Rules For Kicking As* In Life

Comparison will steal your joy.

I love to read and I’m always finding useful nuggets from the internet.  This is an extract from Pinterest that I know you will enjoy.  I hope after reading this you will go easy on yourself and stop comparing yourself to other people and focus on being your very best version.

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  1. Stop worrying, if it’s supposed to happen it will.
  2. Allow yourself to be a beginner.
  3. Don’t let your happiness depend on anything outside yourself.
  4. Stay close to everything that makes you feel alive.
  5. Listen to your body, it will lead you to unlimited health.
  6. Support yourself with people who see your greatness.
  7. Make peace with your past.
  8. See all setbacks as growth and expansive opportunities.
  9. Comparing yourself to others will hurt your health and steal your joy.
  10. Don’t give up, EVER!
  11. You always have a choice.
  12. Stop chasing what’s not working.
  13. Believe whole heartedly in miracles.
  14. Don’t postpone joy.
  15. Trust the universe.
  16. Wake up every morning with a grateful heart.
  17. Remember things take time.
  18. Always trust your gut.
  19. No need to change people, love them for who they are.
  20. Don’t resist change.
  21. Forgive yourself.
  22. Your life is a creative adventure.
  23. Release expectations and enjoy the journey, there is no destination.
  24. Just do you.
  25. You’re not broken or damaged, you are perfect the way you are.

©MaKupsy 2018


Make Yourself A Priority

I realised I’ve been stressed out lately and it’s all thanks to not knowing when to press pause.  I’m one of those people who are a genuine cheerleader.  If you have an idea you want to work on I’m right there encouraging you to go out and make it happen; you’re going through a stressful time I’ll be there to listen to your worries while we figure out how to resolve the issues; you’re struggling with your weight and I will give you tips, links, images heck I’ll even write a blog post for you so that you can start working on living your best life.  I enjoy being a positive influence because I feel that we are all fighting different demons everyday the least I can do is be helpful as and when I can.

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Things have to take a drastic change.  I can’t keep trying to save people anymore.  It’s  time I start saving myself and put my emotional and physical needs and wants first. I can’t be running on empty because I’m trying to push for someone else’s goals, what happens to mine?  I’ve neglected myself and I know it’s because my passions are both a blessing and a curse.  I want everyone to be the best version of themselves but I can’t do it anymore, I’m only one person, I can’t perform miracles.  I matter, I need to give myself the tender loving care I know I deserve.

In 2018, I will be selfish with my time, after all selfish people live longer…

However,don’t get me wrong; I’m not saying don’t listen to other people’s problems, it’s important to do so, we all need a shoulder to cry on BUT don’t end up making those problems your own.  You will do yourself more harm than good.

You might also enjoy reading this article: How To Deal With Burnout

©MaKupsy 2018

Diana Washe : Woman Crush Wednesday

My name is Diana Washe, I am a Johannesburg based mother to two handsome boys who are 6 and 3.  I’m also a full time Digital Marketer, Post-Grad student, an entrepreneur and an upcoming life coach.
How did you get to where you are today?
Businesswise I can never talk about my business without including my story.”  My business was born out of depression.  After tragically loosing my husband when I was 6 months pregnant; I was diagnosed with depression.  My Grief Counsellor advised me to look for a hobby I can do in between our sessions, then I would go back and we talk about what  would have made. I still remember the very first item I created; I sew up some Ankara fabric and covered my new baby’s shoe with it.  I posted on Facebook page and I received positive feedback from my Counsellor and Facebook friends.  From then on every sample got more encouraging feedback until people started offering to pay for my products.
At first I was very hesitant until I gave it a go, I thought to myself, why not?  I’m enjoying making these accessories why not get paid for doing something I love?  It has not been an easy journey, as a single mother, full time employment, being a student and being the Creative Director of my business Shaina. As the Creative Director I come up with concepts and have to make some of the products myself and sometimes I outsource labour. My business is growing steadily at a pace I can manage and get to enjoy life while I’m at it. Earlier in the year I showcased at the Soweto Fashion Week, which is a fashion show for upcoming designers!
Who or what keeps you going?
God has been faithful and amazing in my life, without Him I would not be where I am today.  I don’t want to let Him down. I even renamed myself to Dianawashe because I am His.  My children also keep me going. I want to give them a “normal” life; I don’t want them to physically feel the gap left by their dad. The smiles on their faces and when they brag about me makes me push a mile further in everything I do!  I have an amazing support system in the form of family and friends.   My love for finer things in life is the other main reason I keep going.  I love champagne, wine, WiFI, All Stars, Mac, Fenty Beauty among other things, there is no way these things will buy themselves, I have to keep going to keep the ka-ching ka-ching coming!
What have you learned about being an entrepreneur?
My business is only 3 years old. I’m still a work in progress and so far I have learnt that:
  • sometimes you need to work smarter not harder,
  • don’t put all your eggs in one basket,
  • diversify!


