10 Reasons I Crush On Yemi Alade

I have a major woman crush on  Yemi Alade!  I’ve tried to hide it for a couple of weeks now but I can’t help myself anymore, Yemi is going all out to make you notice her whether you listen to Nigerian music or not.  Below are some of my favourite things about her:

  1. Her creativity juices abundantly flow.  She doesn’t restrict herself to singing one genre of music, now that’s creativity!
  2. She is confident, you just have to see her in action to know this.
  3. She is hard working, her videos are not mediocre, you can see a lot of work has been put in.
  4. She is a happy person, if you’re anything like me and stalk her every once in a while you would know this from her photos.
  5. She has a contagious smile.

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    Image from Google

  6. Yemil Alade has the body of a goddess!  Talk about having lady lumps in the right places.  Her thick thighs are definitely saving someones life 🙂
  7. She has her dance moves on lock.  Just watch any of her videos, she isn’t just sitting about looking pretty, she’s putting her back in it!
  8. Her fashion sense is amazing.  Never a dull moment in her wardrobe, think bold and loud colours, she’s wearing them.
  9. Big hair lives here.  She goes all out with different hairstyles mainly natural hair looks and occasionally something not so natural, either way she is always rocking it.
  10. The reason why I crush on her the most is that she sings in her own language.  I have no idea what she will be singing the greater part of the time but the rhythm always gets me excited.

This is my favourite Yemi Alade video. She went out and went straight into Salsa!  Now that ladies and gentleman is what I call breaking musical barriers.  I can never get enough of this woman, she’s definitely won my heart…musically that is 🙂

What’s your favourite song by Yemi Alade?

©MaKupsy 2017

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My Favourite Instagram Pages

Instagram is one of my favourite places to hang out when I have time.  There are so many things happening there you can lose yourself in it for minutes on end.  You can start scrolling through your friends pictures and next thing you are checking out some eye candy all the way in Italy on some photo shoot.  I now take Instagram in small doses though, it can make or break your day!  Below are some of my favourite Instagram pages and you should check them out too!

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Photo Credit: Michelle Chiyangwa

Hair! She is definitely your go to person for all things hair.  I’m not very knowledgeable in that department but her biography reads “frontals , 360’s, loose and body wave or straight hair extensions or wigs”.  I’m going to be honest and let you know that the only reason I follow her page is to check out her makeup, she does it very well and oh is she pretty or is she pretty!  However, if you want to hook yourself up with some luxury hair then make sure you follow her on @wegettinmcmoney

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Photo Credit: Sbahle Mpisane

Fitness!  Shes’s one of the reasons why I’m motivated to get up and do something.  Do you see her quads!!  Sbahle is the real deal.  Not only does she talk fitness but she looks the part too, a perfect combo.  Oh, did I mention she is also a NikeWoman?  You can not look fit without being fit!  If you have any intentions of actually going anywhere where fitness is concerned you have to start putting in the work!  There are no miracles in the game of fitness.  If you go through Sbahle’s Instagram page you will have every reason to ditch your bad eating habits!  Do yourself a huge favour and follow her on Instagram.  What I love the most about her is that she is thick and fit.  I’m so over trying to be stick thin to fit into society’s expectations, screw that!  Show her some love on @sbahle_mpisane

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Photo Credit: Nathan Cheddar

Photography!  That’s the most beautiful pregnancy shot I have ever seen and it’s straight out of Zimbabwe!  If you want to to capture your priceless moments or simply want to view some beautiful Instagram images then head on to @gorealrphotography

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Photo Credit: Sasha Tanaka

Travel!  She travels to Dubai, London, Australia, Tokyo, actually she travels all over the world!  If you want to see the hot spots in different countries then you won’t go wrong if you follow her.  Sometimes I scroll through her photographs and feel once I get home I should throw my entire life away because I’m not doing it right!  The cocktails, the views, the delicious food, the beaches, this girl is on a mission to live her best life and here I am blogging about it.  Her Instagram page is very colourful so make sure you don’t miss out on her travel diaries on @_sashas

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Photo Credit: Zim Weddings

Wedding Bells!  If your boyfriend can’t lift you like that is he even your boyfriend??  There’s everything to love about this Instagram page!  I remember when they followed me when they started out I thought to myself, really?  The way I have no intentions of having a wedding anytime soon I was sure they wanted to rub me the wrong way.  Well, they did the first few days, all those happily married people and there you are wondering if the universe is playing some type of joke on you.  If you want to get wedding venue ideas, makeup, shoes, bride and groom outfits, how couples are going all out to propose to the love of their lives, wedding videos…actually all things happiness, celebrations and couples in one place then look no further because @zimweddings has the hook up!!

