One of the many lessons that I have learnt in the past 3 years of blogging is that it’s important to read work written by other bloggers. Not only does it let you view things differently, it sometimes puts a smile on your face when you are having a bad day. The following blogs are my go to sites when I need that extra dose of feel good hormones.
Felistas has not been blogging for a while but this does not stop me from occasionally browsing through her site. If you want to read something random then this is the place to go to. There is always some drama going on there and best of all something to give me a good laugh, this woman is talented I kid you not! My favourite read is the piece she wrote about How NOT To Break Up. I can relate to Hurricane Katrina, Big Brother Style and with a bang!! You have the article from here to understand what I am talking about.
Tata takes the trophy any day when it comes to getting me deep into my feelings. Each time I read one of her posts I am left questioning a lot of things. What I love the most about her blog is that she doesn’t stick to writing in English only but throws in Shona here and there. There are just some things that don’t sound the same if written in English. There is a time she wrote about heartbreak and with each single word she wrote I could relate. Sex is a real enemy of progress when you are trying to figure out which direction your relationship is going especially during a shaky phase.
Actually, I don’t know who was hurt more, my heart or my vagina.
You can read about it from here and get to read what I’m talking about. One thing is for sure, she needs to write a book and be quick about it. The honesty that comes with her blog posts especially where relationships are concerned are priceless! I used to write about sex but it was never this detailed, do something Tata, I want to go around telling people she is my friend when your book becomes a best seller!
Would you believe me if I told you that I only discovered this site last week. Best thing ever! As you already know I am working hard on building my Fitness Bae brand and I am always on the lookout for any and everything that will help me work towards making it a success. My attention was grabbed by the blog post titled 3 Start Up Lessons From Prostitutes.
You are a startup, you carry your business with you everywhere!
What I took from this article is something I already practice but for the sake of emphasis I feel everyone who is an entrepreneur needs to do themselves a favour and follow this blog because it is gold! Archie talks about how you should talk about your business to any and everyone. You have to stop feeling shy and make noise about your business if you want people to pay attention. Be your own hype man(woman).
Books, books and more books! I am one of those people who love to read. I have concluded that reading and writing go hand in hand, you can’t be a writer if you don’t read! I am very old school when it comes to reading and I love me a hard copy. I want to see, touch and feel my book and you know I got very excited when I realised that one of my favourite bloggers also likes reading. Her post left a smile on my face especially the fact that she loves to read African Literature. I don’t remember the last time I read a book that I did not want to put down. Both Half of a Yellow Sun and Americanah did this too me, the feeling was priceless! I love this blog because there is always something new and different to read on, she might not be a regular blogger but when she does make time she goes all out.
I am always there for the photographs. Have you seen her contagious smile? Whenever I am feeling down or uninspired just a few minutes on her site leave me smiling right back at her pictures. Kumbi is a DIY (Do It Yourself) blogger and I have plans of asking her to make some pretty hair bands for me once my hair is thick and on the road to being a full grown afro! She recently had a beautiful photo shoot session and you can check it out on this link.
I hope you all had a restful weekend and you are ready for a brand new week that is filled with nothing but promise of beautiful things.
The first time I went for UnPlugged it was sometime last year on a cold winter evening. I was covered in tights, boots, scarf, dress and a jacket. The only thing that was missing in that outfit was a hat. Unfortunately for me I decided to wear stiletto heeled boots(big mistake!) and the whole evening my boots were sinking into the lawn, I was annoyed! I promised myself that the next UnPlugged event I attend will be in the afternoon; that way I would enjoy the warm sun and great outdoors. I lead a busy life and most weekends when UnPlugged is happening I am almost always out of town but not this past Saturday, this time I was ready for it and I was going to be the first one at the gate!
Okay, so I was not the first one at the gate but I was there about an hour after the event started. After a few hellos to familiar faces my first stop was the Kids Corner they call Artsy Crafty. I couldn’t help it, all that colour and laughter drew my attention, these children were having too much fun, I wanted in as well but well, the jumping castle is not for adults; even if you feel 16 on the inside. LOL. What I loved about this area is that you get to bring your children along to this family friendly chill out session. I am a parent and I know how it can really get hectic when I need to attend an event and there is no one to baby sit for me. This idea they have is genius because when you bring your children along you know that someone will be watching over them and keeping them entertained with interactive activities while you have that well deserved glass of wine.
