Who Are You When No One Is Watching?

I get up to some pretty interesting things when no one is watching.  My favourite being peeing in a bucket. My bathroom is just across my room but the whole task of getting out of bed, opening the door, walking to the toilet sitting myself down…too much work so I just place my bucket in my room and pee from there.  It’s fine, judge me all you like, my secret is out!  I bet a handful of other people do this, I can’t possibly be alone on this one but thanks to social media most won’t admit to it and that’s just how social media is slowly but surely stopping us from being our true selves.

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Under Pressure (insert Queen audio track here)

I love me some golden oldies and that track just reminded me just how much social media can put you under necessary pressure. Have you seen how gorgeous people look online?  Every other day they are wearing top of the range clothes, shoes, hair and makeup and the rest of us mere mortals are looking like we walked right out of a corn field!  A few years back it really used to bother me.  I couldn’t even imagine posting a photograph on Instagram wearing the same outfit I once posted weeks ago, that right there was taboo!  Now that I’m all grown up I can safely say I post whichever picture I want to and that’s not even every other day anymore because data is expensive, I have other things to do with my money.

Love Lives

I used to be very anti love.  After putting myself through unnecessary pain in relationships I didn’t have to be in I concluded that love was a farce. However, I have social media to thank for changing my perspective.  Friends I follow on different social media platforms celebrate love in so many ways it’s beautiful to watch.  The engagements, dates, adventures, marriages, the happiness that doesn’t stop popping up every other day assures me that there’s still hope for me and everyone else who is waiting on their love story.

Cyber Bullying Is Real

Once upon a time I could tweet whatever I liked until I got dragged for sharing my opinions.  Nope, definitely not revisiting that part of social media anytime soon.  That experience taught me to keep parts of my thoughts to myself because you never know who is waiting to pounce on you.  I don’t even have clever ‘come backs” or the energy to fight anyone online.  I can safely say social media has taught me to choose my words wisely!  Just not on my blog though, here I write what I like.

Take Time To Switch Off

If you aren’t careful you can spend the entire day on social media platforms and not get anything productive done AT ALL.  I take time out to enjoy my life offline and come back feeling more refreshed than ever.  Trust me, you need it for your own sanity.

So who really am I when no one is watching?  To be honest, I stay consistent, what you see online is exactly what you see offline.

I love my daughter, I love to run, I love to blog, I love to drink;vodka being my drink of choice and I love life!

How has social media impacted you both positively and negatively?

©MaKupsy 2018

 

 

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Day 15: Why I Initiated The #30DayAfriBlogger Challenge

I love me a challenge, especially one I set up for myself.  Last year I did my first Blog Everyday challenge and it showed me just how much I can do the work when it comes to committing to writing everyday.  However, looking back at my posts I was still an amateur at it but this time around my writing has completely changed, things are looking good!  It’s true, practice does make perfect.  In my case perfect(ish) because I believe I still have a lot to learn when it comes to blogging.

I sent out a message on all my social media platforms and announced that I was going to be doing a blog everyday challenge in September and all bloggers in Africa were welcome.  In no time I set up a WhatsApp group and got in touch with  a fellow blogger Thembi and we added interested participants into the group.  We had to come up with a hashtag and we finally settled for a suggestion from Omolayo from Nigeria and we all agreed to go with #30DayAfriBlogger Challenge.

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Image from Pinterest

I could have written a very long post on the reasons why I initiated this challenge but I am honestly mentally exhausted, writing is so taxing so you will have to settle for the list version.

