a weekend, yes, no? (trying to defend the error of my ways here)
I have had days were my whole day has been mapped by the things I have read, seen or watched on social media. There was a week when the #MenAreTrash hash tag was trending on almost all social media platforms. It was the most heartbreaking week of my life. The stories I read about what women go through left me feeling blue. I remember sharing my own story on my timeline and after that all the negative thoughts and feelings from the past came back to haunt me.
The very same platforms that bear sad news also come with beautiful things such as travel, love, relationships all wrapped in one. Now this stuff will make you wish you can order a partner just like the one you saw on Instagram! Don’t do it to yourself, take it from me. People will always show you the bright side of their lives and hardly ever the problems they are going through. Next thing you will contemplate breaking up with your partner because they have not taken you for a surprise getaway weekend to Italy, you will die from stress o! To make matters worse you can actually go an entire morning surfing through the internet giving yourself self inflicted stress. This is why you should stick to reading blogs like mine instead, nothing but good times only here. However, I have found a way to deal with this and that is by simply taking time off social media. Spend your time on other fulfilling activities that will not leave you green with envy or constantly comparing your life with the next person. Remember that comparison will steal your joy. Do not let this be your enemy of progress!
Negative energy is real. Ever noticed how some people just love to complain about any and everything and once you are done talking to them you wonder why you are feeling miserable. I am one person who values their peace of mind. There are so many things going wrong in our country that could easily send you straight to your death while you are asleep the last thing you need is spending time with a “Negative Nancy”. I understand that we all have problems and sometimes all you want to do is vent and get someone else to listen to you. That’s perfectly fine but it is NOT okay to vent for an entire day. Do you have any idea how that drains the next person? Please do not do it to your loved ones. If you decide to vent by all means do so but with all the venting make sure you come up with a solution to the problem together and act on it. No one wants to spend time with negative people, they steal your joy. Next time someone tries to ruin your day remember that it is your right to protect your peace and you can politely tell them to take their negative energy elsewhere.
I would love to hear from you. What are some of your enemies of progress and how do deal with them?
Love her or hate her, the other woman exists and chances are she will continue to exist till the end of time. I’m not saying your boyfriend or husband has her; not all men are cut out for that. However, if you are one of the unfortunate few he has one and it is highly likely that she is not going anywhere anytime soon.
I was the other woman, once upon a time…how did I end up there? A case of a long distance relationship gone wrong and after that I told myself I was not going to do relationships until further notice so a situationship was more ideal for me then. Couple that with insecurities from a failed relationship and not realising my worth, I easily settled for being the other woman in a heartbeat. I used to enjoy the thrill of the secret relationship, the attention was priceless because he would try to compensate for the time he was not able to be with me.
This is a phase in my life I look back to and ask myself what the heck was I thinking? But you know what they say, everything that happens to you is a learning curve. Thankfully that phase only lasted a short while and was over before it even started because I clearly could not stand being an option in his life. Believe me when I tell you that kind of emotional stress is not good for anyone, at all! Ask me if I will ever travel down that road again? The answer is a definite NO! It was a phase I am not proud of to date.
That is one of my favourite tracks by Changing Faces – The Other Woman and they are mainly singing about why they are no longer willing to share a man because they have finally realised what they deserve. (love is not so blind after all) However, not all women share the same sentiments because below are a few who are currently the other woman and not complaining about it.
“I enjoy the financial benefits that come with being the other woman, I have never worked a day in my life and “my husband” provides me and our children with everything we need.” Small House
“Sex with someone who isn’t my boyfriend every once in a while is a thrilling experience, you know what they say about variety being the spice of life.” The SexAHolic
“There is a sense of adventure, things done in secret give me an adrenaline rush and I got hooked to it I simply can’t stop.” The Side Chic
“I don’t have to worry about attending funerals, washing his clothes, cooking for him, I get to see him at his best and get to spend quality time with him.” The Cougar
“I get my rent paid, my child taken care of, endless outings, someone to sponsor my drinking habit and never having to worry about how I am going to put food on the table, that’s his job!” The Alcoholic
“Since we don’t see each other often when I do see him there is no time for fighting, I always look forward to seeing him.” Miss No Pressure
“I have been lied to and deceived one too many times, it is better to be with a married guy who won’t make empty promises to me.” Miss Content
“I have my own money, I can take care of myself but I don’t have the time for a full on relationship. I only see him as and when I am free because I have a busy schedule so being the other woman works for me.” Miss Independent
Relationships are complicated if you let them be, but from my experience being the other woman never ends well. It seems for the women above it is working to their advantage and they are happy. I say, life is too short so one must do whatever makes them happy as long as it gives them sleep at night.