What exactly does your business entail?
I can safely say I do my life; my business is an extension of my life!  I love fashion, I love prints, I hoard accessories. I’m a very crafty creative being. I hand make African inspired accessories and bags. I make trendy and fancy accessories for vibrant young adults. I fuse different textures with African print to make affordable luxurious clutch bags and bow-ties. I am a Serial Entrepreneur!  I live in light bulb moments.
There are more lines from Shaina that are coming and I’m adding another wing to my business which is very exciting.   Follow me on my Instagram Page there is exciting business chapter coming up!
What are the 5 words that people use to describe you?
Bubbly, Talkative, Gwara, (what’s the English word by the way?), Loving, Kind-Hearted
What is your favourite quote or saying?
Lets just make them two..
  1. I refuse to be ordinary my kids are watching!
  2. Life is short.  Be silly, have fun, love the people who treat you right.  Forget the ones who don’t, regret nothing, believe everything happens for a reason AND buy those shoes!  Never forget God above all else.

Where can readers find you on social media?
Twitter: @dianawashe
Instagram: @mylife.andkids
Business Instagram: @shainaonline
©MaKupsy 2017


10 Quotes That Make Me Happy

Happiness really is a state of mind.  I know this first hand.  Most days I’m a bubble of positive energy and some days well, some days life takes over and I drown in negative energy.  Last week was hard for me, I was facing so many emotional battles that I was convinced I was never going to get out of it.  Thankfully it only lasted a while and I’m back to my happy self.  Below are some of my favourite quotes.

  1. Be fearless in pursuit of what sets your soul on fire.
  2. Some days you just have to bring your own sunshine.
  3. If you are tired learn to rest not quit!
  4. Today will be F.A.B.U.L.O.U.S.
  5. One of the simplest ways to stay happy is to let go of the things that make you sad.
  6. Stress is caused by giving a fu*k
  7. Chin up Queen, or the crown slips.
  8. Being happy never goes out of style.
  9. The happiness of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts.
  10. Today be the badas* girl you were too lazy to be yesterday!

I love Pinterest, it’s one of my many reliable sources when it comes to getting back on the happy wagon.  You can follow me and check out my board, Positive Energy.

What keeps you going when you are facing trying times?


©MaKupsy 2017

Day 22: Who Are You To Police My Black Hair?

I think people are just jealous of the way black hair is so versatile!  Not just any black hair but a black woman’s hair.  What I love about my hair is that I can do any and everything to it everyday.  One day I have twists, the next day I have a mini afro and who knows maybe the next day I will let it out to flourish and be happy.  The thing with black hair is that it has so many layers to it.  It can be both creative and daring and that makes people unhappy, especially people you work with.    It’s a damn shame for them because I won’t stop being myself, I love every inch of my black hair!



That’s me in the photo above; making people very unhappy with my uncombed hair.  Shout out to The Quarter Wife for the beautiful picture.  If you are a black woman I’m sure you are familiar with some of these statements.  Some may call them insults depending on how they take them.

  • Do you need a comb for your hair?
  • When are you getting your hair plaited?
  • That’s a school girl hairstyle, you really have gone broke!
  • Why do you have a maids hairdo?
  • Can I touch your hair?
  • Aren’t you wearing a wig on top of those cornrows?

