I Fell Apart But I Survived

It sure took a long time but I finally healed from my past hurts.  In my opinion the most painful thing after labour has to be heartbreak, that stuff hurts.  The pain is all consuming and you have to experience it to understand it.

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You can try the healing processes I went through at your own risk because if I’m honest in the end they did me more harm than good but I guess it was necessary to finally get past what I was feeling.

  • I became an alcoholic. I drank from Sunday through to Sunday.
  • I became “friends” with people who only fueled my new found alcohol problem.
  • I got into relationships I had no business being in.
  • I talked to a few friends; I lie, I told everyone who cared to listen what I was going through I couldn’t keep the pain to myself it was too much to bear.
  • I pretended to be doing just fine.
  • I blogged and tweeted about my pain.
  • I cried buckets, waking up in the middle of the night with a lump in my throat was the order of the day.  Puffy eyes every morning had become a part of me.
  • Eventually I sat myself down and told myself to get it together.  It took me nearly 5 years to finally let go of the one thing that was holding me hostage.  The way I saw it I was feeding myself poison each day hoping the person who hurt me would suffer.  It was clearly working against me!  It was hard, I won’t lie but I survived it and I can talk about it and not break down anymore.  Life happens, dust yourself up and move on!

If you are going through past hurts I hope this quote helps you realise that only you can set yourself free:

“Don’t keep dancing with the devil and wonder why you are still in hell.”

What are some of the past hurts that you are currently going through?  Have you devised a way to get over them if yes, please share, it will certainly help a reader or two.  You can also check out a piece I wrote on how real heartbreak can be over here.

©MaKupsy 2018


Eating Habits That Changed My Life

Fitness is 80% nutrition and 20% exercise. 

If you’re all about health and fitness you have read this saying a million times over.  Throughout my journey I have made a lot of changes that have transformed my body and I give most of the credit to making slow deliberate changes to my eating habits.  I strongly feel that fitness and food should both be a fun experience and that’s why I eat almost everything as and when the need arises; in moderation of course.  Below are some of the changes that have worked well for me.

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Image from Pinterest

  1. I only eat two slices of bread.  I used to eat brown bread but I hated it so decided to switch back to white bread and enjoy my sandwiches in peace.
  2. I have my tea with two teaspoons of brown sugar.  I cut it down to one teaspoon if I’m pairing up the tea or coffee with something sweet.
  3. I drink a lot of water, it’s become a part of my life. I can get up to 3litres of water in a day depending on my activity level.  I think this is the reason why my skin is clearer now, I used to suffer from serious breakouts.
  4. I eat a lot of fruits and vegetables.  Cucumbers, pineapples, mangoes, peaches or avocado.  Whatever is in season I’m eating it.
  5. Junk food no longer exists on my shopping list.  I can safely walk down an aisle filled with junk food and I won’t even be tempted to grab anything from there.  Actually, I hardly even notice it.  There is something about wanting to eat something even when you don’t want it just because it’s in the house.  If you don’t want temptation, don’t bring it to your house.
  6. I eat when I’m hungry, not just because it’s time to eat.  I take time to figure out if I’m hungry or just plain thirsty.
  7. I prepare most of my meals.  I want to see exactly what’s going into my food so chances of having horrible tasting meals are close to none, I long since declared that my cooking isn’t too shabby, people who have tried it are still alive 🙂
  8. I have an occasional glass of wine.  Okay I lied!  I drink a lot of wine.  May the wine gods help me with this.  I blame December.  I think this month alone I’ve wine I could have had in 3 months!  I love my wine, it helps me unwind but this month I’ve been terrible at managing my guilty pleasure.

This is what has worked specifically for me and I’m happy with the results.  I’m not a dietitian of any sorts, I’m just a fitness enthusiast playing around with food ideas and things I read on the internet.

What have been your dietary changes?  Are they working out for you?