How was your weekend?  What did you get up to?  Did you share your weekend memories on Instagram?  If yes, please drop your handle in the comments section so that we can follow each other.

©MaKupsy 2017

Day 22: Who Are You To Police My Black Hair?

I think people are just jealous of the way black hair is so versatile!  Not just any black hair but a black woman’s hair.  What I love about my hair is that I can do any and everything to it everyday.  One day I have twists, the next day I have a mini afro and who knows maybe the next day I will let it out to flourish and be happy.  The thing with black hair is that it has so many layers to it.  It can be both creative and daring and that makes people unhappy, especially people you work with.    It’s a damn shame for them because I won’t stop being myself, I love every inch of my black hair!

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MaKupsy

That’s me in the photo above; making people very unhappy with my uncombed hair.  Shout out to The Quarter Wife for the beautiful picture.  If you are a black woman I’m sure you are familiar with some of these statements.  Some may call them insults depending on how they take them.

  • Do you need a comb for your hair?
  • When are you getting your hair plaited?
  • That’s a school girl hairstyle, you really have gone broke!
  • Why do you have a maids hairdo?
  • Can I touch your hair?
  • Aren’t you wearing a wig on top of those cornrows?

I’ve been asked a few of those questions above about my hair.  People really try my patience I tell you!  I sometimes wonder they ask just to hear what I have to say.  I would get really worked up the first days but lately I just smile or completely ignore their remarks.  My favourite one is “That’s a school girl hairstyle, you really have gone broke!”.  The reason why I like it is because each time I get cornrows done I shed off a whole 5 years from my age, people start thinking Im in my 20s, what’s not to love?  I’m not even insulted, Im excited, all the more chances of getting hit on by a young hot blooded man.(just kidding!)  

What most people don’t understand is that protective styles are actually good for your hair.  My hairline used to suffer in the past but ever since I attended a couple of Natural Hair Events I now know how to take better care of my hair.  When I think back growing up we used to do each other’s hair during school holidays or on weekends and our go to hairstyle was mabuns (African Threading) not a single person had hairline problems then our hair was intact!

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(African Threading) Photo Credit: Shuvai Murumbi (Facebook)

Show me one woman who doesn’t want an intact hairline and I will show you a liar!  This hairstyle just needs your time, $1 to buy wool and voila you’re good to go.  Tell me one person who doesn’t want to save money the way our economy is currently set up?  Some people will call this a maid’s hairstyle I call it a wise woman’s hairstyle.  If there is one thing all women need to do more it’s to be comfortable in their own skin, even if it means rocking mabuns!

If your hair is nappy they are not happy” – Paul Mooney

If there is one thing you need to do for your hair it’s learn everything you can about it.  We all have different hair types and what works for me will not work for you.  I used to be super obsessed about my hair length but I realised that what matters the most is that I have healthy hair more than anything.  Be kind to your hair, don’t be stressing the heck out of it.  I think hair can actually hear things if you ask me so feed it with love, attention and products that will keep it well hydrated and moisturised.

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Photo Credit: Alice Murewa (Facebook)

My colleagues have since stopped asking about my hair.  Now they just watch and get the shock of their lives.  They realised they can’t steal my joy and they have probably embraced that I’m fearless when it comes to my hair.  I don’t conform to society’s expectations.  If I want my hair natural I will wear it as is, I’m not everyone, I am uniquely me.

To all the black girls who are constantly harassed about the state of their hair, next time anyone tries to insult you tell them to focus on their own hair and leave yours the heck alone! 

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Photo Credit: Thembi

You can read about some of the events and my hair experiences from here:

  1. My Hair Game Is Non-Existent
  2. The Power of A Referral
  3. My Hair Grows Towards Heaven
  4. I Love My Natural Hair

What are some of the worst things people have said or done to your hair?  Are you comfortable walking about with your hair in it’s natural state?  Let’s share your hair stories.

©MaKupsy 2017

 

Top 10 Excuses That Do NOT Burn Calories

I have heard it all when it comes to people who actually don’t want to put in the work to make a change where health and fitness is concerned.  I normally get compliments from those who have not seen me in a while.  The transformation is very visible and they get all excited and want to join me on my journey.  They ask what I do and how they can also get to achieve their fitness goals.  I help them with tips and then I always make sure I do a follow up to find out if things are going smoothly.  Wait till you hear the excuses that come after I ask…

I will try and list a few that I can remember from the top of head.