What’s your take on the “other woman”? I am happy to read on both negative and possibly positive things you have to say about her in the comments section below.
Apparently dating is for the emotionally, physically, spiritually and financially ready. Emphasis on financially. Dating costs money but that doesn’t mean it has to break your bank. There are different activities you can enjoy with your partner that will leave you both happy and your wallet smiling. Fancy dress up and expensive dates are lovely but they certainly can’t be an everyday thing, sometimes all you need is to get back to the basics with that special someone in your life.
I have a list of 8 different ideas that I think you should try out. You know I recommend nothing but exciting things so make sure you try out at least one of them; you can thank me later.
Picnic. You can do this from anywhere actually, just let your creative juices flow. Picnic at the back of a truck, the balcony of your house, at the local park or depending on how daring you are; on the roof top. I would suggest you try out a sunset picnic which can later turn into a star gazing date. I am such a romantic, I know!
Movie. If you stay in Harare then happy days. You can take advantage of the half price Tuesday deal at the movies and pay for two people for the price of one. Add the Terrific Tuesday pizza deal and you have both a movie and a meal in one date! It will cost you give or take USD15 what’s not to love?
Coffee. It’s winter this part of the world and any date that guarantees to keep you warm is more than welcome. Cake at my favourite coffee place is USD3 a slice for any cake of your choice and coffee is USD2. It will give you a chance to enjoy as many cups of coffee as you please because the cake slices are huge and one cup of coffee will not do justice to it.
Cook. Nothing like a home cooked meal made with tender loving care. The plus side of cooking together is that you and your partner get to bond and have some intimate time together. Instead of spending a lot of money eating out you can get your favourite ingredients and prepare your favourite meal plus dessert!
Ice cream. Now this is the best date idea ever because ice cream doesn’t cost much. You will just have to make sure it’s a sunny day so that you get to enjoy the beautiful weather together with your ice cream and get to take a nice stroll together and hold hands. When was the last time you did that?
Fun Run. There is always a run of sort taking place. Just so you know, I host Fitness In The Park events every month and they are FREE. Exercise will give you a chance to challenge each other and also release those feel good hormones. Aaaaand, I read somewhere that exercise and great sex are best friends 🙂
Drinks. Become a mixologist for the night. Take a trip to the liquor store and get your favourite alcoholic beverages. Instead of going out on that Friday night stay at home and experiment with different alcohol mixtures. Make sure you create a music playlist that will have you dance the night away. The great thing is that if you pass out you will be in the comfort of your home.
Comedy. I know King Kandoro hosts Comedy Shows every Tuesday for free. On other occasions his shows go for USD2. There is no excuse not to go for something that will leave you in stitches. Comedy is a sure way to look at life from the fun side and if you two are trying to bring some laughter back into your relationship this is a sure way to forget about the fighting and get some humour into the mix.
I hope you try out these ideas and let me know how they work out for you. By the way, the ideas are open to both men and women. Ladies, surprise your man with one of these dates sometime soon and men, if you have not been taking out your girlfriend perhaps this list might help.
What activities do you get up to in your area that don’t break your budget? I would love to hear them.
Success is a result of good judgment. Good judgment is usually a result of experience. Experience is usually a result of bad judgment. – Tony Robbins
The first thing I should be telling you is how I ended up using Twitter before we all get excited about my hashtag trending. Sometime in 2011 Miss Kupsy’s father used to spend half his time on his phone and I would get super annoyed. Back then Facebook was the it thing and I knew he wasn’t on it so I would wonder what in the world he was doing on his phone. Eventually I asked him and he told me he was on Twitter. I decided to open an account and get myself started on it. I can safely say I found myself in a dark never ending tunnel, I was completely lost. I had no idea how the application worked and so decided to leave it for a while.
