“Love is no what you say. Love is what you do.”
One thing I’ve learnt over the years is the solid fact that we love differently. You might think you’re going above and beyond to show your partner how much they mean to you; meanwhile they’re receiving “no signal” at all. Today’s post will have more questions than answers because I too am still trying to figure out what love is supposed to be.
Why do you think some women have trust issues when it comes to men?
I’ve heard of stories were a married man leaves his matrimonial home in the guise of a day out with his boys only for him to go to pay Lobola for his girlfriend? This is someone who made a vow to love his wife till the end of time. Which part of this vow said that he can secretly love another woman? Is it true then that you can love more than one person or it’s a matter of greed? I’ve always wondered if men who go on to have more than one wife are able to fully satisfy them? It’s already a tall order pleasing one woman now imagine the amount of stress you’ll invite into your life with more than one of them?
Break up to make up
Have you ever been with a partner who continuously cheats on you but you find yourself sticking it through with them for reasons that seem not so bad when you tell them to yourself;
- the sex is amazing
- they’re your comfort zone, they’ve been in your life forever
- you lost their virginity to them
- what will people say after dating for so long
- you love them
- they’ll change you just have to make sure you change a thing or two to keep them happy
Does a leopard change it’s skin? Why do you choose to put yourself through things that you know will achieve the square root of nothing? This person already knows that you’re going to take them back no matter what they do to hurt you. Love yourself and do the right thing; let them go.
Different relationship goals
I remember breaking up with someone I was madly in love with a couple of years ago because he wouldn’t come with me to go get tested to find out our HIV status. Almost everything was ticking all the boxes until he started coming up with stories not to go to the clinic. We’re living in a time were people are more concerned about how many people their partner has been with instead of knowing their sexual history. Protecting yourself from sexually transmitted diseases, unwanted pregnancy and HIV should be top priority. Don’t buy this bullshit of “but I trust you babe” let’s just have sex without a condom line. Never trust people, just because you’re sleeping with them doesn’t mean you’re the only one they’re sleeping with. Remember that!?
You’re probably reading this and thinking we’re all going to die some day so let’s live our best lives. To be honest; I just want to know why you want to get there sooner than your time when you can do something about protecting your peace and your health.
I just want to know what love is. Do you think you can help me define it?