My 6 Year Old Is Being Bullied

Never in my wildest dreams did I think preschool children bullied each other.  I mean these are supposed to be sweet and innocent little human beings, where could they possibly get a mean streak from?  Turns out I was wrong, very wrong and my daughter told me the most heart breaking thing a few weeks ago.

Me: What are your favourite things in the whole wide world?

Miss Kupsy: Pizza, going to school, princess dresses and exercising with mummy.

Me: Aww sweetheart, isn’t that lovely.

Miss Kupsy: But Alex from school pinches and smacks me sometimes…

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Image from Google

I gave my daughter a warm tight hug and asked her to tell me more about the incidents.  She told me that the boys were twins but only one of them gave her grief.  He apparently drinks her juice, pinches and smacks her and sometimes takes her lunch.  I was gutted!  I have never smacked her at all and here is this little person making school a nightmare for my daughter!!  I instinctively told her that she should fight back (which by the way isn’t even in her nature) but also realised that it would probably make the situation worse for her and that there surely should be another way of handling the situation.  She didn’t want to dwell on the subject any further and asked we change the subject, which we did but I had to do something about it.  I spoke to her teacher who confirmed that the little boy was indeed a problem and they had taken to smacking him whenever any child reported his behaviour and that my daughter is not the only one being picked on, there were plenty more who were victims.  Thankfully schools closed and she won’t have to face him again because she’s off to grade school.

However, I still feel that this isn’t going to end here.  I know this too well, I experienced bullying first hand and it’s not a pleasant space to find yourself in.  The form of bullying I had to deal with was isolation.  School children can be evil little creatures!

You would think bullying would stop by a certain age right?  Unfortunately for me I had more bullying in store for me in my adult life!  This time it was in the form of cyber bullying. Turns out my blog wasn’t “cool enough” to be regarded as a blog.  My writing style didn’t conform to what bloggers from my country were used to and it wasn’t a themed blog as well.  I would sit and read the most hurtful comments and wonder what exactly was wrong with being different?  I wanted and still want my blog to be a reflection of me, I have multiple layers to me, why should I restrict myself to being one set thing? 

I spoke to my close friend about my daughter being bullied and she recommended that I teach her to be bald and fight back.  I think enrolling her in a self defence class of sort will actually be to her advantage.  As women, we aren’t actually taught how to defend ourselves, if anything we are given a whole list of chores we should be able to do by a certain age and absolutely nothing on our own safety!

A male friend suggested speaking to the authorities at school the next time it happens, or better still to confront the parents of whoever gives my daughter grief, that way it would help tackle the situation head on.

According to Google; “Long-term bullying can lead to depression and feelings that you are worthless. Some of these effects can last for a long time, even into adulthood. A person who is bullied may become an adult who finds it hard to trust others, has problems making or keeping friends and lacks in confidence or self-worth.”

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Image from Unsplash

I want the best for my daughter and I don’t ever want her to let one of the things that make her happy be the same thing that brings her sadness.  School is clearly her happy place and I would be more than thankful if you have any ideas or suggestions on how I can help her take care of herself at school in my absence.  I’m welcome to ideas, as long as they don’t involve her becoming a mean little person, she’s a little angel and I would like her to stay that way for as long as possible.

Have you experienced bullying?  How did you tackle the situation?  What makes people bully others?  Please help me understand this madness, I’m losing my mind!

©MaKupsy 2017







Day 11: Top Brands To Look Out For

Being a Zimbabwean is not the easiest things to wake up to every morning.  On Twitter we term it as “an extreme sport!”  Unemployment rate is currently sitting at 95%.  In a normal country things shouldn’t be like this.  We are going through the most; from cash shortages, to roads that are filled with potholes, parents unable to afford to take their children to school, employees not getting paid their monthly salaries, failure to access health care…the list is endless and heartbreaking and not something I would want to dive into on a Monday morning.

Most people have taken to informally employing themselves and for some it is working out well for them.  Today I want to share with you what some young entrepreneurs are doing in Zimbabwe to keep themselves afloat during this very trying time.