Facebook was getting a tad bit boring and I deleted the account. I decided it was time I tried out this alien looking Twitter and guess what, I LOVED IT. I had to teach myself about the ins and outs, the who to follow the where to place the hash key and a whole bunch of other things. It was a fun experience because well, this was something new and I got to Tweet whatever I wanted without relatives then calling to ask me about what I just wrote. Best feeling ever! However, after breaking up with Miss Kupsy’s father I went into a serious case of depression. No one knew about it though, all they saw were tweets talking about how much I was drinking that day and the random outbursts of cursing. I was in a bad space and Twitter was my outlet. I took some time out; it must have been 2 months away from Twitter and reevaluated my life. When I got back I was all about fitness.
I took to writing down my new resolution on my blog and on social media pages so that I would be accountable to my words. It was not easy at first but over time I started getting better and better and exercising and eating right. I know I annoyed a lot of people with my runs and exercise routines but I had finally found something that was giving me happy hormones and a reason to fly out of bed. I remember around the time that’s when the term “Bae” came along and seeing that I was very single at the time I decided to name myself “Fitness Bae“and since then everyone I meet refers to me as Fitness Bae.
Back to the trending topic…I have a WhatsApp group with fitness enthusiasts. When I came up with the hashtag years back the idea was to have more people with the same interests join me on my journey. Going with Fitness Bae as a hashtag didn’t sound catchy enough so I thought wait, my main form of exercise is running…so let me make it #RunWithFitnessBae !! And there you have it, the hashtag that has brought people from all walks of life and different parts of the world to exercise together and stay focused on their fitness journey.
Saturday 11 February
Sunday 12 February
The very day I was trending on Top 3 Onai gave me a call to come through to their studio to talk about my hashtag. We got to sit down and have a chat and was I nervous or what? It was my very first time doing something of the sort live and there was no chance to rehearse anything. The great thing about the experience was that they were all very hyped up and made the experience less intimidating. Once we started off I couldn’t stop, the amount of passion I have for Fitness is indescribable. Words were just flowing out and I was thinking why was I even scared to begin with?? It was great fun and apparently I will be doing it again soon for a whole hour! You can listen in to the podcast; I start featuring from around 15:10 over here.
It was a great weekend filled with Zumba, exercise, friends, podcasts, fun and a bottle of white wine! Never in my wildest dreams did I think that my fitness addiction would take the Twitter Timeline by storm. There is nothing as heart warming as trending and being known for a good cause. Thank you to Onai for having me on his show. Exercise is my life, I can’t function without it and I am happy to have a team that is equally enthusiastic about it.
A big shout out to team #RunWithFitnessBae we run this!!
Hello everyone, it’s been a beautiful day so far. I hope you are looking forward to the weekend as much as I am. A few minutes ago I got an email from a fellow blogger Kudzai and I didn’t realise it was blog related. I thought I had nothing to write about today and he magically came through for me. He has hit me up with 21 Questions and trust me he is not ready for the come back I have for him! Let me get to answering him as honestly and and as quickly as I can, my body is here but my mind is already out there celebrating the end of the working week!
A few people know your name, and also want to know the inspiration behind your blog name. Would you shed some light on that?
My name is Zvie. My blog name derives from two things. The first being “Ma” which is short for amai(mother) and “Kupsy” which is my daughter’s nickname. I put the two together and came up with MaKupsy.
A lot of the times we see tweets about Marondera. Can you tell us about where you’re from?
My family moved around a lot when I was little. I was born when we stayed in Kariba, then we moved to Chinhoyi when I was around 4 years old. We left for Marondera in 1994. I did my Primary School education in Marondera and High School, College and Work was in Harare…Help me decide where exactly I am from because I don’t know either. LOL
What actually inspired you to start blogging?
Love/ lust, I am not really sure which one of the two it was but I think the latter because at some point the feeling went away. I didn’t know how to tell a guy I was spending a lot of time with that I had the hots for him so I decided to write a blog post which he never saw. How sad. The other reason was to document my Fitness Journey.
Which of your blog posts are you most proud of?
The one I am most proud of has to be Butterfly . I bled all my emotions out of that post. I needed to let go off all the hurt and pain I had gone through and I did so the best way I know how; through writing. It spoke to a lot of women and it is one of the most popular posts on my blog.
Can you say your blogging experience has helped your writing and communication skills to improve?
It definitely has! I can’t just write up something and publish it. I have to go over it once, twice, sometimes three times to check if there are no spelling mistakes, no grammatical errors, having to think of flavoured words, smooth transitioning of sentences; it’s not as easy as it looks but with time you get better at it.
