I mean it, do you ever stop to ask yourself if you really do love yourself? The decisions you make every single day that concern you, are they coming out of a place of love? I realised that I probably don’t love myself enough, I mean I do but sometimes my actions speak otherwise. There are times when I find myself making really bad decisions that will cost me in the future but I go ahead and do them anyway. That can’t be love! I guess loving yourself is a never ending journey so you have to find ways to perfect it everyday. I have a few pointers that I try to adhere to for the most part and you might find them helpful as well.
Stop Putting Conditions To Love Yourself
I used to be guilty of this. I would tell myself that I would only start feeling happy or do certain things once I achieved certain goals. A great example was not wearing a crop top until I got killer abs. What if I never got them, what if they stopped making crop tops and I had been holding back on that? I told myself I would wear whatever I felt like as long as I felt happy and comfortable screw what everyone else thinks. I hope you realise how short life is. You will die this very minute and you would have been postponing your happiness when you could have been living your best life right now!
You know how they say “To know is to love”? Well this love business needs to start with yourself. Are you taking yourself through activities which will help you get to know yourself better. One of my favourite things to do every once in a while is to spend time alone. It helps me be with my thoughts and figure out what I need to do to make myself happier. This little ritual has also made me actually cut out some of the activities I used to be a part of. I used to attend almost every event in town because I mostly like things but now I only spend my time on things that actually matter to me. Fitness, music, hair, food, entrepreneurship, digital related events, I’m there! Ask yourself if the things you are doing are out of love or simply a fear of missing out. Once you establish that you can save yourself money and have more peace of mind while you’re at it.
Love vs Vanity
It’s a thin line between love and vanity. Unfortunately for me my self love is often mistaken for vanity and that’s okay. I know my strengths and weaknesses but I tend to hype my strengths more so that obviously sends a different message to those around me. My advice, no matter what others may think, celebrate your positive aspects while also working on your weaknesses. Be easy on yourself, no one is perfect.
I absolutely love hot bubble baths but only two problems almost always present themselves. First of all too much of bubble baths will end up giving me some form of yeast infection and secondly water isn’t always there so having to use a bucket for bathing ruins the entire pampering routine! In the end I have to make an alternative plan and take it out in the kitchen and prepare a scrumptious meal while enjoying a powered up music playlist. Whatever you do, always make time to show yourself some love.
You can also try the following:
- Read or listen to books that talk about self love
- Attend events that encourage self development
- Listen to music that makes you feel good
- Have sex, okay I kid! Sex isn’t the answer to everything really and truly
Ever since I started loving myself more my life has never been the same. Yes, some days aren’t easy but the moment I get back to a positive mindset it only gets better.
I once wrote about the reason why you are not happy, you can check it out here.
I would like to know; do you know who you are, what you want and what you feel?
Today is Tuesday, the perfect day to start to choose to love yourself.