I knew Sylent was performing on the day but I didn’t expect him to be one of the first few people I saw. It was great to see him after so many years. I think I last saw him close to 4 years ago! This is one talented guitarist. I took a lot of videos of him performing and posted some of them on my Twitter Timeline. He is a great person full of life, love and laughter, never a dull moment with him. He likes to call himself the “Guitar Sangoma” and trust me he has every right to do so!
My next stop was this interesting looking stall. I was a woman on a mission. I really wanted to interact with as many people as I could before it got to busy. There is nothing like having that one on one interaction and getting someone’s full attention. Rufaro told me about the “Secret Dinner”they will be holding on the 4th of March and I put my name down for it and also bought a raffle ticket while I was at it. I am going to try and make this as short and sweet as possible…. It’s a fresh initiative that synergies the creative force that is embedded within Zimbabwean born and internationally trained chefs and the burning passion of a new breed of musicians decorating the underground scene in Harare. For one night only every 2 months, seasoned and discerning palates will get to enjoy an evening of transformed local ingredients paired with international recipes and the undeniably gifted musicians who are disrupting the local scene. It is a good “food meets good music” vibe that will get the privileged 100 guests yearning for more and eagerly awaiting the next offering. For a token amount you get to enjoy a 3 course meal, get to meet the chefs, dance the night away and celebrate the new breed of Zimbabwean creatives who are definitely going to transform international gastronomy halls. Call, app or sms Natalie on 0774168542, in order to get the ‘big reveal’. It’s happening on Saturday the 4th of MARCH 2017 so get ready ladies and gentlemen!!! We all know how much I love all things divine so chances of seeing me at this event are highly likely.
with Mel @Melmellg
with Lady K @LadyKuda
n it was time for more pictures. A girl can never have one too many pictures in her gallery. Social Media really comes to life when you attend events. Mel and I follow each other on social media platforms and this was our first time seeing each other. Lady K is a member of my running group and we finally got to meet and have a brief chat. The weather was perfect on Saturday and most people were dressed to the nines. The way I am always scared of the weather changing up on me I completely forgot to bring a jacket along with me but it was not actually necessary after all, all the dancing, screaming and chatting made sure nothing else mattered.
Foooood! The other plus for attending UnPlugged is that you get to bring your own food and drinks if you like but for $10. I think it’s a great deal because that way you get to eat exactly what you want and not have to complain about how you didn’t enjoy the food. Back to that mouth-watering meat…The pork was calling my name, I had to have it! But I didn’t, because I was still full from the late lunch I had at home. However, the good news is I got chatting with the owner of the stall and I think he should come through for my birthday party this year. I spoke to The Spitmanand he told me that he charges $250 to do a spit but this does not include the animal but will have charcoal marinades and service as part of the $250. He makes his own home made barbeque sauces and marinades. His team does the Greek, Portuguese, English and American style spits. I have no clue what those are and I will certainly be making friends with Google after this! You can get in touch with him on 0772892052 for all your weddings, corporate events, family gatherings and all types of events UnPlugged included!
Initially I wanted to tell you everything that happened at UnPlugged but I have decided that you should make a date and come see how beautiful the afternoon experience is. I can only tell you so much but you have to experience it to believe it. I had a wonderful time and even though I had promised myself I would be out of there by 5pm I found myself hanging out till the event was over. I had two body guards(read as booty guards) who later joined me and they made sure the afternoon was double the fun.
Minus the burnt burger that I had later on in the evening everything about this afternoon was perfect. I would recommend this event to anyone who likes a laid back environment to spend with family and friends. There is no need to be shouting on top of your voices because the music is just right and you can spend actual quality time. The best part is that the event is usually held towards the end of the month so you have enough time to save and plan around the day. You also get to network, the number of contacts I made in one afternoon alone! Don’t take networking for granted. You don’t know what the next person knows.