Retail Apparel 


Avo Apparel by Kudakwashe Juta

From a young age I had a keen interest in drawing, I would scribble on desks, walls, chalk boards notebooks.  I wasn’t good with numbers but I would always connect with shapes and understand infographics more than digits.   At age 17 my older brother and I taught ourselves graphic design on a desktop computer that had an 8gig hard drive, it was super slow and we had no tutorials, this was a year before YouTube even existed.  We had to figure out the software through trial and error. I would then develop and design my own brands even through college and fail and start over again and again until I started reading up on professional textiles printing, networking with international screen printers online until I had become a master of the game.  It was then that I realised it could turn into something real that had the power to change the industry.   I started seeing it as a business opportunity.


At age 26 I quit my job to pursue textiles printing full time but I didn’t have bulk production equipment; so I had to work as a freelance designer for almost two years till I was able to get my first machine through the help of a long time friend called Denis Hozheri.  After  3 failed attempts at starting a retail apparel brand I told myself I would get it right if I kept on trying.   It was then that I came  up with the Avo Apparel brand which I developed for nearly a year doing almost 30 designs only to start with 2. The brand was launched in July 2014 and got great online reception which to me was a sign of potential.   However, I had to put everything on hold for nearly 9months because I didn’t want to do door to door and boot sales, I wanted a shop!  The shop opened for business in February 2015 and by then I only knew the printing side and had to learn the manufacturing side of the business and 4 months after we opened the shop we pretty much controlled almost all of our entire production processes. Besides retail I also do Corporate Wear through my company called “Inklab”, we’ve worked with reputable brands such as Tanganda, DHL, NetOne, Ernst and Young, KPMG, City of Harare, Institute of Chartered Accountants Zimbabwe, African Sun, Telone, and Old Mutual.

Follow us on social media and be part of our journey;

Facebook: @inklabzimbabwe

Instagram: @inklabzim

Twitter – @inklabzim

Make sure you get in touch with Kuda for all things retail apparel. 


Hair Accessories


Hair piece and Earrings by Ndini Fugu $10

Unemployment inspired me to start on this journey!  I used to make my own accessories after I found it hard to find exactly what I was looking for. People started inquiring about where I got them from and if I could make them some customised pieces.  I saw an opportunity to turn my hobby into a profitable business.


Customised Bag by Ndini Fugu $12 each

I have only recently started a few months back but it has been nothing short of a blessing it couldn’t have gone any better.  People still don’t believe I make the accessories myself, actually they still don’t believe it!  The first question I always asked was “are you really the one who made this?” In order to claim ownership of my products I termed my brand “Ndini”.  My hair accessories range from $1 to $10 so there is definitely something to suit your pocket.  You can get my accessories from ISU collections in Eastlea and I also work per order and deliver if it’s not too far out of town.  You can check out my work on social media from these links:

Instagram: @ndini_byfugu

Facebook: @ndinibyfugu

Ladies if you need something to make your hair pop then she is definitely the person to hook you up!  Gents, surprise your girl with something cute and artsy crafty just because it’s Monday. 

Culinary Services 


I grew up loving to cook and the BBC Food Channel was my all time favourite and I would spend time swooning on Ainsley Harriots dishes and Nigela Lawson’s sweet treats. I was a Brownie and a Girl Guide and I remember even then it was the cooking competitions that we would always win with me leading my team. After high school I went on to study Culinary Arts and I have been in the industry since then.

The food industry has allowed me to visit diffrent countries and given me the oppourtunity to study in the culinary capital of the world Paris at one of the most renowned culinary schools Le Cordon Bleu. That has allowed me to have an appreciation of international cuisine and which I have since fused with local dishes to create incredible bespoke menus for my clients.


Mozarella and grilled cherry tomato bruschetta

Food is always good business and economically it’s one business that will always thrive no matter how good or bad the economy is. I would like to see more professional culinary schools opening in Zimbabwe with Internationally recognised Diplomas and Certificates.

I’m on social media and you can find me on:

Twitter: @Dananai_C

Instagram: @chef_dananai

Facebook: @ChefDananai

If you want to have top notch meals for an event or any special occasion, Dananai does bespoke menus after a consultation.

*Bonus Brand To Watch Out For!*
“My Zim Hustle” is an educational campaign about investment on the capital markets. They are trying to increase people’s knowledge about the stock market and other investment opportunities available. If you are looking to having multiple income streams and not just depend on your month to month salary from your job then be sure to be a part of My Zim Hustle. For more information contact them on

I’m a firm believer that you can do anything that your mind conceives.  Even though there as so many negative things happening in Zimbabwe some positive and productive ventures are taking shape.

