Meal Prep For Beginners

I’m still a beginner at meal preparation.  A friend of mine is a professional at this and he has been trying to convince me to start incorporating meal prep into my life and it has taken forever and a day to get me to do it.  Thankfully I’ve started trying it out on the days the need strikes and I can confirm that there are benefits to it after all!

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Time works for and against you in my opinion.  You will need to actually set aside time to go shopping, get your ingredients together, prepare and store the meals.  You will also need time to clean up after yourself once you are done and writing all this has me tired already!  But fear not!  There are benefits that come with it after all; doing all this means you have more free time during the week as you will only need to reheat meals that are already prepared, serve and enjoy.  I choose to do my meal prep on random Sundays.  A good playlist, glass of wine, comfortable pair of shoes and I’m ready to get my cook on!

2. Money

Eating out is expensive especially in Harare.  A decent meal will cost you about $15 and we’re talking a juicy burger, chips and a drink.  Now just think of how much money you will save if you choose to prepare your very own home cooked meals. Let’s do the Maths shall we?

2kgs Chicken Pieces: $8, Potatoes, $1, Mazoe Orange Crush 2litres, $4, Mixed Greens $1.50

All these ingredients will cost you $14.50 and before you even start thinking you may as well eat out then.  The plus side of buying the ingredients I mentioned is that chicken and juice will probably last you a whole month especially if you stay on your own.(Saving 101).  You will also prepare the meal just the way you like it, why settle for an okay meal when you can make a fire meal?

3. Control

You know exactly what’s going into your meal from salt, oil, sugar or whatever additive you choose to use.  Chances of overeating are also at a minimum because if you are anything like me there’s something about cooking for myself that makes me lose my appetite, two spoonfuls in and I’m already full.

4. Goodbye Indecision

I’m guilty of never knowing what I want to eat.  Thanks to meal prepping most days of the week I’m set and it leaves out chances of me eating unhealthy food options.  *bonus tip* if you don’t want to end up eating junk food simply don’t keep junk food in your house it will change your entire life, trust me!

5. No Wasting Food

Meal prep comes with leftovers.  Just this past weekend I prepared sugar beans and today instead of cracking my head over what to have for breakfast I just grilled a sausage and had it with the remaining sugar beans and it tasted heavenly.  Who needs bread when you have sausage and beans?

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My two favourite easy to make meals or snacks are crunchy salads and and infused water.  I mainly like infused water because of the delicious looking colours more than anything if I’m honest and it makes drinking water a lot more exciting.

If you fail to plan your meals, you plan to fail at eating right. – Fitness Bae 2018

On that note you should also check out how you can plan your health and fitness journey from here.

What are your favourite easy to make meals that you make for your meal preps?

Fitness Bae®



Day 5: Ready For Retirement(Financially)? Me Neither!

I have been thinking of ways to start saving money towards my retirement for nearly 5 years now with absolutely no luck.  Each time I try and save a dollar or two something comes up and I have to use that money.  Saving is hard especially in our current economy where most people, me included are living from hand to mouth.  If I am to be very honest with myself with the way things are looking right now chances of having my parents let alone myself in my retirement plans are bleak!  Let’s talk about the past, the present and the future of retirement and see where your thoughts fall in.

Many decades ago most parents in Africa where having children by the dozens.  If you ask most people they will tell you their parents had 12 or more siblings.  Back then most parents believed that the more children they had the better chances of having someone take care of them when they grew old.  It seems life was more affordable in those times and everyone managed to go to school and get an education, land a job and start their own life.  Some did take care of their parents, others chose to drop out of school and do odd jobs while others stayed at home and never really did make anything of themselves.  I suppose having a bunch of children was the hope that at least one of them would do well and never forget his or her parents back home and therefore that child became their retirement plan.  I wonder what the plan was if none of their children came through…