I asked my two body guards how their first experience was like and this is what they had to say:
Booty Guard 1: It was a nice chilled vibe with amazing music and good company. Given a chance I would want to go back each time the event is hosted.
Booty Guard 2: It was a different yet fun experience for me seeing that it was my first time there. The place was chilled relaxed and I got to meet new people. I will definitely be going back again for the experience. I loved every second of it!
I would like to say thank you to the Founders of UnPlugged, both Elinah and Chiedza for giving me an opportunity to come through and write about my experience at their event. I also want to thank Ameera Mimi; that Women Creative Wednesday session you featured on a few weeks back is the reason I got a chance to write this post today. You specifically said that if you want something you should reach out and ask and I did exactly that!
Those who like to keep stats on events; roughly 1200 paying people camethrough on Saturday and the total of people who attended the event were in probably about 1300. How epic is that!!!
What did you get up to this weekend? I bet you did not have as much fun as I did! Have you been to UnPlugged before, if yes how was your experience?
When I started my fitness journey going to the gym was never an option. The reason I could not go to the gym was because I told myself that I had to commit to at least 3 months of working out from home;if I could do that I would certainly be able to do the time at the gym. There is something about paying your own subscriptions that makes you not feel bad when you miss a workout. I had done so in the past and I was not willing to waste any money on something I was not dedicated to. The other reason was I simply could not afford to do so. At the time I told myself I had to make a plan and work with what I have in order to reach my goal weight and it worked like a charm!
However, I have reached my goal weight, I have new goals to smash and this time around I want to actually join a gym and get to tone my body and tighten my arms more than anything. I decided to go and see for myself if joining the gym would be worth my while before doing anything too drastic like paying a full year’s subscription before giving the whole gym a “feel”.
Two weeks ago I had a “Gym Date” with Kev; I never in my wildest dreams thought that was ever going to be something I would look forward to in this lifetime but trust me I was excited! It was easy to make my way there because I got transport just a few minutes walk from my place. I dropped off right at the entrance of the office park where the gym is located; hurray for me! This was already a plus for me because a gym easy to get to means less stress and less excuses.
When you get to the entrance of the gym, the outside does not look very fetching and you automatically assume that you have been short changed. I am here to admit that I was blown away when I stepped into Body Active Gym! The place is a Fitness Freak sanctuary. I had to try everything out! The first thing that Kev did was take me on a tour around the gym and I had not one but four favourite spots once I was done with the tour. I will add them within the blog.
After the tour Kev directed me to the treadmill for a 10 minute warm up. Thereafter my body went through the most! We decided to work on my arms and core. Kev did not put weights on the bar I was using but it was so heavy I wondered how the guys I was side eyeing lifted weights so effortlessly. Apparently the bar alone is a whole 5kgs! That explains why I was having a hard time. Kev is patient, very helpful and shows you how to do your reps like it’s nothing. Mind you he was using weights on his reps, I just stood there in awe.
After a good one hour of working out I sort of broke a sweat and thought to myself well, so much for that! Fast forward to days later my whole body was tight and in pain from working out that Saturday. I didn’t realise the effects would hit later on not on the very day! The one thing I liked about the gym was that it has a relaxed atmosphere, it has a co-ed setup, it is multiracial, it is not crowded and there is a lot of space for you to exercise at ease.
I didn’t realise we had Spin Classes in Zimbabwe. I only ever read about it when people abroad tweet about it. Now I have a chance to also take these classes and see what wonders it can do for me! The gym has more than enough equipment and there is a wide selection to choose from. Staff is available to help with how to use the equipment.
There is a machine I used and totally loved. It’s called the Body Massaging Machine. I have seen it on TV advertisements and when they advertise it they give you the impression that if you just stand there for 10 minutes all your weight issues will melt away, such lies! The Body Massaging Machine actually helps your body to relax after a workout, the vibration from the machine helps develop leaner muscle tissue as it increases the metabolic rate resulting in a higher caloric burn, reduces tension and stress among other things.
