Social Media & Dating

Social media has taken relationships to a whole new level.  Now you get to publicly share your private and intimate moments that you indulge in with your significant other. It’s interesting to watch couples in love, swooning all over each other and posting selfies with on social media with cute captions.  However, I have mixed feelings when it comes to publicising who you are dating on social media platforms for the following reasons:

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Image from Pinterest

Pros

  1. When you are in love you want the whole world to know and it’s only normal to want your social media friends to share your happiness.
  2. When you post your significant other people will know they are taken and *hopefully* stay away.
  3. Posting your significant other is also a sign of confidence in who you are dating.

Cons

  1. If you need to conceal your significant other from the world then what the heck are the two of you doing together? Please note there is a difference between being private and being a big secret.
  2. Most people on social media have a sense of entitlement. They feel that just because you share pictures with your significant other they now have the right to know intimate details of your relationship; people prying and needing to know why a couple broke up.  I have been guilty of this myself at some point in my life.  It’s not a good trait, we should learn to mind our own business…then again, people make it our business!
  3. You can’t help but feel like you have to live up to social media expectations because people now expect to see demonstrations and expressions of your love on special occasions. Take a birthday for instance, people want to see what you get on your special day and if your significant other is really #BaeGoals or not (feel free to Google that hash tag).  Talk about pressure!
  4. Some people are attracted to someone who is already taken…need I say more?
  5. Imagine posting your significant other every single day on social media and then one day you break up and you have close to 100 pictures of them all over your online space. The stress of deleting each picture one by one is something I shudder to imagine.
  6. You can’t express your opinions about relationships in peace without people thinking you are talking about your significant other. You can’t even join the #MenAreTrash movement because we will quickly assume your man is trash too! L.O.L

Ever noticed how people with money don’t make noise about it?  Take Strive Masiyiwa for example, the man is a whole millionaire but you don’t hear ad nauseum about his success or how he spends his millions. I think it the same applies to couples who are genuinely in love.  They keep it classy, you know they are dating, they share pictures yes but they keep it to a minimum and you actually look forward to their social media posts.

Then there is this one guy whose name I shall not care to mention but brags about his financial status on social media platforms like, come on!  I mean dude, you have money, we get it but why do you feel the need to tell us ALL about your life in a bag of chips?  Gosh, is he annoying or what?!  These are my sentiments about couples who over-share on social media.  Why do you find it necessary to bombard people with posts about your significant other every other hour telling us how great your relationship is going? Sometimes I can’t help but feel that people like that feel inadequate and are seeking validation, then again that’s just me.

Showcasing your love on social media is just like having a wedding.  Some will be happy for you, others will not be amused and the rest might wish you misfortune.  BUT that doesn’t mean people should stop getting married because people will receive the news differently.  Love should be celebrated whenever it can be! – Batanai Tuwe

What are your thoughts on the subject?  Do you share pictures of your significant other on social media platforms?  If yes, how is that going for you so far?  If not, what’s the reason behind it?

©MaKupsy 2017

 

10 Exciting UnPlugged Facts

UnPlugged is back again this Sunday!  I am already doing a mini countdown.  If you have never been then I suggest you save the date because this is an event that you don’t want to miss. I know you are here because you know I like all things exhilarating and UnPlugged is definitely one of those few things I can never get enough of.  When you go make sure you are seen but whatever you do please don’t cause a scene! Today on my blog I give you, 10 Fun UnPlugged Facts, this is the only place you have seen this because I am always a step ahead on my blogging journey.  Read on…

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1. Unplugged got its name from the initial intention to introduce acoustic performances but the event quickly morphed to being electronically amplified and the name stuck.
2. The first ever Unplugged was held in December 2014 and was attended by just 150 people.
3. It’s a roving event with no fixed abode.
4. The two childhood friends who started Unplugged share a passion for homegrown music. They have known each other for over 30 years!
5. The heart of Unplugged is artist development – providing up and coming talent the space and audience to share and develop their craft.

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Prince Musarurwa & Pah Chihera

6. Unplugged Zim, the company that manages Unplugged, is actually an Arts Organisation whose work spans across various Arts disciplines.
7. Over 150 artists have performed on the Unplugged stage.
8. Unplugged was a loss-making business for close to two years, when it finally reached break-even.
9. Unplugged’s first Bulawayo event happens this year in September, the 3rd to be precise.
10. Unplugged is looking across borders, hoping to penetrate other markets.