What are some of the brands that are making noise in your country?  Perhaps you initiated a programme of sort within your community that has spread like wild fire?  Tell me more about it, I would love to hear from you.

©MaKupsy 2017











Day 7: Lose Yourself In My Top 10 Zimbabwean Songs

Music makes me happy.  It’s my go to place when I need something to evoke different emotions within me.  From getting myself in a good mood, going for my morning run, dancing with my daughter, unwinding after a long day at work…music is art!

I have always been a fan of music but it was mostly international music.  It was only in the early 2000’s that a genre titled “Urban Grooves” emerged that I started paying attention to our local music.  It was advocated that all local radio stations were to play 75% local content by local artists.  What I loved was that most of the artists sang in Shona, bonus!!!  Back then music was soulful, it was rich and high school boys would use that to their advantage and dedicate songs to their potential girlfriends on radio and automatically had almost every high school going child tuned in to listen in case you got a “dedication.” These are the times where song books and auto books were a big hit but that’s a story for another day.  They were still good times indeed!


Photo Credit EXQ (@exq_papi) Instagram

Enter 2005 a new genre of music appeared on the scenes, ZimDancehall.  Can you believe that nearly 12 years later it’s still going strong and racking in listeners both young and old?  What I love about ZimDancehall is that the artists are telling their story as it is, there is no sugar coating there.  They sing their truth!  However, ZimDancehall is not everyone’s cup of tea and some people criticise it stating that it is shallow.  What some people don’t realise is that it is the day to day reality of a group of people whose existence we don’t like to acknowledge but form a large part of our culture (our real CULTURE not our traditional).  The fact that we keep shunning issues that are on the ground is probably part of the reason why some people are failing to be themselves.

Please be friends with YouTube to get to watch the videos or listen to the audios.  Below is a list of my top 10 favourite tracks in no particular order; straight out of the heart of Zimbabwe, please note that the genres vary.

  1. Nhema: ExQ and Killer T
  2. Ndipe Rudo: Sani Makhalima
  3. Penge Penge: Tytan
  4. Million Reasons: Prayersoul
  5. 25: Winky D
  6. Pain Killer: Stunner
  7. Alleluya: Roki and ExQ
  8. Ndiyende: Celscius
  9. Wakandipedzera Nguva Yangu: Selmor Mtukudzi
  10. Dai Zvaibvira: Killer T

I asked an artist and friend, Prayersoul his thoughts on the music industry in Zimbabwe;

There is no fixed structure in Zimbabwe for people to know what’s hot and what’s not.  For example, the reason we all know about Cassper Nyovest is because of Channel O, Trace Africa, MTV Base and all the other music channels available on DSTV.  They have a strong media presence and this gives consumers access to them.  If Cassper Nyovest does a video it will go to different fans from Africa, South Africa alone has nearly 55 million people!  He has demand and can send out emails to African promoters to let them know he will be in their country if they want to book a show.  Zimbabwe musicians are not getting this type of exposure.  If there was one channel that we all watched in Zimbabwe and it wasn’t Dstv; think a Zimbabwe “Dstv”.  Then everyone in the industry wanting to grow and get popular would try and get on it and viewers will get to know who is who and increase their chances of bookings.

What is your favourite music genre in your country?  Have there been any collaborations that have gone international?  What do you like or dislike about the music from your country?

©MaKupsy 2017

Day 6: Women Creative Wednesday – RuTendo DeNise

Today is Day 6 of the #30DayAfriBlogger Challenge and the theme is to write about your experience at a event or restaurant.  I wrote this piece last year on the 1st of December and everything in here still applies today.  Read and enjoy, this event changed my life!

I love all things creative and when I got an invite from Lo to attend an event at Moto Republik I was thrilled.  They have a do they have every month they titled #WCW (Women Creative Wednesday) Women Creative Wednesday is an intimate presentation & discussion platform focused on introducing and educating young women on careers in the creative industry as well as connecting them to mentors and peers within the sector.  For the month of November their feature was Rutendo Denise who is a Zimbabwean performance poet, writer, model and social media success story.  