Would my visit be complete without a Sauna experience? Heck no! After my workout I took a quick shower and took time to unwind in the sauna for a good 15 minutes. The showers and toilets are well maintained and that’s a really sensitive area for me. No matter how I enjoyed my Gym Date experience if I had noted that this area wasn’t on point my interests would have gone out the window!
I will probably be trying all the above because I like to challenge my body. The fees are also not too bad but because of my ever hectic exercise schedule I will settle for being a Casual Member for now. If you would like to join Kev is your man and you can reach him on +26377705111
If I am to rate Body Active Gym they get a cool 8 out of 10 from me and yes, I will certainly be paying them another visit soon.
What did you get up to this weekend? Did you take time to workout or prepare yourself a healthy meal?
It’s not easy to admit that you aren’t as young as you used to be. In my early 20s I used to party like it’s nothing. From Thursday through to Sunday my friends and I would go out and have a ball of a time and still have energy to last us through the next day. Now that I am older, I can only choose ONE day to go out and it takes me two whole days to recover. Aging is real!
After a Saturday night out I could not gather the strength to fix myself anything to eat and decided to go for breakfast. I had asked for restaurants to try out on social media and a guy who said he would prefer to be named as “a handsome dimpled Ndebele guy” told me I should try out a place called Deli. We hooked up with my partner in loving all things nice and headed out for breakfast on Sunday morning.
We were greeted by a bubbly young waiter who introduced himself as Melvin. We opted for a table for two and got the cosy table by the corner right next to the mini balcony. I asked him what he would recommend for breakfast, something filling though because we were dying from hunger. He gave us options and we ordered some cappuccino while we waited for our food. Someone has to tell me what they call the biscuit they put on the side of your cappuccino and why they only put an incy wincy size. The way that biscuit goes down and sadly you have only one of it. Let’s play nice guys, why not give us three of those yummy biscuits, yes, no, maybe, am I stretching my luck? LOL
I will tell you one of the few things I loved about this place, the cool breeze and fresh air. Given the current heat wave sitting indoors was not ideal. I also got to watch people taking leisurely walks on a Sunday morning and that kept me away from my phone for a while. (still trying to battle my phone addiction). The other thing I was happy with was that the food didn’t take forever and a day to come through.
That was my plate. I LOVE COLOUR. Just looking at this got my mouth watering it was unbelievable! Underneath the pancake was bacon, scrambled eggs, tomato and Parmesan shavings. I have no idea what the last thing is but it tasted absolutely delicious! The salad had a dash of dressing which I have to have! My food was so juicy and tender I could feel nothing but pure bliss while I ate. This is what breakfast should look like, I took a few tips from this and I will certainly be trying this at home. The presentation definitely won be over as well. I believe when you see food in a plate you should get excited about it and trust me I couldn’t wait to dig in!
This was my partner in loving nice things had. Two eggs, smokey bacon, pork sausage, grilled tomato, fried potato, banana and toast. What a mouthful! When I asked him about his meal he said and I quote” What I liked about the Deli is you feel at home…it’s like a home away from home. It did not feel like a restaurant and I got to enjoy my meal in a relaxed environment. The meal was delicious, food presentation was good and I ordered a filling meal that was worth every bite.”
During our meal I took a note of a few things that I wasn’t particularly happy with. That ketchup bottle was close to finishing and I had a hard time squeezing it out. I remember saying to myself I am going to splash some sauce on my white shorts and that nearly happened! Boy was I going to be pissed off or what??! I would like to believe that replacing a ketchup bottle with a new one is not too much work and I hope someone looks into this because it’s not a good look.
I had fallen in love with the white rose in a glass at first glance but when I realised it was those plastic flowers I was disappointed. I think fresh flowers would certainly not break a budget. Maybe buying those bunches that will bloom, those will certainly last long. I am sure there are inexpensive flowers somewhere in town. Fussy much?
Back to the fun stuff. I cleared my plate, well, we both did even though half the time we were trying out things from the next persons plate. I do that a lot when I eat out. Make sure that I order something different from the next person so that we get to try out two different meals at once. You should try this out and let me know how that goes for you. There was just a fork and knife left in both our plates when Melvin came back to clear the table.