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In present time most Africans are not educated on making plans for retirement.  Most people don’t believe in forecasting and live each day as it comes.  A great example is how most Zimbabweans rarely buy advanced tickets because “We don’t know what might come up (insert what if I die or something happens to me) and end up not going”.   I was saying…the plan most people know is to go to school, get a job, rent in a nice apartment, buy a car, work, work, work then die.  Not many people will tell you about saving for a holiday, saving to buy a house, saving to pay lobola, saving for a rainy day, saving to surprise their parents or siblings with something nice, saving for their child’s college or even saving to spoil themselves at some point…the list is endless.  I know that part of the reason this doesn’t happen is because people genuinely don’t have the means to do so.  I will be honest, I only manage to save for a rainy day and for my daughters education and it leaves me feeling like I am failing at life.  It’s tough; you have to make A LOT of sacrifices.  I want to do so much for myself and my parents but each day it seems a lot of things are out of reach.  I believe if you work hard and apply yourself things will work out and that is why I am working hard towards growing my Fitness Brand so that years from today I will have enough money to take care of all my needs.  I do not want to be a burden to my daughter but have my life sorted out till the day I die.  I want to be that cool grandmother who spoils her grandchildren rotten, lives in a beautiful comfortable home in Nyanga, drives a pretty vintage car and when she’s around everyone knows a lot of great stories will be told about the adventure filled life she lived.


I strongly believe that we should teach our children the importance of planning and dreaming big.  The earlier you start letting them in on it the better.  Teach your child to let their imagination run wild.  Let them think of ideas of how they can make extra income from the pocket money you already give them.  They can come up with selling muffins, lemonade, selling woolen hats or gloves that they would have knitted themselves.   Whatever skill they come up with that will give them extra income should be a starting point for you to then teach them that money should be saved for the future and relying on one form of income will surely send you to an early grave unless you land a very well paying job.  However, life is to be lived!  Live a little, save, enjoy the finer things in life and then get back to business.  I am one parent who will drill this into my daughter’s head because I know she will hopefully grow up and know that she has to make plans for her future if she wants it to be comfortable.

After all is said and done.  As it stands, asking me today, right here and right now, I can safely say that my parents are not in my retirement plan.  Luckily for them they planned their life to a tee and are enjoying staying at home and not having to work or ask anyone for money.  I have a long way to go because I still need to buy myself a car, a house, travel, take my daughter through school, make some investments, establish my fitness business…I want to get to retirement age knowing that I have income from my savings, pension, investments, from the houses I will buy and I do not want donations from my daughter to be one of those streams of income.  She will have a life too and will have her own plans.  As and when I can I will spoil my parents and that ladies and gentleman is my truth.

Here are some tips you can try out to get financially fit:

  • First things first, why do you want to be financially fit? Ask yourself that and then you have a starting point.  This will be your driving force, your motivation, your inspiration.
  • You need a routine of sort. Do you have a budget?  If not you have to get one today, that way you can track your spending habits and cut out unnecessary expenses that are stopping you from saving.
  • Be accountable to someone or if you’re like me to yourself. Write down your financial goals so that you are constantly referring to them to see if you are making progress.
  • No one but you can push you to be savvy with your money. Make a plan to find additional streams of income so that saving becomes a reality.
  • Set small measurable goals. For example you can start with clearing that clothing account and stick to buying with cash only!  When that happens then move on to the next goal and before you know it you are doing great at being financially fit!
  • RESEARCH!  I can not stress this enough.  There are entire books on the subject as well as many varying ways to invest your money, big or small.  Like everything else in life the more you read the more informed you become.

Making money is good, keeping money is great! 

Do you have your parents included in your retirement plans?  Have you tried any of the tips to get financially fit?  I would love to hear from you and also get additional tips on how we can work towards being financially sound!

