It Ain’t Where I’ve Been But Where I’m About To Go

I’m a mother.  The father of my child and I separated a few years ago.  I was bitter, heartbroken and mad at the world for the longest time.  I felt like the world owed me something for all the pain I was going through.  It took me a whole 5 years to finally get out of that zone.

One morning I woke up and asked myself, what would happen if something were to happen to the father of my child and I had to look after her on my own?  Would I remain bitter or would I have to gather myself up and show up for my one and only daughter?  I chose the latter.  I stopped sending him never ending text messages wishing him ill, I stopped crying myself to sleep every other night, I stopped complaining about how I hated my job, I stopped speaking negative things into my life and chose to start working on myself one day at a time.  I realised it was time to get my shit in order and the moment I made that decision and started taking action; my life has been full.

This video stirred so many emotions within me.  It brought back flash backs of some of the things I’ve gone through in the past but still came out stronger and wiser.  It will take 17 minutes of your time to watch this but every single minute will be worth it, I promise.

These are some of the lessons I learnt from the video:

  • Success leaves clues, we’re just not picking them up.
  • Go through every toxic behaviour in your life and start unlearning bad habits.
  • My job is to like myself everyday.
  • You can’t take everyone with you on your transformation journey.
  • It takes more than one thing to change your life, it takes EVERYTHING.

I would like to know what lessons you learnt from watching this video?  Please share this post with as many people as you can, it will change a life.

©MaKupsy 2018

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Stay In Your Lane

When you finally find yourself you will stop trying to pace yourself against the world.  You will sit down and figure out it is you are really about.  It’s only now, in my 30’s that I’m learning what really makes me me.  I still find it strange that it probably means this whole time I was just existing and not living.  Or better yet, I was living up to society’s standards and having those standards take a toll on me mentally and physically.  It takes a great deal of self introspection to get to this happy place but trust me when it happens your life will never be the same again.

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We have already established that I love all things bright and beautiful but they come at a price called sacrifice!  In the past I’ve limited my needs and desires because I felt that some things were financially out of my reach or the prices were too prohibitive.  It took a lot of reading and talking to other people who have some of the things I want to realise that in order to achieve your goals you need to evaluate your personal circumstances and then prioritise your needs.   If you try and do too many things at once you will lose focus and end up not having achieved anything at all.

I’ve lived in an apartment in town all my adult life and the convenience of walking to work and having my own space has been the best feeling ever!  However, I have a new goal and it comes at a very high price and it meant me having to relocate from town in order to save money.  Change is not easy, it’s very uncomfortable but I keep reminding myself that in a few months time I would have accomplished what I set out to achieve.  The beauty of it all is that this is something that I want, not something my friends or family want but a personal goal and so attaining it won’t feel like a mammoth task…What are you willing to sacrifice for the things you want or need? 

“If you continuously compete with others you become bitter, but if you continuously compete with yourself you become better.”

There’s nothing wrong with comparing yourself with your peers.  Sometimes I go through and like a dozen photographs of my successful family and friends on Instagram doing amazing things in different areas of their lives.  I would be lying if I said sometimes I don’t feel a little bit envious because let’s face it some people are doing way better than me.  However, a little bit of envy never hurt anyone, used positively it can help you set your personal bar higher and aim to achieve greater things.  Be mindful though, you don’t want to end up feeling jealous, bitter or malicious; remind yourself that we can’t possibly all have the same things.

Whatever you do, don’t stop being grateful for what you currently have.  Accept your situation and work on improving it.  There is so much more joy in celebrating what’s already there than wallowing in misery for what you don’t have(yet).

These are some of my favourite quotes that help me to remain sane and focused:

  • Your attitude determines your direction.
  • Difficult roads often lead to beautiful destinations.
  • I’m too busy working on my own grass to see if yours is greener.
  • Everything comes to you in the right moment, be patient, be grateful.
  • Beach more, worry less 🙂

What are some of the sacrifices you have had to make in order to reach your personal goals?  What lesson did you learn from the experience?