You’ve gained a reputation for talking about subjects people generally take as sensitive. How do you do it?
I didn’t realise I had gained a reputation for writing about the subjects that intrigue me the most. I am not sure if it’s a good or bad reputation though so you have to tell me more on this one. To be honest, I am one of those bloggers who simply speaks/tweets/writes exactly what’s on her mind. My blog is my space to entertain my thoughts so it’s a no holds barred area so I do it so easily.
What subject have you always had a passion for talking about? Is there a story behind this?
Most times I am passionate about writing on issues that women face. From heartbreak, unfair treatment, body image issues, domestic violence the works. The reason being I am woman above everything else, I have and still experience some of the things I have mentioned and also because I know my stories speak to other women right here in Zimbabwe and the world at large.
Everyone knows, you absolutely hate bad sex. Can you give us a snippet of one time you can say you really experienced some horrible loving?
I really need to stop over sharing. The moment I read EVERYONE I just realised I talk too much! Well, I once wrote about an incident over here so you can get a scoop of some of the horrible loving I received (or didn’t receive in this case).
Men in suits just do it for you, don’t they?
YES, YES AND YES!!
What qualifies as the biggest turn off for you?
The biggest turn off has to be typos and all this shorthand that’s supposed to be the in thing. I CAN NOT STAND SHORT HAND. People are out here acting like letters are being sold if you want to use them. The moment someone I am talking to on any social media platform starts with the shorthand nonsense I ignore them. It truly grates on my nerves!
Your Fitness Program has also earned you quite the reputation. What inspired you to start running?
If I had not weighed in that fateful day when I went to visit my doctor I would probably not be Fitness Bae right now. Two years ago I weighed 85kgs. For someone who is only 163cm that is bad, very bad. I was shocked beyond words because that was the exact weight I was when I was pregnant with my daughter. Just a few days before giving birth I was 85kgs and there I was weighing the same weight and not pregnant. It gave me the biggest wake up call of my life.
I imagine a lot of people pester you with “I wanna start working out too, can you give me some advice?” kind of questions. Maybe you could put it to bed once and for all for us amateurs LOL
Yes, I get those questions all the time and even after telling people what to and what not to do some won’t go ahead and start on the fitness journey. The truth of the matter when it comes to fitness is that YOU have to want to do it. People can suggest you do something about your weight but as long as you don’t want it yet it will never happen. The only motivation that works with fitness is self motivation.
Obviously somewhere along the line, you thought of giving up. What kept you going?
When I initially started my workout program in August 2014 I had days I truly wanted to drop the whole thing. My legs, thighs, shins everything hurt because my body was used to being idle. I remember my dad telling me to keep at it because it was certainly going to hurt in the beginning. I have kept going for a couple of reasons;
I want to win all the Mother’s Races at my daughter’s school,
I want to live longer and lead a healthy lifestyle,
The results I see every week are amazing and I look so much better in my clothes, who would have thought I would own yellow, pink and all the pretty colour bras, they only have them in small sizes by the way!
Running gives me feel good hormones and I can never imagine my life without it.
I have made incredible friends thanks to my running addiction and they have made some amazing contributions in my life. It would not be the same without them.
You love food (This is no secret). Coupled with your fitness program, doesn’t this present significant challenges to your love for making your taste buds dance, and to your fitness lifestyle?
The trick is to balance out everything. The moment you deprive your body, the moment you over indulge. I love my food without a doubt and what works for me is portion control and making sure I prepare the meals myself whenever I can that way I get to choose all the ingredients that go into the meal.
What’s the best restaurant you’ve been to in Harare? Have you blogged about it before?
I have been to a handful of restaurants so far but this year I have to admit that Victoria 22 took my breath away. I went there for my birthday and I was absolutely wowed. Yes, I blogged about it, that’s one of the other things I enjoy on my blog, writing about Restaurant Reviews. The link for the Victoria 22 experience is here.
Are men trash?
LOL, how random is that question? I will throw the same question back at you, are women trash?
There was one blog that caught my attention, about single mothers. You really went in on this one. Have you any words about the subject and people’s perception towards it?