©MaKupsy 2017




My Sleep Paralysis Experience

Sleep paralysis happened to me once before when I was still in College.  It did not give me too much of a fright.  I brushed it off as something that happens to everyone in this lifetime.  However, the year 2013 gave me such chills I have never forgotten the experience to date.  It happened sometime in winter, those two incidents have stuck in my memory bank all this time and nothing will probably shake it off, just writing about it is actually starting to make my heart beat very fast.  This is my sleep paralysis experience…

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It had been a long day and all I wanted to do that evening was take my evening bath and get some rest.  I remember fixing a hot water bottle and making sure my apartment was securely locked and all lights were switched off.  (I am extremely sensitive to light so I sleep in complete darkness.)  Within minutes I had dozed off to la la land.  I rarely dream, or maybe I just forget the dreams because they are probably not that interesting but on this particular night I felt a presence in my apartment.  I wasn’t sure if I was asleep or awake but I lay as still as a log to make sure whatever that had entered would leave without noticing me.  All my doors were locked and closed but from my bed I could see through the walls and I saw a dark shadow move from the entrance to my apartment all the way to my bedroom.  I could not make out the face of the shadow but it had an outline of a woman.  The shadow came right next to my bedside and started moving down towards me.  Petrified does not even begin to explain what I was feeling at that moment, I was unable to move or scream for help.  The shadow kept coming closer and closer, it felt like it was trying to suck the life out of me, I saw the hollow outline of a wide open mouth and my eyes nearly popped out of my sockets!  I started screaming for help but in my attempts I could tell that I was screaming but no sound was coming out of my mouth.  I was paralysed and could not do anything; I honestly thought I was going to die right there and then.  I started to say the Lord’s Prayer over and over again and just before the shadow had completely enveloped me I woke up!  I was sweating, panting and crying all at the same time, I didn’t understand if I had been awake or asleep but whatever the case was I had no intentions of staying at home after such an experience, I checked the time, it was 1am and I had to go somewhere, anywhere but home…


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You would think after such an experience sleep paralysis would never occur anytime soon right? Wrong!  Just a few days after that incident I had another bad “dream”.  I was being chased by a woman through the woods.  I was running as fast as my feet could carry me but this woman kept coming for me.  I ended up in a graveyard.  There were men at work digging up a grave but I was puzzled why they were doing so because it was late at night.  I called out to them to help me but it seemed they could not hear me.  I tried to hide from the woman chasing me. There were several tombstones in sight and thought she would not see me if I was behind them. It was pointless because they kept crumbling down each time I went behind any one of them.  I started feeling tired and I was running slower now and before I knew what was happening one of the graves I stepped on started giving in and I was being swallowed into the ground!  I kept screaming for help to no avail and as I was being swallowed in I found myself falling right onto my bed and feeling an uninvited presence pulling me from underneath my bed.  This time around I could not move, scream or say a prayer, I just felt tears streaming down my eyes.  I remember hearing a knock on my door but it felt so faint.  Within minutes it kept getting louder and I somehow managed to wake up and rush to the door.  The moment I heard a female voice from the other side of the door I screamed the place down and woke up.  Almost everyone in the apartment building was alarmed and the woman on the other side kept asking if I was okay and if I should open the door.  I simply said I was okay and she explained that she had not been knocking on my door but on my neighbour’s door.  I didn’t open my door and went back to my bedroom.  I looked at the time.  1am!

That week was probably the worst week of my life.  I had a friend who worked by a 24 hour food outlet and I had to go and sit and chat with him or sometimes just sit in the shop and play on my phone.  I needed a distraction, something, anything that would stop me from experiencing another sleep paralysis incident. I remember bumping into my friend Larry on one of the random days.  We were both grabbing pizza at the food outlet and I am sure he was puzzled as to why I was getting food at around 2am.  I was sleep deprived for an entire week, going to bed was my biggest nightmare.  I didn’t know what to do to make it go away but it eventually did go away after popping some sleeping tablets and then having trouble sleeping without taking them, the vicious cycle!

I did get back to sleeping soundly and I have not experienced another sleep paralysis incident.  However, I did learn that sleeping alone might be a great thing but can be a great disadvantage when things like this happen.  It got me thinking that I could actually die in my sleep and no one would know until days later.  It also got me thinking that when you are scared out of your mind it would be nice to actually have someone to cuddle up to and probably have them wake you up when they hear that you are experiencing some form of disturbed sleep and cut your horrific experience short!

I am curious to hear from you, have you experienced sleep paralysis at any point in your life?  If yes, how did you deal with it?  Please share tips, I am sure they will help a soul or two.