©MaKupsy 2017

 

 

There Is Life After December

Hello December, I can’t believe you’re back again.  It feels like just a few months ago I was outside in the rain screaming “Happy New Year!”.  Rain is symbolic of new beginnings and trust me getting soaked in the rains on New Year’s Eve was definitely a good thing for me because it certainly washed away a lot of negativity from my life.  A lot of new things happened this year; I will bombard you with details when the year ends so worry not!  This year my energy was focused on becoming a better person each day and it worked a lot of magic in my life.  What sort of person would I be if I didn’t share some of the sparkle that came with the year 2017 if I keep it to myself?  Read on and find out why December is an extra special month.

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I know we are all in party mode and living out best lives but today I’m going to be a party pooper and here to remind you that there is life after December.  It’s all fun and games when we are having an entire bottle of wine with our supper everyday until the rent is due and we are the definition of broke.  Here are a few tips on how you can have a great time and still keep your head afloat come January.  It won’t be easy but it will be worth your while, you don’t want to find yourself suffering from “January Disease.”

  • The moment you get paid make sure you pay all your expenses that is rent, lighting, transport, whatever the expenses might be pay them up before you start blowing your pay cheque.
  • If you are a parent pay up your child(ren)’s fees for the following term, don’t even think twice about this.
  • Set aside a few dollars in case of any form of emergency.
  • You can read more tips on how to be financially fit from here.

I don’t even know why I’m reminding you about this in December because I trust this is something you already do throughout the year.  Then again like I mentioned earlier on, December is party season so you know chances of you losing the plot are highly likely.

I’m currently the image you will see standing right next to broke if you look it up in the dictionary but it’s all for a good cause because I know when my December pay cheque comes through I’m going to blow it and enjoy every moment of it because I have covered all the important things and I’m sleeping peacefully at night.

Whatever you do make saving a big part of your life. You don’t have to save huge amounts but a little goes a long way.  If you can be responsible with small amounts imagine how you will flourish with big amounts?

What are your December tips on spending?  Do you go all out and enjoy and then worry about money after it’s gone or you have a plan in action?  Please share, I would love to hear from you.

Make it a December to remember! 

©MaKupsy 2017

10 Quotes That Make Me Happy

Happiness really is a state of mind.  I know this first hand.  Most days I’m a bubble of positive energy and some days well, some days life takes over and I drown in negative energy.  Last week was hard for me, I was facing so many emotional battles that I was convinced I was never going to get out of it.  Thankfully it only lasted a while and I’m back to my happy self.  Below are some of my favourite quotes.

  1. Be fearless in pursuit of what sets your soul on fire.
  2. Some days you just have to bring your own sunshine.
  3. If you are tired learn to rest not quit!
  4. Today will be F.A.B.U.L.O.U.S.
  5. One of the simplest ways to stay happy is to let go of the things that make you sad.
  6. Stress is caused by giving a fu*k
  7. Chin up Queen, or the crown slips.
  8. Being happy never goes out of style.
  9. The happiness of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts.
  10. Today be the badas* girl you were too lazy to be yesterday!

I love Pinterest, it’s one of my many reliable sources when it comes to getting back on the happy wagon.  You can follow me and check out my board, Positive Energy.

What keeps you going when you are facing trying times?

 

©MaKupsy 2017

15 Priceless Gems I Learnt From The #30DayAfriblogger Challenge

I blogged my heart out in September, a whole 30 days of creating posts was worth every minute of my time…