Fitness Bae®

My First Half Marathon

On Sunday I ran my very first half marathon.  It was long overdue!  I had promised myself that sometime in 2017 I would make it happen and thankfully it happened just before the year ended otherwise it was going to be one goal that never materialised.  I trained for my half marathon for nearly 12 weeks then stopped at some point because I genuinely lost interest.  The thought of running a whole 21K scared me and I told myself I wasn’t built for it and that was perfectly okay.

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After running my first half marathon

However, because of the current December Challenge that team Fitness In The Park is hosting I was 5 days behind on the challenge and chose to up the amp by running a long distance; it’s a no brainer that I chose 21K to climb up the leader board.

The night before my run I dreamt that I had woken up at the time I had set my alarm and it was broad daylight.  I was annoyed and cancelled my run because I’m not the best runner when the sun is out.  I woke up to my alarm ringing and laughed out loud because this run was clearly taking over my entire life!

Soon as I got up I emptied my bladder nearly 5 times because I didn’t want to have to stop along the way for a pee break.  I also think it was the nerves kicking in because I knew that this run was going to be taxing on my entire body!

One thing happened to me during my run that I think every first half marathon runner should be wary of.  I FELT SO HUNGRY around 11K mark but I had to keep going, where was I going to get food from at 4:30am in the middle of nowhere?

Everyone has been asking me how I managed to run for 2 hours and 26 minutes none stop. I have no magic formula for this, the honest truth was that I told myself that I can slow down but I won’t stop and that ladies and gentleman is how I broke the mental barrier and smashed my first half marathon!  Oh, not forgetting the after run selfie and the NRC achievements!

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A few highlights of my run:

  • I started my run at 3:40am
  • I ran 10K #JustDoItSunday with the Nike Run Club community.
  • I ran non stop for 2 hours 26 minutes and 18 whole seconds!
  • I wasn’t listening to any music, it was just me and my thoughts that went from yay I’m so happy to be doing this to you know what, it’s really not too late to turn back and go home.
  • I used a sock to hold my phone.  Believe it or not but it’s way better than those phone arm bands that they sell.  You can make your own, YouTube is your friend!
  • My body felt like it didn’t belong to me after the run.  My legs felt like jelly and I was convinced I was going to collapse and die right there and then.  However, nothing felt as good as knowing that waking up at such an ungodly hour was worth it after all because…did I mention, I ran my first half marathon!
  • My toes were and still are painful but the rest of my body has completely healed, I even ran 10K yesterday and plan on running two more 10K runs this week.
  • Next stop Victoria Falls Marathon in 2018!!!

I’m currently suffering from fruit cravings and I’ve been having them in abundance.  Oh, and I’m hungry all the time!

How was your first half marathon?  What are some of your highlights and regrets?

For some first time half marathon runners here are a few tips: 21K Training Tips

Fitness Bae®


Banting While Pregnant

I’m pregnant and I’ve been living the Banting or LCHF (low carbohydrate high fat) lifestyle for almost 3 years.  I’ve been able to keep my weight under check during the entire time. Before then I was a runner who struggled with weight gain, the more I ran the more I gained – it just did not make sense until I discovered Banting. I lost a total of 9.5kgs in 3 months and I’ve not looked back since then!

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My first 2 years as a Banter were full of stops and starts due to uncertainty over the safety of Banting during a pregnancy and discovering that I couldn’t live the LCHF life while breastfeeding. Banting was still too new. This time around, yes, number two is on the way, and I have doubts that Banting is safe, if not the best, during pregnancy because:

  • It provides your growing baby with all the healthy fat need for brain building.
  • It keeps ailments like gestational diabetes at bay
  • It also means you will not have a tough time losing bump fat after you give birth.

I just have to be careful about increasing my carbohydrate intake once the baby arrives as the consumption of carbs is a key building block of milk production.

Back to Banting for those that are NOT pregnant!