©MaKupsy 2017



15 Ways To Mend A Broken Heart

You are definitely one of the lucky few people on this planet if you have not gone through a heartbreak.  In my opinion the pain that comes with it is right there next to labour pains.  It is something you don’t want to experience more than once because the pain usually scars you for weeks, months and sometimes years to come.  I asked some of my favourite people on Twitter to share how they managed to get over a heartbreak and as always they didn’t disappoint!  I like to keep opinions anonymous so names are not mentioned.  Their healing processes and some of mine are in the list below.  Kick back, grab your notepad and fix yourself a strong cup of coffee you will want to keep this!

  1. Cry. Cry yourself to sleep, cry yourself through the day, cry each time you listen to that sappy song that reminds you of him, heck cry yourself a whole river!  It’s the best thing you can do for yourself, crying will help wash away the pain.  Whatever you do, DO NOT internalise your emotions.
  2. Get high or die trying. Seriously.  Nothing makes you feel better like a good old smoke.  You are guaranteed of short term memory loss which is a good thing because you can focus on the feel good sensation and forget about your broken heart for a while.  Proven effects include joy, euphoria, contentedness and a care-free attitude!
  3. Cut contact, otherwise you will find yourself snooping on their social media this is very unhealthy.   I suggest you actually take a social media fast for the next 30 days in a bid to protect yourself.  The last thing you want to do is see your ex partner all loved up on Instagram.  That will actually do you more harm than good, heartbreak and social media are NOT friends!
  4. Get up under someone new.  Try this at your own risk.  An orgasm a day keeps the stress away.  Yes, I made that saying up but it’s a sure way to take your mind off your ex but just make sure whoever you decide to have sex with will actually shower you with multiple orgasms otherwise the whole act will be pointless and leave you frustrated.
  5. Listen to some music. Not the sappy sad stuff by the way. Something upbeat to lift up your spirits.
  6. Move to another place.  Try getting a job in a town hours away from your current location or better yet leave the entire country.  That way you can heal faster without any memory triggers.
  7. Keep yourself occupied. Spent time with friends, do your favourite things.  Try positive distractions such as going out and doing something fun especially something new. Amusement Park, dancing; getting out and not focusing or dwelling on the heartbreak.


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  8. Put yourself out there. You don’t have to rush into another relationship but just go on dates and feel wanted. It helps to not be lonely and also just for the confidence boost.
  9. Alcohol! , it numbs the pain.  Those who don’t drink can safely turn to ice-cream or comfort foods; hello calories!!  I have tried and tested this one and all I can say is that alcohol will fix the problem for that day but when you wake up sober all the pain will come rushing back.
  10. Accept that it’s over.  This is probably the most crucial point because without this you won’t be able to.  Accept it and do not be bitter, okay TRY very hard not to be bitter.
  11. Positive self talk and reflection.  Remind yourself it’s their loss and not yours. BUT also look at your contributions to the demise of your relationship.  Avoid self blame at all costs but focus on reflecting. This usually happens further down the road to mending your heartbreak.
  12. Let go completely.  You are not trying to do the whole “Oh we’re broken up but we’re cool and modern so we can be friends” – it just prolongs the pain! CUT TIES…Cut it, Cut it, Cut it, you need to cut it!!
  13. Be kind to yourself.  You will have days where you will be upset with the world.  It happens, embrace it.
  14. Time.  It mends the heart.  I know others believe getting straight into another relationship helps you get over another one. This is not everyone’s portion.  Avoid going from one mess straight into another.  That way when you say “I am over someone” you really over them. There are no comebacks.  Time is often under estimated; especially nowadays because everyone wants an instant fix. There is NO QUICK FIX for heartbreak. This is why we end up having relationships with broken people who haven’t healed from past mistakes. Be fair to the next person. Take your time, you do not heal overnight.
  15. Understand that heartbreak is a part of life.  Not just in romantic relationships but in life in general.  Lovers, friends and family will disappoint you so always be prepared to find a way to deal with it.  Learn from your experience and remember that you are not the first or the last one to experience this.  This too shall come to pass…

How have you dealt with heartbreak in the past?  How long did it take you to finally reach the point where you could bump into your ex and they will have zero effect on you?