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  1. What stands between you and what you want is the story you tell yourself about why you can’t have it. I told myself I was going to blog the heck out of this September Challenge and I did exactly that!
  2. Collaboration is key. There were days when the challenge topics were tough and I had no idea how to tackle them. Thankfully we had the option to invite guest bloggers to write for us on a not so creative day.  I’m grateful for Chantelle, Vimbai and Josh for coming to the rescue.  Through their work my eyes were opened to issues that I had been ignorant about.
  3. Having a Content Calendar makes life easier. When the challenge started I looked through the topics and I was convinced it was going to be one crazy month because it looked like a lot of work.  Turns out it saved me a lot of time because I worked on difficult topics beforehand and sailed through the easy ones.
  4. I’ve spotted my weaknesses and strengths. Before this challenge I was an impromptu blogger.  Thanks to having to do research beforehand I have become more organised and I can create blog posts days in advance.  My number one strength now is that I know I can actually blog everyday if I put my mind to it.
  5. I got out of my comfort zone and learnt about new topics e.g feminism. I always see the topic getting people in heated arguments on social media platforms but now that I am more knowledgeable on the topic believe me I will be jumping in with my views.
  6. Use of different tools and elements to evoke emotion. Pinterest was good to me, word play even better!  These tools helped with keeping my readers engaged throughout the month and I’m happy to note that most readers could relate to different topics.
  7. Blog titles.  The catchier the better.  One of my personal favourites this month was When In Doubt, Eat Sadza.  This post caught the attention of my readers; most readers are currently out of the country so seeing sadza left them feeling nostalgic.
  8. Scheduling posts was the best thing that ever happened to me in September! It gave me time to read other blogs and not work on blogging only.
  9. Excuses don’t bring blog posts! I wrote through both good and bad days.  That’s the problem when you initiate something; you can’t afford to let yourself down so it ends up being both a blessing and a curse.  I seriously think that Sweet Lips should give me a case of wine because I went through a lot of wine this month to keep myself from drowing.
  10. Trust is built with consistency.  My objective as a Blogger is to get people engaged on my blog and the only way to do so is through consistent work.
  11. You may be a blogger but you are also a writer. Once you are something you have the responsibility of being  the best version of that!  What better way to challenge your skills through a 30 Day Blogging Challenge?
  12. September has been the best month of the year statistically with 5,379 views, 3,598 visitors, 524 likes, 137 comments and 31 blog posts!  If you want to get this blogging thing on lock then becoming a reliable source for content makes your blog more useful and therefore popular.
  13. Team work is the sh*t! We had a WhatsApp group running throughout the challenge and we discussed difficult topics in advance and it helped to give you an idea of which direction to choose for your posts.
  14. Bearded men aren’t so bad after all, wait, bearded men are the business! Apparently a man with a beard comes with much wisdom, awesomeness and note there’s D on the end of the word beard!   My friend (who happens to have a beard) would check on some of my posts and read some of my drafts and let me know they were lacking my character.  Make sure you have a person like that to cross check your work before sending it out into the world.
  15. I was going to stop blogging by the end of this year because I thought I was completely out of ideas on what to write about but this challenge just took my creative juices to the next level! I now know how I’m going to proceed blogging wise sit tight, it’s going to be an explosive journey from here on.

*Bonus Lesson: It’s good to invest in learning some technical skills!*

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That said, let’s celebrate good times!!  Congratulations to every blogger who participated in this challenge. It was one energy filled month, we outdid ourselves African Bloggers!!!  This is the end of the #30DayAfriBlogger Challenge and I’m happy to have been a part of something so profound.  The first time I did a write everyday challenge was last year in September and you can read the posts from here.

I would love to hear from you, when was the last time you took up a writing challenge?  How did that go for you?  Did you face any challenges along the way and how did you handle them?

I’m going to be away for a while, taking a “break” from blogging but I will still be here reading through all your amazing posts.  Have a lovely weekend ahead and stay beautiful both inside and out.

©MaKupsy 2017

 

 

I Found My Purpose

I never really wanted a lot of things badly enough.  I could like something alright but really want and need it was a different story.  I went through the greater part of my life having a luke warm attitude towards a lot of things until one fateful day.  The day I went for my regular medical examinations and hopped on the scale to reveal how I had gone from being fat to obese was a life changing moment.  It was at that very moment that I decided I was going to do everything in my power to do something about the excess weight I was carrying around.  I was 85kgs and NOT pregnant.  Why is this important to note?  Well, when I was full term and a few days before giving birth to my baby girl I was 85kgs so you can imagine the horror!  It was time to get up and do something!

I was 85kgs and NOT pregnant.

With no money to subscribe for gym membership I was left to my own devices.  I decided running would be my best bet since it was free and all I needed was myself.  The first days were hard and I power walked through most of the distances I had set out for myself.  After weeks  of pushing myself I eventually ran for longer without stopping and I got all the motivation to keep going…I haven’t stopped running since.