While exercise is not necessary to achieve weight-loss when Banting, it is necessary for general fitness and health which is why I do it.  My preferred workouts are brisk walking in proper form and running distances between 2K and 5K. My sweet spot lies within these distances because 2K is short enough to make me run again the next day and 5K is long enough to keep me asking: “Can I shave another 7 seconds off my last run this week?” I’ve recently got more involved in dance based workouts because of the rains and I love them!

My favourite snack for movie night is:

  1. Chicken Skin Crisps, provided they survive till the movie starts! You can season them with whatever you like, my favourite is salted dipped in a Banting-friendly sweet chili sauce!
  2. Salami roll-ups are what I make if I need to rock up somewhere with a plate of eats. I make these from strips of salami, “buttered” with cream cheese and half a pimiento-stuffed olive for each roll up. They look classy and are lovely with a glass of chilled Chardonnay.
  3. When I have more time on my hands, it’s low carb pizza made with a cauliflower, yep, cauliflower, base. If people can’t tell the difference between a Banting pizza and a flour-based pizza, then you’ve made it right!

Eating out can be tricky when you’re living a low-carb life because you don’t know whether your pan-fried fish has really been cooked with butter or regular cooking oil. More and more restaurants are offering Banting-Friendly options on their menus. Delicious Fine Food Emporium at Borrowdale Village has a really comprehensive Banting Menu that I can’t get enough of! I only wish I didn’t live so far away. If it’s a hearty breakfast I’m after, then it’s without a doubt, “The Banter Breakfast” from Brento’s in Greendale. It’s made up of bacon or salmon (for an extra charge), mushroom, tomato and haloumi cheese (all grilled), avocado and 2 eggs of your choice. Eish, I’m actually getting hungry as I write this!! Cappuccinos with full fat milk and no sugar are welcome any day!

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Banter Breakfast from Brentos

I plan what I’m going to eat before I go out.  You can ask for rolls or bread sticks to be removed from your table so that you’re not tempted to dig in! Safe meal choices include grilled meats, steamed veggies and salads. Ask for a blob of butter to add to your veggies and a bit of lemon juice and olive oil instead of dressing for your salad. That way you can still track your carbs and fat intake.

One real problems is drinks and desserts! To low-carbers, alcohol is a toxin, consume it at your own risk. But if you must, go for white wines and champagne that have a lower carbohydrate content than red wines and cocktails. Spirits served with soft drinks are a no-no and beer is literally liquidized carbs! If you don’t eat out very often you can indulge in dessert once in a while but always remind yourself that sugar is as addictive as many hardcore drugs.

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What do I love about Banting? BACON – the streaky kind!  The results of banting which are usually visible within weeks of starting out are the second thing I love about banting.

A big thank you to Nyasha for the well written and informative post.  Congratulations on your pregnancy; many new discoveries await.

You can follow her Banting journey on Facebook and stay up to date with what’s hip and happening in the Banting world.

Are you a banter, how has been your experience so far?

Fitness Bae®


This Is Why You Are Gaining Weight

Ask anyone trying to lose weight and they will tell you how easily you can gain weight if you stop paying attention to your healthy habits.  It took me an entire year to lose 10kgs but if I’m reckless it takes me just one week to gain 1kg back!  The universe has some mad jokes I tell you.  It has been 3 years on this journey and I now know what makes my body tick or not.  Today I will share habits that easily contribute to my weight gain, I’m sure you will read some of them and notice that they probably have the same effect on you.

1. Poor Sleep

I’m a runner and this form of exercise requires that I get as much rest as I can to perform at my best.  However, on days I don’t sleep properly I don’t have the energy to get up and do one of the few things I love the most.  No energy means no runs means zero progress on that day.  Which translates to me feeling guilty all day long and probably missing a meal which by the way is a bad thing because starving yourself means your body goes into starvation mode which leads to weight gain, my word, the cycle!

