When The Heartache Is Over

Heartache eventually melts away I promise.  Depending on your healing process it might take a few weeks, months and if you’re unlucky like me in that department it will take you years to get back to functioning normally.  Thankfully I come bearing great news; this heartache you’re currently going through, this too shall pass and you will come out stronger!

I never thought I could be happy again.  I never imagined I could make plans that go past a few days without feeling or thinking something could go wrong.  I never thought I could ever move on from my past, but here I am moving on and sh*t.  Today I celebrate life!  Life is beautiful.

MaKupsy 2018


The Truth About Open Relationships

An open relationship according to Walter is this; from a more practical perspective that is:

  1. You explicitly state what you want in the relationship from day one in this case it’s sex and fun; though fun is relative.
  2. It should be clear that prospects of a future together is non-existent.
  3. Each party is free to see whoever they please besides you without repercussions.
  4. Each individuals independence is important in ensuring the sustainability of such a responsibility.
  5. This type of relationships is typically based on Mr and Miss Right “Now”.
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I would like to believe that everything has it’s pros and cons and open relationships are no exception.


  • Transparency.  The pair that gets into an open relationship knows exactly what they are setting themselves up for.
  • There is room to meet someone else even though you are technically seeing someone else.
  • You get to enjoy the best of both worlds.  We all have different needs and if one person isn’t meeting them then the next person certainly will.  You certainly can’t rely on one person to fulfill them all.
  • You will have a great sex life!  We all know that you can’t always be in the mood for sex and sex drives for couples are different but if you don’t have to rely on one person to fulfill your sexual needs you’re in for one sexually charged experimental journey.
  • There will always be some sense of adventure going on in your life.  Boredom will definitely be a thing of the past.


  • Disease and pregnancy will be one of the many things that you will have to worry about because you won’t know if your partner is protecting themselves when they hook up with someone else.  I don’t even want to imagine the stress that might come with falling pregnant with someone you only wanted to have a good time with.  Hello depression!
  • Chances of getting emotionally attached to your open relationship partner are highly likely and that will put some strain on the relationship.  Expect jealousy to creep in at some point.
  • Time management will be hectic.  You can’t be everywhere at once and having more than one partner will mean having to let down one of them at some point.
  • With time one or both parties will start developing hidden expectations and that right there will be the death of all the fun.

In my opinion an open relationship might work best if you’re both attached to someone else, that way you will play it safe because you both have something to lose.  If you plan on trying this out try it at your own risk!

Cheating is easy but staying faithful is hard! What do you choose?

©MaKupsy 2018


I Fell Apart But I Survived

It sure took a long time but I finally healed from my past hurts.  In my opinion the most painful thing after labour has to be heartbreak, that stuff hurts.  The pain is all consuming and you have to experience it to understand it.

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You can try the healing processes I went through at your own risk because if I’m honest in the end they did me more harm than good but I guess it was necessary to finally get past what I was feeling.

  • I became an alcoholic. I drank from Sunday through to Sunday.
  • I became “friends” with people who only fueled my new found alcohol problem.
  • I got into relationships I had no business being in.
  • I talked to a few friends; I lie, I told everyone who cared to listen what I was going through I couldn’t keep the pain to myself it was too much to bear.
  • I pretended to be doing just fine.
  • I blogged and tweeted about my pain.
  • I cried buckets, waking up in the middle of the night with a lump in my throat was the order of the day.  Puffy eyes every morning had become a part of me.
  • Eventually I sat myself down and told myself to get it together.  It took me nearly 5 years to finally let go of the one thing that was holding me hostage.  The way I saw it I was feeding myself poison each day hoping the person who hurt me would suffer.  It was clearly working against me!  It was hard, I won’t lie but I survived it and I can talk about it and not break down anymore.  Life happens, dust yourself up and move on!

If you are going through past hurts I hope this quote helps you realise that only you can set yourself free:

“Don’t keep dancing with the devil and wonder why you are still in hell.”

What are some of the past hurts that you are currently going through?  Have you devised a way to get over them if yes, please share, it will certainly help a reader or two.  You can also check out a piece I wrote on how real heartbreak can be over here.