Lo was hosting the discussion and I clearly remember her saying that in Africa, the moment you tell your family that you want to pursue a career in the Creative Industry they go wide eyed and ask questions like “You want to get paid to Tweet?”  So funny!

I normally live Tweet when I attend events but this one was too intimate I had to give it my full attention and I was mind blown by the things that Rutendo shared with us.

Rutendo touched on so many different issues ranging from drug abuse, suicide, friendship, creativity…it was a mixed bag that left you thinking long and hard about your own life.  I took my “goals” notebook with me and I had nearly 4 pages full of information and trust me years from today I will look back at these nuggets and thank myself for attending this do because information like this rarely ever comes your way.  I will give you some of the information not all that way you guys will attend events next time you hear about them.


A hello goes a really long way.  People get really “cliquey” when they arrive at events and miss out on opportunities to meet contacts they might need in the future.  When I arrived I remember Rutendo asked us which music albums we were each currently listening to just to break the ice and it got everyone talking.  Later on during the discussion she mentioned that the reason she had asked us about music was because she was nervous and trying to find a way to get us chatting.  She emphasised how a hello can go a very long way because after everyone introduced themselves we had a Blogger, Artist, Chef, App Developer, Journalist, Fitness Consultant, MC & Poet all in one room.  Now imagine if we hadn’t said hello.

Own Your Story


Above is a screenshot from one of the stories from one of her followers that she shared.  You have to be comfortable with what you have been through.  You will stop yourself from being great because of your past.  You know that feeling of constantly thinking you can’t do certain things because people will then walk up to you and say but we heard you once did a,b,c…  Rutendo has a “#Testimony Time series” on her Instagram where she shares stories of the things that have happened to her that most people are not comfortable talking about.  This has opened doors for other people to also share their stories as well.  We are all going through the most and she has done a great job of getting people to speak up, sometimes that’s all you need, someone who will listen.


We are all seeds that need to be nurtured. This time next year you will not be the same person.  You will have to put in the work if you want to see results.  Push yourself and strive for excellence.  We have all been given time so make sure you make the most of it doing the best of what you love.  There is no time for mediocrity.

This was an experience that was worth every minute of my time.  You know how you attend something and you keep looking at your watch wondering when you will be put out of your misery?  Not with this one.  This experience was engaging and informative. My passion lies in the creative industry and getting to have time to have one on one dialogue with someone who is in it and doing exceedingly well is something you don’t get to do everyday.  I want to look back a year from today and tick all the nuggets in my “goals” book and send Rutendo a very long email telling her how I smashed all of my goals and I am finally doing the things that fire my soul full time.


Artist, Blogger, Chef, App Developer, Journalist, Fitness Consultant, MC, Poet, Plus Size Model a mixed bag of creatives all in one room

Without a willing heart, fighting spirit, discernment and the constant pursuit of personal excellence, you won’t achieve or amount to much. .R.

©MaKupsy 2017







Day 3: My Totem; MaDube

I absolutely looooove being a MaDube.  My totem is a zebra.  The females who bear this totem are titled MaDube.  The men who bear our totem are titled Samaita or Tembo.  I would never trade my totem for any other.  What is a totem?

A totem is a natural object or animal that is believed by a particular society to have spiritual significance and that is adopted by it as an emblem.

To be honest, I don’t have much information on the subject of totems so I will share the little bits I know.  The last time I had to do this was way back in junior school when we were tasked to find out what our totems were and write up how the totem was “praised”.  In our culture, we use totems as a form of identifying each other.  For example, take a couple trying to get to know each other, one of the first few questions they ask is, “What’s your totem?”.  Unfortunately if you bear the same totem chances are you can’t date because you will be “related”.  (There goes the love of your life.)  



Totems are used at different occasions:

  • For greetings; Mamukasei MaDube? (Good morning MaDube)
  • For praises when you excel at something.  For example after you have cooked a meal for your family they will thank you using your totem.  Maita basa MaDube. (Thank you MaDube)
  • When you do a great deed, for example, taking care of your siblings school fees for the term. Maita basa Tembo mugare kure nemoto. (Thank you Tembo may you be protected and not fall into misfortune.)
  • When you give your partner some mind blowing sex it takes them to another planet and back.  After such an incredible experience your partner will thank you using praises of your totem. (Maita Tembo zvirambe zvakadaro) loosely translated to; Thank you Tembo may you continue to do the things that need to be done!

