Turn The Page – Bobby Valentino

Do they still make men like these??  Men who will run after the woman they love to win her back or because of technology a new girlfriend is just a single message away? The moment you call it quits he disappears into thin air?  It’s like he was just waiting for the chance to break up so that he can move on with his life.

I love this track to bits all the same!

©MaKupsy 2017

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Superman – Tarrus Riley

I LOVE this track, one of my favourite reggae tracks by Tarrus Riley (we share the same birthday).  Whenever I listen to the words, I am left in a world of my own.  Where do they manufacture men who say this?  I need to order one!

I will be there when you need me
I will be there when you cry baby
I will be there when you need someone to tell you
That you’re beautiful baby

©MaKupsy 2017

I Made My Woman Smile Today

I noticed that maybe just maybe I am being a little too hard on the men out there.  So this post is for the men and the positive things they do for the women in their lives.  It’s not really about going above and beyond but the simple things that make her smile.   As always the participants remain anonymous, only their ages will be disclosed.  Here is a list of the things they did today just to put that beautiful smile on their partners face.

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  • I gave her a surprise visit at her workplace with a bunch or roses. 23
  • I bought her jewelry. 22
  • I bought her a new phone Samsung Galaxy 4 just because she was being a good wife and mother to my children. 32 
  • I sent a voice note reciting a poem and she loved it. 22
  • I kissed my wife goodbye on the cheek before I left the house. 30
  • I sent a message saying “I love you”.  Believe me for most married people those are rare words. 41
  • I complimented her on her new hairstyle. 28
  • I took her to Nandos for lunch. 34
  • This morning I told her she is the most beautiful wife a man could ever have. 41
  • I finally put a photo of both of us on my Twitter Avi. 25
  • I gave her a necklace with her name on it. 26
  • I called her, all the way from South Africa to Harare for a good 10 minutes. 34
  • I remembered our first year anniversary and sent a gift to her office. 27

You see, sometimes all a woman needs is a random act to show her that she still has your heart.  I hope the other guys out there get to read this and will hopefully do something to brighten up their partner’s day.

Let me know what you decide to do for your leading lady today 🙂

MaKupsy

Are You Comfortable In Your Clothes?

A few months ago I decided to finally attend an event that most Hararians rave about the last Sunday of each month.  It always took place when I was out of town but this time I made sure I was available.  I only arrived sometime after 6pm and because it was winter I made sure I was fully dressed in my tights, boots, dress, jacket and scarf!  Yes, I am THAT scared of the cold.

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However, when I arrived I noticed that most of the women were dressed in shorts, tights, mini skirts and short summer dresses.  I checked out the guys and the majority of them were in jeans, t shirts and a jacket; all dressed up to keep warm.  This event starts at midday which is a great idea because you can get to show off your nice bits in the warm sun and if you want to leave early you can do so after having a great afternoon.  If you decide to stay on for the rest of the evening I think you will need to have a plan because goodness was it cold that day or what!  I could see a few women with goosebumps from a mile away and it had me thinking if they were really comfortable with their dress choice for the day or they were braving it out for the love of fashion.  Don’t get me wrong I love me some sassy clothes but I just think that sometimes us women put ourselves through the most!

I have another example.  This one time I decided to go and watch a cricket match. Me being me, I thought well, I am going for a sporting event let me wear a pair of shorts, top, sunglasses and a comfortable tennis shoes and be on my way.  Did I just not get the shock of my life when I got there.  Some women were in 6 inch heels!!  How people, tell me how?  There was obviously going to be a lot of cheering, dancing jumping and down happening and I can’t even begin to imagine just how these women were planning on enjoying their afternoon dressed in killer heels so to speak.