©MaKupsy 2018

Your Love Still Haunts Me

I met you 13 years ago but your love still haunts me.  I can’t believe I’ve gone through life comparing everyone I’ve come across with you.  It’s a bad thing to do, I know this too well; but I can’t help it.  You loved me unconditionally.  I never had to wonder how you felt about me because I felt it inside me, your love was true.

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Will I ever meet someone who will treat me the way you did?  Someone who will be proud to have me in his life the way you did?  Someone who introduced me to his parents, aunts, sister and brother without having to ask.  Someone who gave me the keys to his house and I was free to come and go as I please.  Someone who my parents loved and adored after they asked to meet you.  Someone who never made me want for anything?

On days like today I always kick myself for walking away.  “I’m still too young, I need to discover myself.”  That’s what I told you when I gave you back the engagement ring you had bought for me.  If only I knew that we could have discovered the world together, grown together, written our happy ever after together, gone through all the surprises life throws at you together…but here I am filled with nothing but regret.

However, I still have hope; I believe that if true love could find you before, it will find you once more.  For now I have days I’m stuck in the past wondering if I will ever feel safe the way I did when I was with you.  I was loved.

©MaKupsy 2018

Her Throbbing Confession…

At that very thought, Sharon’s door was opened and Nate stood stark naked in front of accompanied by his very hard and very mouth-watering looking dick in front of her very eyes!

Sharon was standing behind Nate and stepped forward to hold Janice’s hand to help her get up.  “Will you be joining us or you’re just going to be eavesdropping the whole night?” Sharon asked.  Janice was both speechless and embarrassed.  She walked into the room and sat on a chair close to the bed.  Nate switched on the light and this time Janice got to see his big dick in it’s full glory.  She hadn’t imagined it, it was thick enough to fill up her pussy walls and she gulped at the thought of how delicious it must feel to feel all of it.  She wasn’t a fan of huge dicks but this was one dick she would love to bounce on for a whole hour and Sharon was willing to share it!

Her attention shifted to Sharon.  She was now lying on the bed on all fours, she could clearly see her enticing and soaking wet pussy.  Nate held onto his throbbing dick with veins that looked like they would pop out from all the hardness and gently slid it into Sharon’s pussy.  Nate’s balls were hairy and at every stroke they rubbed against Sharon’s pussy lips that were now swollen with pleasure.  Sharon was creaming and it was clearly visible on Nate’s thick balls.  Janice couldn’t help herself any longer, she slowly slid off her underwear and walked towards the bed.  Watching Nate and Sharon was getting her aroused beyond control.

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She lay on her back and made herself comfortable against the pillows while taking off the rest of her nighties.  She could see Nate devouring her body with her eyes and that got her all the more excited.  Her legs started to shudder as Sharon’s moans got more and more.  She was certain Nate’s dick was the sort that would have you asking him to give you a baby!  Janice slid her hand on her pussy and felt how wet she was, you would think someone had poured some oil on her but that was all her, dripping with desire and ready to receive some good dicking.  Janice started rubbing her inner thighs while watching Nate and Sharon give each other pleasure.  Sharon changed the position and was now lying on her back and begging Nate to go deeper.  Nate rode her like a beast with sweat glistening on his back and all Sharon could now scream was “Yes, yes, yes!”  He was certainly pounding her pussy right and feeding it with rich delicious strokes.


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Janice went and lay right next to Sharon and started sucking on her one nipple while rubbing the other one.  Sharon responded and kissed her back passionately.  Sharon whispered in Janice’s ear and told her she knew she had been sexually frustrated for months and this was her way of helping her out.  Janice was torn in two and didn’t know what to do but kept kissing Sharon all the way down to her throbbing clit.  Sharon had a beautiful body and the most succulent breasts she had ever seen.  She gently sucked on her fleshy clit until her whole body was quivering from receiving hard strokes from Nate and wet kisses on her clit from Janice.  Janice lay on top of Sharon and continued to kiss her and feel on her breasts, tummy and ass.