I’ve been asked a few of those questions above about my hair.  People really try my patience I tell you!  I sometimes wonder they ask just to hear what I have to say.  I would get really worked up the first days but lately I just smile or completely ignore their remarks.  My favourite one is “That’s a school girl hairstyle, you really have gone broke!”.  The reason why I like it is because each time I get cornrows done I shed off a whole 5 years from my age, people start thinking Im in my 20s, what’s not to love?  I’m not even insulted, Im excited, all the more chances of getting hit on by a young hot blooded man.(just kidding!)  

What most people don’t understand is that protective styles are actually good for your hair.  My hairline used to suffer in the past but ever since I attended a couple of Natural Hair Events I now know how to take better care of my hair.  When I think back growing up we used to do each other’s hair during school holidays or on weekends and our go to hairstyle was mabuns (African Threading) not a single person had hairline problems then our hair was intact!

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(African Threading) Photo Credit: Shuvai Murumbi (Facebook)

Show me one woman who doesn’t want an intact hairline and I will show you a liar!  This hairstyle just needs your time, $1 to buy wool and voila you’re good to go.  Tell me one person who doesn’t want to save money the way our economy is currently set up?  Some people will call this a maid’s hairstyle I call it a wise woman’s hairstyle.  If there is one thing all women need to do more it’s to be comfortable in their own skin, even if it means rocking mabuns!

If your hair is nappy they are not happy” – Paul Mooney

If there is one thing you need to do for your hair it’s learn everything you can about it.  We all have different hair types and what works for me will not work for you.  I used to be super obsessed about my hair length but I realised that what matters the most is that I have healthy hair more than anything.  Be kind to your hair, don’t be stressing the heck out of it.  I think hair can actually hear things if you ask me so feed it with love, attention and products that will keep it well hydrated and moisturised.


Photo Credit: Alice Murewa (Facebook)

My colleagues have since stopped asking about my hair.  Now they just watch and get the shock of their lives.  They realised they can’t steal my joy and they have probably embraced that I’m fearless when it comes to my hair.  I don’t conform to society’s expectations.  If I want my hair natural I will wear it as is, I’m not everyone, I am uniquely me.

To all the black girls who are constantly harassed about the state of their hair, next time anyone tries to insult you tell them to focus on their own hair and leave yours the heck alone! 


Photo Credit: Thembi

You can read about some of the events and my hair experiences from here:

  1. My Hair Game Is Non-Existent
  2. The Power of A Referral
  3. My Hair Grows Towards Heaven
  4. I Love My Natural Hair

What are some of the worst things people have said or done to your hair?  Are you comfortable walking about with your hair in it’s natural state?  Let’s share your hair stories.

©MaKupsy 2017


Day 20: Breathtaking African Destinations

If I had all the money in the world I would travel the whole world; twice!  Nothing gives you that kick as much as leaving your day to day routine and simply plunging into a completely new environment.  The first time I went on a travel adventure I went to South Africa all by my merry little self.  I made bookings and hit the road.  My parents were worried sick because they thought something tragic would happen to me but nothing did and it was one heck of an astounding experience!

Sadly I’m not as well travelled as I would like to be so I got some travel junkies to help me out with today’s post.  After reading this I promise you the first thing you will do is be friends with Google and search for the first flight out of your country.

Vumba, Zimbabwe

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Photo Credit: @NdiSandra (Twitter)

My favorite Destination in Zimbabwe is definitely Vumba. I am still to travel to a place more beautiful than Vumba. Very quiet and serene with the humming of beautiful birds. The weather is amazingly cool and I have done a gazillion countless trips there because you can never get used to the beauty.  The food is amazing. Tony’s cakes are out of this world. I’m sure that’s the best cake one can ever eat. Forest Hills is my favorite resort in Vumba, it’s such a homely place with amazing people. The food is beyond amazing and Takura makes bomb weird dishes. I would totally stay there and just get fat!!


Prince of Wales View

Minus the good food and hospitality at Forest Hills, they have amazing views. Its not far from Leopard Rock Hotel so if you need to play some golf or go for a game view Leopard Rock is the place. Game views are so much fun and you get to feed the Ostriches.  Make sure you also pass by Prince of Wales View point on your way. The beautiful view of Mutare will always brighten your day. – @NdiSandra


You gotta love Vumba!


