You Can Make It Happen!

I like to describe myself as a “Go Getter” because from a very young age I have managed to make things happen on my own.  I think the huge age gap between my siblings and I played a part in that because I felt like an only child.  They were in boarding school the greater part of the time and I was at home with my parents with no one else to play with except myself. That right there is the one reason I became one adventurous child.  I had nothing but time on my hands and I experimented with climbing trees, playing tennis and attempting to walk from preschool to our house because my dad had delayed in picking me up.  The adventures are plenty and I am going to tell you all about them.

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3 year old me 🙂 Kariba

Swimming

Anyone who claims to know me will tell you that I LOVE to swim.  That’s my summer highlight.  I am out in my swimwear ready to dive into some cool, calming water.  It’s my next exercise of choice, actually, it’s not even an exercise it’s one of the many things I love to do.  How did it all start?  Everyone in my family can swim and the time we stayed in Kariba we would all go to the pool for an afternoon of fun in the sun.  They took me with them, put some floaters on my arms and let me enjoy the water.  When we moved to Chinhoyi a few years later my swimming obsession went crazy because we had a swimming pool by our house and at every given opportunity I was out there trying to learn how to swim with or without supervision.  I remember the one time I slipped and nearly drowned; I thought if my mother had found out  I had gone unsupervised I was going to die twice!! I continued to teach myself how to swim and by the time I started preschool I was water confident and remember graduating from the shallow end to the deep end in a matter of weeks.  Years later, Miss Kupsy has inherited my love for swimming and I take her with at every opportunity.

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Riding A Bike

I had a cute little red and yellow tricycle. Unfortunately I don’t have any pictures of it but I remember it very vividly.  I loved that little tricycle, it got me to the swimming pool faster than the speed of lighting. I soon outgrew it and got a bicycle with helpers as a birthday gift.  Seeing that my parents were at work the greater part of the time it was up to me to learn to how to ride the “big bike”.  I don’t know how many times I fell off that little bike but with every fall I kept getting back up and trying again.  That very day I remember my dad driving in and me racing my bike down the drive way to show him that I had figured out how to ride my bike.  He was so proud of me and promised to let me ride it to see one of my friends who stayed close by after a few days.  I still have scars on my knees from the countless falls I had on that day but they were all worth it because if I had not pushed myself I probably would have never learnt how to do so.

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I remember begging the father of my child to teach me how to use Twitter.  The guy would act like I was talking to myself.  He just said open an account and figure it out.  I was thoroughly annoyed.  I really thought he would sit down with me and give me a full on lecture on how to Tweet!  I was dying for a break from Facebook so I decided I would sign up and give it a try.  My first tweet read; “Tweet tweet hurray” not bad for a first timer right?  Don’t ask about the hash tags though, in my defense I was still new to the application and I was trying to navigate my way around it.  6 years later my followers have grown and not only do I have a Lifestyle Blog; I also have a Fitness Blog and a Fitness Movement that stemmed from my use of Twitter and social media.  My social media presence has exposed me to different opportunities and I continue to network with people who have dropped some valuable gems in my life.  I can safely say that the use of social media helped me to find my purpose.

If there is one thing that I have learnt through all the above experiences it is the fact that self taught skills are the best experiences life has to offer.  If you really want something sometimes waiting for someone to come and spoon feed you is not the best of decisions.  Get up and do something about those things you want to learn or do.  It can be writing a book,(watch this space for my book in December 2018!!) going back to school, designing a website, applying for that Visa and get to explore a whole new continent.  Whatever the case might be the power is within you to make it happen.

 

However, you must remember that it will take time.  If you want to build something worth your while make an extra effort to learn as much as you can on the subject at hand, network with those in the know, keep voice memos when an idea comes to mind; you don’t want to let it slip your mind!  Above all else, keep believing that you can do anything you set your mind to.

You are the creator of your own destiny.

Do tell me about some of the things on your to-do-list.  Have you already started working on them or you are waiting for a miracle to happen?