Their bodies were now moving in rhythm and Janice’s clit was rubbing against Sharon’s tummy while Sharon got strokes from Nate.  Both Sharon and Janice started breathing heavily while Janice’s pussy got wetter and wetter; Sharon could feel it all over her lower body.  Sharon commanded Nate, “Just give Janice your hard dick the pleasure is too much to take in on my own!” Nate acted like he didn’t hear but he knew the moment Sharon started screaming like that she was close to an orgasm.  A few more deep strokes and a slight shift in position and both Sharon and Janice were breathing heavily.  Nate was going hard, hot, deep and fast!  Sharon came so hard she screamed the whole apartment down!  Janice kissed Sharon’s earlobes and started grinding on her vibrating tummy a little faster and could feel shivers in her body moving from her toes right to her ass, her pussy getting tighter, her breasts all the more sensitive, her clit feeling like someone was pulling at it from the inside and just before she was about to have the most intense orgasm of her life she felt Nate’s hard dick thrust inside her wanting pussy!

Janice woke up with a start, she missed her phone alarm and woke up a whole 30 minutes late.  It was Thursday morning and a working day for that, her boss was not going to be amused, she hadn’t even been 2 months into her new job!

I’m definitely going to stop drinking during the week she muttered to herself.  Alcohol is not my friend.  Now I’m having the most fertile of dreams!

©MaKupsy 2018

Her Throbbing Confession

Going celibate was voluntary but sex had been on her mind for the longest time.  You would think after a this much time her pussy would know better, no sex was coming and that was that.  Gosh it had really been 3 months, 3 months of ignoring her natural desires and complaining about it to her friend every single waking moment.  It’s not that she couldn’t get laid, there’s always someone a text message away who could easily quench her thirst; what she wanted was not just dick but some quality dick that would leave her deeply satisfied.  It was a Wednesday evening and Janice had just arrived at her friends apartment for a drink up.  If she wasn’t getting laid at least she was going to enjoy a night with her friend Sharon and stop thinking about when her pussy was going to get screwed so hard she wouldn’t remember her name…

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“Sorry babes I have a date with Nate so I won’t be able to come through on time, I had totally forgotten about it but make yourself at home.  Will catch up soon as I’m home.  I’ll make up for it.*winks*”

Well isn’t that a bummer!  I really wanted to complain some more about how I need to get laid, so much for that, at least one of us is getting some.

Janice quickly unlocked the door to her friends apartment and headed straight to her lounge.  She plopped herself into her favourite bean bag, that was the coolest spot in the entire place and she loved it there.  Straight to business she unpacked a bottle of wine from her shopping bag, uncorked it and poured in half a glass and enjoyed the first sip like she had never ever had wine her entire life!  She switched on the TV and selected the audio channel and started to undress.  The one thing she absolutely loved about Sharon’s place was just how big the place was, so much space to go about naked.  She wasn’t feeling hungry but had bought a few snacks so those would have to do for later.  She headed straight to the bathroom and enjoyed a refreshing hot shower, by the time she was done her wine had chilled to just the temperature she liked.

She was either just beyond horny or having wine on a not so full stomach had her already feeling tipsy but either way she loved the way her bathrobe was feeling rubbing against her nipples.  She poured herself another glass of wine and the next song on the playlist didn’t help matters,

“Let me lick you up and down till you say stop”

Silk really was all about sex in that song!  Janice started thinking about sex all over again.  That last encounter with Sharon really left her pussy throbbing.  I mean, who goes around giving her friend such erotic body rubs.  Janice had complained about feeling fatigue and the next thing Sharon was helping her undress and rubbing down the pain.  She had seen her naked countless times before but on this day her soft, perfectly shaped body pressed against her highly sensitive skin was making her feel things that were clearly new to her so she had to ask her to stop.  Sharon took offence because she genuinely wanted to help with a massage of sort but Janice knew this was probably a very bad idea.  Now that she was thinking about it all over again Janice couldn’t help but feel a warm tingly sensation between her thighs, her nipples were rock hard by now, she gently brushed them with her forefinger and took in a deep breathe; she clearly needed another glass of wine!