Arusha, Tanzania



I recently had the pleasure of travelling to Arusha, Tanzania and I would definitely recommend it as a top destination to visit. As a Zimbabwean I warmed up to it very quickly because it reminded me of home. The people there are so welcoming and friendly and the food is the organic goodness we grew up eating in Zimbabwe. Although I never got an opportunity to sight see as I was on a business trip I managed to visit some of the local Masai markets and the markets in the CBD. The Masai markets boast of beautifully handcrafted proudly Tanzanian pieces; from bags to shoes, to jewellery. If you are looking for souvenirs from your visit to Arusha this is definitely a place to stop by. I also enjoyed the markets in Arusha’s CBD. I’m an avid fan of African print material and in the search for an originally Tanzanian piece the CBD was definitely the place to visit.

The people there are so welcoming and friendly and the food is the organic goodness we grew up eating in Zimbabwe.


Although I never got the chance to go out to try their local cuisine or their braai spots or as they call them “nyama chomas” I think this is a definite must do for anyone visiting Arusha. The night life in Arusha is also something worth exploring. I would say it is different from what I am used to in its simplicity. The prices of alcohol are very reasonable. On a night out we spent about 60 000 shillings on two rounds of drinks (several beers and double whiskeys and cognac orders for four people), which is equivalent to R400. Tanzania seems to have a great appreciation for African music from not only within the East African region but also from the rest of the continent. We enjoyed ourselves dancing to music from Angola, to the DRC and the DJs even accommodated us by playing our favourite Zimbabwean and South African songs.


Photo Credit: @_____layslee (Twitter)

Due to my limited time there I was unable to visit Mount Meru which is one of the main attractions in the city. Mount Meru is the second highest mountain in Tanzania and is the fourth in Africa. It is a definite must see. Of course there is Mount Kilimanjaro which everyone deserves to see at least once in their life. There is so much one can do in Arusha as the city boasts with many National Parks such as the Serengeti National Park, the Arusha National Park, Ngorongoro National Reserve and Lake Manyara National Park. I would definitely visit Arusha again so I can experience everything it has to offer. – @_____layslee

White Sand Beaches, Mozambique


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The White Sand Beaches of Mozambique are on my list of dream destinations.  If there is one thing I NEED this year it’s definitely a holiday!  I need to get away from all the stresses this country brings me on a daily basis and just enjoy an adventure filled weekend away.  I’ve been to Mozambique before but to the boring parts of it and on business so that wasn’t any fun.  I have a vivid imagination and I’ve already pictured what my trip will be like once it materialises, at least dreaming is free right?

I will arrive in Mozambique on a Friday evening and check into a medium range hotel.  Apparently accommodation in Mozambique is pretty reasonable averaging $24 per person.  I can’t go all out high end accommodation because I have a daughter starting Grade School next year(the joys of parenthood).  I’m obviously tired from my flight so I settle for an early night.  Still deciding if this will be a solo trip or I’ll bump into a chocolate brother over the weekend…

When I’m there I try out everything from the food to the drinks, no time to waste I’m here to have a ball of a time!  I’m honestly tired of all the food lately so it will be a welcome change to try out a local dish and definitely delicious sea food; I love all things white meat.  As long as it’s prepared in a way that I normally have it I’m going to enjoy every bite of it.


Food of Mozambique (Image from Google)

You know those drinks in coconut shells you see on TV?  I want to try them out and I know there is no way they won’t have them in Mozambique.  I mean, this is my dream so it’s definitely there.  I will have me some sex on the beach both figuratively and literally!  How am I going to come all this way and not get laid???  But keep it on the hush, what happens in Mozambique stays in Mozambique…


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These are some of the activities you can do when you visit Mozambique and I will try out all of them because life is too short to not go hard.