Let’s talk about it, I would love to read your thoughts.

©MaKupsy 2017

Chickpea & Chicken Liver Salad

Hello everyone.  I hope you had a splendid weekend.  Today I have an easy to make salad recipe from my good friend Chef Thami.  He is my go to source when I want to prepare something tasty and different and he never lets me down.

1 can chickpeas
75g chicken liver
3 tablespoons olive oil
1 tablespoon lemon juice
Salt & pepper to taste
1 teaspoon sugar
3 cloves garlic, minced
1 tomato, chopped
2 spring onion chopped


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1. In a pan fry the liver till cooked and crispy on the outside. Remove from heat; in the same pan stir fry drained chickpeas for 3 mins then add chopped liver into the pan then fry for another minute. Remove from heat and set aside in a bowl.
2. In the same bowl add the tomato, garlic, spring onion, olive oil, salt and pepper, sugar and lemon juice and mix well & serve.
3. If you want a cold salad, then refrigerate for 2 hours then serve.

There you have it, you have no excuse to not whip up something healthy and yummy at the same time.  This is definitely going on my list of soul foods.  Oh yes, you can have it for lunch or dinner but I will probably have mine for lunch instead.

Fitness Bae®

Top 5 Reasons To Take The Stairs

I have worked at my current job for the past 6 years and in all the 6 years I have been here I ALWAYS take the stairs.  I have to go up 4 flights of stairs before getting to my office floor.  I have had exceptions where I have used the elevator like on times when I have been too sick to use the stairs which has been probably twice.  I remember the one time I decided to use the stairs because my heels were killing me and the security guard asked me if everything was okay?  He’s got jokes right?!

Everyone in the building knows me as the “stairs lady”; good or bad thing?  I say very good thing because I seem to have encouraged a few people to start taking the stairs over the years.  Even when I visit friends or run errands I make sure I use the stairs.  I had a friend who used to work on the 12th floor and I only visited her less than five times because the thought of taking the stairs was horrific!

Part of the reason why I use the stairs is because I am scared of being stuck in the elevator because the one at my place of work always jams people in there.  At least once a week someone or a group of people get stuck in the elevator, I am not taking any chances.  I don’t do well with closed spaces and chances of getting into a panic attack are too real so no;  I won’t be using an elevator anytime soon.

Below are 5 reasons extracted from this link.  You won’t want to be left behind on the stairs wagon after reading this.

  1. You tone your lower body.
  2. You work on getting a strong core.
  3. Going up the stairs may be hard but it’s easy on your joints.
  4. Stairs allow you to accomplish cardio, toning, and muscle building all at once.
  5. Stair climbing uses the largest muscles in your body to continuously carry your own body weight up throughout the entire workout, which means more calories burned!

What are you waiting for?  Get stepping 🙂

Fitness Bae®

How To Up Your Fitness Game

So you started a fitness journey and you are all up in the fitness game.  You have been pushing day in day out and have seen results. Then suddenly the changes stop coming or they take longer to come through. You are frustrated so you push harder to no avail.

  • You start thinking this fitness stuff is not for you.
  • It’s all a lie.
  • Or maybe it’s time you consider those miracle shakes or something?
  • Or maybe you’re a runner who can’t seem to go faster.
  • Or you’re trying to gain muscle but it’s not working?

If you relate to any of the above it’s perfectly normal so don’t worry at all. There’s one thing that you’re likely not doing that could unlock this problem for you…. REST.  Now before you run for the hills saying this person is mad (how can not working out improve your workouts?) I urge you to read the full article, try it and if it doesn’t work for you then you can feel free to brand me crazy.

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The Science

As you exercise your muscles are tested and in many cases proven weak, so your body makes a memo to make those muscles stronger. It takes time out to rebuild the muscles and make them stronger for next time. So guess what happens if you don’t rest? The muscles never get stronger. And if they never get stronger you never get better at what you do.

