Social media has taken relationships to a whole new level. Now you get to publicly share your private and intimate moments that you indulge in with your significant other. It’s interesting to watch couples in love, swooning all over each other and posting selfies with on social media with cute captions. However, I have mixed feelings when it comes to publicising who you are dating on social media platforms for the following reasons:
- When you are in love you want the whole world to know and it’s only normal to want your social media friends to share your happiness.
- When you post your significant other people will know they are taken and *hopefully* stay away.
- Posting your significant other is also a sign of confidence in who you are dating.
- If you need to conceal your significant other from the world then what the heck are the two of you doing together? Please note there is a difference between being private and being a big secret.
- Most people on social media have a sense of entitlement. They feel that just because you share pictures with your significant other they now have the right to know intimate details of your relationship; people prying and needing to know why a couple broke up. I have been guilty of this myself at some point in my life. It’s not a good trait, we should learn to mind our own business…then again, people make it our business!
- You can’t help but feel like you have to live up to social media expectations because people now expect to see demonstrations and expressions of your love on special occasions. Take a birthday for instance, people want to see what you get on your special day and if your significant other is really #BaeGoals or not (feel free to Google that hash tag). Talk about pressure!
- Some people are attracted to someone who is already taken…need I say more?
- Imagine posting your significant other every single day on social media and then one day you break up and you have close to 100 pictures of them all over your online space. The stress of deleting each picture one by one is something I shudder to imagine.
- You can’t express your opinions about relationships in peace without people thinking you are talking about your significant other. You can’t even join the #MenAreTrash movement because we will quickly assume your man is trash too! L.O.L
Ever noticed how people with money don’t make noise about it? Take Strive Masiyiwa for example, the man is a whole millionaire but you don’t hear ad nauseum about his success or how he spends his millions. I think it the same applies to couples who are genuinely in love. They keep it classy, you know they are dating, they share pictures yes but they keep it to a minimum and you actually look forward to their social media posts.
Then there is this one guy whose name I shall not care to mention but brags about his financial status on social media platforms like, come on! I mean dude, you have money, we get it but why do you feel the need to tell us ALL about your life in a bag of chips? Gosh, is he annoying or what?! These are my sentiments about couples who over-share on social media. Why do you find it necessary to bombard people with posts about your significant other every other hour telling us how great your relationship is going? Sometimes I can’t help but feel that people like that feel inadequate and are seeking validation, then again that’s just me.
Showcasing your love on social media is just like having a wedding. Some will be happy for you, others will not be amused and the rest might wish you misfortune. BUT that doesn’t mean people should stop getting married because people will receive the news differently. Love should be celebrated whenever it can be! – Batanai Tuwe
What are your thoughts on the subject? Do you share pictures of your significant other on social media platforms? If yes, how is that going for you so far? If not, what’s the reason behind it?