My experience here was great. Melvin kept coming back to check on us to find out if everything was okay and if we needed anything else. One of the few reasons I will be back for another visit is because the staff are friendly and cheerful They give you a warm welcome and that’s definitely a plus for me. I would certainly recommend this restaurant to friends and family. On a scale of 0-10, 10 being completely satisfied with my experience I will give Delicious Fine Food Emporium a cool 8. They should expect to see me again sometime soon because their lunch menu got me feeling very excited.
P.S The restaurant really needs to work on getting a Facebook, Twitter and Instagram page. We are living in the age of technology, make it easy for us to find you.
Their address is: Shop 97A Sam Levy’s Village, Borrowdale, Harare
Have you been to this restaurant before, if yes, how was your experience?
Hello everyone, it’s been a beautiful day so far. I hope you are looking forward to the weekend as much as I am. A few minutes ago I got an email from a fellow blogger Kudzai and I didn’t realise it was blog related. I thought I had nothing to write about today and he magically came through for me. He has hit me up with 21 Questions and trust me he is not ready for the come back I have for him! Let me get to answering him as honestly and and as quickly as I can, my body is here but my mind is already out there celebrating the end of the working week!
A few people know your name, and also want to know the inspiration behind your blog name. Would you shed some light on that?
My name is Zvie. My blog name derives from two things. The first being “Ma” which is short for amai(mother) and “Kupsy” which is my daughter’s nickname. I put the two together and came up with MaKupsy.
A lot of the times we see tweets about Marondera. Can you tell us about where you’re from?
My family moved around a lot when I was little. I was born when we stayed in Kariba, then we moved to Chinhoyi when I was around 4 years old. We left for Marondera in 1994. I did my Primary School education in Marondera and High School, College and Work was in Harare…Help me decide where exactly I am from because I don’t know either. LOL
What actually inspired you to start blogging?
Love/ lust, I am not really sure which one of the two it was but I think the latter because at some point the feeling went away. I didn’t know how to tell a guy I was spending a lot of time with that I had the hots for him so I decided to write a blog post which he never saw. How sad. The other reason was to document my Fitness Journey.
Which of your blog posts are you most proud of?
The one I am most proud of has to be Butterfly . I bled all my emotions out of that post. I needed to let go off all the hurt and pain I had gone through and I did so the best way I know how; through writing. It spoke to a lot of women and it is one of the most popular posts on my blog.
Can you say your blogging experience has helped your writing and communication skills to improve?
It definitely has! I can’t just write up something and publish it. I have to go over it once, twice, sometimes three times to check if there are no spelling mistakes, no grammatical errors, having to think of flavoured words, smooth transitioning of sentences; it’s not as easy as it looks but with time you get better at it.
You’ve gained a reputation for talking about subjects people generally take as sensitive. How do you do it?
I didn’t realise I had gained a reputation for writing about the subjects that intrigue me the most. I am not sure if it’s a good or bad reputation though so you have to tell me more on this one. To be honest, I am one of those bloggers who simply speaks/tweets/writes exactly what’s on her mind. My blog is my space to entertain my thoughts so it’s a no holds barred area so I do it so easily.
What subject have you always had a passion for talking about? Is there a story behind this?
Most times I am passionate about writing on issues that women face. From heartbreak, unfair treatment, body image issues, domestic violence the works. The reason being I am woman above everything else, I have and still experience some of the things I have mentioned and also because I know my stories speak to other women right here in Zimbabwe and the world at large.
Everyone knows, you absolutely hate bad sex. Can you give us a snippet of one time you can say you really experienced some horrible loving?
I really need to stop over sharing. The moment I read EVERYONE I just realised I talk too much! Well, I once wrote about an incident over here so you can get a scoop of some of the horrible loving I received (or didn’t receive in this case).
Men in suits just do it for you, don’t they?
YES, YES AND YES!!
What qualifies as the biggest turn off for you?