Fun Facts about MaDube

  1. They are short tempered.  Trust me, I know, I’m a MaDube.
  2. They are known for being the best lay ever!  (I wouldn’t know though, I’m a virgin)
  3. Zebras have very nice legs, no lies at all.  Take another look at the picture above, then refer to the one at the bottom for confirmation.  They have strong, toned and beautiful legs and so it is only natural that those who bear the totem are blessed in that department.
  4. If you are a MaDube feel free to add more fun facts…I’m all out.


That said, this blogging challenge has gotten the best of me and it’s only day 3.  Today was a tough day and I nearly didn’t blog but I remembered that I am NOT a quitter and besides I initiated this challenge, who goes around letting people down like that?

If you have a totem do tell me about it.  If you are a MaDube like me what are some of the things you have heard about our totem that you can completely relate to?

©MaKupsy 2017


Why Do (we) Africans Fear Doctor Visits?

I grew up in a family where healthcare was a big part of our tradition.  My parents always had annual medical checkups and this tradition easily became part of my life throughout the years.  The fear of doctors is not something new to most people in Africa because most of us don’t visit the doctor for a vast number of reasons.  I want to touch on healthcare; share some of my experiences and also let you know what some my friends on social media have to say about healthcare in our country, Zimbabwe.

90% of Zimbabweans are not on medical aid.

The Dermatologist 

I have had problem skin for the longest time!  I didn’t understand why I kept getting breakouts and why the over-the-counter medications I kept trying out were not working on my skin.  I was spending a lot of money and getting zero results.  The wise thing was to simply book an appointment with a Dermatologist right?  Wrong!  I had to try everything under the sun including self diagnosing my problem until I finally accepted defeat.  You would think I didn’t have medical aid cover!  I saw the Dermatologist and in just 5 minutes he prescribed some oral medication, an ointment and told me to use only white soap on my skin.  I WAS NOT convinced! I mean, here I was spending money on Clinique products and this man tells me the answer is in white soap??  Just like that?  I will have you know that he was right though; shame on me!  Now when I have a break out I know the exact reason why and I’m glad I made that appointment.  It saved me from forking out money every other month on products that were achieving the square root of nothing!


Image from Pinterest

The Surgeon

I’m one of those people who’s always on the look out for any abnormalities on my body when I’m not busy checking out how my abs are looking in the mirror that is.  Sometime last year round about this time I felt a lump in my breast.  It felt uncomfortable and my monthly’s were nowhere close so something was definitely amiss!  I have to warn you, the internet is not your friend when you are not well.  I went straight to Google and the things I found through the searches were jaw dropping!  By the time I went to bed that night I was convinced I had full blown breast cancer and I didn’t sleep a wink.  I was the first person to arrive at the doctor the next day and after she ran a few tests she referred me to a surgeon.  The long and the short of the story is it turned out I didn’t have breast cancer but what I had was a breast mouse which was pretty large but was safely removed and I have no scar to show for it.  The surgeon had a field day with me though because I was nervous as heck on the day of the operation because I couldn’t afford to have the procedure while I was “put to sleep” so I went through it wide awake.

Prevention is better than cure.

I asked a friend of mine, Claire, why it is important to go for doctor visits.  She is currently working in Anaesthetics as an Intern at Parirenyatwa Hospital.


Claire Gweredza-Hondo

3 Reasons Why Doctor Visits Are Important:

  1. It’s one thing to be exercising and trying to eat healthy but it’s also equally important to have regular checkups at the doctor at least once a year.  Having your doctor see you on a regular helps detect disease or illness early.  Checkups include but are not limited to screening for cancers, high blood pressure, cholesterol and dental check ups.
  2. Going for regular check ups helps with establishing a good doctor-patient relationship because you get to spend more time together.  You eventually get comfortable sharing your health problems and that fear and anxiety lessens.
  3. Getting yourself on medical aid cover means you are actually saving money.  You are investing now to prevent disease that was going to cost you more when diagnosed later.  For example, getting cervical cancer screening with Viac or Pap smear might seem not worth it now but it can save a lot of money in the long run.  When diagnosed late, there will be need for chemotherapy and radiotherapy which cost thousands in the long run.