©MaKupsy 2017

 

 

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Children Need Outdoor Play Too!

I realised last weekend that the only activity I manage to do with Miss Kupsy when I go home for the weekend in Marondera is go and grab a bite.  We usually settle for pizza and icecream because that is the ONLY take out place in the whole town.  When I bring her to Harare that is a completely different case because the options of things to do are countless.

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However, today my main concern is the lack of outdoor play areas for children in my hometown.  When I was growing up there was a functional swimming pool, a video game centre, a movie house, a tennis court, a basketball court and a park which actually had swings, slides the works!  Ask me what has happened to these play areas?  Well, the swimming pool since stopped working years ago, the video game centre is not used for that anymore, I am still to find out what is going on there, the movie house was turned into a bar, the tennis court now has people setting up stalls to sell second hand clothes, the basketball court is being used as an area to line laundry and the park… oh well; just another dump in town with no swings at all and a lot of litter.

It annoys me that whoever is responsible for town planning does not take the children in the community into consideration.  Where in the world are they supposed to play?  I mean, they can’t possibly stay indoors all day long, or play on the streets or around their house till kingdom come.  They obviously get tired just like everyone else and need a break and need to socialise with children their age.  And if you ask me this should be something that can be done without having to fork out a lot of money if any at all.  Imagine if all they are going to be exposed to is eating unhealthy take out?  I can just picture a whole bunch of adults suffering for weight issues in the near future…

The following points are (based on Wardle, 1996-2003) describe the main reasons why outdoor play is critical for the healthy development of young children.  I took a few points from the article.

Physical Exercise Children need to develop large motor and small motor skills and cardiovascular endurance.

Enjoyment of the Outdoors Outdoor play is one of the things that characterize childhood. And as Lord Nuffield once said, the best preparation for adulthood is to have a full and enjoyable childhood.

Learning about the World Outdoor play enables young children to learn lots and lots and lots of things about the world. How does ice feel and sound? Can sticks stand up in sand? How do plants grow? How does mud feel?

Learning about Self and the Environment To learn about their own physical and emotional capabilities, children must push their limits. Health Everyone who works with young children in early childhood programs and schools knows how quickly bacteria and viruses spread in these environments. One way to reduce the spread of infection is through lots and lots of fresh air.

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Definitely NOT in Marondera

Then you wonder why I am thoroughly upset with Marondera Town Council?  Do you see all those benefits of outdoor fun for children? It seems those in the powers that be do not have children as a part of their programme because if they did surely there would be at least ONE play area where children can just have a grand time.

Miss Kupsy loves the outdoors and I feel bad that the only open space she has to play is at home.  I hope someone addresses this  issue and something is done about it.  When I think back to my own childhood, some of their fondest memories are of outdoor places and activities I got up to (I will never forget the first time I fell off a tree trying to climb to the top) I hope Miss Kupsy and all the other children in the community do not get deprived of that opportunity. All children have the right to basic childhood needs…jumping, running, climbing, swinging, racing, yelling, rolling, hiding, and making a big mess,it is what childhood is all about!

©MaKupsy 2017

I Want To Raise My Daughter Differently

Compliments of the new season!  We made it alive and in good health, that is the one gift that I am forever grateful for.  This year I have so many things lined up in different aspects of my life but today I will be sharing my thoughts on how I want to raise Miss Kupsy.  She is 5 years old now and I feel getting her to believe in herself from a very young age will do wonders for her as she gets older.

Effective parents give children roots to grow and wings to fly.

Hobbies

My daughter loves her music.  She will sing along to Nickelodeon, Disney Junior and the whole bunch of songs and jingles they play on there.  Let’s not even start with music videos.  She likes that J.Lo Track “Ain’t Your Momma” but her version of the chorus leaves me in stitches all the time because she sings it as “I’m not going to cook your laundry I ain’t your momma!”  She clearly doesn’t know what she is singing along to but gosh does she dance and sing away like the care free child that she is.  You see, because she loves music I have made sure that I have bought her musical instruments.  I got her a flute and tambourine.  Her grandparents got her a drum, my sister got her a guitar for Christmas just a few weeks back.  When I spoke to her this morning she was telling me she wants a Marimba set.   I want her to explore her musical path and enjoy her hobby.  You never know what will fire her soul as she grows so I might as well fuel it right now.