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*BONUS FACT* 

Artists interested in performing at Unplugged can fill in the application form at:

http://unpluggedzim.com/artist-application/

See you at UnPlugged!

©MaKupsy 2017

Let’s Celebrate Each Other!

I always enjoy reading through Facebook messages, especially ones from Linda.  The other day she posted something that I could completely relate to.  It read…

You see, this is the thing with some of the Zimbabweans.  You will bump into someone in the street and they will tell you “Oh I just love what you are doing with your fitness journey” but last time you checked they are not following you on social media, not liking a picture or event and better yet not even taking part in the challenges you post.  We are the kings and queens of stalking!

If you ask me most people follow your journey from the sidelines waiting for things to go wrong so that they can say “That’s why I never followed him or her.”  It really is no biggie though, when you are working towards something you will face obstacles along the way, it’s part of the process.  The irony of it all is that when you eventually do make it they are the first to go around claiming to be your “friends”, we see you!

As for some of the church people…I could write a whole blog post about how they do not practice what they preach but that’s a story for another day.

BUT at the same time, let us also not do mediocre things and expect people to support us.  Be it in music, food, fashion whatever the passion.  People want to be able to pay for something they feel is a quality product.  There is no way anyone will want to part with money or share events they feel are not well thought out or polished.  Let’s do our best to bring out our A game.

For now all I can say is that I am behind Linda on this one, let us celebrate each other and our dreams.  It is not always money that people want from you.  Just sharing a Facebook status, sending a message to tell someone how well they are doing in their area of expertise or referring someone to an event you think might interest them, the list is endless…

Let’s put our time to better use and be better individuals in the community.

Linda K Sibanyoni – The Business Woman
“Do not interrupt my greatness”

MaKupsy© 2017

Woman Crush Wednesday

Today is Wednesday and I am seriously crushing on Pokello Nare.

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Pokello Nare

The urban dictionary defines a crush as a painful experience, very common among middle schoolers (and high schooler’s and even adults to a lesser degree) that involves being obsessed with a member of the opposite sex (or the same sex, if u prefer), being attracted to them physically (most common), or emotionally- also called ‘puppy love’ also: the object of this affection.

After reading that I can safely say my crush falls in the obsession department. Hear me out, I have reasons and this is why she is my woman crush:

  • She is confident
  • She is a go getter
  • She is a business woman, she even now has her own shoe line! pokello.com
  • She is a mother
  • She loves her son to bits
  • She has a smoking hot body!
  • She dresses really well, no wonder she calls herself the Queen of Swagger  she takes the crown any day
  • She has lovely taste in clothes and shoes
  • She has lovely skin (when I grow up I want to have skin just as flawless)
  • She has a pretty smile
  • She wears to die for designer shoes you just want to stare at her Instagram pictures all day long
  • She has taken wearing your own hair to the next level, she rocks her short hair ever so nicely
  • She has one heck of a nice car, last time I heard it was a Range Rover Sport but i’m sure she has more now
  • Did I mention that she has a smoking hot body? well, im going to say it again!

Over and above I think she is truly an inspiration, love her or hate her she is making her mark and I am sure a lot of women are taking notes.  Keep doing what you’re doing Pokello Nare you are a constant reminder that “The best revenge is massive success.”

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Pokello Nare

PS. I only uploaded two of her photos so that I don’t look like a serial stalker!

MaKupsy

This Getting To Know Someone Business

This a note just to say I am sick and tired of this whole so what’s your favourite colour, what do you do for fun, what’s your family setup like, do you want to have kids blah blah blah.  Gosh! No one ever warned me just how much of a drag getting to know someone can be as you get older.  It starts off on a hyped note, you realise you have common interests, the calls, the messages but somewhere along the lines you realise maybe just maybe this isn’t exactly what you are looking for and guess what? You have to start all over again.  I have always been about making new friendships and what not but lately it clearly is not my thing.sobbing-emoticon

I am exhausted and I don’t think I have the energy anymore, I am too old for this shit.  I think I am actually tired of meeting new people.  Should I be worried?

MaKupsy