The Logic

Another important thing to consider is your performance.  Now runners will talk about gait, strength trainers will talk about form. Whatever you call it, it’s important you perform your best during workouts to get the most out of them. That means having the full energy to do the work properly. Tried cutting something with a blunt knife? A lot of energy in and little results. So working out with tired muscles is much the same (go back to the introductory paragraph).

Rest Before You Are Tired

Now if you’ve ever tried running in intervals to improve your endurance you will know the next part very well.  If you rest when you feel tired you’re already too late. The key is to rest before you’re fatigued; you recover much quicker and are able to go for longer. So as it is with the small things so it is with the big ones. Resting your muscles regularly boosts your fitness, it in fact injury proofs you. Allowing your body to fix your weak spots before they are exposed.

How Often Should You Rest?

It largely depends on what you are doing exactly how much you need rest.  Here are few examples in my own experience and observation;

Strength Training

My strength workouts are murder, you have to scrape me off the floor with a spatula immediately after!  I use a weight I can do 8 -12 reps with and increase the weight when I get to 12 reps by 4 sets. After working out a muscle group, I rest it for at least a day to 2 days.

Cardio Workouts

Cardio workouts that are not to strenuous you can allow yourself up to 3 or consecutive days of activity and then one day of rest or 2 is fine.


Generally most runners are running as far as they can or as time allows. If your runs are challenging then 2 days on and a rest day is the perfect plan for you. More can be done and it’s fine to go 5 straight days and rest two… If your goal isn’t to run faster and better.


How To Rest

When you are on a rest day or period doing absolutely nothing is allowed but it’s not the best idea. The things you really should do on rest days are stretch and hydrate. Stretching helps with blood flow and loosening the rested muscles while hydration is always good. ALWAYS. Light walking or short runs are also good for active recovery. Swimming or running or walking in a swimming pool are really good too.

Rest is part of the plan, a VERY BIG part of the plan. Not something you do when you can’t go any further. So have a look at your plan, if rest is not in it, you need a new plan. Schedule some rest and see if it doesn’t bring the desired results.

God made the earth and he rested. God made the plants and he rested. God made animals and he rested. God made man and he rested. Then God made woman and since then no one has rested!

This 4 minute read by was penned down by Fitness Beard.

Fitness Bae®

This Is Why You Are Not Happy

I used to have a lot of friends but with time we outgrew each other because of different milestones we all went through which is perfectly okay.  Now I think I have probably have four really close friends who I know I can call on whatever time of day and just catch up, vent or talk about how we can grow in all life aspects.  I hardly mention names when I write up my posts because when someone reads my blog they always know when I am writing about them and the same applies today.  Let me tell you about a conversation I once had with a once was good friend of mine.  Let’s call him D.


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The one time we had gone out for coffee and we were catching up on life and all things random.  He asked me what I had planned for the weekend and frankly I had a whole list of things I wanted to do but I didn’t have the means.  I still remember what I told him.  I wanted to go for a long drive till I got to a place with a lake; park there and take in the sunset and calming surroundings.  After that I would probably take a dip because I love me some water and I always have a reason to swim.  That said, K said to me; “You realise you don’t need to wait on anyone to do this, you can do it on your own.”  I was like dude, are you mad?  How is that even possible you do know that I don’t have a car right?  He simply told me that he knew but that was all the more reason to start working towards buying my own car! Okay, that was a shocker but the shocker made me actually start looking at things differently.

You realise you don’t need to wait on anyone to do this, you can do it on your own.”  

I have a great example of how I made the first change.  I once joined a fitness group on Facebook that has been there for quite a while now.  I was excited to be part of a team that enjoyed fitness as much as I did but the downside was these guys only published posts for their regular members and so my runs and workouts were always pending.  I was gutted and told myself, self, you either have to suck it up and accept that this is how its done in this group or start your own group!  Of course I started my own group, are you mad, why subject myself to such misery?  It was the best decision that I ever made and it made me realise change can be just a click away!