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Miss Kupsy

Career

The time I grew up you didn’t have much choice when it came to what you wanted to be when you grow up.  The options were limited.  You were either supposed to be a Doctor, Pilot or Accountant in order to have “made it in life” so you can imagine how the rest of us possibly disappointed our parents seeing that we didn’t fulfill their expectations.  I am a creative person and none of those titles were going to blend in with me.  Unfortunately I only got to find this out when I was older and had already studied something I didn’t like but something that would pay the bills at least.  When it comes to my daughter I want her to choose her own path.  Of course I will give her input on the available options at the time but ultimately the decision will be hers to make because she will be the one who will have to study and eventually work in that field.  Her happiness will always come first.

Self Confidence

Most parents have that “You can’t do this” mentality which I find pretty disturbing.  I mean, this is your child, why are you stopping them from greatness?  You parent(s) should be your biggest cheer leaders.  Even if you fail they should be right there to remind you that you can always try again.  I want to teach and always remind Miss Kupsy that she needs to know the extent of her own abilities and that she can overcome problems in the world, she just needs to put in the time and the effort to make it happen.

Relationships and Marriage

By relationships I don’t mean just the romantic relationships. I am talking about how she will relate to her friends, family, school mates, teachers and at some point in her life her partner.  My daughter is naturally a fun loving little person who finds joy in giving.  I remember buying her ice cream the other day and she shared it with three of her friends and yet when they had theirs they didn’t offer her a single bite.  A part of me wanted to tell her to not share but then again that’s out of character for her so I just called her aside and asked her to sit next to me while she at least had the half that was left.  I didn’t know how to tackle this one.  If I told her to not give her friends then I was teaching her not to share but at the same time if I didn’t she wasn’t going to eat any of that ice cream. What would you have done?

That said; I want her to always know that learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all.  I want her to be able to show love, to pray for discernment when it comes to the partner and friends she will choose.  To show respect to everyone and their feelings regardless of their age.  To say thank you, I’m sorry and I love you.  With these things I strongly feel she will grow to be of strong character.

I also don’t want to be that doting mother, she must learn to be independent as well.  With independence I want her to know that she does not have to get married.  She can if she wants to but I will not put pressure on her to do so.  I will teach her that life will go on whether one is married or not and if that will be one of the things she wants she has to remember that. I will love her all the same whether she will be single, married, divorced, whatever her marital status what will always matter to me is that she is happy.

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That said, I have a lot more things I would want to talk about but this is my first blog post for the year and I would want you to come back for more so I will leave it here for now.  If you would like to read more adventures my daughter gets up to you can read them from here.

I would like to hear from you.  If you are a parent, how are you doing things differently raising your child?  If you are planning on having kids how do you intend to have an impact on them?  If you don’t have any kids how do you help those around you raise their kids?  I know I left a handful of other points so please include some of yours in the comments section.

Let’s talk.

©MaKupsy

10 Whole Days Without A Blog Post

This is so very much unlike me.  I usually post a blog, two or three each week.  It’s definitely not a writer’s block I am experiencing, just pure laziness.  I blame winter, winter is the reason I have stopped running close to 5 times in a week.  Now I am concentrating more on indoor exercises and that is going on pretty well so far.  Today’s post will be random so worry not, I am perfectly okay, I just have different things going on in my mind right now so let’s talk all about them.

Firstly, “relationship weight”.  Have you noticed how you gain weight the moment you enter a relationship.  When you are single and floating about life it’s easy to watch what you eat, work out and maintain a healthy weight.  Now that you are all loved up and getting extra love, attention, great sex all your weight goals go out the window.  It’s even worse if you pair up with someone who drinks alcohol because the amount of greasy food you have to consume the next day to get rid of your hangover is insane.  It leaves me wondering if getting into a relationship is even a good idea after all.  Seeing that it comes with chances of gaining weight that will be really hard to shed off once you break up.  Yes, I know that’s just being extra dramatic and not a reason not to actually be in a relationship.