The ONE disadvantage I know that comes with doctor visits is that they are expensive.  If I didn’t have medical aid cover I know for a fact I would live through a lot of aches and pains and hope and pray they would disappear.

Below are some of the reasons why some Africans do not go to the doctor:

  • First the consultation and tests fees are too high, secondly they always diagnose you with something and lastly I fear of the unknown! @MadamVeeM
  • It’s in our culture to cure diseases with natural and cost effective remedies, if you cough you are given gum tree leaves to drink up.  If it’s a fever you get Panado Paracetamol.  @TKMRushwaya
  • Shortfalls are actual chest pains! Worse trying to claim! Better I go to the pharmacy and negotiate an anti-biotic and prescription! @Taffykinz
  • Doctors visits when you don’t have medical aid cover are pretty expensive. If you go to government hospitals you might not even get to be seen by a doctor! @Sun_Tzungie
  • You will end up getting results that you are HIV Positive and yet you thought you were down with a terrible cold this entire time!  @Ubuntu_Queen
  • Money is tight and if used for healthcare you will end up with no money for food and other responsibilities.@fadzij
  • The way healthcare is in Zimbabwe ,everyone is afraid of doctor’s bills…so they delay it, unless and until it becomes an emergency. @CltreDelicious
  • Genuinely afraid of needles if I have to get a shot and I’m also afraid of finding out I could have unknown conditions. @madamkerry

    PSMAS is the largest healthcare insurance in Zimbabwe and covers mostly civil servants.

I don’t want to lie.  Going to see the doctor is a nightmare, waiting for what feels like forever and a day, finding out the pharmacy doesn’t have your prescribed medication and worst of all being told there is a shortfall of however much that time there is no option of paying through plastic money…It’s nothing to look forward to and I don’t blame people for not wanting to put themselves through that.

However, in order to live longer we should all try to prevent things that can easily be prevented or managed.

What are your thoughts on the healthcare system in Zimbabwe?  What have been some of your best and worst experiences?  Those from other parts of the world, how is your healthcare system?

Let’s talk in the comments section.

©MaKupsy 2017




Women Need Help Too!

I have a serious bone to chew with whoever comes up with some of these things.  Don’t get me wrong I am all for taking care of your other half but lately I have been wondering.  Who takes care of the woman once a couple gets married?  Our culture expects the woman to bend and break for her husband.  From cooking, cleaning, making sure the house is in order, being intimate with him as many times as she can take it, taking care of the children, showing up for funerals, family functions, taking in in-laws…the list is endless.  In all this you are bound to ask yourself what the man will be doing in this equation.  The answer is easy really.  He will be sitting in front of the TV watching who knows what and relaxing all day long.  Basically the man does nothing.  Before you get all worked up it’s obvious its not ALL MEN who are like that, but in our culture most men are.

I am going to keep this post as short as possible so that it doesn’t turn into a man bashing rant.  What I would like to know is who is taking care of the woman in all this?  After a long days work she is expected to get home, prepare supper, make sure the children have done their homework and a whole list of other things married people do.  Would it kill the husband to actually cook once in a while if he got home before the wife?  If he isn’t much of a cook maybe pile up the dishes nicely, boil the meat, chops onions and tomatoes (do something) so that when the wife gets home she can start from somewhere and not feel like a slave who has to wait hand and foot for her husband.  Maybe my way of thinking is crazy but it would make the world a better place if people worked as a team.  Heck, women get tired too they are not energizer bunnies who just keep going and going.


Image from Google

I know a man who is reading this and saying to himself “But I pay all the bills around the house and she doesn’t have to worry about the financial side of things”  Well yes, thank you for doing a great job mister, but it’s not always about the money.  It’s about the small things that make a woman feel a whole lot more appreciated for everything she does.

Our culture has a long way to go…  If by any chance a man is seen by his friends or relatives helping around the house (there are very few of these by the way) he is considered weak and chances are his wife fed him a love potion so that he can do as she pleases with him.  Wrong thinking right there.  There is absolutely nothing wrong with sharing tasks.  It actually makes for a better home and chances of getting more sex because “I am tired” won’t be featuring in the wife’s’ list of excuses.

Teamwork people teamwork!