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We’re home!  Sharon barged in and interrupted Janice’s thoughts.  Janice quickly got up and tied up her bathrobe and gave her friend a warm welcoming hug.  Sharon had obviously had one three many and was giggling and speaking too loudly.  Janice headed to close the door but Sharon told her they had company, Nate was sleeping over.

How wonderful, Janice thought, now I won’t get a chance to catch up and these two are probably going to have sex and this is going to leave me beyond the word frustrated!

Nate walked in, nothing to write home about.  Just a normal guy with a beautiful smile but that was just about it.  Warm greetings, random questions about everyday life and both Nate and Sharon were ready to hit the sheets.  It was nearly 10 pm, tomorrow was a working day anyway so rest was clearly needed.

Janice woke up to sex sounds from the next room.  She had to cover her ears to stop herself from asking the gods to swallow her whole!  Could her life get any worse?  I mean this was someone who was already sexually frustrated and now had to deal with a pair going at it like rabbits in the next room.  She could hear Sharon screaming all sorts of obscenity and she was clearly enjoying every second of it. A part of Janice wanted to go and knock and complain but the other part was feeling naughty so she hopped out of bed and tip toed to Sharon’s bedroom door and started to listen in.  She imagined all the things that Nate was probably doing to her friend.  He was probably giving her some pretty good tongue right about now, probably lifted her back and made sure she could feel every inch of his tongue slurping her pussy juices.


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The sex noises were getting more and more real, Janice was caught between wanting to walk right in or going to her room and playing with her screaming pussy that was aching for some deep penetration.  She couldn’t believe just how horny she had gone in a space of seconds.  Her clit was as hard as a marble and all she could now picture was herself sitting on Nate’s face and having him eat her pussy up while Sharon was sucking on his dick and taking her time to touch it, tease, taste it, kiss it and then finally sliding it right into her very hot and wet pussy.  That first stroke…that first stroke is the most important stroke of all and it makes you feel like you’re walking on clouds, the pleasure that comes with the first stroke will make you realise just how good dick can leave you so fucking confused.

At that very thought, Sharon’s door was opened and Nate stood stark naked in front of accompanied by his very hard and very mouth-watering looking dick in front of her very eyes!

©MaKupsy 2018

No Romance Without Finance!

You better get a J.O.B if you wanna be with me!  Dating has just gone to that next level if you ask me.  Gone are the days you used to enjoy leisurely walks, go for a picnic or enjoy ice-cream cones with your significant other.  These days it’s about how much money a man pursuing you can splurge on a date.  Goodbye creativity because as far as I have observed the most that will happen is a night out of drinking expensive alcohol and actually not getting to talk to and get to know the next person.  It leaves me asking myself, why are people dating?


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There’s a world of reasons why people decide to date:

  1. Dating for companionship
  2. Dating for sex
  3. Dating for free food
  4. Dating to have someone take care of your financial needs
  5. Dating to find a life partner
  6. Dating out of loneliness

There are obviously more reasons why people date but those are the first few that crossed my mind.

One of my male Blogger friends said;

“A lot of Zimbabwean men are too eager to spend money on women.  Not even in the club when you’re trying to take her home for a one-nighter but when looking for an actual relationship men do the most!”

Some men date for fun and if that’s your cup of tea by all means let that money fall on the flavour of the night; after all you have nothing to lose even if it involves you selling your belongings or ending up neck deep in debt trying to impress a woman then go ahead. From what I hear and read everything men do is to get laid.  They work hard to get more money to buy fancy cars, phones, homes so that they can get laid!  It is after all to make an impression and get between her legs right?  You get laid, she gets a fancy night or two out everyone is happy, yes, no, maybe?