  • Diving
  • Ilha de Mozambique
  • Maputo Central Market
  • Cocktails at the Polana Hotel
  • Swimming with Wild Dolphins (just wait till you see the pictures I will take!)
  • Gorongosa National Park
  • Sailing in a Traditional Dhow

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Don’t forget the walks on the beach.  My trip would be incomplete without it.  Take a dip every other minute to enjoy the cool water on my skin while taking in the clear blue water.  This is the one trip I will be completely off the radar and not even buy a sim card.  I will simply take photos of beautiful views and interact with locals and dare to do something different.  I can’t wait to visit Mozambique!

What are some of your favourite destinations in Africa?  What’s your dream destination and when do you plan on going there?

It’s day 20 of the #30DayAfriBloggerChallenge this is the first time I have ever actually counted down days in a month!

©MaKupsy 2017

Social Media & Dating

Social media has taken relationships to a whole new level.  Now you get to publicly share your private and intimate moments that you indulge in with your significant other. It’s interesting to watch couples in love, swooning all over each other and posting selfies with on social media with cute captions.  However, I have mixed feelings when it comes to publicising who you are dating on social media platforms for the following reasons:


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  1. When you are in love you want the whole world to know and it’s only normal to want your social media friends to share your happiness.
  2. When you post your significant other people will know they are taken and *hopefully* stay away.
  3. Posting your significant other is also a sign of confidence in who you are dating.


  1. If you need to conceal your significant other from the world then what the heck are the two of you doing together? Please note there is a difference between being private and being a big secret.
  2. Most people on social media have a sense of entitlement. They feel that just because you share pictures with your significant other they now have the right to know intimate details of your relationship; people prying and needing to know why a couple broke up.  I have been guilty of this myself at some point in my life.  It’s not a good trait, we should learn to mind our own business…then again, people make it our business!
  3. You can’t help but feel like you have to live up to social media expectations because people now expect to see demonstrations and expressions of your love on special occasions. Take a birthday for instance, people want to see what you get on your special day and if your significant other is really #BaeGoals or not (feel free to Google that hash tag).  Talk about pressure!
  4. Some people are attracted to someone who is already taken…need I say more?
  5. Imagine posting your significant other every single day on social media and then one day you break up and you have close to 100 pictures of them all over your online space. The stress of deleting each picture one by one is something I shudder to imagine.
  6. You can’t express your opinions about relationships in peace without people thinking you are talking about your significant other. You can’t even join the #MenAreTrash movement because we will quickly assume your man is trash too! L.O.L

Ever noticed how people with money don’t make noise about it?  Take Strive Masiyiwa for example, the man is a whole millionaire but you don’t hear ad nauseum about his success or how he spends his millions. I think it the same applies to couples who are genuinely in love.  They keep it classy, you know they are dating, they share pictures yes but they keep it to a minimum and you actually look forward to their social media posts.

Then there is this one guy whose name I shall not care to mention but brags about his financial status on social media platforms like, come on!  I mean dude, you have money, we get it but why do you feel the need to tell us ALL about your life in a bag of chips?  Gosh, is he annoying or what?!  These are my sentiments about couples who over-share on social media.  Why do you find it necessary to bombard people with posts about your significant other every other hour telling us how great your relationship is going? Sometimes I can’t help but feel that people like that feel inadequate and are seeking validation, then again that’s just me.

Showcasing your love on social media is just like having a wedding.  Some will be happy for you, others will not be amused and the rest might wish you misfortune.  BUT that doesn’t mean people should stop getting married because people will receive the news differently.  Love should be celebrated whenever it can be! – Batanai Tuwe

What are your thoughts on the subject?  Do you share pictures of your significant other on social media platforms?  If yes, how is that going for you so far?  If not, what’s the reason behind it?

©MaKupsy 2017


My Relationship With Food

I used to have a very dysfunctional relationship with food until I realised that food was actually not the enemy.  I went on extreme diets at the start of my journey.  I remember I went through a phase where I would not eat a filling supper and settle for a fruit or a small tin of yoghurt.  The plan was to lose weight fast and if I wanted that to happen I was going to starve myself until I got to my goal weight.  BAD IDEA!  I only ended up overeating the next day to compensate for not eating the night before.  As you can obviously imagine I ended up gaining weight instead of actually losing it.  After that I ditched trying to diet and decided I would try something else…

Personally, “dieting” has not worked for me and over the years I have managed to maintain my personal weight range effortlessly through eating filling and nutritious meals.  Please note that I LOVE my food very dearly, it is the fuel I need to keep running every other day.  I will share my typical meals for a day.