2. Clothes

Fashion keeps doing the most.  One time our jeans are all the way up to our boobs next thing they are low cut and at some point they had elastic bands around the waist.  I remember the elastic band phase, I had a pair or two of those.  Now that’s the worst pair you want to invest in if you are trying to lose weight.  The elastic just keeps stretching and you don’t even realise you have gained weight until you wear something else.  Stay away from elastic band jeans, they give you false sense of security!

3. Alcohol

I love me some white wine, on a good weekend I will go through a whole 1litre of white wine and not even feel bad about it.  I run so that I can drink and drink so that I can run; that’s my story and I’m sticking to it!!!  I’m pretty good when it comes to watching what I eat and very consistent when it comes to exercise but I promise you, alcohol will be the death of me!  My six pack comes and goes and I know alcohol is the reason why it won’t let it thrive.  Alcohol contains a lot of calories so unfortunately for me, I drink my calories…Just so you know, it’s not just alcohol that contains calories, soft drinks and fruit juices are also an enemy of progress.

White wine has 83 calories in 100g glass

Coca-Cola has 210 calories in a 500ml bottle

Fruit juice has 54 calories in a 100g glass

My advice is drink water, it has zero calories.  If you can’t at least cut down because those clearly these drinks do more harm than good.

4. Stress

My stress comes from my Body Fat Scale.  I used to have a habit where I would weigh myself everyday.  That didn’t end very well and I since stopped the habit and I don’t encourage it either.  Now I weigh myself once a week, same place and same time.  According to researchers stress is connected to weight gain, because a high level of the stress hormone cortisol has been shown to up appetite, drive cravings for junk food, and make it oh so much easier to accumulate belly fat.

5. Pre-Menstrual Syndrome(PMS)

This is the worst time of the month for me.  I hate PMSng, it drives me up the wall with it’s cravings and mood swings.  I crave the strangest things.  Last month I had doughnuts, a whole litre of coke, chocolate, lots of greasy take out and biscuits.  Gosh!  All that bad food in a week.  I don’t know if it’s just me but my stomach has this small bulge of sort when I’m PMSng.  This is one of the worst times of the month for me because I know the moment I hop onto the scale I will be very disappointed!  I promise you the cravings leave me thinking I’m pregnant…but I know better.


You are all talk and no action.  I see you!

I believe you know what contributes to your weight gain.  You just have to pay extra attention to yourself.  At the same time weight gain is not entirely a bad thing, especially if it’s going to the right places.

My advice is make small deliberate changes in your life and the weight loss will happen.

Let’s talk, what’s adding the weight on your scale?

Fitness Bae®

ParkRun Harare : October

Come and run with us this weekend at the ONLY park run in Harare.

Place: Greenwood Park

Date: 14 and 28 October 2017

Time 5:30am for 6:am

Join us for a fitness filled morning at the park hosted by Fitness Bae in partnership with Steward Health.

  • 5K Run
  • Body Weight Training
  • Stretching

Bring your towel and bottle of water.  Remember to wear something pink for Breast Cancer Awareness Month.

*Please be early, run starts at 6am sharp!*

Admission is Free!

28 October 2017

28 October 2017

Fitness Bae®




Run 5K For The Fun Of It!

I love October!  Running is much more colourful thanks to the blooming jacaranda trees. The early morning runs are filled with beautiful fresh scents and that’s an additional reason to get up and run!  I’ve been training for my first half marathon and I’m currently on week 12 of 16.  I’ve stopped following the programme on My Nike Coach for this month because just looking at the set distances is making me sick to my stomach.  I don’t think I’m mentally prepared to wake up and run 18K on a random Wednesday morning.  I’m still going to run my half marathon though, but I’m going to do it my way!

I got this brilliant idea of documenting what you plan to do each week and then sharing both what you and don’t get done from one of my favourite fitness bloggers Piper.  You should check out her September and October goals from here.

What I Planned vs What I Did

Monday Run 5K * Ran 5K. It was one tough run considering I had gone out the previous night and left the event at 10pm, only to get to sleep at 11pm, absolute madness! 