I did not have much information to work with when it came to my eating habits so I simply worked with what other people were trying out.  I remember waking up in the middle of the night and sending a message to my friend telling her how hunger was stopping me from sleeping.  I had adopted a diet where I ate a very heavy breakfast, sometimes it even had sadza, a heavy-ish lunch and close to nothing but a glass of water and fruit for supper.  The scale was not moving, I was unhappy, I was hungry.  It was only after reading an article on the internet that I realised that I was doing myself more harm than good and started learning the art of preparing healthy balanced meals.  That was one of the best things that ever happened to me!

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I am going to be the first NikeWoman from Zimbabwe 🙂

Running got much more fun.  I had set out distances to try out and each time I managed to run through them.  My goal was to run 10K and if I could do that I would have officially accomplished the biggest goal in my life.  It did happen and it was just as I had pictured it.  From thereon I started challenging myself to run not just longer but faster and the hobby slowly became an addiction.  When I started I showcased my fitness journey on social media.  I knew I would have no choice but to show up come rain(in every sense of the word) or shine because my followers would be expecting to see my progress.

I switched things up and added Zumba, Yoga, NRC Workouts, Aerobics, Swimming and Tennis.  I realised that running alone was going to get boring at some point so the more activities I included the better variety to choose from.  I was bubbly, stronger, happier, fit and lean.  I did all this from the comfort of my home and never had to part with a single dime to reach my desired goal.  I have bumped into friends from College who can’t believe I haven’t changed at all because I am physically the same person.  If only they knew how much change that has taken place mentally as well.  I am a completely different person now.

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With family and social media followers starting to compliment on my progress I felt the need to to work harder.  When I realised the impact my journey had on people around me I created a WhatsApp group which has turned into a movement termed #RunWithFitnessBae.  At the beginning of the year it was trending because of a Fitness Challenge I had planned and organised.  The movement has participants from different parts of the world but mostly Africa.  I have taken the movement from WhatsApp to Facebook, Blogging and Instagram.  As it stands I am currently the only Zimbabwean Fitness Blogger and I create fresh content each week!

It brings me so much joy to know that even though my fitness journey was mainly pushed by a case of depression; the fruits that have come from it have actually created a passion and purpose that I could have never imagined.  I have managed to inspire people across the globe; especially mothers, to exercise and get back to their pre-pregnancy bodies.  Those who have come into contact with me have become better not only physically but emotionally as well.

I am a woman on a mission to make the most of every opportunity life throws at me.  I believe everyone can exercise for the body that they want and if you can not afford the gym there is no excuse not to get fit.  I am a living example of what park runs can do for you.  I am currently 74kgs and I have never had to part with a single dollar to lose weight.  I have been through it all, the fad diets, the hoping for miracle weight loss, the drinking fruit juice all day but at the end of the day what I have learnt is that you have to eat right, exercise and be patient.  The results will come, just make small changes everyday and you will be amazed at what your body can do.

If you would like to talk to someone about weight loss or weight management then I am the person for you.  If you would like to be a part of the current Winter Challenge feel free to join us, all the more competition for the team.

Never give up on what you truly want, it’s not everyday that people get to find out what it is that fires their soul!

I found my purpose.  The one thing that makes me get up in the morning and look forward to starting the day.  The one thing I dream of, the one thing I get excited talking about, the one thing that keeps me up at night writing up ideas and chewing up my data while I do research on the internet.  The one thing that I can’t live without.  I think, eat, dream, live fitness.  I am Fitness Bae.

I have a series coming up on Tuesday 18 July, be sure to log onto my Fitness Blog and subscribe.

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©MaKupsy 2017

 

10 Quotes That Keep Me Motivated

Running is NOT easy and continuing to run every other day is not a walk in the park.  I have been running for nearly 3 years now and I have days where I just want to hide under the covers and enjoy the comfort of my bed instead.  BUT if you have plans to look great in that little black dress or show off your abs in the next picture you take like I do then you have to find ways to stay inspired.