The biggest turn off has to be typos and all this shorthand that’s supposed to be the in thing. I CAN NOT STAND SHORT HAND. People are out here acting like letters are being sold if you want to use them. The moment someone I am talking to on any social media platform starts with the shorthand nonsense I ignore them. It truly grates on my nerves!
Your Fitness Program has also earned you quite the reputation. What inspired you to start running?
If I had not weighed in that fateful day when I went to visit my doctor I would probably not be Fitness Bae right now. Two years ago I weighed 85kgs. For someone who is only 163cm that is bad, very bad. I was shocked beyond words because that was the exact weight I was when I was pregnant with my daughter. Just a few days before giving birth I was 85kgs and there I was weighing the same weight and not pregnant. It gave me the biggest wake up call of my life.
I imagine a lot of people pester you with “I wanna start working out too, can you give me some advice?” kind of questions. Maybe you could put it to bed once and for all for us amateurs LOL
Yes, I get those questions all the time and even after telling people what to and what not to do some won’t go ahead and start on the fitness journey. The truth of the matter when it comes to fitness is that YOU have to want to do it. People can suggest you do something about your weight but as long as you don’t want it yet it will never happen. The only motivation that works with fitness is self motivation.
Obviously somewhere along the line, you thought of giving up. What kept you going?
When I initially started my workout program in August 2014 I had days I truly wanted to drop the whole thing. My legs, thighs, shins everything hurt because my body was used to being idle. I remember my dad telling me to keep at it because it was certainly going to hurt in the beginning. I have kept going for a couple of reasons;
I want to win all the Mother’s Races at my daughter’s school,
I want to live longer and lead a healthy lifestyle,
The results I see every week are amazing and I look so much better in my clothes, who would have thought I would own yellow, pink and all the pretty colour bras, they only have them in small sizes by the way!
Running gives me feel good hormones and I can never imagine my life without it.
I have made incredible friends thanks to my running addiction and they have made some amazing contributions in my life. It would not be the same without them.
You love food (This is no secret). Coupled with your fitness program, doesn’t this present significant challenges to your love for making your taste buds dance, and to your fitness lifestyle?
The trick is to balance out everything. The moment you deprive your body, the moment you over indulge. I love my food without a doubt and what works for me is portion control and making sure I prepare the meals myself whenever I can that way I get to choose all the ingredients that go into the meal.
What’s the best restaurant you’ve been to in Harare? Have you blogged about it before?
I have been to a handful of restaurants so far but this year I have to admit that Victoria 22 took my breath away. I went there for my birthday and I was absolutely wowed. Yes, I blogged about it, that’s one of the other things I enjoy on my blog, writing about Restaurant Reviews. The link for the Victoria 22 experience is here.
Are men trash?
LOL, how random is that question? I will throw the same question back at you, are women trash?
There was one blog that caught my attention, about single mothers. You really went in on this one. Have you any words about the subject and people’s perception towards it?
I remember the blog. It was meant to run as a series but I could not get enough people to contribute, it can still be done if I put my mind to it. Just watch this space for details…About Single Mothers, society is messed up. The moment they hear someone is a single mother they throw judgement and yet they don’t even know her story. People need to grow up and stop treating single mothers like they have some sort of a disease. Women are raising a child or children on her own for different reasons. Life happens, no one is perfect after all is said and done.
Your pride and joy…can you pick out one of your proudest mummy moments?
It was a random day that I spoke to Miss Kupsy over the phone. I always tell her I love her at the end of each conversation. That day I was in a rush and quickly said goodbye. She called out “Mhamhi!” from the other end before I hung up then I replied her and she said “I love you”. My heart melted, that was the first time she said that without me telling her first. I was in puddles of joy, she is my little ray of sunshine.
You drink more than I do. You’re a fan of vodka too. So I am sure you have a story to tell about the most drunk you’ve been before. We’re listening…
You love stories way too much. The funniest story I can recall that is Vodka related is the first time my cousin and I tried it. When we got back home we struggled to go up the stairs. We stayed on the fourth floor but thanks to having one too many we got to the third floor and tried to unlock the door. It wouldn’t open and we passed out right there in the passage. We got up sometime in the morning when we started feeling cold and obviously back to being sober and realised we were on the wrong floor! Amateur drinking right there! Now I’m a pro, come to me for the best Vodka mixes in town.