  1. This has to be the biggest excuse of all time.  I will start exercising or dieting on Monday.  Why don’t you just start today, or tomorrow?  Why does Monday have to be the day you decide to make a change?
  2. I couldn’t run today because I just got a new hairstyle so the sweat was going to make the hairstyle soggy.
  3. I broke my head phones before I started jogging.
  4. I don’t have any healthy food options in the house so I will only start dieting once I do my grocery shopping.
  5. I didn’t sleep at my place.  I was in an unfamiliar environment so I will run when I go back to my place.
  6. I can’t run because people will be looking at me.
  7. The sex I had last night was so good that must count for a workout right?
  8. I don’t have nice running outfits.
  9. I don’t like waking up or working out after hours.
  10. It was raining.

LISTEN EVERYONE TRYING TO MAKE A CHANGE.  Excuses will get you nowhere fast!  You have to put in the work.  Nothing good ever came easy.  You have to cut the crap and start working on those goals.  We are already in the second quarter of the year and you still haven’t actually done anything about that promise you made to be fit.  Do you need me to come there and get you out of bed?!  I am tired of hearing the above excuses, how on earth are they even going to help you get to your body goal?

Excuses don’t burn calories!!

Fitness Bae®

The Power Of A Referral

At the beginning of this year we had a road trip to Mazvikadei Resort.  It was a beautiful experience and a great way to start the new year.  I remember seeing my friend’s girlfriend for the first time and falling in love with her and her hair on the spot!  Unfortunately at the time I had just had my hair done and I was still disappointed with the results.  I told her I would get in touch with her the next time I decided to get my hair braided and so here we are!

I got in touch with my friend who then gave me Christine’s contact number.  Christine is her hairdresser.  I called her to set up an appointment and she confirmed she would be free a whole week after speaking to her.  I couldn’t wait, I just wanted to look pretty and waiting is not my strong point.  However, I had no choice and so the wait began.  True to her word at 6:30am she sent a message telling me she was outside my apartment.  Unbelievable!  She had said she would come through at 7:00am but she was early and I was already impressed.

Cut a long story short I got my hair done from 7:00am till 4:00pm.  I actually didn’t feel how the day went by because guess what?  You are not even ready to read this part…SHE DOES YOUR HAIR WHILE YOU ARE ASLEEP!!!  Guys, she actually prefers that you sleep and she gets on with her work with peace, quiet and maximum concentration!  I am NEVER EVER going to get anyone else to braid my hair.  She is the hairdresser I have always wanted.

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Not only does she do your hair to a tee she is also a pleasant person who quickly blends in.  I love that she is open and tells you what does and doesn’t work for her from the get go.  The money she charges as you can see, is very much worth every dollar!

This year I promised myself that I would write more on women who are doing amazing things.  We normally focus on those who are already doing it big and forget about the ones in the shadows.  There is too much negativity as it is in the world, it would be beautiful to have more positive stories to read about women in our communities.  I kid you not, Christine is the first of many fabulous women to be featured on my blog this year.  I am so happy with my hair I might do it again and again and again before the year ends.

If you would like Christine to do your hair, she is just a phone call and thankfully she does home visits.  However, you have to book in advance as she is a very busy woman so you have to make sure you organise yourself in time.  Get in touch with me so that I can you the hook up of a lifetime!

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I am sooooo in love with my new hairdo you have no idea!  You know I love all things beautiful and when I say something is good it really is good.  Give her a try, you won’t be disappointed!

If you know anyone who would like to be featured please let me know.

©MaKupsy 2017

Woman Crush Wednesday : @TeteHumba

I am always on the look out for people who ooze positive energy.  My first Woman Crush Wednesday this year is this beautiful soul; Tete Humba.

Creativity

Some of the things that fire my soul include being creative and working with my hands; with that I can never go wrong. As long as I am making something, I am happy. It started off as a joke but the more I experimented the more I realised that that was my happy place. From headboards, to DIY beauty products, to wigs, to clothes, shoes, wall décor. I’ll make it all!

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Skin Tone

Coconut oil!  I use it to moisturize; in my masks and to remove my makeup. It’s incorporated in everything. But bear in mind I have dry skin so that makes the perfect combo.

 

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Life Lessons 

When it’s a part of God’s plan, it will happen.  The Year 2016 was a very difficult year for me, and life threw its punches of all sorts.  Life tried to get me down but God had His own idea and here I am.

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Your Centre?

My family. I cannot imagine life without them. They are my everything.

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You can get in touch with Tete Humba on FacebookTwitter and Instagram.  For her hair products you can also find her on Instagram @hairbytete_h and @rtndphotography

Don’t forget the 8th of March is International Women’s Day, celebrate women!!