These are some of my favourite quotes gathered from my good friend Google.

  1. Your fitness is 100% mental.  Your body won’t go where your mind doesn’t push it.
  2. Quit slacking and make sh*t happen.
  3. Sweat, smile repeat.
  4. Be stronger than your excuses.
  5. Don’t half ass anything.  Whatever you do, use your full ass!
  6. Train insane or remain the same.
  7. You’re only one workout away from a good mood.
  8. You aren’t going to get the butt you want by sitting on the one you have.
  9. Someone who is busier than you is running right now.
  10. I run to burn off the crazy 🙂

What are some of your favourite motivational quotes?

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The Single Independent Mother

I have some saving tips from a single mother who is in her 40’s.  I think everyone will benefit from this post and I took this pretty seriously because she clearly has more years experience on raising a child single-handedly.  Take out your pen and paper…

  1. Cut your hair, imagine the amount of money you are spending on hairdos that you could be saving for better use for you and your child.
  2. Live within your means.
  3. Do not compare yourself with people who are married, they have a double income you only have one, stay in your lane.
  4. Save some money each month, it doesn’t matter how little, trust me it will go a long way.
  5. Do not buy on credit, especially clothes, save to pay everything with cash.
  6. Take a lunchbox to work with healthy home made meals or sandwiches.
  7. Make friends with women in a similar situation who understand your struggles better.
  8. Do what works for you, do not try to please anyone.
  9. Set targets for yourself and make sure you reach them, it might take time but eventually you will get there.
  10. Learn how to sew, simple things like replacing a button and hemming your pants will go a long way for your pocket.

If you live by most of these rules you might actually get round to going for that holiday you have been dying for!

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Photo Credit : @summer_rose_ (Instagram)

©MaKupsy 2017

Woman Crush Wednesday

Today is Wednesday and I am seriously crushing on Pokello Nare.

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Pokello Nare

The urban dictionary defines a crush as a painful experience, very common among middle schoolers (and high schooler’s and even adults to a lesser degree) that involves being obsessed with a member of the opposite sex (or the same sex, if u prefer), being attracted to them physically (most common), or emotionally- also called ‘puppy love’ also: the object of this affection.

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Pokello Nare

After reading that I can safely say my crush falls in the obsession department. Hear me out, I have reasons and this is why she is my woman crush:

  • She is confident
  • She is a go getter
  • She is a business woman, she even now has her own shoe line! pokello.com
  • She is a mother
  • She loves her sons to bits
  • She has a smoking hot body!
  • She dresses really well, no wonder she calls herself the Queen of Swagger  she takes the crown any day
  • She has lovely taste in clothes and shoes
  • She has lovely skin (when I grow up I want to have skin just as flawless)
  • She has a pretty smile
  • She wears to die for designer shoes you just want to stare at her Instagram pictures all day long
  • She has taken wearing your own hair to the next level, she rocks her short hair ever so nicely
  • She has one heck of a nice car, last time I heard it was a Range Rover Sport but i’m sure she has more now
  • Did I mention that she has a smoking hot body? Well, I’m going to say it again!

Over and above I think she is truly an inspiration, love her or hate her she is making her mark and I’m sure a lot of women are taking notes.  Keep doing what you’re doing Pokello Nare you are a constant reminder that “The best revenge is massive success.”

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Pokello Nare

PS. I only uploaded three of her photos so that I don’t look like a serial stalker!

MaKupsy

Clean Out Your Closet

A positive start to 2015.

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While there is less than 48 hours left of 2014, there are some things we need to get rid of.

Go on and open up that closet of yours right now.

You know the closet where you have stored the anger, hurt, resentment, malice, procrastination and failed relationships in.

It is about that time to get rid of it all. Not because a new year is on the horizon but because you’re stunting your own personal growth.

It is dead weight that we have allowed to break down our communication with others, keep us jaded, leave our hearts broken and emotionally drained.

It is gonna take some work and it might not be what we want to deal with but we will thank ourselves for releasing what no longer belongs in our life.

Think about weight loss. When we have dropped those extra pounds after putting in those tireless weeks…

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