Can you recommend a good book to read, that isn’t Karma Sutra or Mills and Boon?
I have never in my life read a Mills & Boon, that was never my portion. I recommend you get your hands on Half of A Yellow Sun by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie you won’t put that book down. If you are into our very own local literature read The Hairdresser of Harare by Tendai Huchu, it took me 3 days to finish it, it was that good!
Finally, can we expect much more from MaKupsy in the following months? Is there anything in the pipeline? Or is it a secret? Shall we keep our eyes and ears open?
You are not ready for the things I have lined up Fitness wise. It’s going to be amazing, your go to place for all things workout related. It’s not a secret but a surprise. Come December this year, you will me totally blown away!
Have a lovely weekend everyone and stay inspired to be the best version of yourself each and everyday.
I did that poll two days ago and it got me thinking I had to add it to a post I wrote sometime last year. As you can see from the statistics most people say they do not go through their partners’ phone which is a very good thing if you ask me. For those who had not read this post before this is your chance to read through and enjoy.
I have never been one of those people who want to poke my nose in other people’s business but once you start dating a guy who leaves you wondering where you stand with him or what he has been up to believe me the curiosity will kick in and you will go through his phone like its nothing! It becomes a very destructive and addictive habit though so if you decide to go that path be prepared to never have peace.
I have had some pretty heart wrenching encounters in the past and that just taught me a lesson (for that day only) to stay away from your partner’s phone. For those who have always wanted to go through his phone and wondered when best to do it;
try when he is dead drunk,
when he is asleep or
the few seconds that he dashes to the loo.
Please be warned that you should do this at your own risk as you might not be able to deal with whatever you find in his phone.
I will list a few messages I bumped into in the past, I remember word for word for some of them but for others I have a rough idea what they read. I will also include who had sent the messages; here goes:
I am not in love with her. I am only staying with her because I feel sorry for her. I want to be with you and I am going to do everything that I can to make that happen. (my then boyfriend)
How was the evening with the girl you hooked up with from church, did you tap that ass? (my then boyfriend’s close cousin)
You shouldn’t marry her. If you marry her you will be making the biggest mistake of your life. You ex was a better fit for you and if you let her go you will be doomed. (my then boyfriend’s best friend)
Send me some of your nude photos. (my then boyfriend)
Please send me airtime, I am low on credit. (my then best friend asking my boyfriend without my knowledge)
She is so fat I don’t even know why I am dating her, you know I like slim women. (my then boyfriend)
I can only remember the very juicy messages and the ones that really got to me the rest were really nothing to go on about. What did this experience teach me?
Not everyone who smiles at you actually likes you. Take that then boyfriend’s best friend for example. This guy used to come to our place and I would cook lunch, supper, breakfast, you name it just to make sure he was comfortable and yet his ass didn’t even like me! What a fucking asshole! Once I knew that’s how he felt about me I ended those privileges, what a prick!
Even your so called best friend can get up to something behind your back. I couldn’t help but wonder what else she used to ask for…
Do not date anyone who bashes your self esteem, yes, I used to be fat, but you pursued me knowing I was fat, at what point did you realise that I was actually not your type?
His friends are not your friends. Do not be fooled!
These random experiences made me promise myself that I WILL NEVER GO THROUGH SOMEONE’S PHONE. You will die an emotional death after you discover things you were not prepared to deal with. To make things worse you can not exactly ask about the messages because you would have breached someone’s privacy. You have no right to be going through a phone that does not belong to you. At the same time it helps you see where you stand with someone but it really isn’t advisable to do that. I would say talk things through if you feel there is something that is bothering you. And even if you do decide to continue going through your partner’s phone and they do find out that’s what you get up to, trust me they will find ways to hide things from you and you will never find a single grain of evidence. Bottom line is, if your partner is cheating the truth always has a way of revealing itself…just sit tight and relax.