©MaKupsy 2017

 

My Hair Grows Towards Heaven!

The first time ever Hair Meet Up was held last Saturday between 10am and 1pm.  Before I left the house a few minutes before 10am I thought I would be one of the first people to get to the venue, you know how terrible most people are with time.  Surprise surprise there were close to 20 people when I got there.  What time did these women wake up??  Wait, the first 5 people to get to the venue were going to get a free hairdo, now it made sense!  The way my hair was a hot mess I should have left home early as well but there is always next time I guess.

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The venue was beautiful.  Chairs close to the pool in the shade away from the unforgiving sun.  I have never seen so many women with different natural hairstyles in one place.  The event started a few minutes after 10am and the hostesses and guest speakers were lively and got the crowd taking part.

We had an amazing time and I learnt some very valuable lessons from this meet up.  I realised that I have been doing more harm than good to my hair without even realising it.  We have too much information around us and thanks to Google we now search for everything and automatically assume that whatever we find there holds true to our own situations.  Below are a few tips and sayings I found very useful and inspiring:

  1. You need to learn what your hair likes so that you know which products to try. Do not use too many products at once otherwise you will not figure out what is actually working for you or not.
  2. Move around with a bottle of water and spritz water to keep it soft. Sometimes you can try adding some oil. Just a bit of oil, maybe a tablespoon or less.  Zimbabwe is dry; your hair needs WATER more than anything.
  3. You can use eggs and avocados on your hair without having to break a budget on expensive products. Most times home remedies work wonders on your hair.
  4. Tea tree and peppermint oil are good for dandruff.
  5. Remember that hair is different. What works for Chido won’t work for Chipo.
  6. Never comb your hair when it is dry.
  7. Our hair is the only hair that grows towards heaven. God did not make a mistake by making it the way it is.

  8. The moment you undo your hair and there is that stickiness it means you are using too much product in it.
  9. Castor oil and blended red onion is good for your hairline.
  10. Speak affirmations of love to your hair.
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MaKupsy & @Pineapple_ZW (Twitter)

We were sold a dream though, the ticket said that Kudzai Sevenzo would be the special guest appearance but she didn’t come through and there was no mention or explanation of why that did not materialise.

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The hamper I won for Tweeting about the event like a maniac 🙂

Over and above the event was well organised.  A number of women walked away with prizes myself included and it was a day well spent gathering priceless information.  I know for a fact that from now on I will NOT buy any hair product that does not contain Aqua in it.  My hair journey has already begun and months from now I will show you if the tips above helped or not.  I really need to get my hair line back it is currently in ICU!

Do you have any more natural hair tips you would like to share?  If yes please feel free to get in touch so that we can have more information available for natural hair enthusiasts.

©MaKupsy 2016

 

This Is Who I Am

Just yesterday I was going through Instagram and bumped into a post that gave me inspiration to write.  I haven’t been my normal bloggy self  but thanks to the caption below from Tendai I have more reason to get back to doing one of the many things I love.  By the way, you should totally follow her page she has the most beautiful photos you have ever seen!  Plus she is also part of #TeamFitness and trust me she will inspire you to get up and do something.

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So let’s talk about the caption in the photo.  I completely agree with it.  Story of my life right there!  Growing up I believed in order to be perceived as “beautiful” I had to have long wavy hair, perfect model size body, excel in all things life related and surely then I would be more likable.  Wrong!!

It took me years to finally realise that I don’t have to transform into a completely different person in order to be noticed.  I since stopped trying so hard to be “perfect”.  I now wear my hair short because I can.  Screw whoever thinks otherwise.  I love it, it’s hassle free, easy on my pocket and I look great, if I do say so myself.

I love my body just the way it is.  I have come to accept that I will never be a size 0 and well…it’s okay, I accept that but that doesn’t mean I will stop hoping and wishing I had a thigh gap!  LOL

The other thing that I have come to accept about myself is that I hate housework.  Lawwd!!  I feel like it’s a curse sent from who knows where.  I will do it however because I love a clean space but it doesn’t mean that I love doing it.  As and when I get married my husband has to know that he has a lazy ass wife.  I hope he accepts it because I have accepted it with open arms. (But I promise I am not lazy when it comes to other interesting things – allow your imagination to run wild here.)  On a serious note though, I just think that it’s one of those things women are expected to enjoy because that makes you a “perfect woman”.

That said.  Love yourself just the way you are.  You are perfect in every single way.  No matter your skin colour, your weight, your height, your flavour you are unique and no one can tell you otherwise.