Before I leave the house I have any fruit in season.  I am currently enjoying a selection ofbananas, oranges, naartjies and apples.

Mid morning I have black tea with lemon(I love lemons I sometimes eat them as is).  I pair my tea with a sandwich.  The sandwich fillings vary from eggs, avocado, margarine, marmalade, peanut butter.  Whatever tickles my fancy really.




Peanut Butter Rice, Vegetables and Meat Image from Zimbokitchen


Sadza rezviyo, any white meat, vegetables.  I cannot stomach a meal without vegetables.  The food won’t make sense without it.  I am not a fan of red meat mainly because when I was pregnant the aroma of beef made me feel like throwing up and unfortunately for me years later it still has the same effect.  ANYWAYS, I was saying;  I make sure I eat a filling lunch because I know I will be up and about all day and my food will get to be digested and used up during the day.

*Zviyo is good for you because: it has low GI, more fibre, tastes infinitely better, grain meant for human consumption not cattle feed and it’s an indigenous grain.*

Mid afternoon snack On days my lunch is not so filling I opt to snack on some roasted peanuts or maputi and down that with a glass of water.


Mushroom stew, vegetables and a small portion of sadza or rice.  When I am training for an event of sort I try and make sure I have filling meals.  I save the grilled meat and a salad for supper for days I am not doing any intense workouts or when the next day is a Rest Day.


Image from Zimbo Kitchen

I make sure I take my time to prepare delicious meals and not compromise on the quality.  My go to place when it comes to looking up easy to make recipes is Zimbo Kitchen ;ever since I bumped into her website my kitchen experience has been the best ever!  You should visit her site and try out one or two recipes, I promise you won’t go wrong.

5 Tips To Make Food Your Friend:

  1. Be yourself.  Don’t try and hop onto a cabbage diet just because your friend is doing the same.  Do what works for you.
  2. Do what keeps you sane.  I know for a fact that starving myself for supper is a BIG NO and I will not be doing that anytime soon I would like to have a good nights sleep thank you very much.
  3. Do what you can afford.  Some of the available “diets” are actually expensive.  I can’t even begin to imagine how much coconut rice goes for in Zimbabwe.
  4. Do something you can do forever.  Personally, my eating habits are something that I know I can sustain.  If I travel I will still be able to have basic meals and not have to start going about town looking for specific foods.
  5. Eat when you are hungry.  Too often you eat just because your body is programmed to eat at that particular time.  Sometimes you have to ask yourself if it’s food you actually want or it’s your internal alarm reacting to something it is used to.  It’s really okay not to gobble down food all the time.

As you can see, I actually eat with portion control in mind.  I don’t conform to “diets” because I strongly believe that my body needs fuel and the majority of the diets that I have tried have left me hungry and unhappy.  I eat so that I can exercise and I exercise so that I can eat. Everything in moderation goes a long way.  I do not deprive myself of the things that I want to eat or drink (we will talk about this soon) because I believe fitness is a journey that should be enjoyed and not endured.

How are your eating habits?  Do you look forward to the meals that you plan for yourself?  Where did you get the current diet that you are on and how is it working for you so far?

Stay logged onto my Health and Fitness Journey Series Episode 5 will be live on Tuesday at 9:00am.  I will be sharing tips on DIY Fitness.  You don’t want to miss this!

Fitness Bae®






Dare To Believe!

I have been keeping a journal for as long as I remember, the idea started when I was in senior school around age 14.  It has stuck with me over the years but lately I don’t make entries as often as I used to because  blogging has taken over the greater part of my life.   My handwriting has slowly become pathetic over the years so I quickly lost interest in the journal life.

I was doing some tidying up a few days ago and bumped into an old journal from 2006.  I have no idea where I got this entry from but I felt I needed to share it with my fellow bloggers.  Please note these are not my words, if anyone has any idea where this piece is from please let me know.