We always have an excuse not to do something.  When you really look at it you are usually the one stopping yourself from achieving the majority of your goals.  Oh it’s too difficult, I don’t have what it takes, maybe if I had this, it’s because I went to this school, only people from certain backgrounds get to have that.  The excuses are plenty!  Listen; you only get to do this life thing once and you better make the most of it!  I used to be this person; always with a list of excuses but after the talk with D I grew up instantly.  If you don’t have a car then by all means take public transport to wherever you want to go, if you don’t have money to go to the gym then workout from home, if you are passionate about music but you are not part of a band then start your own band.  Stop waiting for a saviour and save yourself already.  Actually, you read this everyday on social media but you just won’t do anything about it but here I am trying to convince you.  Why am i even wasting my time?  As and when you are ready you will make that change.

I still don’t have a car by the way but I have set a target for myself and started working towards getting one.  My dream car is the Land Rover Discovery; she’s going to be my baby in this lifetime, one day is one day!  For now my first car will be a little fuel saver that takes me all over the country on a budget.  That way I will get to travel more and get to take a tonne of pictures, create memories and live my best life now.  I am still living my life like it’s golden by the way, pedestrian life and all but once I get my car it will be on level 47646727 so you guys should just watch this space!

Now let’s get talking, what is stopping you from living your best life now?  Do you want to die and not have lived as many happy moments as possible?  You know you can die today, right here and right now?  Would people say you were a bubbly soul who did everything in their power to spread happiness or you just lived each day unhappy and ready to stab yourself with a spoon out of sheer boredom?


©MaKupsy 2017

Build Your Man Up They Say

I see this topic almost everyday on my Twitter Timeline.  For a minute there I tried not to share my 2 cents on the topic but the opinionated me just couldn’t let this one slide anymore. I have mixed feelings on the topic so you can be the judge of where I exactly stand at the end of this piece.  Just thinking about building is exhausting now just imagine building a whole entire human being!   I like to use examples, I have been through the most when it comes to relationships(thanks to bad decision making) I always have a point of reference.

Exhibit 1  

I once wrote about this guy some years ago, he is ex number four.  I worked on this guy like a real actual project!  I did a complete makeover.  Changed how he dressed, showed him how I liked to be treated; insert coffee dates, dinners, random lunches, flowers, gifts, even made sure I had bills covered because I understood that he was going through a rough patch so being the loving girlfriend that I was I made sure all was well. Lesson number 1, DO NOT go around taking care of these grown ass men please because guess what, we broke up anyway and he moved on and started making sure he was paying the bills and making sure his new girlfriend was well taken care of.  Guys!!  This is not even a laughing matter but I am laughing anyways.  Like what the fuck was wrong with me?  Why was I housing a grown ass man and giving him free lessons on how to be a great guy only for him to leave and be Prince Charming to the next woman?  Allow me to laugh at myself some more.  This thing we call love can really play with our senses.


Exhibit 2

I don’t think we can call this one an exhibit but seeing that I already have a heading with that let’s just play along.  I remember the stories most of our parents used to tell us when we were growing up.  About how they started of with nothing but ended up with beautiful families, cars and houses.  I admire them very much, I really do; but I think times have changed for us.  Back then it was okay to start off from the bottom but now both men and women want a “finished product” so to speak.  How many are willing to start from scratch with someone who has zero vision?  Definitely not me!  These days it’s not just the men who have a checklist, even women now want a man with certain things and are not willing to back down on them.  Things like he has to at least have his own place, he should drive, not have a bunch of baby mamas, must be well traveled…the list is endless really depending on the individual.  I for one will tell you that a man who can not cook risks chances of not dating me because let’s be honest, there is nothing as sexy as a man who can whip up a fire meal!


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Exhibit 3

This is not to say that some people who have actually built their man up did not live happily ever after, they actually did and it’s beautiful to hear about these stories.  I have a friend who started dating her boyfriend when we were 18 and over a decade later they are still together, they even got married!  They used to have some major differences but because they loved each other and they had a mutual end goal things worked out well for them and now they are happily married.