Most women love things, me included but it seems most of them are taking this loving things a bit too far.  Just the other day there was talk on Twitter about how Zimbabwean women want things that they can barely afford and expect whoever they are dating to provide it for them.  Example, demanding a date at Victoria 22 that time you can’t even afford to buy a single glass of wine if you tried to go there on your own.  Dear Zimbabwean men, there is nothing wrong with your woman wanting nice things but if you can’t afford it it’s perfectly okay to tell her that it won’t be happening anytime soon.  At the same time, ladies, if you can’t afford to go there yourself then maybe just maybe try and go somewhere else and come back when it’s something you can both afford?  Then again most people date someone who can upgrade them in all aspects and if you are dating someone who can’t upgrade you then maybe you need to reevaluate things?  Or maybe that’s just too drastic it is after all just a date!

Money makes the world go round but it’s the same money that will ruin a perfectly great relationship if you don’t address the issue in the right light from the get go.  I love beautiful things, I really do; but I want to enjoy well thought out dates that show creativity and have a personal touch to them that will leave me with a beautiful memory for years to come.

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What are your thoughts; is dating about money?  Do you think your potential or current significant other should break their budget to impress you or there are other ways of winning your heart that don’t come in the form of spending?

Should we be going out of control on dates? Is it necessary? Desired? A turn off? Ladies do you like it? Men do you like it? Both when it’s done to you and if or when you have to do it?  So many questions and I would love to hear your answers.

We have an exciting blogging group on WhatsApp (Blog Indaba); its a meeting place for Bloggers who want to improve their blogging and if you would like to be a part of it no matter where in the world you are, please contact me so that you can join in the fun.

©MaKupsy 2017


Buy Your Own Condoms!

I asked a couple of guys where they keep their condoms after they buy them and I got some pretty interesting locations.

  • wallet
  • sock drawer
  • back pocket
  • under the mattress
  • glove compartment
  • back pack
  • under the pillow
  • friends place

As you can see, these men are not even playing about their safe sex game, they are always prepared!


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However, given the location of these condoms you might just want to reconsider who will be responsible for keeping them.  I mean, can we really trust these men to be the condom keepers?  The chances of a condom not being 100% effective after being stored in a wallet for days on end are very slim.  As for the glove compartment; imagine all that heat your car can be sometimes exposed to, it will definitely affect the condoms; next thing you’re out there having sex with your partner and it breaks and you don’t even realise it until you’re done and you have a “petticoat” on your penis.  NOT a good look, do the right thing and store your condoms in safe space that way you and your partner can both enjoy a stress free love making session.

That said, I think women need to be more liberal when it comes to buying condoms.  I know you’re reading this and thinking, ‘I could never!” but look at it this way, if shit hits the fan and you are not keeping your own condom stash chances of having unprotected sex are higher. I’ve noticed that most women who do buy condoms buy the male condoms and I don’t blame them at all.  Have you seen what a female condom looks like?  You could throw in your lipstick, mascara, lip gloss, hand mirror and even your purse spray in that condom.  Whoever made them didn’t put much thought into it.  The first time I saw it I was convinced that this was meant to be a joke!  It really looks like a plastic bag that you are expected to insert inside your vagina.  I know nothing about condom manufacturing but maybe just maybe something a little more user friendly would have been great.  I for one have never used the female condom and have no intention of doing so anytime soon!


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I’ve had the opportunity to buy condoms a few times in the past and I’ve noticed that it seems to be a very uncomfortable experience for a lot of people.  BUT there are some benefits to going to get your own condoms;

  1. You choose the flavour you want, strawberry is that you?
  2. You can ask questions about the product from whoever is behind the counter and get them feeling embarassed for days because people generally don’t expect any questions to be asked when buying condoms.
  3. You will be in control of your sexual health because you know you aren’t about that taking risks with your vagina.

To be honest, buying condoms is both an entertaining and empowering experience that I think every woman should try out.  I’m still amazed at how people stare as if they aren’t having sex.


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To everyone reading this and thinking this woman is crazy telling us to go and buy our own condoms, tell you what…It’s better to be over-prepared than under-prepared.  The consequences of being reckless include and are not limited to sexually transmitted infections, pregnancy, stress and that’s something noone wants to go through!

Please take a second to vote on the poll and share your thoughts on who should be responsible for buying and keeping condoms.