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the stage was in the garden and the sitting arrangement was perfect, everyone could see properly 🙂

Secondly, going out in winter sucks!  BUT if you are going to be attending a Theatrical Play it isn’t so bad after all.  Last Friday my friend Tina and I went to watch aShakespeare’s Much Ado About Nothing at the British Ambassador’s Residence.  It was different kind of fun and worth every minute.  When it started off I thought oh my, this is going to be such a yawn fest but after about 15 minutes into the play I started catching onto the humour and I was hooked.  There was a 10 minute break in between and we got to go and buy some food and warm beverages.  I really wanted sadza, I was dying from hunger and seeing that I had last had a proper meal at lunch time I was worried I would collapse any minute.  LOL.  We ended up settling for burgers and in my head I thought I probably need two of them, I was THAT hungry!  My favourite character in the play was Beatrice, she was not even about that married life when the play started off but in the end she got married and they lived happily ever after with Benedick even though it had some outside help to get them to confess their feelings towards each other.

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Tina & MaKupsy

Thirdly, shopping for baby girls.  I don’t know if this is a problem I face on my own or other parents in Harare have the same issue.  I went up and about town on Saturday morning trying to get Miss Kupsy a pretty pair of black winter boots.  I was in town for close to an hour and could not find anything nice.  The few pairs that I saw were ugly and the sales people kept trying to convince me they were nice when they clearly weren’t!  You see the thing is, if I am going to buy something I make sure it is worth every single dollar and there is no way I will be spending my hard earned money on something that I will not be happy with.  I was close to giving up when I decided to try a shop I normally buy from and was I in luck.  The last pair that they had was in Miss Kupsy’s size and in her favourite colour too.  This means I still have to look for a black pair later on but for now pink will do.  I really wish we had a one stop place where you could just get everything for kids and not have to go all over town, it really is frustrating!

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Finally; I have a headache from hell!  I didn’t sleep a wink last night.  There was some Club that played music from 8pm till this morning at 5am and I could hear each and every song!!! My body hurts from all the different forms of squats I did during my morning workout yesterday, I feel tired, I already don’t like Mondays and I am feeling pretty terrible right now.  BUT I will soldier on, I will fix myself a cup of hot coffee, I will keep a positive mindset and hopefully in a few hours I will be feeling like my normal happy self again.

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The bum that squats

So, what’s on your mind?  What did you get up to over the weekend and do you have anything to vent about today?  Let’s vent together!

 

MaKupsy

Miss Kupsy Goes Swimming

We spent the day with my oldest sister and she was the camera person for the day.  Miss Kupsy adores her and calls her Big Momma.  That’s the two of them below, one of their favourite things to do is eating so you understand why they probably get along, A LOT.

 

 

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Big Momma & Miss Kupsy

 

After lunch we proceeded to the next activity that was lined up for the day.  I have never seen my daughter so thrilled about an activity.  After so many bribing attempts I finally got her to agree to go swimming.  I think Saturday will be her highlight for 2016.  She loved every second of it, what with the screaming, splashing and dipping herself in water.  At first she didn’t like the idea of getting her hair wet but eventually she just went with the flow.

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I actually thought she was going to be scared of the water but not Miss Kupsy, she got to the baby pool and jumped right in.  I think I will be taking her for more swimming outings and this time actually teach her how to swim.  I have so many baby photos of myself in the pool, my love for swimming has been around for a while and I hope my little funshine will also adopt it.

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After a while I wanted to do a few laps in the big pool and asked her to stay behind in the baby pool while my sister watched over her.  Would she even hear any of it?  She wanted to join me and nothing and noone was going to change her mind!  I have never seen such a strong willed little person…I wonder where she gets it from.   Anyways, that’s her chilling on the floater like a little boss lady, right in the deep end as if she can swim to save her life!  We had fun, a lot of it and we will definitely do this again before schools open.

