When you finally find yourself you will stop trying to pace yourself against the world. You will sit down and figure out it is you are really about. It’s only now, in my 30’s that I’m learning what really makes me me. I still find it strange that it probably means this whole time I was just existing and not living. Or better yet, I was living up to society’s standards and having those standards take a toll on me mentally and physically. It takes a great deal of self introspection to get to this happy place but trust me when it happens your life will never be the same again.
We have already established that I love all things bright and beautiful but they come at a price called sacrifice! In the past I’ve limited my needs and desires because I felt that some things were financially out of my reach or the prices were too prohibitive. It took a lot of reading and talking to other people who have some of the things I want to realise that in order to achieve your goals you need to evaluate your personal circumstances and then prioritise your needs. If you try and do too many things at once you will lose focus and end up not having achieved anything at all.
I’ve lived in an apartment in town all my adult life and the convenience of walking to work and having my own space has been the best feeling ever! However, I have a new goal and it comes at a very high price and it meant me having to relocate from town in order to save money. Change is not easy, it’s very uncomfortable but I keep reminding myself that in a few months time I would have accomplished what I set out to achieve. The beauty of it all is that this is something that I want, not something my friends or family want but a personal goal and so attaining it won’t feel like a mammoth task…What are you willing to sacrifice for the things you want or need?
“If you continuously compete with others you become bitter, but if you continuously compete with yourself you become better.”
There’s nothing wrong with comparing yourself with your peers. Sometimes I go through and like a dozen photographs of my successful family and friends on Instagram doing amazing things in different areas of their lives. I would be lying if I said sometimes I don’t feel a little bit envious because let’s face it some people are doing way better than me. However, a little bit of envy never hurt anyone, used positively it can help you set your personal bar higher and aim to achieve greater things. Be mindful though, you don’t want to end up feeling jealous, bitter or malicious; remind yourself that we can’t possibly all have the same things.
Whatever you do, don’t stop being grateful for what you currently have. Accept your situation and work on improving it. There is so much more joy in celebrating what’s already there than wallowing in misery for what you don’t have(yet).
These are some of my favourite quotes that help me to remain sane and focused:
- Your attitude determines your direction.
- Difficult roads often lead to beautiful destinations.
- I’m too busy working on my own grass to see if yours is greener.
- Everything comes to you in the right moment, be patient, be grateful.
- Beach more, worry less 🙂
What are some of the sacrifices you have had to make in order to reach your personal goals? What lesson did you learn from the experience?