Here’s why I am taking part in the blog everyday challenge:

  1. I enjoy a challenge, with each challenge I get to learn something new.
  2. I announced I would be taking part in the challenge to everyone who would care to listen so yes, I am officially screwed and can’t back down now.
  3. To improve my writing skills.  The only way you can get better at something is through practice and so far I have learnt new vocabulary and I’m paying more attention to my grammar.
  4. To connect with other African Bloggers.  I follow bloggers from all over the world but since the challenge started I have read more content from writers who are right here in Africa.
  5. I want to be part of something original.  In the past I’ve had to search through Google or Pinterest to look for a challenge to take part in but look at me now, initiating original challenges and sh*t?
  6. To have a visual reference of my work.  Picture telling someone you blogged everyday for 30 days and they don’t believe you?  Simple, give them the link to your September Challenge so that they can check it out themselves.
  7. I was starting to write less in the past few months.  I usually post at least 4 blogs in a week but it was down to 2 and on bad weeks 1 post a week.  I needed something to get me back on track.
  8. To encourage other bloggers to write.  To let them know that it is possible to write a post a day if you simply put your mind to it.
  9. To stretch my mental capacity.  I always have a challenge to work on my physical strength but this time around I wanted to take my mental strength to the next level.
  10. To celebrate Africa!  The way I see it if African Bloggers do not share their stories no one else will and this is certainly a great way to start.

September is African Bloggers month!

©MaKupsy 2017

Day 7: Lose Yourself In My Top 10 Zimbabwean Songs

Music makes me happy.  It’s my go to place when I need something to evoke different emotions within me.  From getting myself in a good mood, going for my morning run, dancing with my daughter, unwinding after a long day at work…music is art!

I have always been a fan of music but it was mostly international music.  It was only in the early 2000’s that a genre titled “Urban Grooves” emerged that I started paying attention to our local music.  It was advocated that all local radio stations were to play 75% local content by local artists.  What I loved was that most of the artists sang in Shona, bonus!!!  Back then music was soulful, it was rich and high school boys would use that to their advantage and dedicate songs to their potential girlfriends on radio and automatically had almost every high school going child tuned in to listen in case you got a “dedication.” These are the times where song books and auto books were a big hit but that’s a story for another day.  They were still good times indeed!

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Photo Credit EXQ (@exq_papi) Instagram

Enter 2005 a new genre of music appeared on the scenes, ZimDancehall.  Can you believe that nearly 12 years later it’s still going strong and racking in listeners both young and old?  What I love about ZimDancehall is that the artists are telling their story as it is, there is no sugar coating there.  They sing their truth!  However, ZimDancehall is not everyone’s cup of tea and some people criticise it stating that it is shallow.  What some people don’t realise is that it is the day to day reality of a group of people whose existence we don’t like to acknowledge but form a large part of our culture (our real CULTURE not our traditional).  The fact that we keep shunning issues that are on the ground is probably part of the reason why some people are failing to be themselves.

Please be friends with YouTube to get to watch the videos or listen to the audios.  Below is a list of my top 10 favourite tracks in no particular order; straight out of the heart of Zimbabwe, please note that the genres vary.

  1. Nhema: ExQ and Killer T
  2. Ndipe Rudo: Sani Makhalima
  3. Penge Penge: Tytan
  4. Million Reasons: Prayersoul
  5. 25: Winky D
  6. Pain Killer: Stunner
  7. Alleluya: Roki and ExQ
  8. Ndiyende: Celscius
  9. Wakandipedzera Nguva Yangu: Selmor Mtukudzi
  10. Dai Zvaibvira: Killer T

I asked an artist and friend, Prayersoul his thoughts on the music industry in Zimbabwe;

There is no fixed structure in Zimbabwe for people to know what’s hot and what’s not.  For example, the reason we all know about Cassper Nyovest is because of Channel O, Trace Africa, MTV Base and all the other music channels available on DSTV.  They have a strong media presence and this gives consumers access to them.  If Cassper Nyovest does a video it will go to different fans from Africa, South Africa alone has nearly 55 million people!  He has demand and can send out emails to African promoters to let them know he will be in their country if they want to book a show.  Zimbabwe musicians are not getting this type of exposure.  If there was one channel that we all watched in Zimbabwe and it wasn’t Dstv; think a Zimbabwe “Dstv”.  Then everyone in the industry wanting to grow and get popular would try and get on it and viewers will get to know who is who and increase their chances of bookings.

What is your favourite music genre in your country?  Have there been any collaborations that have gone international?  What do you like or dislike about the music from your country?

©MaKupsy 2017