I remember the blog. It was meant to run as a series but I could not get enough people to contribute, it can still be done if I put my mind to it. Just watch this space for details…About Single Mothers, society is messed up. The moment they hear someone is a single mother they throw judgement and yet they don’t even know her story. People need to grow up and stop treating single mothers like they have some sort of a disease. Women are raising a child or children on her own for different reasons. Life happens, no one is perfect after all is said and done.
Your pride and joy…can you pick out one of your proudest mummy moments?
It was a random day that I spoke to Miss Kupsy over the phone. I always tell her I love her at the end of each conversation. That day I was in a rush and quickly said goodbye. She called out “Mhamhi!” from the other end before I hung up then I replied her and she said “I love you”. My heart melted, that was the first time she said that without me telling her first. I was in puddles of joy, she is my little ray of sunshine.
You drink more than I do. You’re a fan of vodka too. So I am sure you have a story to tell about the most drunk you’ve been before. We’re listening…
You love stories way too much. The funniest story I can recall that is Vodka related is the first time my cousin and I tried it. When we got back home we struggled to go up the stairs. We stayed on the fourth floor but thanks to having one too many we got to the third floor and tried to unlock the door. It wouldn’t open and we passed out right there in the passage. We got up sometime in the morning when we started feeling cold and obviously back to being sober and realised we were on the wrong floor! Amateur drinking right there! Now I’m a pro, come to me for the best Vodka mixes in town.
Can you recommend a good book to read, that isn’t Karma Sutra or Mills and Boon?
I have never in my life read a Mills & Boon, that was never my portion. I recommend you get your hands on Half of A Yellow Sun by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie you won’t put that book down. If you are into our very own local literature read The Hairdresser of Harare by Tendai Huchu, it took me 3 days to finish it, it was that good!
Finally, can we expect much more from MaKupsy in the following months? Is there anything in the pipeline? Or is it a secret? Shall we keep our eyes and ears open?
You are not ready for the things I have lined up Fitness wise. It’s going to be amazing, your go to place for all things workout related. It’s not a secret but a surprise. Come December this year, you will me totally blown away!
Have a lovely weekend everyone and stay inspired to be the best version of yourself each and everyday.
It is freaking hot this end of the world, I can not deal with this anymore! Walking about naked is actually becoming a very tempting idea but the thought of getting arrested for public indecency and spending the festive season at Central Police Station in Harare is not even part of my to-do-list for the holidays!!! So we had a party last night, whoop whoop!!
Everything was organised, drinks, food, snacks you name it and then guess what, we only got to eat at 10 pm. Like WHAT THE FUCK?! This is the thing, my friend had been waiting for her boyfriend to show up for the do and he only showed up at 11 pm. So the rest of us mere mortals suffered for his delay and only got to eat late which was unfair but who cares right, we are not as important as her man. I was actually pretty upset about that you would think it was my boyfriend that showed up at that ungodly hour. Let me break it down so that we are probably on the same page of being overly sensitive about this issue.
Her boyfriend knew that she was organising a braai and all he had to do was to show up at a decent hour to at least spend time with his girlfriend and her crew.
Apparently this guy plays basketball and clearly the team would fail dismally without him because he would not be around. (imagine what would happen if he would drop dead) I am not wishing him bad though I am just saying really people he could just miss one freaking day to just be there!
I am still upset at my friend for waiting up for this guy till 11 pm. WHY WOULD YOU DO THAT TO YOURSELF?? Had the tables been turned I would have sent him a message or called him and told him “Let me see you another day because this is clearly not important to you.” And I would have been mad pissed off with him for days to come, probably not take his calls, take forever to reply his messages; I know that is very childish but you can’t make a woman wait up for you till that time of day and yet you had the WHOLE DAMN DAY TO SHOW UP!!
He is a dick for pulling such a dick move.
He was supposed to bring a bottle for the party, just one bottle but no, you know what he brought instead, his brother with his girlfriend in tow! HILARIOUS!! Who does that???
I am so over people who just allow themselves to have the next person walk all over them and do jack squat about it. I believe that a true gentleman will pick up the phone and call you and explain why he is delaying and there is no way he will make you wait for so long, “Where the fuck was he this whole time.” In come my trust issues… I don’t even believe this was still about basketball and yet there was my friend eating this story like chocolate cake!
He clearly does not treat her as a priority and she doesn’t even realise it.
Moral of the story? I am so upset over an issue that doesn’t even concern me!!
I hope you are having a lovely festive season, I know I am.