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You can’t be all things to all people.  You cant do all things at once.

You can’t do all things better than everyone else. Your humanity is showing just like everyone else’s.


You have to find out who you are, and be that.  You have to decide what must come first and do that.

You have to discover your strengths, and use them.  You have to learn not to compete with others.

Because no one else is in contest of “being you”.


You will have learned to accept your own uniqueness.  You will have learned to set priorities and make decisions.

You will have learned to live with your limitations.  You will have learned to give yourself the respect that is due.

And you’ll be a most vital mortal.


That you are a wonderful, unique person.  That you are a once-in-all-history event.

That it’s more than a right, it’s your duty, to be who you are.  That life if not a problem to solve, but a gift to cherish.

And you’ll be able to stay one up on what used to get you down.

For the Christian Prayer is not an option but an opportunity.

“In prayer; expect setbacks, but refuse retreat.”

Don’t tell the Lord how big the problem is, tell the problem how Great the Lord is!!

©MaKupsy 2017

5 Tips On How To Set Fitness Goals

If you want to succeed you have to set some goals!

When it comes to my health and fitness journey I keep it as honest as possible.  I am not one of those “Do as I say not as I do” type of people, I am the Do As I Do; because I believe someone will only be convinced to try something if they see you actually doing it yourself.

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When I started my journey my goal was to lose 10 whole kilograms in a space of 3 months.  Given how unfit I was at the time it was going to be a real mission.  I did not have enough knowledge of what exactly I was getting myself into and couple that with having to work out from home on my own it took a very long time to achieve my goal.  It took me a whole year to finally lose the 10kgs and it was one of the most interesting years of my life.  I went from telling myself I would completely cut out carbs at night, to overeating in the mornings because I would have gone to bed on an empty stomach to doing laundry for an hour and counting it as a workout and then rewarding myself with a huge meal.  It was a disaster and I am surprised I made it out alive!

Fast forward to now I am more informed about fitness.  The reason being I read A LOT; it simply doesn’t end at reading, I read and actually try out some of the things and I get both negative and positive results from it.  I obviously stick to including the positive into my life because nothing is as priceless as progress.  I will share a few tips I have learnt about setting goals over the past 3 years and I hope if you try them they will produce the same amazing results.

  1. Write it down!  I live on social media and starting up a blog to document my journey made me feel more accountable and I had to workout because once you put yourself out there people want to see results.
  2. Don’t make excuses.  My very first excuse was I didn’t have money to go subscribe for gym membership but I thought well, I have legs and running is free, let me try that for now and see if I will make any progress from there.  3 years later a hashtag has emerged from my road running ways; #RunWithFitnessBae see how powerful that goal of not making excuses worked out for the best.
  3. Make realistic goals.  My dream was to some day be able to run 10K.  Please note I had no “time goal” all I wanted to do was run 10K at an easy and comfortable pace without stopping at all.  What worked for me was making small changes each and everyday.  There was no way I was going to one day wake up and run 10K in less than an hour on a random day without making small and steady progress.  I would run 5K this week, then 5.5K the following week until I eventually got to my 10K dream. 🙂
  4. Don’t stop.  You will fall off the wagon not once or twice but several times; don’t be hard on yourself it comes with the journey.  I have had days I have said to myself screw this; today I am going to have not a glass but a whole bottle of wine and I don’t even feel bad about it because life is too short!  BUT the next day I will get back on the straight and narrow; start anew and keep working on how to better myself not only physically but emotionally as well.
  5. Be your own hype-man(woman).  At the end of the day the reason you get up each day to exercise is for no one else but you.  You can read, join WhatsApp Groups, follow health blogs but those can only do so much for you.  The real motivator is yourself.  Shower yourself with positive affirmations, take before and after pictures, go all out and make noise about your progress because believe me when I tell you that the feel good hormones you get from exercising and from self praise will keep you going for a very long time; trust me, I do this myself.

What are your 2017 fitness goals?  Have you come across any obstacles along the way if yes what have you done to get your mojo back?

Fitness Bae®