Do not get me wrong, this post is not meant to bash anyone for the way they dress.  If anything I actually want to know from some women why they choose to dress this way for occasions you would think were not that deep.  LOL. Have you seen how guys are always fully clothed when you go out?  Why are we putting ourselves through this much torture?  I call it torture because I don’t want to freeze my ass off in the cold when I know I could easily wear something warm or end up feeling unhappy because I am wearing shoes that are definitely not for the occasion.  When I go out I make sure that I am comfortable and happy.  I will go clubbing and never leave the dance floor because I don’t have to keep pulling my dress down or have to hold my shoes in my hand because my feet are now painful and stopping me from pulling some epic dance moves!

I asked a few guys their opinion on this issue of wearing skimpy clothes and this is what they had to say:

GUY ONE: I don’t see a problem with that dressing if you’re going for the day look but if you’re planning on being there all night then I think it’ll be wise of you to wear something that says “I’m here to relax, have a good time, look and feel comfortable & warm” something that doesn’t make it seem like you’re trying too hard to be noticed. I mean after all simple is sexy I always say. The problem is some dress to be noticed by others at the expense of themselves. “Dress for a cause not applause!” i.e dress for yourself. That ka simpleness is hella attractive!

GUY TWO: Okay well here’s the thing. I think some women dress like that to feel comfortable, especially if it’s hot. Maybe some would be looking for attention from guys, that is “seizing a bae” but ultimately I think it’s about what they feel comfortable in. If it’s going to be cold, it’s probably advisable if they bring leggings, a jacket or something to wear when it gets colder.

GUY THREE: I am just going to be honest and open about this, I WISH WOMEN DID THIS MORE, I love it!

GUY FOUR: Guys will dress more safely perhaps because guys don’t particularly go crazy because of what to wear at an occasion. They will be concentrating on what is going to happen when you get to the occasion, for example, going for a braai.  They are interested in the braaing aspect and probably how much alcohol they will drink, nothing about dress code.  Over and above I think women should just adopt this kind of attitude (what are the chances though) dress appropriately but still look really good.

So ladies, I want to hear from you, are you comfortable in what you choose to wear for an occasion? Who helps you decide on your outfit for the day and do you have a back up plan for when the weather changes up on you or you are on that “Fashion knows no weather tip”?  Let’s talk.

 

©MaKupsy 2016

 

 

 

 

21 Questions with MaKupsy

Hello everyone, it’s been a beautiful day so far.  I hope you are looking forward to the weekend as much as I am. A few minutes ago I got an email from a fellow blogger Kudzai and I didn’t realise it was blog related.  I thought I had nothing to write about today and he magically came through for me.  He has hit me up with 21 Questions and trust me he is not ready for the come back I have for him!  Let me get to answering him as honestly and and as quickly as I can, my body is here but my mind is already out there celebrating the end of the working week!

  • A few people know your name, and also want to know the inspiration behind your blog name. Would you shed some light on that?

My name is Zvie.  My blog name derives from two things.  The first being “Ma” which is short for amai(mother) and “Kupsy” which is my daughter’s nickname.  I put the two together and came up with MaKupsy.

  • A lot of the times we see tweets about Marondera. Can you tell us about where you’re from?

My family moved around a lot when I was little.  I was born when we stayed in Kariba, then we moved to Chinhoyi when I was around 4 years old.  We left for Marondera in 1994.  I did my Primary School education in Marondera and High School, College and Work was in Harare…Help me decide where exactly I am from because I don’t know either.  LOL

  • What actually inspired you to start blogging?

Love/ lust, I am not really sure which one of the two it was but I think the latter because at some point the feeling went away.  I didn’t know how to tell a guy I was spending a lot of time with that I had the hots for him so I decided to write a blog post which he never saw.  How sad.  The other reason was to document my Fitness Journey.

  • Which of your blog posts are you most proud of?

The one I am most proud of has to be Butterfly .  I bled all my emotions out of that post.  I needed to let go off all the hurt and pain I had gone through and I did so the best way I know how; through writing.  It spoke to a lot of women and it is one of the most popular posts on my blog.

  • Can you say your blogging experience has helped your writing and communication skills to improve?

