Being in a relationship can be one enriching experience if done right. However, not everyone is cut out for it and things can get messy.
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They Don’t Apologise
There’s no way you can always be right, this is a fact. However, when you do something wrong or if your partner highlights something that you did that affects them in a negative way it’s only right to apologise. Not the “I’m sorry” and end it at that apology. A real genuinely heart felt apology will do the trick. Here’s a beautiful example;
“I’m sorry I didn’t show up on time my love, I got carried away and completely forgot about our appointment. Please forgive me for keeping you waiting. How can I make it up to you.”
Yes, there are people who apologise like that in this lifetime. You will meet them some day.
They Don’t Know How To Communicate
Do I have enough stories to last a lifetime for this one! I used to be that person. I would sulk, plunge myself into a mood swings for an entire day or simply say nothing was wrong when my partner asked what was wrong. DO NOT BE THIS PERSON. If something is wrong speak up! I think part of the problem for some women is that we’ve been socialised to say everything is okay even when it isn’t so we just grin and bear it. Find ways that will help you communicate your thoughts and feelings in a healthy and progressive way. No relationship is perfect, problems will come but how you deal with them is what will make or break you.
They Don’t Allow You To Spend Time With Your Friends
No man is an island. If people could remember this the relationship world would be a better place. Your partner needs time away from you to spend it with other people that light up their life. Just think of the number of stories you will talk about or the places you can try out when you eventually have time together. Wouldn’t that be special?
Where relationships are concerned I have just one piece of unsolicited advise; Be with people who value your time and your presence, headaches caused by selfish people are not to be tolerated in 2019 going forward. Love thy self!
Have you been through any of these situations when you were dating? How did you handle it?