Tuesday 50 crunches 50 push ups and 30 minutes Zumba 50 crunches 50 push ups the only problem here was the push ups.  Now that I know how to do them properly they are pretty intense.  I didn’t feel like doing Zumba afterwards so I let that slide.

Wednesday Run 5K Ran 5K It was mostly an uphill run but I smashed it and clocked in my best time and shaved off a whole 15 seconds from Monday’s run.

Thursday 50 crunches 50 push ups50 crunches.  My right shoulder is in pain.  I think I got overzealous on Tuesday morning.  I had to fix a hot water bottle and lie on it throughout the night to ease the pain on my shoulder.

Friday Run 5K * Ran 5K + 30 minutes of Zumba. It was a slow easy run.  I didn’t have any music today, I wanted to enjoy my surroundings.  My shoulder is still in pain but hopefully tomorrow I’ll be feeling much better.  Threw in some Zumba as well, the hunger I felt within an hour!  I gobbled down half an avocado before I left for work.

Saturday 50 crunches 50 push ups * 50 crunches 50 push ups.  I did these first thing in the morning before my body could make any excuses.

Sunday Run 5K * Ran 5K First #JustDoItSunday of the month, I loved it! 


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My highlight for the week was definitely Zumba.  It takes me to a happy place.  I love how my body can do all these various moves and still get to exercise at the same time.  It gets me sweating, way more than I do when I go for a run!  Maybe next week I will do two Zumba sessions instead of one…will see how things go.

How was your exercise week?  What did you get up to and what have you changed on your fitness plan?

Lesson Learnt This Week: Go out for your run at 5:00am if you want to beat running in the sun!

Fitness Bae®

October Challenge

October is going to be one heck of a month!  We are going to be out here running like it’s going out of fashion.  If you took part in the Winter Challenge in June then this challenge will be a breeze.  You can read some of the challenge reviews from here.

When I initiated the winter challenge I told beginners that it would be a once off thing but I knew once they started running they would never stop and that’s exactly what’s going on now!  They are hooked onto running and I love it!

In winter we ran 2K almost everyday.  This side of the world winter mornings are pretty dark so you can imagine how onlookers probably thought we had lost our minds running in the dark cold weather.  However, it paid off and most team members managed to lose or maintain their weight throughout the winter season.

This October we will be running 5K at least three times a week and at most 4 times a week.  I’m proud to say that team Fitness In The Park managed to smash the June Challenge and I know they will surprise October by completing every single run.

Here are a few tips on how to survive the 5K challenge from the members of team Fitness In The Park:

Enjoy the run and ignore the pain, find new routes to run, avoid running soon after a meal and adjust your speed during your run. – M.K

Run at a steady pace that suits you. I had a problem of trying to run to finish as quickly as possible but you burn out real quick!  Running is really all in your mind, don’t give up! – Jeff


SpreadSheet Credit: Nyasha Chidavaenzi


Rules Of The Challenge

  1. Have fun!  Run, jog, sprint, power walk through this but whatever you do; have fun!
  2. Share your run on any social media platform.
  3. Use the #RunWithFitnessBae challenge together with your other favourite fitness hash tags.
  4. Wear pink.  It can be a cap, tshirt, shorts any pink workout gear for Breast Cancer Awareness Month.

I encourage you to take note of your progress.  When October comes to an end I want you to see the difference between your first and last run of October.

Happy running and even when you don’t feel like running remember the saying “Just Do It!”

Fitness Bae®

Day 27: The Joys of Singledom

After asking a few people they told me they have never been single in their life, like ever.  They have jumped from one relationship to the next and never had the chance to just be on their own.  I know one friend who told me she would never cope being single because she is so used to having a man on her arm showering her with love and attention.  The reasons she told me about always being in a relationship will obviously be a topic for a different day because that will just spoil the mood I am trying to set in this post.  So what is being single?  Google will have you know that they define single as not married or not having a serious romantic relationship with someone.