©MaKupsy 2017

Sex On The First Date

First dates are designed to produce a number of relationship outcomes. (e.g. sexual partner, friendship, short-term romantic relationship, or life partnership.) – Wikipedia

I don’t know about you but I know that sex is a pretty enjoyable experience.  Without it the world would probably be one very boring place!  A lot of people are not comfortable talking about sex, which is very much okay because we are different but unfortunately for you I love to go on and on about it as and when.  Today I want to share my thoughts on having sex on the first date.  It comes with a lot of controversy of course but look, dating as described above is a process that yields different outcomes so having sex or not largely depends on the individuals involved.


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First things first, you have to decide if you want to establish why you want to date.  With that out of the way your first date won’t be too awkward.  Below are some of the reasons why you should totally have sex on the first date.

  • Life is short!  Do you have any idea how you can go for weeks, months or even years without getting laid and here you are trying to deprive your lady bits of such pleasures?
  • If the chemistry is there there’s really no need to hold out on him, be a go getter!  Let’s just dive straight into dessert, who has time for the main meal, right?
  • You are confident that this is what you really want and you won’t start regretting it afterwards.
  • The earlier you have sex the better to save yourself time.  You might choose to wait for months only to be disappointed that time you have already caught feelings and now you end up staying with that person for all the wrong reasons!
  • Whatever you do just make sure you get yourself a shattering orgasm and not leave yourself unsatisfied.  Do you have any idea how lovely those sex hormones feel, not forgetting the after sex glow, you will be smiling for days to come.

However, I do understand that a lot of people, women especially have some reservations when it comes to having sex on the first date.  These are some of the reasons why having sex on the first date might not be a very bright idea.

  • You probably don’t know enough about someone to let them into such an intimate part of your life.  Are you ready to deal with the demons that come with them?
  • Your partner might judge you for being too forward.
  • Say goodbye to your judgement.  Once you get some good dicking you can kiss thinking straight goodbye.  Most people get attached to someone once they have sex with them and if things happen to go wrong it will be difficult to let go.  Now you are stuck with a complete as*hole but the sex game is out of this world.  Good dick is NOT your friend!

I’ve read a couple of articles that encourage women to wait to have sex with their potential partner for 90 days. Apparently this will determine if someone will stay with you for the long haul.  Truth be told, some people had someone wait for a whole year and they still left!  After all is said and done someone will leave if they want to, whether you have sex with them on the first date or after 90 days.

There’s absolutely no formula to this whole sex on the first date thing.  It can work out for the good or the bad depending on the couple involved.  However, if you do decide to have sex whatever you do ALWAYS practice safe sex.  My thoughts still remain the same on the subject.  I’m too old to die from lust because a, b and c said you should do this.  I will do what I think is right for me because You Only Live Once!

You can check out some of the comments on the subject from one of my favourite Facebook Pages from here.  There is never a dull moment there and you should like and follow and never miss out on daily discussions.

What are your thoughts on sex on the first date or even better, care to share your experience on the subject?

©MaKupsy 2017





Day 29: Are You The One Catching A Grenade?

Relationships are a sensitive subject and there is always something new that happens to f*ck things up!  Just when you think you and your partner are smooth sailing you start picking up a red flag or two and think this too shall come to pass?  Most times it does but some times it doesn’t and you end up stuck in a relationship that is slowly sucking the life out of you.  There are different signs for everyone but I would like to believe that the following usually spell bad news is on it’s way.  I know I always want to look at the sunny side of things but let’s be honest sometimes you might really be the only one catching a grenade in your relationship.


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  • Envy
  • Cruel behaviour or attitude
  • Negativity (general outlook)
  • Lack of interest in you or your life
  • Abuse of all types
  • Feeling that you are no longer happy within the relationship

Methinks toxic relationships can be summed up in Bruno Mar’s song, Grenade, have a listen…

You thought this was going to be a never ending post on relationships right?  It’s Friday and there is just one more day to go on the #30DayAfriBlogger Challenge.  I’m going to keep it short and sweet.

Do you have any signs that you would like to add to the list?  I would love to hear from you.

©MaKupsy 2017