It definitely has!  I can’t just write up something and publish it.  I have to go over it once, twice, sometimes three times to check if there are no spelling mistakes, no grammatical errors, having to think of flavoured words, smooth transitioning of sentences; it’s not as easy as it looks but with time you get better at it.

  • You’ve gained a reputation for talking about subjects people generally take as sensitive. How do you do it?

I didn’t realise I had gained a reputation for writing about the subjects that intrigue me the most.  I am not sure if it’s a good or bad reputation though so you have to tell me more on this one.   To be honest, I am one of those bloggers who simply speaks/tweets/writes exactly what’s on her mind.  My blog is my space to entertain my thoughts so it’s a no holds barred area so I do it so easily.

  • What subject have you always had a passion for talking about? Is there a story behind this?

Most times I am passionate about writing on issues that women face.  From heartbreak, unfair treatment, body image issues, domestic violence the works.  The reason being I am woman above everything else, I have and still experience some of the things I have mentioned and also because I know my stories speak to other women right here in Zimbabwe and the world at large.

  • Everyone knows, you absolutely hate bad sex. Can you give us a snippet of one time you can say you really experienced some horrible loving?

I really need to stop over sharing.  The moment I read EVERYONE I just realised I talk too much!  Well, I once wrote about an incident over here so you can get a scoop of some of the horrible loving I received (or didn’t receive in this case).

  • Men in suits just do it for you, don’t they?

YES, YES AND YES!!

  • What qualifies as the biggest turn off for you?

The biggest turn off has to be typos and all this shorthand that’s supposed to be the in thing. I CAN NOT STAND SHORT HAND.  People are out here acting like letters are being sold if you want to use them.  The moment someone I am talking to on any social media platform starts with the shorthand nonsense I ignore them.  It truly grates on my nerves!

  • Your Fitness Program has also earned you quite the reputation. What inspired you to start running?

If I had not weighed in that fateful day when I went to visit my doctor I would probably not be Fitness Bae right now.  Two years ago I weighed 85kgs.  For someone who is only 163cm that is bad, very bad.  I was shocked beyond words because that was the exact weight I was when I was pregnant with my daughter.  Just a few days before giving birth I was 85kgs and there I was weighing the same weight and not pregnant.  It gave me the biggest wake up call of my life.

  • I imagine a lot of people pester you with “I wanna start working out too, can you give me some advice?” kind of questions. Maybe you could put it to bed once and for all for us amateurs LOL

Yes, I get those questions all the time and even after telling people what to and what not to do some won’t go ahead and start on the fitness journey.  The truth of the matter when it comes to fitness is that YOU have to want to do it.  People can suggest you do something about your weight but as long as you don’t want it yet it will never happen.  The only motivation that works with fitness is self motivation.

  • Obviously somewhere along the line, you thought of giving up. What kept you going?

When I initially started my workout program in August 2014 I had days I truly wanted to drop the whole thing.  My legs, thighs, shins everything hurt because my body was used to being idle.  I remember my dad telling me to keep at it because it was certainly going to hurt in the beginning.  I have kept going for a couple of reasons;

  1. I want to win all the Mother’s Races at my daughter’s school,
  2. I want to live longer and lead a healthy lifestyle,
  3. The results I see every week are amazing and I look so much better in my clothes, who would have thought I would own yellow, pink and all the pretty colour bras, they only have them in small sizes by the way!
  4. Running gives me feel good hormones and I can never imagine my life without it.
  5. I have made incredible friends thanks to my running addiction and they have made some amazing contributions in my life.  It would not be the same without them.
  • You love food (This is no secret). Coupled with your fitness program, doesn’t this present significant challenges to your love for making your taste buds dance, and to your fitness lifestyle?

The trick is to balance out everything.  The moment you deprive your body, the moment you over indulge.  I love my food without a doubt and what works for me is portion control and making sure I prepare the meals myself whenever I can that way I get to choose all the ingredients that go into the meal.