I’m a mother and dating can be one heck of a tricky scenario because it’s no longer about what I want anymore.  I make decisions on who I will date depending on whether they will be good for my daughter or not.  I’m still working on that formula but trust me my intuition is never wrong when it comes to deciding on who to and who not to introduce to her.  Whoever I choose to be with has to be someone I can count on and be supportive especially emotionally supportive when I’m going through the most.  A bonus is someone who can develop a relationship with my daughter naturally.  When I feel confident that this is someone who will be around for a long time then I can gladly introduce them to her.  That said…


photo credit from my Twitter tweind @monakadurira

I initially wanted to look at both the good and the bad things about being single.  But I decided not to because I am in a happy place and want to keep everything around me filled with positivism.  That said let me jump right into the joys of singledom and then later on add a few people’s views on their single status.

So; about that single life.  You do not have to answer to no one and that means you can do as you please, no questions asked.  (doing who you please is also very much an option)  You have this thing called “me time” that comes in abundance.  For someone who likes her space like me it’s the best thing about being single.  The other thing that just brings a huge smile on my face is that when you are single you are not busy worrying about what your partner is up to, with who, why, where and how.  That can be really taxing on your emotions given the rate at which most people don’t seem to be taking their relationships seriously these days and cheating has become a way of life for some.  You can sleep on your own in your own bed in any way you like, you can sleep like a starfish, upside down, back to front, inside out (does that even exist?) Whatever the case you have all that sleeping space to yourself and no snoring or farting partner to deal with!

The trip to New Start Centre is a breeze when you are single and have not been sexually active.  You can go there with your head up knowing you have been good to yourself and your body.  Have you been to New Start Centre when you have been busy sexing your boyfriend without protection and then found out he has been cheating??  That’s round about the time you wish you had stayed single and celibate and wish you could just cut out your vagina and throw it straight into the sea because it is clearly giving you unnecessary stress!

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Image from Google

Anywho, let’s see, what else is great about being single…oh yes, you get to treat yourself right and that can also be a yardstick for the way you would want your partner to treat you when you get into a relationship.  You learn the art of dating yourself.  You can try out going for dinner, a movie, coffee, stand up comedy, anything that tickles your fancy because there is no way you should miss out on the fun side of life just because you do not have anyone to share it with.

Some of my single blog readers had a few tips to share on what they love about being single, here goes:

Blog Reader 1
  • You can be alone and learn to love it, live with it, use that “alone time” to love yourself and nurture yourself! You deserve it!
  • Being single is the perfect time to amend your relationship with God, draw closer to God as well as to give all your petitions to Him.
  • I love having to make decisions without having to consider if someone else will be okay with it.
  • Less stress if you have had to deal with a cheating partner and their shenanigans in the past.  Being single means you have peace of mind.
Blog Reader 2
  • You get to spend all your money alone.
  • You have the freedom to have sex with any woman guiltlessly.
  • You don’t have curfews.
  • You have more money to spend on beer.

(I’m sure you can tell this blog reader is a guy!)

Blog Reader 3
  • You concentrate on whatever it is that makes you happy.
  • Being single means no unnecessary insecurities.
  • I’m at less risk of sexual immorality because I’m single.
  • I want to empower myself before anything else so right now I can fully concentrate on my goals without the distraction of a significant other.

So to everyone who says being single sucks, I guess you have been looking at it the wrong way.  If you are single there is hope for you to enjoy the season if you stop whining and take a step back to look at all the good things that come from flying solo…

You can also check out some dating blog posts from the following:

Dating While Parenting  by The Quarter Wife

Let’s talk about your dating journey, are you single or ready to mingle?

©MaKupsy 2017

Day 21: The Disgrace Of Infertility In Africa

Infertility is a very hushed subject in our society.  From my observations in our society most times when the woman stays in marriage that is childless it’s usually the man who is probably facing infertility.  Us women are programmed to take it all in, the good, the bad the ugly so it’s highly likely that even when we are in very unfulfilling relationships we will stay on for the sake of love and to save face.  If the tables are turned and it’s the woman who is unable to conceive it’s a completely different ball game!