Have a lovely week ahead and stay beautiful both inside and out.

 

MaKupsy

 

 

BBC (Burst Your Bubble Cooperation)

I have come across some really party poppers in this lifetime.  Like how does one find joy in ruining the next persons day just like that?  Sometimes it’s so bad you would think they probably had urine in place of their usual coffee in the morning.  Let me tell you some of the incidents that have happened in the past that left me speechless.

  • I had just got my driver’s licence and I was absolutely ecstatic about it. You have to be Zimbabwean to understand just how hard it is to get your licence and go through the Eastlea Vehicle Inspection Department without catching a stroke.  That place gives you nightmares and once you get your licence that’s the last place you want to be.  I got my licence on a Saturday and come Monday I was showing everyone who would care to see.  Then from out of the blue this colleague asked “Why are you excited about a licence when you don’t even have a car.”  I didn’t have a come back to that one, I was too shocked to reply him.  Like who says things like that???

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  • My weight has been an issue for a couple of years now. I then decided to get up and do something about it.  The first few weeks were hard but I eventually got to adjust to my new lifestyle.  This one time I chose to run the route were I ran all the way to Samora Machel and Glenara Road.  That’s a good 4km to get there from my place.  I bumped into an ex boyfriend (Ex 1 in that post)  who by the way is overweight.  He was stuffed in his car and slowed down and started talking to me during my run.  I told him I can’t run and talk at the same time so if he needed to talk he would have to call me afterwards.   He simply said “Uri kuzvinetsereiko uchingori wakafuta wani” Translation >> Why are you even bothering you are still fat.  I was FUMING I ran at an unusually fast pace all the way home.  How dare he say something like that?  I was now running a whole 8km nonstop and he just had the audacity to say I am fat!  I had lost a significant amount of weight by then and he just had to find a way to demotivate me.  The moment I got home I composed a very strong message and told him to never contact me again.  PLUS I reminded him that this was one of the reasons why we never worked out.  He was just a huge being of negativity!

 

  • My hair doesn’t grow. Well, it does but stops at a certain length which doesn’t sit well with me because I want long hair that goes all the way to my neck and shoulders but of course I have tried and tested everything and I know it won’t happen.  So I am living that dream through my daughter and making sure her hair is healthy.  Back to the story at hand.  I cut my hair because my hairline was losing meaning and when I did so I felt refreshed and happy because I was holding onto something that was never going to materialise.  And while everyone was busy saying the look was great and I should have cut my hair a long time ago there was obviously an individual who said “You really look like a guy now!”  Okay, fine, this bubble didn’t burst so badly, I knew I was obviously going to look different and people would take time to get used to the look.  That was actually funny but oh well.

I am not saying I don’t like criticism or feedback I don’t entirely agree with.  What I’m saying is that sometimes some comments are really uncalled for.  What do you lose from keeping quiet if you genuinely have nothing nice to say to someone?  Have you faced any moments where someone burst your happy bubble?  Let’s share and have a good laugh.

 

MaKupsy

Woman Crush Wednesday

Today is Wednesday and I am seriously crushing on Pokello Nare.

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Pokello Nare

The urban dictionary defines a crush as a painful experience, very common among middle schoolers (and high schooler’s and even adults to a lesser degree) that involves being obsessed with a member of the opposite sex (or the same sex, if u prefer), being attracted to them physically (most common), or emotionally- also called ‘puppy love’ also: the object of this affection.

After reading that I can safely say my crush falls in the obsession department. Hear me out, I have reasons and this is why she is my woman crush:

  • She is confident
  • She is a go getter
  • She is a business woman, she even now has her own shoe line! pokello.com
  • She is a mother
  • She loves her son to bits
  • She has a smoking hot body!
  • She dresses really well, no wonder she calls herself the Queen of Swagger  she takes the crown any day
  • She has lovely taste in clothes and shoes
  • She has lovely skin (when I grow up I want to have skin just as flawless)
  • She has a pretty smile
  • She wears to die for designer shoes you just want to stare at her Instagram pictures all day long
  • She has taken wearing your own hair to the next level, she rocks her short hair ever so nicely
  • She has one heck of a nice car, last time I heard it was a Range Rover Sport but i’m sure she has more now
  • Did I mention that she has a smoking hot body? well, im going to say it again!

Over and above I think she is truly an inspiration, love her or hate her she is making her mark and I am sure a lot of women are taking notes.  Keep doing what you’re doing Pokello Nare you are a constant reminder that “The best revenge is massive success.”

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Pokello Nare

PS. I only uploaded two of her photos so that I don’t look like a serial stalker!

MaKupsy