But then again, I’m not married, what would I know about the ins and outs of a marriage?  It wouldn’t hurt to consider it though, I am sure your wife would be happy to see you do something to make tasks around the house a little easier.

What are your honest thoughts on this subject?  I know not everyone will agree with my line of thinking so I would love to hear from you.

©MaKupsy 2017

My Relationship With Food

I used to have a very dysfunctional relationship with food until I realised that food was actually not the enemy.  I went on extreme diets at the start of my journey.  I remember I went through a phase where I would not eat a filling supper and settle for a fruit or a small tin of yoghurt.  The plan was to lose weight fast and if I wanted that to happen I was going to starve myself until I got to my goal weight.  BAD IDEA!  I only ended up overeating the next day to compensate for not eating the night before.  As you can obviously imagine I ended up gaining weight instead of actually losing it.  After that I ditched trying to diet and decided I would try something else…

Personally, “dieting” has not worked for me and over the years I have managed to maintain my personal weight range effortlessly through eating filling and nutritious meals.  Please note that I LOVE my food very dearly, it is the fuel I need to keep running every other day.  I will share my typical meals for a day.


Before I leave the house I have any fruit in season.  I am currently enjoying a selection ofbananas, oranges, naartjies and apples.

Mid morning I have black tea with lemon(I love lemons I sometimes eat them as is).  I pair my tea with a sandwich.  The sandwich fillings vary from eggs, avocado, margarine, marmalade, peanut butter.  Whatever tickles my fancy really.




Peanut Butter Rice, Vegetables and Meat Image from Zimbokitchen


Sadza rezviyo, any white meat, vegetables.  I cannot stomach a meal without vegetables.  The food won’t make sense without it.  I am not a fan of red meat mainly because when I was pregnant the aroma of beef made me feel like throwing up and unfortunately for me years later it still has the same effect.  ANYWAYS, I was saying;  I make sure I eat a filling lunch because I know I will be up and about all day and my food will get to be digested and used up during the day.

*Zviyo is good for you because: it has low GI, more fibre, tastes infinitely better, grain meant for human consumption not cattle feed and it’s an indigenous grain.*

Mid afternoon snack On days my lunch is not so filling I opt to snack on some roasted peanuts or maputi and down that with a glass of water.


Mushroom stew, vegetables and a small portion of sadza or rice.  When I am training for an event of sort I try and make sure I have filling meals.  I save the grilled meat and a salad for supper for days I am not doing any intense workouts or when the next day is a Rest Day.


Image from Zimbo Kitchen

I make sure I take my time to prepare delicious meals and not compromise on the quality.  My go to place when it comes to looking up easy to make recipes is Zimbo Kitchen ;ever since I bumped into her website my kitchen experience has been the best ever!  You should visit her site and try out one or two recipes, I promise you won’t go wrong.

5 Tips To Make Food Your Friend:

  1. Be yourself.  Don’t try and hop onto a cabbage diet just because your friend is doing the same.  Do what works for you.
  2. Do what keeps you sane.  I know for a fact that starving myself for supper is a BIG NO and I will not be doing that anytime soon I would like to have a good nights sleep thank you very much.
  3. Do what you can afford.  Some of the available “diets” are actually expensive.  I can’t even begin to imagine how much coconut rice goes for in Zimbabwe.
  4. Do something you can do forever.  Personally, my eating habits are something that I know I can sustain.  If I travel I will still be able to have basic meals and not have to start going about town looking for specific foods.
  5. Eat when you are hungry.  Too often you eat just because your body is programmed to eat at that particular time.  Sometimes you have to ask yourself if it’s food you actually want or it’s your internal alarm reacting to something it is used to.  It’s really okay not to gobble down food all the time.

As you can see, I actually eat with portion control in mind.  I don’t conform to “diets” because I strongly believe that my body needs fuel and the majority of the diets that I have tried have left me hungry and unhappy.  I eat so that I can exercise and I exercise so that I can eat. Everything in moderation goes a long way.  I do not deprive myself of the things that I want to eat or drink (we will talk about this soon) because I believe fitness is a journey that should be enjoyed and not endured.

How are your eating habits?  Do you look forward to the meals that you plan for yourself?  Where did you get the current diet that you are on and how is it working for you so far?