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Today I’m going to share details of a highly controversial practice that used to be a part of our Zimbabwean culture a very long time ago.  It might still be happening now but I unfortunately don’t have those details so for now let me take you back in time…

Infertile Man 

After a couple had been married for close to a year and didn’t manage to conceive eyebrows started to be raised by family members.  Aunts would have been all up in the wife’s business by then and tried to find out what was going on.  Please note that this was a private matter and the husband was not aware of what was going on behind his back.  The aunt behind the crafty plan would ask the women to her to wipe off some sperm from their bed linen after they had sex so that elders could “examine” the strength it held.  It was after this examination that plans to find someone who could help with conceiving were made.  The aunt would approach the man in question’s younger brother and tell him about the pressing matter.  If there was no younger brother they would sit down with a trusted neighbour or relative and state their case.  The older brother was not to be a part of this as he is viewed as baba(father) and could not enter his siblings home to carry this out. If the parties agreed the woman would only meet up with the man during her ovulation days and try to conceive.  Most times it worked and a few months down the line the wife was pregnant and expecting a little bundle of joy.  Problem solved, happy woman, happy man!  There was never any mention of what transpired to finally get pregnant, it was a very private matter.  (Well now it isn’t!)

Think about it…The little brother steps in and people hi 5 the man!


Image from Google

Infertile Woman

Her “condition” was an open discussion. (I have so much to say about this!)   The aunts and uncles would sit down with the couple and address the infertility subject.  They would approach the little sister to the wife in question.  If she agreed to stand in for her sister and try and give her uncle an heir a token of appreciation would be paid to the family and she would move in with the couple.  However, not all sisters agreed to this and in such cases the husband would get some of his lobola (stage 8- danga) back.  When this happened the husband was asked to marry a new wife so that he would be able to conceive and have his family name grow.  Back then most women stayed and took the role of first wife while a second wife was brought into the family and everyone lived happily ever after.

Think about this: The little sister steps in and people still look at the woman!!!

5 Facts About Infertility – extracted from www.owletcare.com

  1. Infertility is generally defined as not being able to conceive after one year (or more) of unprotected sex.
  2. Around one in eight couples struggle to become pregnant.
  3. Both men and women can contribute to infertility.
  4. There are various ways the infertility can be treated, including medicinesurgeryintrauterine insemination (IUI) or assisted reproductive technology such as in vitro fertilization (IVF). These methods aren’t always successful, and can be quite painful.
  5. Secondary infertility is real; you can still experience infertility in subsequent pregnancies even after previously successful, easy-to-conceive pregnancies.

Back to my rant on Female Infertility!  Why are men’s issues kept under lock and key, why must women’s flaws be laid out to bare for all and sundry to see?  This is NOT RIGHT AT AT ALL!  What makes men so special?  Why must we be the ones to be shamed???  Imagine how a woman felt.  She was already dealing with emotional issues, feeling like a failure and now she had to face a whole group of people blaming her for being infertile?  Do you have any idea what people especially relatives say about infertile women? From accusing them of having gone through several abortions to being called a witch!  Next thing she’s depressed and no one acknowledges depression; it’s too much for me to take in.  No man, this is not how things were supposed to be handled, women have feelings too!

That said, children are a gift and unfortunately not everyone gets to receive that gift.  That should not in any way bring tension into your marriage, when the time is right it will happen and if it doesn’t happen I believe there will always be something positive to bring fulfillment in both your lives.

What are your thoughts on the subject of infertility?  How is this topic handled in your society?  If I took you back in time would you agree to the practice that I just shared with you?

Today is day 21 of the #30DayAfriBlogger Challenge and our topic is My Thoughts On Infertility.  Feel free to join the conversation.

MaKupsy 2017