Lie To Me

Men and women lie.  Lying is not reserved for men only, both sexes put in the work when it comes to this not so clever form of communication.  People lie for different reasons; SoProfound states that lying is necessary to keep emotions balanced, needs met, wants satisfied and happiness guaranteed.  I was on radio last night and we touched on this subject and turns out I still have more to say on the subject!

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SoPround, Kuda Nyemba, Simba Sox and MaKupsy

Every woman wants a good life, show me one who says otherwise and I’ll show you a liar!  Financial security is one of the top priorities for most women and from what I’ve gathered men have figured this out and take advantage of it.  Some of these men will build castles in the air and you will fall for it.  The few lucky women find out it was just a farce months into deciding to date someone others are unfortunate and find out the truth when they are pregnant and have nowhere else to go.  Goodbye fancy dates hello reality which includes borrowing from friends to keep up appearances.

I’m pregnant…

If you’re a sexually active man I’m absolutely positive you have received this message a couple of times and you probably went into extreme panic mode.  Some women can be a handful but there’s a reason.  We want to “see” where the relationship is going in a very twisted and immature way.  We think that your reaction to our “pregnancy” will give us an idea of how you feel about us.  It will be unheard of if you even utter the words abortion!  Then again if you suggest it chances of you sending through money are highly likely and the money can be put to better use seeing you would have chosen to be a prick; in our eyes anyway.  Not all I’m pregnant messages are true, it’s just a little lie to get you feeling miserable for the fun of it.

Everyone is single depending on who’s asking.  A man or woman can be in a relationship but the moment a potential candidate presents themselves their relationship status goes out the window.  Our generation has become quite a greedy lot.  We don’t seem to be content with one partner, we want not one but as many options as possible to fulfill different areas of our lives.  I blame social media, too many options are just a click away.  If you aren’t happy you easily turn your attention elsewhere and therein lies the problem. People have paired themselves up with married people who have hidden whole spouses and social media has been thriving on these stories.  If a person can lie to you about an entire family imagine what else they can lie to you about?

I think there’s a lot of lying in relationships because most people don’t know how to communicate and think that telling a lie will manage whatever expectations that would have presented themselves.  Everyone has accepted lies at some point in their life because of how the lie probably made them feel.  A great example is a man telling you he loves you and chose you because you bring him so much happiness meanwhile he is in a relationship with someone else.  Deep down you know he’s lying but those words just leave you feeling so good you can’t help yourself.

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We were on the show for a good 2 hours that flew by so fast and that confirmed just how much fun we were having.  Thoughts from the guests on the topic that caught my attention were:

Women love being lied to! Sox

Men lie out of love.  Kuda

Men lie, women lie but the one thing I know for a fact is that liars forget and can’t keep a straight story.  One way or the other the truth will come out so if you want to have a stress free life I’d suggest you keep your life as straight and narrow as you possibly can, at least for the most part.

What have your experiences with lies been?  What’s the biggest lie that you have ever told?  Do you think it’s okay or not to tell lies?

©MaKupsy 2018

 

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Day 19: Your Career Your Choice?

On the #30DayAfriBlogger Challenge today’s topic is “Why Did You Choose Your Career Path.  I’m a qualified Secretary and now that you know what I do let’s talk about the fun stuff!

What did YOU want to be when you were growing up?  I know with my generation everyone wanted to be a doctor, a nurse, a teacher, a soldier an accountant, a businessman or a pilot.  Those seemed to be the only options one had to choose from in order to be labelled successful.  I on the other hand was completely different.  I had other plans on my mind and none of those occupations tickled my fancy.  I had different dreams and who knows some might still come true in this lifetime.  I always felt that if I became or got to do some of the things on my list I would be happier; so here is my list of things I thought I would one day do once I was all grown up.

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  1. Study choreography.  I love to dance,(not professionally) think naughty suggestive shake your ass like a salt shaker type of moves.  I’ve always felt that if I had the opportunity to actually study dance I would have one job I would love and literally run to every day because I can never get enough of all the dance styles that keep being created every single day.  Seeing that the choreography dream isn’t coming true soon enough I have taken to never leaving the dance-floor when I go out to party.  You should see my moves, Beyonce ain’t got nothing on me!
  2. Music.  Sometime in my early 20’s I thought being a DJ wouldn’t be a bad idea considering the way I love my music.  I remember applying for some voice over positions and that never materialised.  A friend who happens to be a DJ needed some Voice Over’s done for his music mix and approached me some  years back.  I enjoyed the few seconds of fame and loved hearing the sound of my voice.  I figured it wasn’t too late to pursue that career but what else must one do after being a Voice Over Artist?  However, this is definitely a dream that can still come to life if I put my mind to it; I just have to make it a side gig because the way Zimbabwe is set up you can’t make it your end and all!
  3. Counsellor.  I would like to believe I am an attentive listener and once I put my mind to it I will encourage someone to talk about issues they feel they cannot normally share with other people.  I already have a qualification in HIV/ AIDS Care and Counselling so one day when the opportunity arises I will step up and use it.  Methinks studying couselling works to my advantage because people feel safe to share their problems with me.  In this case health and fitness problems and I’m always willing to help no matter what time of day.
  4. Globe Trotter.  I wanted to travel the world. I didn’t want to have a permanent address.  I wanted my life to be different and planned that each year I would stay in say Kenya for one year, then move to India the following year and off to Netherlands, anywhere but home was going to be absolutely perfect for me.  I wanted to learn about different cultures and traditions while I enjoyed being on a travel adventure.  Alas, that hasn’t happened yet, but on the upside I have travelled to some parts of the world and still plan on travelling beyond Africa.
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I have a fun personality and I want to do things that unleash my character.  My current job doesn’t allow that though, it was an occupation chosen on my behalf and each day I make steps towards pursuing what I want and find a way to escape from a job that steals my joy.  I know it’s not too late to give what I love the most my full attention.  I want to leave this earth knowing I did everything that brought joy to my life.

“Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do.” — Steve Jobs

©MaKupsy 2017

Day 7: Lose Yourself In My Top 10 Zimbabwean Songs

Music makes me happy.  It’s my go to place when I need something to evoke different emotions within me.  From getting myself in a good mood, going for my morning run, dancing with my daughter, unwinding after a long day at work…music is art!

I have always been a fan of music but it was mostly international music.  It was only in the early 2000’s that a genre titled “Urban Grooves” emerged that I started paying attention to our local music.  It was advocated that all local radio stations were to play 75% local content by local artists.  What I loved was that most of the artists sang in Shona, bonus!!!  Back then music was soulful, it was rich and high school boys would use that to their advantage and dedicate songs to their potential girlfriends on radio and automatically had almost every high school going child tuned in to listen in case you got a “dedication.” These are the times where song books and auto books were a big hit but that’s a story for another day.  They were still good times indeed!

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Photo Credit EXQ (@exq_papi) Instagram

Enter 2005 a new genre of music appeared on the scenes, ZimDancehall.  Can you believe that nearly 12 years later it’s still going strong and racking in listeners both young and old?  What I love about ZimDancehall is that the artists are telling their story as it is, there is no sugar coating there.  They sing their truth!  However, ZimDancehall is not everyone’s cup of tea and some people criticise it stating that it is shallow.  What some people don’t realise is that it is the day to day reality of a group of people whose existence we don’t like to acknowledge but form a large part of our culture (our real CULTURE not our traditional).  The fact that we keep shunning issues that are on the ground is probably part of the reason why some people are failing to be themselves.

Please be friends with YouTube to get to watch the videos or listen to the audios.  Below is a list of my top 10 favourite tracks in no particular order; straight out of the heart of Zimbabwe, please note that the genres vary.

  1. Nhema: ExQ and Killer T
  2. Ndipe Rudo: Sani Makhalima
  3. Penge Penge: Tytan
  4. Million Reasons: Prayersoul
  5. 25: Winky D
  6. Pain Killer: Stunner
  7. Alleluya: Roki and ExQ
  8. Ndiyende: Celscius
  9. Wakandipedzera Nguva Yangu: Selmor Mtukudzi
  10. Dai Zvaibvira: Killer T

I asked an artist and friend, Prayersoul his thoughts on the music industry in Zimbabwe;

There is no fixed structure in Zimbabwe for people to know what’s hot and what’s not.  For example, the reason we all know about Cassper Nyovest is because of Channel O, Trace Africa, MTV Base and all the other music channels available on DSTV.  They have a strong media presence and this gives consumers access to them.  If Cassper Nyovest does a video it will go to different fans from Africa, South Africa alone has nearly 55 million people!  He has demand and can send out emails to African promoters to let them know he will be in their country if they want to book a show.  Zimbabwe musicians are not getting this type of exposure.  If there was one channel that we all watched in Zimbabwe and it wasn’t Dstv; think a Zimbabwe “Dstv”.  Then everyone in the industry wanting to grow and get popular would try and get on it and viewers will get to know who is who and increase their chances of bookings.

What is your favourite music genre in your country?  Have there been any collaborations that have gone international?  What do you like or dislike about the music from your country?

©MaKupsy 2017

#GoldenPilsenerGo4Gold

#GoldenPilsenerGo4Gold

I interrupt this series to let you know that Fitness Bae will be part of a team that has partnered up with Golden Pilsener to make your drinking experience all the more fun.  As you already know it’s no secret that I am a fitness junkie who still loves to unwind with a good drink every now and again.  There are going to be different competitions going on so you definitely want to be a part of this.

There are 8 amazing hosts that will lead you in the #GoldenPilsenerGo4Gold challenge:

  1. Takura
  2. Danny That Guy
  3. Fitness Bae
  4. The Black Chef
  5. Make Up By Gamu
  6. Sharmaine DJliz Waldmen
  7. Craig Zoowie
  8. KB Mpofu

There will be an exciting activity each week and in order to stay updated you have to follow the Golden Pilsener social media pages on Facebook (Golden Pilsener Zimbabwe) or Twitter (@GoldenPilsenerZW)

The challenge has started!  Make sure you use the hash tag #GoldenPilsenerGo4Gold each time you participate.

It’s going to be a blast, better get your gold! Keep it golden.

Fitness Bae®