  • What’s the best restaurant you’ve been to in Harare? Have you blogged about it before?

I have been to a handful of restaurants so far but this year I have to admit that Victoria 22 took my breath away.  I went there for my birthday and I was absolutely wowed.  Yes, I blogged about it, that’s one of the other things I enjoy on my blog, writing about Restaurant Reviews.  The link for the Victoria 22 experience is here.

  • Are men trash?

LOL, how random is that question?  I will throw the same question back at you, are women trash?

  • There was one blog that caught my attention, about single mothers. You really went in on this one. Have you any words about the subject and people’s perception towards it?

I remember the blog.  It was meant to run as a series but I could not get enough people to contribute, it can still be done if I put my mind to it.  Just watch this space for details…About Single Mothers, society is messed up.  The moment they hear someone is a single mother they throw judgement and yet they don’t even know her story.  People need to grow up and stop treating single mothers like they have some sort of a disease.  Women are raising  a child or children on her own for different reasons.  Life happens, no one is perfect after all is said and done.

  • Your pride and joy…can you pick out one of your proudest mummy moments?

It was a random day that I spoke to Miss Kupsy over the phone.  I always tell her I love her at the end of each conversation.  That day I was in a rush and quickly said goodbye.  She called out “Mhamhi!” from the other end before I hung up then I replied her and she said “I love you”.  My heart melted, that was the first time she said that without me telling her first.  I was in puddles of joy, she is my little ray of sunshine.

  • You drink more than I do. You’re a fan of vodka too. So I am sure you have a story to tell about the most drunk you’ve been before. We’re listening…

You love stories way too much.  The funniest story I can recall that is Vodka related is the first time my cousin and I tried it.  When we got back home we struggled to go up the stairs.  We stayed on the fourth floor but thanks to having one too many we got to the third floor and tried to unlock the door.  It wouldn’t open and we passed out right there in the passage.  We got up sometime in the morning when we started feeling cold and obviously back to being sober and realised we were on the wrong floor!  Amateur drinking right there!  Now I’m a pro, come to me for the best Vodka mixes in town.

  • Can you recommend a good book to read, that isn’t Karma Sutra or Mills and Boon?

I have never in my life read a Mills & Boon, that was never my portion.  I recommend you get your hands on Half of A Yellow Sun by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie you won’t put that book down.  If you are into our very own local literature read The Hairdresser of Harare by Tendai Huchu, it took me 3 days to finish it, it was that good!

  • Finally, can we expect much more from MaKupsy in the following months? Is there anything in the pipeline? Or is it a secret? Shall we keep our eyes and ears open?

You are not ready for the things I have lined up Fitness wise.  It’s going to be amazing, your go to place for all things workout related.  It’s not a secret but a surprise.  Come December this year, you will me totally blown away!

 

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MaKupsy

Have a lovely weekend everyone and stay inspired to be the best version of yourself each and everyday.

© MaKupsy 2016

Why I Will NEVER Leave My Main Chic

Ever wondered why he will have a side chic or two but NEVER leave his wife or main chic?  I asked a couple of guys and this is what they told me…

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  • It is happy ever after for me so there is no backing down.
  • In her I have made a heavy emotional and material investment that I just can’t walk away from.
  • Mainly because I would need a lawyer and would lose half my shit!
  • I don’t see my side chic as an equal or replacement.
  • Most men easily get distracted but the distraction doesn’t last forever, I stay with my main focus.
  • She has been tried and tested and proven to be loyal.
  • It’s really simple for me, I love my main chic and luck for my side chic.
  • My main chic is someone who is a constant challenge with drive but also respectful towards me through the good and bad times.
  • My wife is deeply committed to me and loves me for me and not for the material things I have.  We have come a long way.
  • I made her my best friend, how could I possibly live without her?
  • She completes me, she is the yin to my yang.

 

MaKupsy