After asking a few people they told me they have never been single in their life, like ever. They have jumped from one relationship to the next and never had the chance to just be on their own. I know one friend who told me she would never cope being single because she is so used to having a man on her arm showering her with love and attention. The reasons she told me about always being in a relationship will obviously be a topic for a different day because that will just spoil the mood I am trying to set in this post. So what is being single? Google will have you know that they define single as not married or not having a serious romantic relationship with someone.
I’m a mother and dating can be one heck of a tricky scenario because it’s no longer about what I want anymore. I make decisions on who I will date depending on whether they will be good for my daughter or not. I’m still working on that formula but trust me my intuition is never wrong when it comes to deciding on who to and who not to introduce to her. Whoever I choose to be with has to be someone I can count on and be supportive especially emotionally supportive when I’m going through the most. A bonus is someone who can develop a relationship with my daughter naturally. When I feel confident that this is someone who will be around for a long time then I can gladly introduce them to her. That said…
I initially wanted to look at both the good and the bad things about being single. But I decided not to because I am in a happy place and want to keep everything around me filled with positivism. That said let me jump right into the joys of singledom and then later on add a few people’s views on their single status.
So; about that single life. You do not have to answer to no one and that means you can do as you please, no questions asked. (doing who you please is also very much an option) You have this thing called “me time” that comes in abundance. For someone who likes her space like me it’s the best thing about being single. The other thing that just brings a huge smile on my face is that when you are single you are not busy worrying about what your partner is up to, with who, why, where and how. That can be really taxing on your emotions given the rate at which most people don’t seem to be taking their relationships seriously these days and cheating has become a way of life for some. You can sleep on your own in your own bed in any way you like, you can sleep like a starfish, upside down, back to front, inside out (does that even exist?) Whatever the case you have all that sleeping space to yourself and no snoring or farting partner to deal with!
The trip to New Start Centre is a breeze when you are single and have not been sexually active. You can go there with your head up knowing you have been good to yourself and your body. Have you been to New Start Centre when you have been busy sexing your boyfriend without protection and then found out he has been cheating?? That’s round about the time you wish you had stayed single and celibate and wish you could just cut out your vagina and throw it straight into the sea because it is clearly giving you unnecessary stress!
Anywho, let’s see, what else is great about being single…oh yes, you get to treat yourself right and that can also be a yardstick for the way you would want your partner to treat you when you get into a relationship. You learn the art of dating yourself. You can try out going for dinner, a movie, coffee, stand up comedy, anything that tickles your fancy because there is no way you should miss out on the fun side of life just because you do not have anyone to share it with.
Some of my single blog readers had a few tips to share on what they love about being single, here goes:
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(I’m sure you can tell this blog reader is a guy!)
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So to everyone who says being single sucks, I guess you have been looking at it the wrong way. If you are single there is hope for you to enjoy the season if you stop whining and take a step back to look at all the good things that come from flying solo…
You can also check out some dating blog posts from the following:
Dating While Parenting by The Quarter Wife
Let’s talk about your dating journey, are you single or ready to mingle?