The amusing thing about going through your partner’s phone is if you find out something that hurts you the first thing you tell yourself is that you are going to break up with them and leave. Sadly, most people stay and complain and bore us to death about how their partner is cheating…As for me, I stuck around for a while(that puts me in the boring department) but eventually things got from bad to worse, hearts were broken, words were said, trust went flying out the window but yes, that is life, we get to experience all sorts of things before we decide to make changes. And that’s how I ended up deciding I won’t ever go through my partners phone because nothing good has ever come of it. Ideally it would be nice to go through your partner’s phone and find out they are planning a surprise party or a getaway weekend but how often does that happen???
I would like to find out from you if you have gone through the Private Investigation phase of wanting to know who your partner has been talking to. If yes, what did you find and how did you deal with it?
Remember the quote at the start of this blog about the cat? Well…
The Bottom Drawer is a beautiful restaurant situated in Harare.
Good morning my darlings. I hope you had a weekend that was as lovely as mine. I have a new found hobby which is non alcohol related and I think it’s blending pretty well with my blogging. Restaurant Reviews. I have not being eating out as often lately but I have decided I should do it more often and get my fellow food lovers to have a go to place when they want to know where all the great food and good deals are. So here goes…
I had to make a prior booking so that I could have a table reserved. Thanks to Google Maps it was easy to locate the restaurant and within 5 minutes we had arrived. As you walk in you are welcomed by plush lawns, garden chairs and a nice cool flowery breeze. The restaurant is a double storey house that they turned into an eat out place.
We got to The Bottom Drawer an hour later than our reserved time but thankfully our table was still available. Unfortunately there was no one to welcome us so we had to navigate our way around the place. Once we decided on a table which was close to the swimming pool, obviously! We sat down and I was happy to note that they had the menu already available by the table.
A waitress came through to take our orders and I was dying for a hot beverage and ordered a cappuccino. It was served in just under 10 minutes and yes I was watching the time just for interests sake.
The Bottom Drawer menu had a variety of what sounded like light meals and my agenda was to eat something filling so I asked the waitress to recommend something she thought we might like. She suggested we try the pies and I was not convinced one bit because when I read “Chicken & Mushroom pie” in my head I pictured the pies and Bakers Inn or Pick n Pay and I was not about to sit down and eat that on a lunch do! She insisted we try it and so we ordered away and waited.
If you read my restaurant review blogs you will know that I am very particular about colours in my plate. They outdid themselves on this presentation and I promise you whatever the name of the salad dressing they use, I HAVE TO HAVE IT! The salad was divine! I am convinced they grow these greens themselves because they were really fresh. The pie; the pie was out of this world. It wasn’t the one you find in the supermarket. This one was freshly baked and the chicken and mushroom was cooked to perfection. I don’t remember the last time I had an eat out meal that left me completely stuffed in a good way. When you see the little bowl they put the meat in you think that looks tiny I can finish it in a few mouthfuls, do not be deceived, you won’t finish it!
I am actually feeling hungry all over again just looking at the photos I am uploading. I have no idea why I didn’t ask for a doggy bag because I left a lot of chicken and mushroom in that bowl, it could have made a delicious left over meal.
I have to give it to The Bottom Drawer, they know their stuff! The food was delicious, the service was efficient, the waitress was friendly, next time I go I should be sure to get her name, it was real value for your money for a cool $13 a plate. You know I am always complaining about how I feel shortchanged after an eat out experience, well this one was worth every dollar. I think News Cafe Fife Avenue should take notes and learn a thing or two from them. I am still not over the experience I had there.
That said; I would recommend anyone to give The Bottom Drawer a try I promise you won’t regret it. Take your friend, family, lover(s) and you will enjoy every moment of it. If you take your kids there is a play area and a whole garden to explore. The restaurant has this homey atmosphere that will definitely have you wanting to go back for another experience.
Have you tried this restaurant before? If yes, what was your experience like? Are there any other restaurants you have been to that you would highly recommend to someone.
Follow my food board on Pinterest I promise you this board inspires me to want to leave the house and hunt for a restaurant that serves that type of food!