My thoughts in a nutshell?  I think that love is a gamble.  You can win or lose when it comes to relationships.  You can do everything in your power to make sure things work out but sometimes your best isn’t good enough and someone will leave.  I have also come to the realisation that no one sings the song of “Build Your Woman Up”!!   My advice, if you have put in the work and the next person decides they want to leave.  Refuse to be dumped.  Like seriously, after investing your time, efforts and mind banging sex someone tells you it’s over.  Say no, it’s not happening, we are in this till the end.  Show up at their doorstep with breakfast the next day like everything is normal.  LOL, okay, that’s not very great advice and please don’t follow it. Take heart; building someone up might be the best or worst thing that might ever happen to you.  It really is about the two of you in the end.

What are your thoughts on the topic?  Have you been in a situation where you gave it your all but it crumbled before your very own eyes.  Let’s talk.

©MaKupsy 2017

Skipping Challenge Highlights

Skipping has had the month of January completely action packed.  Members of team #RunWithFitnessBae have been on a mission to smash their goals.  When we started this challenge we all thought it was going to be a walk in the park but have we been shown otherwise or what?!  Even though this month the main focus was skipping we still did various workouts depending on each person’s fitness goal.  Below are some comments from the team members:

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I used to do 100 skips per minute now I can do 150-200 depending on how tired I am and the abs are finally coming through!  Also, each time I have a headache it stops after skipping
I usually have morning headaches. Babes we Fitness

When I started skipping in December I noticed that I ran faster and my abs were coming through. But come January after doing the challenges I am gaining weight. Sob Sob. I have put on a kilogram from early December.  My tummy is just okay. Hasn’t really changed. However, I have been eating anything I want. Anytime. Lol. This could be it.

Physically though I can see how I am so much stronger. I can hold my yoga poses for longer. My triceps (I think) are becoming more pronounced. .I have been working up earlier.  Motivated to exercise in the morning. It so exciting. I’ve never stuck to a 30 day challenge in my life. I’m determined to make it. Fitness Duchess

Day 26.  I decided to rest this morning, my body almost gave up on me yesterday.  Hope to work out in the evening. Nyago

Morning workout done.  But guys…I was manually counting and according to my manual count I did 5 000 skips but rope says 6593; could I be making an error or these Private School ropes ain’t loyal? Chido

Insanity polymeric cardio 40 min session complete plus 1 000 skips to cool down.  Evening workout unlocked! Christie 

I’m just hungry, besides that I love food but hmmm and the cravings are out of this world!  Doughnuts are now 35 cents in Food Lovers.  Get behind me Satan! Tendai

I don’t know about everyone else but personally, if  I run anything more than 5 kilometers I get a headache all day long that day!  Today I did 6 000 skips and I feel like I overworked myself, how is everyone else managing? Fitness Bae

I haven’t weighed myself but some of my clothes now fit. Queen of Hearts

4 000 skips done and dusted.  It got so frustrating having the rope getting caught up in my feet.  Felt like throwing it against the wall!  Felt like I was gonna collapse on the last 600 skips but I pulled through. Primal Pete

The notable change i have seen is endurance and pace and I have noticed that im actually losing weight. Fitness Hunk

Just wanted to say glory God and thank you all keep it up👏👏… this is the longest I have stayed true to getting fit and healthy.  Yes I admit I Have been sketching  (🙈I’m sorry) when it comes to skips (keeping up with y’all is hard and I am certain none of you are from this earth🌍..😂) but all your stories, workouts keep motivating me each day to make sure I have done something towards my goal and from joining weighing in at  122 kgs today the scale was saying  114 kgs🙃🙃🙃For a while you think you are wasting your time and nothing is happening, I guess it’s one step at a time…once again thank you😄 ScousePatsie

There you have it.  A lot of things have changed.  Skipping has worked on us physically and mentally.  I think from now on I will incorporate my other workouts with skipping for maximum effect because the results I am seeing on the scale have left me smiling all the way to 30 January.

Have you tried skipping?  If not, what are you waiting for?

Fitness Bae®