 

What did you get up to over the Easter Holiday?

 

MaKupsy

 

 

BBC (Burst Your Bubble Cooperation)

I have come across some really party poppers in this lifetime.  Like how does one find joy in ruining the next persons day just like that?  Sometimes it’s so bad you would think they probably had urine in place of their usual coffee in the morning.  Let me tell you some of the incidents that have happened in the past that left me speechless.

  • I had just got my driver’s licence and I was absolutely ecstatic about it. You have to be Zimbabwean to understand just how hard it is to get your licence and go through the Eastlea Vehicle Inspection Department without catching a stroke.  That place gives you nightmares and once you get your licence that’s the last place you want to be.  I got my licence on a Saturday and come Monday I was showing everyone who would care to see.  Then from out of the blue this colleague asked “Why are you excited about a licence when you don’t even have a car.”  I didn’t have a come back to that one, I was too shocked to reply him.  Like who says things like that???

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  • My weight has been an issue for a couple of years now. I then decided to get up and do something about it.  The first few weeks were hard but I eventually got to adjust to my new lifestyle.  This one time I chose to run the route were I ran all the way to Samora Machel and Glenara Road.  That’s a good 4km to get there from my place.  I bumped into an ex boyfriend (Ex 1 in that post)  who by the way is overweight.  He was stuffed in his car and slowed down and started talking to me during my run.  I told him I can’t run and talk at the same time so if he needed to talk he would have to call me afterwards.   He simply said “Uri kuzvinetsereiko uchingori wakafuta wani” Translation >> Why are you even bothering you are still fat.  I was FUMING I ran at an unusually fast pace all the way home.  How dare he say something like that?  I was now running a whole 8km nonstop and he just had the audacity to say I am fat!  I had lost a significant amount of weight by then and he just had to find a way to demotivate me.  The moment I got home I composed a very strong message and told him to never contact me again.  PLUS I reminded him that this was one of the reasons why we never worked out.  He was just a huge being of negativity!

 

  • My hair doesn’t grow. Well, it does but stops at a certain length which doesn’t sit well with me because I want long hair that goes all the way to my neck and shoulders but of course I have tried and tested everything and I know it won’t happen.  So I am living that dream through my daughter and making sure her hair is healthy.  Back to the story at hand.  I cut my hair because my hairline was losing meaning and when I did so I felt refreshed and happy because I was holding onto something that was never going to materialise.  And while everyone was busy saying the look was great and I should have cut my hair a long time ago there was obviously an individual who said “You really look like a guy now!”  Okay, fine, this bubble didn’t burst so badly, I knew I was obviously going to look different and people would take time to get used to the look.  That was actually funny but oh well.

I am not saying I don’t like criticism or feedback I don’t entirely agree with.  What I’m saying is that sometimes some comments are really uncalled for.  What do you lose from keeping quiet if you genuinely have nothing nice to say to someone?  Have you faced any moments where someone burst your happy bubble?  Let’s share and have a good laugh.

 

MaKupsy

Day 17 – I Can’t Keep Calm Miss Kupsy Is 4 Today!!!

kHappy Birthday to my darling daughter Kupsy.  She is 4 today!!  I can’t believe just how time flies by, just yesterday she was a little baby I could cuddle and give a dozen kisses but now she will give you a two second hug and wipe off your kiss because she has to run and play with her friends.  Talk about being a little independent gem!

God blessed me with a daughter with such a beautiful soul and I could never ask for anything more.  You are the main reason I keep going even on my bad days because I know in your world I am super mum and capable of anything under the sun.  I pray God continues to bless and watch over you.

This year, there won’t be a party but a big gift from your favourite aunt and me and I know you will love it.

You are my pride and joy and no matter how many years go by you will always be my little princess.

Happy Birthday Mamoyo, I love you.

MaKupsy