Stay logged onto my Health and Fitness Journey Series Episode 5 will be live on Tuesday at 9:00am.  I will be sharing tips on DIY Fitness.  You don’t want to miss this!

Fitness Bae®






Why You Should Keep A Fitness Journal

I started using a fitness journal at the start of this year.  I don’t recall who introduced me to it but once I do I will thank them profusely.  Owning a fitness journal has been one of the best things that has happened to me so far.  I wish I had known about it earlier on my journey but it’s never too late right?  I want to share this idea with you and hopefully you will take it on and see just how much of a world of difference a fitness journal will make.

You will need:

  • A notebook
  • A pen or pencil
  • A highlighter or two with colours of your choice
  • Time

Once you have everything in place sit down be friends with your fitness journal. Write down a plan of your exercise routine for the week or the month depending on your needs.  I usually plan weekly and take it from there.  Below is my fitness journal, as you can see my handwriting is not the best in the world and I hope you can read parts of it.  I took a picture of my plan from the month of April.


April Plan

According to Fitness Bae you should keep your fitness journal somewhere you won’t miss it.  I keep mine on my dressing table because that’s one area I use on a daily basis.  Other places you can also keep your fitness journal include but are not limited to your bathroom mirror, your bedside, your fridge or as a book marker in a book you read everyday and your phone.  You don’t necessarily have to keep a whole book with you, just tear out a page and stick it where you see it all the time. 

Let’s get to why I am making a whole lot of noise about why you should have a fitness journal.


  1. You can track your progress.
  2. You will feel bad for not exercising when you get back to your plan and notice you haven’t done a single thing for two straight days!
  3. You will push yourself to perform better.  For example, the month of April started off pretty well for me but towards my birthday most parts of my exercise programme went downhill and by the time I started May I pushed myself harder.
  4. You have a constant exercise reminder.
  5. You take note of your strengths and weaknesses and find ways of improving.
  6. You get organised.  I have personally found that if one area of your life starts getting organised the rest of will follow suit.
  7. You, you and you can use a fitness journal! Most people automatically assume that a fitness journal is for someone who wants to track progress for weight loss but guess what?  You can use it for weight loss, weight gain and weight management as well.  Everyone can use it.


  1. You can misplace your fitness journal and your whole life will lose meaning.  You can actually feel lost without it.

I clearly need a new fitness journal by the way and I will get my hookup from Tafadzwa Bete who has beautiful customised daily organisers called the #GoalGetterPlanner. The planner helps you translate your dreams and resolutions into SMART goals then do quarterly reviews of progress and as a daily reminder of what you set out to do for the year.  What’s not to love?


Order your GoalGetter Planners through Abigail on 0735341030 or Tusso on 0774164689


GoalGetter Planner

The long and the short of it is that if you want your fitness journey to run smoothly you need to have a plan.  You can’t just wake up one morning and start doing random exercises without taking note of what is or isn’t working for you.  You also need to consult your doctor before making any drastic physical changes in your life because many times people go and overt rain and end up doing more harm than good.

I hope you start journaling your fitness journey.  If you want to see results then a fitness journal is a must have.

Do you have a fitness journal?  If not, what are you waiting for??

Stay logged onto my Health and Fitness Journey Series on Episode 3 will be live on Tuesday at 9:00am.  I will be showing you my Running Gear.

Fitness Bae®


Running & Photography

Just before the winter came in full swing, towards the end of the month of May, Fitness Bae introduced us to the the Winter Challenge. When she told us about it I thought it would be fairly easy. Running 2K a day when you are used to running 4K to 5K was obviously going to be a breeze right? I was sure I would smash this challenge. It turns out that leg raises are not the easiest thing on the planet! It was in all this difficulty that my best friend Onai  decided to add a new angle to the challenge.

It started out as a silent competition between the two of us.  The challenge was simple.  We wanted to see who would have the cooler image accompanying their Nike+Running Club stats.  The pictures had to be images we had taken ourselves.  Simply because it’s in our nature we went on to create a challenge in the midst  of another challenge!

A collection of our images below:

archie flat


onai reduce

archie minato

onai escape

archie RObot

The winter challenge continues and we are seeing more people quietly jump onto the #WinterPicChallenge (maybe we should make this a hashtag) and give more life to the already exciting winter challenge.